What if you could carry around all the hard things you’ve done in your life as little stones of courage in your purse/backpack/fanny pack/back pocket?

What if you could hold the hard things you have endured in reverence as a means of honoring how they have informed who you have become up to this date in time?

What if you could see the hard things you have achieved as proof and evidence of all the incredible things you are capable of from this day forward?

I want to invite you to collect hard things as proof, as evidence, as defining moments, as resume builders that give you power each and every day as you step into all the possibilities that are stretched out ahead of you.

In this episode, I talk about what it means to “collect hard things” and all the benefits of collecting hard things when it comes to building resiliency, tenacity, and self-trust.  

Link mentioned:

• Parent Prep for Pride Month 2023! Join me on Tuesday, May 16th for a virtual panel to learn how to use this Pride Month 2023 as a powerful way to increase the safety and wellbeing of our LGBTQ+ youth:  www.PrideandJoyParents.com

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Dr. Amy Porto is an anti-diet registered dietitian, nutrition professor, and certified intuitive eating counselor. As an expert in her field with over 20 years of experience, Dr. Porto speaks the truth about nutrition. Her purpose is to disrupt mainstream diet culture with real science, a dash of humor, and a little bit of common sense. And while she holds a BS in Biochemistry and a Ph.D. in Nutrition Science, she believes you shouldn’t need a Ph.D. to decode food labels at the grocery store. Breaking down complex information about food and nutrition into digestible bite-sized pieces of information is her passion — plus, she loves a good pun. Amy’s ultimate goal is to help you trust your body and reclaim your relationship with food.

Listen in to hear Amy share:

• The cultural impact of podcasts like Maintenance Phase and why accessible & approachable anti-diet, anti-fat bias information & content is so critical right now
• The process of unlearning when learning about nutrition
• The importance of language around food, and how we talk about food as it relates to ourselves and, even more importantly, to others
• The morality of “optimal health”
• The elitism of diet culture, cleanses, detoxing, and fasting
• Nourishing yourself from a place of self-care/self-love vs self-control

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Amy: www.amyporto.com
• Amy on IG
• Amy on FB
• Podcast: Maintenance Phase

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Erika Tebbens is a Growth Strategist for visionary entrepreneurs, leaders, and changemakers looking to make their mark doing things differently—and leave a legacy of meaningful impact. She works with established service providers, consultants, and coaches to create customized growth plans without complex systems, sleazy sales tactics, or working more hours.

Erika recently released her first book, You’ve Got This!: A Counterintuitive Guide to Powerful, Inevitable Changemaking and  is also the host of the Sell it, Sister!® podcast.

With nearly 20 years of experience running successful businesses, from solo operations to multimillion-dollar retail teams, she knows there’s no one “perfect” way to operate — only one that’s perfectly aligned with your strengths, values, and vision. And she’s passionate about helping women & gender-expansive business owners grow their revenue with more ease because money has the power to make positive change.

Listen in to hear Erika share:

• How her book was inspired by people who were taking action after seeing her take action - and the discomfort she has around “being an inspiration” to others
• How we settle and minimize our impact on the world when we under qualify ourselves over the course of our lives
• How women can start to get over this notion that we have to “be somebody” to be qualified to be a changemaker in this world
• The importance of owning and honoring your stories in order to qualify yourself in powerful (and perhaps more public) ways
• How life could be different if we normalized being deeply flawed people
• How the smoke & mirrors of social media hold us back from being changemakers
• Why you might need to be selfish if you want to be a changemaker

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Erika
• Download a free chapter of Erika’s book: ErikaTebbens.com/book 
• Get Erika’s Book: You’ve Got This!: A Counterintuitive Guide to Powerful, Inevitable Changemaking
• Erika on IG

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Tameka McNair is the author of Conquering Uncertainty - Don’t Concede Too Soon, Your Victory Awaits You. She holds an undergraduate degree in Industrial Engineering with a focus in Human Factors and an MBA with a focus in Leadership. Currently, she is a Director at Microsoft driving digital employee experience success.

Her unique style, personality, and commitment to walking in her authentic truth have all played a major role in navigating her life and career. Inspired by her own journey from poverty to becoming a powerful thought leader, Tameka encourages others to pursue their dreams despite the various challenges they may face. Tameka is a long-time advocate of DEI work and has helped establish employee resource groups to push DEI initiatives. She is an active mentor to both adults and youth in underserved communities and is passionate about encouraging youth and minorities to explore STEM careers. She is also the co-founder of the Women In Energy Conference.

Always looking at what’s ahead of her, Tameka aspires to become the CEO of a Fortune 100 company.

Listen in to hear Tameka share:

• Her mission statement: to empower everyone she encounters and help them discover their purpose
• Her experience being an engineering student and a single mom to twin boys - one of whom had a stroke at 6 weeks old
• How she went from being a little girl in poverty to a single mom in survival mode to thought leader and mission-driven leader
• The significance of owning your stories and writing them in a way that gives you power - even in moments where you might feel powerless
• How to use being underestimated as a form of fuel
• Her goal to be a CEO of a Fortune 100 Company - in order to make space for others to dream
• Her decision-making to conscientiously be the “1st generation of many things” in her life in spite of judgment from others 
• How your success will make other people uncomfortable and what to do about it

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Tameka: www.tamekamcnair.com
• Book:  Conquering Uncertainty: Don't concede too soon...your Victory awaits you
• Tameka on Linkedin
• Tameka on Tiktok
• Tameka on Instagram: 
• Tameka on Twitter

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Are you burnt out on parenting?

The root cause of parenting burnout is an imbalance between the demands of parenting and the rewards. How often do you get to the end of a day of parenting and think, “This was a really hard day.” If that’s happening more often than not, listen up…

Parenting burnout is very common, but not so commonly talked about. It’s not super cool to run around town letting folks know you're burned out on raising your kids. But the truth is… you may very well be burned out on raising your kids!

A May 2022 study by Ohio State University researchers surveyed 1,300 parents and found 68% of female parents were burned out and 42% of males parents were burned out. They also found two-thirds of working parents reported being burned out.

Additionally, 75% of parents with a history of personal anxiety reported experiencing parenting burnout. And, parents whose children had been diagnosed with ADHD or anxiety were more likely to experience burnout.

You can tell by these numbers that parenting burnout is very real - even if no one is talking about it. So, let’s talk about it and normalize it, shall we?! This will allow us to all lean on one another and perhaps even heal.

In this episode, I talk through the symptoms of parenting burnout, factors that increase parenting burnout, and strategies to start healing from parenting burnout.  

This is an important episode. Listen in and share with others you think may need support around this topic. 

Link mentioned:

• Article: Identifying Signs & Symptoms of Parental Burnout 

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Dr. Heidi Brocke is a Toxic Relationship Awareness & Healing Specialist. After spending 14 years in an extremely emotionally and narcissistically abusive relationship she broke the chains and turned her past into her passion. She left her 24 years career in healthcare to use her life experience and education to be the person she needed when she herself was trapped in the darkness of an unhealthy relationship to provide hope, healing, and freedom to those whose lives have been affected by toxic relationships, emotional abuse, and narcissistic behaviors.

Through education, Dr. Heidi presents the understanding needed to empower others to walk through fear and into their freedom. She has helped hundreds rid and heal their toxic relationships and hosts the popular podcast, It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People. She’s an international keynote speaker, recipient of Empowering Women in Business of The Year award by Inspiring Lives Magazine, and has been featured in both Forbes and Time Magazines for the dedication given to her clients and for her work in the toxic relationship area.

Listen in to hear Dr. Heidi share:

• What it looked like for her to be in a toxic relationship and how she ended up having to leave her 3 daughters to escape her husband
• The components of a toxic personality and the tactics people with toxic personalities use to create security for themselves, which is their primary goal
• What abuse can look like in toxic relationships - and why it can be hard for victims to identify 
• Her four-part framework to help women in toxic relationships - whether it’s with a partner, friend, family member, or co-worker
• What a “toxic tear down” is and how to recognize it
• How she was able to reestablish her relationships with her daughters after being separated from them for 5 years

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Dr. Heidi: coachingwithdrheidi.com
• Take Dr. Heidi’s Toxicity Profile Analysis:  https://coachingwithdrheidi.com/toxicity-analysis/
• Podcast: It’s Not Normal It’s Toxic: Rid Your Life of Toxic People
• Get Dr. Heidi’s Course: Freedom Me Course
• Dr. Heidi on Facebook
• Dr. Heidi on LinkedIn
• Dr. Heidi on Instagram

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The timing of this episode is pretty ironic. I was walking home from dropping Vinnie off at school this morning and couldn’t shake this ominous, anxious feeling. I was thinking about some projects I have coming up and had these little wee bits of self-doubt creeping in. Then I popped on to social media to see that the entire rest of the world 100% had their lives figured out on this Monday morning and my wee bits of self-doubt blossomed into a rapid onset of Comparisonitis.

A few hours later, I sat down to look at my content calendar and see that I’m supposed to talk to you all about positive thinking today. Haha. I see you Universe - just smiling down on me… 

So, here’s the thing. Positive thinking is a critically important coping skill and the advantages of positive thinking cannot be overstated. But those of us who tout it certainly are not incapable of waking up with a case of the Mondays, as I did today. The power of positive thinking is that you can use it as a tool to navigate a tough moment or as a way to ground yourself #everydamnday. It can be a cornerstone of your life if you so choose.  

When it comes to the long-term integration of positive thinking as a coping skill, the advantages of positive thinking become glaring and beautifully evident. In fact, there are 5 advantages of positive thinking that are especially impactful across your lifetime. 

5 Advantages of Positive Thinking:

1. Resiliency and grit
2. More rewarding personal and professional lives
3. Enhanced relationships and kindness toward others
4. Improved physical health, esp heart health and immunity
5. Decreased symptoms of depression and anxiety*

*This is definitely not to suggest that positive thinking is a treatment for clinical depression or anxiety. We talk this through in the episode. If you are experiencing symptoms of depression or anxiety, please talk to your doctor. 

In this episode, I talk you through 5 advantages of positive thinking and 4 ways to use positive thinking as routine coping skills in your daily life. 

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Erika Hayasaki is a Shameless Mom of 3. She is the author of Somewhere Sisters, the true story of twin girls who were born in Vietnam separated at birth and raised in different parts of the world. Somewhere Sisters was nominated as an NPR Best Book of 2022. She is also the author of The Death Class, a former 2021-22 Knight-Wallace Reporting Fellow, and a 2018 Alicia Patterson Fellow. She has received awards from the Association of Sunday Feature Editors, the Society for Features Journalism, and the American Society of Newspaper Editors. 

Erika’s book is a stunning and captivating story of the intersection of nature vs nurture with twins, interracial adoption, identity, and the meaning of family. This was such a powerful conversation. 

Listen in to hear Erika share:

• About her book, Somewhere Sisters, the true story of twin girls, born in Vietnam and separated at birth, and raised in different parts of the world
• How she reconstructed the sisters Ha and Loan’s stories and their reunion when they were 13 
• The science around nature vs. nurture from twin studies 
• The unexpected trauma that can come with twin and adoptee reunification that we don’t see play out in TV and movies
• How she had to follow the journalistic truth of each person’s story in the book and not be connected to her own hopes for the girls and the story
• The legislative loophole in which international adoptees are not automatically granted citizenship and the push for legislation to change it
• The ethical considerations of interracial adoption
• How sharing our layered identities with one another allows for a more connected human experience

Links mentioned:

• Book: Somewhere Sisters
• Erika on Twitter

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I couldn’t help but dig into something I’ve been working on in live time: TRIGGERS.  

It seems everybody is talking about their triggers these days - to the point that it’s almost cliche. In fact, the term is used so loosely that it can be insulting to folks who have experienced serious trauma and have triggers that deeply impact their ability to show up and function in the world.  

I’ve made no secret about my PTSD diagnosis. Over the last couple of years, I have been exploring this diagnosis in therapy and more recently in a hypnotherapy session. I have learned so much. In today's episode, I’m sharing a bit about what I’ve learned as it relates to the things that trigger me.  

It’s important to note that I am not a therapist or a mental health professional. I’m sharing this because I think some of you will be able to relate to and learn from my anecdotal experience.  

If this episode triggers you or makes you curious about hypnotherapy, you can reach out to my hypnotherapist Nadia Ahrens at nadiaahrens.com.

Link mentioned:

Hypnotherapist Nadia Ahrens: nadiaahrens.com

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When Kristyn Hodgdon reached out to me about coming on the SMA, it was a quick, easy, and emphatic YES! As you likely know, our family has gone through a lot around infertility - in trying to get pregnant with Vinnie and then again in pursuing a second pregnancy. I was so honored to speak with Kristyn, hear her story, and learn about how she helps other women. 

Kristyn Hodgdon is the Co-Founder and Chief Creative Officer at Rescripted, the #1 global media platform for fertility, infertility, and pregnancy loss, offering technology tools & resources for wherever you are on your family-building journey. She is a professional writer, voracious reader, fierce fertility advocate, and proud IVF mom of twins. She lives in Long Island, NY with her husband Dan, and their two kids, Brooke and Charlie. 

Listen in to hear Kristyn share:

• Her journey to her PCOS diagnosis and then into her infertility 
• What is secondary infertility and how common it is
• What it looks and feels like to make decisions around expanding your family when you know you can’t get pregnant naturally
• The hidden grief of secondary infertility
• What to say to friends & family who are experiencing infertility, secondary infertility, or pregnancy loss

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Kristyn: www.rescripted.com
• Rescripted on IG
• Kristyn’s Podcast: Dear (In)Fertility 

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For many people, there are few worse things than rejection or the threat of rejection. The fear of rejection can cause anxiety, depression, and the most relentless stress. It can stop us from going after what we want and what we deserve. It can keep us stuck for a season - or a lifetime.

When you think about fear of rejection and what that might look like for you, I want you to consider what might drive your fear of rejection. What might the underlying causes be?  

Some common causes of fear of rejection are:

• Past life events
• Past rejection or abandonment
• Past trauma
• Poor self-worth, self-esteem, sense of self
• Susceptibility to anxiety, self-criticism

If you can identify where your fear of rejection stems from, it’s more likely you can talk your way through it and give it less power over you. For example, as a person who was abandoned by her father as a little girl and again as a 38-year-old woman & new mom, it is helpful for me to remind myself that my father was unable to show up for me for a myriad of reasons. Those reasons were his. They are not a reflection of my worth or my value. They are also not any indication of how others will treat me. In fact, every other human in my life has shown they are very capable of showing up and supporting me. When I talk myself through all this, I can see how I am very likely to be supported in my life no matter what I go after or if I screw up from time to time. 

In this example, you can see where my fear of rejection might stem from as well as how I walk myself through it. You can see that in accepting my fear, labeling my fear, affirming my worth, and challenging my beliefs/past narratives, I’m able to walk my way right through this fear to a healthier place where I can show up for new things, hard things, big things, scary things - knowing that I don’t have to be perfect, get everything right, impress anyone or prove anything.  

In this episode, I talk through 7 steps you can take to overcome the fear of rejection in order to show up for your life, go after what you want, and get all that you deserve.  

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Based in Los Angeles, Jennifer Cassetta is a nationally recognized speaker, empowerment coach, and self-defense expert. She has worked with tens of thousands of professional women around the country to help them unleash their inner badass. Equipped with her 3rd-degree black belt in HapKiDo, Master’s degree in Nutrition, and health coaching certification, she develops programming that helps women feel strong, safe, and powerful from the streets to the boardroom. With clients that include: American Airlines, British Airways, Del Monte, Nike, Uber, and UBS, Jennifer has rocked hundreds of stages across the country with her superpower combination of engaging content and contagious enthusiasm.

Her new book, The Art of Badassery: Unleash Your Mojo With Wisdom of the Dojo, can now be found on bookshelves everywhere.

This was such a fun conversation. Jenn and I had the most instant chemistry and synergy. Get ready to laugh along with us and take some fantastic notes! 

Listen in to hear Jenn share:

• The Art of Badassery and how to unleash your mojo
• The power of creating your Greatest Shits List
• Her profound life experience of being just a few blocks from the Twin Towers during 911 
• How our Greatest Shits create our greatest weapons
• The importance of Embracing the Suck and 3 strategies for bouncing back from the suck
• 3 steps to help you Find Your Roar
• Why claiming/reclaiming your power is critical life work

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Jenn: jennifercassetta.com
• Book: The Art of Badassery: Unleash Your Mojo With Wisdom of the Dojo
• Jenn on IG
• Jenn on LinkedIn
• Jenn on FB
• Jenn on Tiktok

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I know I’m not supposed to have favorites, but I can’t help myself. One of my all-time favorite episodes to record was Mom Guilt Is a Lie. The reason I loved this episode is multipronged.  

First, I pointed out to you that the mom guilt you feel (that is very real) comes from a massive lie fed to you by the Patriarchy.  

Second, in making it clear where your guilt comes from, many of you would be able to release the grip that mom guilt has had on you over the years.  

And finally, I knew that if you could see mom guilt as a myth, you could also become someone who questions other culturally ingrained messages for moms - liberating not only yourself from the constant marginalization of moms, but hopefully so many other moms around you too! 

While I know many of you benefitted from that episode, I know that you are not miraculously healed. You are likely still struggling with mom guilt. My hope is that this episode will help you see how mom guilt plays a role in your life - likely a harmful role - so you may begin to heal from it.  

In this episode, I talk through 3 ways mom guilt is harming you. Once you see the ways it is harming you, it’s likely you will see how you can start to let it go in order to show up for your life in new and liberated ways!

Links mentioned:

SMA Episode 327: Mom Guilt Is a Lie

Today's Parent Article: Why Mom Guilt Is the Biggest Lie of All

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Laura Cathcart Robbins is the host of the popular podcast, The Only One In The Room, and author of the memoir, STASH. She has been active for many years as a speaker and school trustee and is credited for creating The Buckley School’s nationally recognized committee on Diversity, Equity, Inclusion, and Justice. Her recent articles in Huffpo and The Temper on the subjects of race, recovery, and divorce have garnered her worldwide acclaim. She is a 2022 TEDx Speaker, and LA Moth StorySlam winner. Currently, she sits on the advisory boards of the San Diego Writer’s Festival and the Outliers HQ podcast Festival. 

Laura is a longtime friend of the show and perhaps the most frequent guest of the show. She has shared her brilliance and her heart with us in so many ways over the last few years. Today, she is sharing her story with us in a new way - talking about the release of her stunningly breathtaking memoir, Stash. I was lucky enough to receive an advance copy of Laura’s book and read it on my way to & from London last fall. I found myself trying to contain my crying and cheering for my dear friend, Laura, on each flight. Her mommy heart broke mine in half as I read about her journey into deep addiction and then my heart healed right alongside hers as I saw her embrace recovery and say YES to herself and her boys over and over again. 

Listen in to hear Laura share:

• Her desire for her high profile marriage to “legitimize” her worth 
• Her path to crippling perfectionism and how it led her to a near fatal Ambien addiction
• How Stash addresses the intersection of addiction, race, gender, motherhood and class
• The misnomer that parents who are addicts choose drugs or alcohol over their children
• The significance of her authoring this book as a Black women working through addiction and into recovery

Links mentioned:

• Get the STASH and connect with Laura: theonlyonepod.com
• Podcast: The Only One in the Room
• Laura on IG
• The Only One in the Room on IG

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As I’ve worked with women through growth and transformation over the last 20 years, I’ve had countless conversations about partners & spouses who, “just don’t get it.” Back when I was working with my personal training clients and boot camp members, women would come to be fraught about spending money without their husband’s approval.  

When I started running programs inside the SMA, moms came to me so eager to participate but very uncomfortable about talking to their husbands about investing money in an online program with a coach they met on the internet, especially a coach selling “personal development for moms”.

I totally understand that it can be awkward to work on goals that aren’t connected to your partner, especially if you haven’t done that before. And… if that’s you, I want to invite you to consider why you haven’t taken steps to work on yourself independently in the past? Not from a place of judgment, but from a place of genuine curiosity.  

As I’ve helped so many women show up for themselves and step into growth over the last 20 years, I’ve also seen the frustration that comes when you are growing, growing, growing, and hoping your partner will follow suit, and they’re like, “Nah, I’m good.”

There can be a decent amount of tension when partners are growing in different directions or one partner is committed to growth and the other is not.  

As you’ve become more Shameless as a listener of this show, perhaps you’ve wondered, “How do I encourage my partner to make some of the changes I’ve made?”  

In today’s episode, I talk through this tension. The tension of becoming more autonomous. The tension of codependency. The tension of doing your own work and letting a partner decide on their own what work they do or don’t do. 

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Gabrielle Blair a Shameless Mom of 6 and the founder of DesignMom.com. Started in 2006, it has been named a Website of the Year by Time magazine; praised as a top parenting blog by The Wall Street Journal, Parents, and Better Homes & Gardens; and it won the Iris Award for Blog of the Year. In 2015, Gabrielle published her New York Times bestseller, Design Mom: How to Live with Kids, a New York Times bestseller. Her second book, Ejaculate Responsibly, was just released and also became an instant New York Times Bestseller. Her writing is quoted and shared across the globe daily. If you follow her on Twitter, you know why. Gabrielle is also a founder of Alt Summit, the blockbuster annual conference for online content creators and creative entrepreneurs.  

I met Gabrielle at an event this fall and was immediately completely captivated by her work around her new book, Ejaculate Responsibly. Gabbi is a force and this conversation is going to expand your head and heart in many ways. Listen in and share widely. The world needs this message - desperately. 

Listen in to hear Gabrielle share:

• Why she has always integrated “controversial” content into her parenting blog, Design Mom, and how that led to her writing Ejaculate Responsibly
• Her mission to put men at the center of attention and center of responsibility when it comes to the conversation around unwanted pregnancies
• Why the management of women’s fertility should be shifted to the management of MEN’S fertility since men are fertile 365 days a year and women are fertile for a mere 36 or so hours a month.
• Why we have built a 100+ billion dollar women’s birth control industry around the idea that we don’t mind if women suffer as long as it makes things easier for men
• The reality that most men are actually quite open to taking responsibility for their ejaculation if they are given the right information
• How to talk to your kids about responsible ejaculation

Links Mentioned:

• Gabrielle’s Book: Ejaculate Responsibly: A Whole New Way to Think About Abortion
• See Gabrielle on tour: Book Tour: https://designmom.com
• Check out Alt Summit: https://altitudesummit.com/
• Gabrielle on Twitter and Instagram: @designmom
• Amy Lang on the SMA: Birds & Bees & Kids
• Amy Lang on the SMA: Sex Talk with Tweens

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One of the most common questions I’ve gotten over the years is, “Sara, how do I find my passion?” Often this question is followed by some lamenting over the fact that one has not yet found their passion.  

Sometimes society tells us that if we are not committing our life’s work to something we are passionate about, we are wasting our time or our talent.  

I would like to argue that sometimes it’s ok to do something you’re not 100% passionate about because it provides you security and stability (ie: a paycheck and benefits).  

AND, I get it…. Doing meaningful work that is aligned with your passions and gives you a sense of purpose is highly desirable.  

AND… the world needs your gifts! So, please don’t hold back from sharing them with us.

SO, how do you know when to go after what you’re passionate about?  

How do you determine the thing you want to passionately pursue?

How do you know when it’s the right time to pivot?  

Over the last 20 years, I’ve spent a lot of time building businesses around work that I’m deeply passionate about - work that gives me a massive sense of purpose. But there have also been moments (even seasons) where I have sat in pretty “MEH” situations in order to strategically plan my next pivot. In this episode, I share a few examples so you can see what this looks like in real life.  

Maybe you’re ready to pivot right now or maybe you’re looking out at a 5-year plan toward your purpose. Either way, I got you - and this episode will give you some great insight.

Link mentioned:

Interested in Business Coaching with Sara? Email us at info@shamelessmom.com with the subject line: Business Coaching and we will send you details on Sara’s 6-month One-on-One Business & Leadership Coaching Package! 

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Loria Yeadon is President and CEO at YMCA of Greater Seattle and the first woman and the first person of color to serve in this role in the 146-year history of the organization. She is an electrical engineer, a patent attorney by trade and training, and an accomplished non-profit and corporate executive with over 35 years of experience leading high-performing teams, managing P&Ls, and serving the community. She champions and advocates for equity and justice for all, especially youth and families in underserved communities. Yeadon currently serves on the Governor’s Social Supports Leaders Advisory Group for the State of Washington and on the Board of Directors for the Laird Norton Company. She formerly served on the Board of Directors of TiVo Corporation, Girl Scouts of the USA, Legal Momentum, and Stolen Youth. She was recently honored as a 2021 Women of Influence by the Puget Sound Business Journal and recipient of the 2020 Female Founders Champion Role Model Award. She is also a very proud Shameless Mom to 3 grown daughters.

Listen in to Loria share:

• Her memories during segregation in Virginia and how things are not much different today
• How her mission to raise her daughters to be world leaders and worlds changers informed her career
• The impact of the pandemic on the YMCA as they recognized the importance of supporting families in deeply critical ways
• The “false choice” moms were given in the pandemic
• What happens in society when affordable childcare is hard or even impossible to access
• Possible solutions around more affordable childcare
• Her invitation to young women to move through the world more courageously
• The very special way you can support the mission of the YMCA
• The unique mission of the YMCA to be more than a building, but a movement forwarding communities

Links Mentioned: 

• Learn more about the YMCA and consider donating: www.seattleymca.org
• YMCA on FB, IG, Twitter: @YMCASeattle
• YMCA on LinkedIn
• Loria on LinkedIn
• Loria on Twitter

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If your voice has value and you’re using it as an agent to heal yourself and help others, it’s your job to be aware of the external noise you allow to inform your thoughts, beliefs, and actions. 

There will be people who try to diminish your voice, your power, and your credibility.

There will be people who do not believe you, who downright oppose you, who say you are not who you say you are.

There will be people who, out of their own insecurities, will deny your gifts, roll their eyes at your talent, and question your motives.  

How will you handle those who are disrespectful, dismissive, diminishing, and doubtful of who you are becoming?

This is a big question. It can be a lot to wrap your head around as you choose a path of growth, power, and agency.  

So YOU must know who you are and what you stand for.

In this episode, we will categorize the Haters, the Doubters, and the Skeptics in a meaningful way that will allow you to more clearly see how these folks take up space in your life.  

Then we will walk through 3 questions to ask yourself as you navigate interactions and situations with these folks so that you may conscientiously decide who gets to have a vote in who you are becoming and who does not. 

Your voice has value. Period. Even when others are questioning it, doubting it, or downright denying it.

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Sisters Yvette Gentile and Rasha Pecoraro are primarily recognized as the co-hosts of the wildly popular podcast “Root of Evil: The True Story of the Hodel Family and the Black Dahlia,” a 2020 iHeartRadio ‘True Crime Podcast of the Year’ nominee. The dark story of their mother Fauna Hodel’s life became a six-episode limited television series “I Am The Night,” which premiered in January 2019.

Yvette and Rasha have returned to the airwaves with a new weekly podcast, Facing Evil. In their latest venture, the siblings bring their unique perspective of growing up in a family with a dark history, to true crime with a focus on the victims and individuals at the heart of the stories. 

Outside of podcasting, Yvette is also an actor, model, and sandal designer with her husband Gino. She is an avid yogi who trains for and practices classes specific to individuals confronting distress and long-term grief and pain. 

Rasha was a fierce competitor on “The Biggest Loser” in 2006. Since then, she’s advocated for beauty at any size as a plus-size model and married her wife Vanna in 2010. She is a proud LGBTQ+ advocate and activist, mother, as well as an actor and voiceover artist. 

Listen in to hear Rasha and Yvette share:

• What it was like for Rasha to marry a man on national TV after being a contestant on the Biggest Loser - and then realize she was gay and come out out of the closet in a very public way
• The impact of their unique sister relationship of being a gay-straight passing blond woman and a black biracial woman - standing side by side as sisters
• What it’s been like for both Rasha and Yvette to embrace the spotlight in a big way as the layers of their family story is shared across multiple media platforms
• The impact and imprint of many tragic true crime stories on US history
• How they have intentionally stayed away from sensationalism and salaciousness in true crime podcasting, and instead opted for sharing humanity, compassion, and empathy in their stories

Links mentioned:

• Podcast: Facing Evil
• Facing Evil on IG
• Rasha on IG
• Yvette on IG

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What if your feelings of inadequacy had nothing to do with you? What if they were because you have been conditioned as a woman and a mom that no matter what you do, it will never be enough? Perhaps you have been conditioned to believe that everyone else has it all figured out. Perhaps you are never validated or affirmed as a woman and a mom because society has systematically dismissed and diminished our value, our contributions, and our worth for centuries.  

Perhaps those feelings of inadequacy, while very real, are not yours to own.  

Perhaps the burden to alleviate those feelings falls on the systems and people who have diminished us. But they don’t know that. They don’t see that. And until they do, it’s up to us to undo their damage.  

SO… let’s unravel it all so you can step back and see the bigger picture. In this episode, I walk you through 4 things that fuel inadequacy for most women and moms and then a 4 part framework to intentionally and permanently walk away from your feelings of inadequacy and into your worth, your gifts, and your talents

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Rachel Luna, author of Permission to Offend, is a highly sought-after international speaker & Certified Master Neuroscience Coach.. Named by Forbes as one of The 11 Most Inspiring Female Entrepreneurs To Follow On Instagram. She is a former US Marine who calls herself a magnet for miracles because despite losing both her parents to AIDS, struggling with eating disorders in her teens, and battling alcoholism and depression in her early 20s, Rachel has never allowed herself to be limited by life circumstances. Instead, she persevered and when she was diagnosed with triple-negative breast cancer in the summer of 2019, Rachel tackled it the same way she does everything - with confidence, faith, and love.

Through her top-rated podcast, Permission to Offend, and her new book of the same name, Rachel is inviting you to return to your truth, own it, and live fully self-expressed without fear of judgment, rejection, or defamation - so that you can step into your next level of elevation.

Listen in to hear Rachel share:

• How she navigated her disappointment around motherhood and her struggle to bond with her daughters after their births
• Her decision to leave the US Marines after becoming a mom
• How she decided to become a life coach in her post-Marine life
• How to acknowledge our Big 3 Fears: judgment, rejection, defamation
• Strategies to be ready to “offend”
• How to use curiosity as the key to clarity
• How to engage in thoughtful but hard conversations with permission to offend

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Rachel: www.rachelluna.biz
• Book: Permission to Offend
• Podcast: Permission to Offend
• Take the Permission to Offend Quiz: Permissiontooffend.com/quiz
• Rachel on Instagram

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I suspect your daily life is loud, literally and figuratively. Noise from your kids, your partner, your boss, noise on social media, the news, and the entire world outside your door.  

As you move through the world listening to all the noise, it’s easy to lose track of your own voice and your inner knowing. With all the outward listening, it’s easy to forget to listen inward. 

I recently had a situation where I found myself feeling very uncertain, even physically uncomfortable, as my gut was telling me, “This doesn't feel right.”  

While I love to rush through things in order to check them off my list, I made myself sit with this feeling and really listen to it. And I’m so glad I did. As I sat with this feeling, I made some requests of the people around me while this feeling took place. They were unable (or unwilling) to reassure me or provide any validation for what I was feeling, which confirmed my gut feeling: I shouldn’t stay in this situation.  

In this episode, I share this entire situation and the steps I took to give myself the space and time to listen inward as this situation unfolded. I hope this gives you some guidance on how to do the same.  

We are taught from the time we are wee little girls to prioritize the voices and comfort of others over our own. NO MORE. Give yourself permission to listen to you and prioritize YOU.  

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Monica Packer is passionate about teaching practical-but-deep transformation. As a podcaster and coach, she guides women to find sustainable growth by adopting progress over perfection. Monica is a former middle school teacher, a forever Oprah fangirl, a perpetual cookie dough maker, and an ambitious walker (the last one is a joke . . . sort of). She is also the Shameless Mom to 4 awesome kiddos, with a 5th on the way! 

This is Monica’s second time on the show and I just love how we were able to dig deep so quickly. This is a juicy conversation that you might want to listen to more than once. Prepare to take some notes! 

Listen in to hear Monica share:

• The most important thing for women to know about progress and personal growth
• The lie that women fall for over and over again
• The uncomfortable truth that growth is supposed to be slow
• The magic of time and compassion and how to use compassion to give yourself permission in hard moments and seasons
• The very specific process she uses to help women work toward any goal
• How to reconcile that your identity is formed by behavior and habits 
• How men miss the mark when talking about women and their habits
• What successful consistency actually (surprisingly) looks like for women

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Monica: https://aboutprogress.com/
• Past SMA interview with Sara and Monica: Prioritizing Progress Over Perfection
• Monica’s Podcast: About Progress
• Get Monica’s Habit Class: aboutprogess.com/habitclass
• Monica on IG

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I had a really hard time relaxing over our holiday break. I knew January was going to be a big month for me in terms of work opportunities and I was feeling some nerves for sure. I kept telling myself to “just relax” until January kicked off, but my anxious brain could not. If you have an anxious brain like me, perhaps you can relate to how foolishly ineffective it is to tell yourself to “just relax”. 

BUT… Now that we are IN January and I’m IN these opportunities, I’m having a blast. I’m running right up to some big edges of discomfort as I do new things and I’m having a great time seeing things come together.  

As I was wrapping up last week, I had to remind myself:

• “You are good at figuring out new things.”
• “It feels really great to challenge yourself by finding new professional edges.”
• “The high that comes after reaching a new edge is the best.”

As I mentioned, I have an anxious brain. I excel in worrying about things before they happen. Sometimes that worry exists for months before an event or life situation and it takes a lot out of me. I have done a lot of work to minimize this worry, but it definitely still creeps in at times.  

I love challenging myself because I love - LOVE - the feeling of achievement. But I hate the feelings of worry (sometimes even dread) that can precipitate some of the best moments of my life. One of my top techniques to mitigate this worry is to really sit in the feelings that follow pushing my edges. I do this with skiing, with uncomfortable conversations, with new leadership opportunities, and when I’m working with new organizations - so pretty much anytime I’m doing something unknown or uncertain!  

In this episode we talk about how to use these questions to lean into the magic of your new edges:

• How did that feel?
• How did you use your skills, gifts, and talents to accomplish what you wanted to accomplish?
• What does this accomplishment tell you about yourself and the person you are becoming?

Cheers to a year of new edges, my friend!

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As co-founder of the Global Grit Institute, a mental health training platform for leaders and coaches, co-founder of the Dharma Coaching Institute, training thousands to live their best lives, and a thriving coach in her own right, Neeta Bhushan has helped thousands of people move past their heartbreaks, failures, and disappointments. And after years of research into human behavior, observing people in their worst and best moments, being a mother of two small children, and failing more than a few times herself, Neeta knows what it takes to get back up no matter what bowled you over. Her new book, That Sucked, Now What? is a real-talk guide to personal growth that draws on and embraces the suck–and helps you break through to lasting, audacious resilience.  

Listen in to hear Dr. Neeta share:

• Her experience of losing her parents and brother all before age 19, and then finding herself in an abusive marriage - and how that impacted her life and work today
• What makes our nervous systems so unique as moms, and why we are so dysregulated
• Practices to reconcile + integrate your emotional nervous system
• How to reframe your relationship with resiliency 
• Why it’s so important to celebrate and normalize sucky moments
• What it looks like to be in a thriving stage in life and how to ignite your thriving stage

Links Mentioned:

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• Get Neeta’s book pack and 5 free bonuses: thatsuckednowwhat.com
• Connect with Neeta: neetabhushan.com
• Neeta on IG
• Neeta on FB
• Neeta on Twitter
• Neeta on Youtube
• Neeta on LinkedIn

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I’m in Arizona to lead a training tomorrow. I led part of this training online a while back and an attendee emailed me after and said, “Sara, my team NEEDS your training.” As we talked through what her team needs most right now, I got pretty excited. I knew I could leap right into “Secret Lies” with them and help them shift their mindset and the stories that take up space in their heads in big ways.  

If you’re anything like - oh - every single human being, you likely walk around all day with different stories in your head. Stories about yourself, your life, your legacy, your past experiences, your qualifications, and your capabilities. So many stories. All day, every day.  

As you navigate the world, do you ever stop to think, “Is the story I’m telling myself helping me or harming me?”  

Oftentimes, women tell themselves stories that are diminishing and minimizing in a myriad of ways. Things like: You’re not good enough/smart enough/thin enough/qualified enough.

If you do this, it’s ok. Society has conditioned you to do it. It’s totally normal. But, it’s also totally harmful. Luckily it’s avoidable.  

In this episode, I help you see how your secret lies might be standing in your way and how you might be able to reframe them in honest, authentic ways that give you a much greater sense of power, purpose, hope, and JOY in your everyday life.  

Early in my personal training career, I had a boss shame me in a huge way. It started in his office where he degraded me. But it continued out into the main gym where he made a colleague of mine mentor me in front of all the other trainers - as if I was a brand new, completely inexperienced trainer when I was not. It was an awful - AWFUL - experience. But, having gone through that, I was able to show up for myself as a strong self-advocate a few years ago when someone tried to take me down in a very public way. I was also able to take a stand when my own father tried to publicly humiliate me on my business page about a year ago. If I hadn’t figured out how to reframe my secret lies into courageous truths waaaaay back in my personal training days, those incidents would have cost me so much more mental energy and anguish. 

This is an invitation to get out of your head and into your truth - your most courageous truth. Let’s go. 

Link mentioned:

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Aubrey Gordon writes under the pseudonym of “Your Fat Friend,” illuminating the experiences of fat people and urging greater compassion for people of all sizes. She is the author of What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk About Fat and her newest book, You Just Need to Lose Weight and 19 Other Myths About Fat People. Her work has reached millions of readers and translated into 19 languages. She is co-host of the Maintenance Phase podcast, a top-rated podcast in 2021 and 2022, and a columnist with SELF magazine. Her work has also been featured in Health magazine, Vox, and Gay Mag, among others. She lives in the Northwest, where she works as a writer and organizer. Connect with her at yourfatfriend.com, and as YrFatFriend on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook.

I’m not sure if I can adequately describe the profound honor it is to have Aubrey as a guest on the show. Her work has touched me deeply over the last couple of years. She has a massive fan base that is not specific to moms, so I never thought she would say yes to joining me here. I also never thought she could be 100 times more amazing IRL than she is online - because she is already so damn awesome online. But she was an exceptional guest and an exceptionally generous interviewee - with her time, her teaching, and her laughter. To know her laugh is to love her laugh. If you know, you know. 

Listen in to hear Aubrey share: 

• What it was like for her to go from an anonymous online writer to a fully public figure
• How the success of the Maintenance Phase has impacted her work
• How women are conditioned to externally process and speak about their bodies and food constantly and how this is harmful in a myriad of ways
• The importance of understanding thin privilege and recognizing if you benefit from thin privilege
• Scripts and language for parents to talk to kids about bodies and fatness in a neutral way
• How to talk to your kids about healthy eating without subscribing to your own internalized messages from diet culture

Links mentioned:

• Connect with her at yourfatfriend.com and https://www.aubreygordon.net/
• Book: What We Don’t Talk About When We Talk about Fat
• Book: You Just Need to Lose Weight - And 19 Other Myths About Fat People
• Aubrey on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook: @yrfatfriend 

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Getting grounded in a new year isn’t easy. As you recover from the mayhem of the holidays and try to find your footing in a new year, it can feel chaotic and a little frantic. This is why I always recommend (for moms especially) taking the better part of the month to ease your way into a new year.  

As you’re easing your way in, you can start to plant some seeds and let them take root. Getting clear on what you’re moving away from and what you’re moving toward. Deciding what you are ready to release and what you’re ready to reclaim (or claim for the first time!) This all shifts from year to year as you and your kids’ needs shift. An annual assessment or check-in can be so helpful!

In this episode, I offer you 4 anchors to get grounded and stay grounded as you let those baby roots take hold this year. I talk through connecting with other powerful women, delicious routines to nourish your mind, body & soul, how to intentionally manage time, and the power of leaning into your gifts as you decide who you are becoming this year. 

Links mentioned:

• Get updates on upcoming enrollment for The Academy: shamelessmom.com/newsletter
• Book: The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks

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Casey McGuire Davidson helps busy women drink less + live more. She’s a leader in the modern sober curious movement of women who are gray area drinkers going alcohol-free. An ex-red wine girl turned Life and Sobriety Coach, Casey is passionate about helping women change their relationship with alcohol. She specializes in working with busy women with full calendars and overflowing to-do lists, who are doing all the things and then coming home and drinking to forget about all the things. Casey has helped thousands of women turn the decision to stop drinking from their worst-case scenario to the best decision of their lives.  

Casey is the creator of The Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking and The Sobriety Starter Kit, and the host of The Hello Someday Podcast for sober curious women and gray area drinkers, ranked in the top 1% of all global podcasts.

Listen in to hear Casey share:

• Where the concept of Dry January comes from
• What it means and looks like to be sober curious
• The science of alcohol and dopamine on our bodies and how it impacts our mindset, outlook, positivity and joy in life
• How alcohol use contributes to our stress levels and overall anxiety 
• Steps to manage dopamine if you’re choosing to not drink
• The significance of the non-alcohol (NA) industry on the alcohol industry
• Why alcohol works as an “Easy Button” AND is also a very maladaptive coping mechanism

Links mentioned:

• Sign up for my Plan & Prep Pajama Party: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Casey: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/
• Get Casey’s Free 30-Day Guide To Quitting Drinking - 30 Tips For Your First Month Alcohol Free https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/30-day-sober-guide/
• Casey’s Podcast: The Hello Someday Podcast: https://hellosomedaycoaching.com/podcast/
• Get The Sobriety Starter Kit Online Course: https://www.thesobrietystarterkit.com/
• Casey on Facebook
• Casey on Instagram

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From time to time it’s essential to take a close look at some of our patterns and behaviors to see what we might want (read: need) to quit. Just as your kids are constantly growing and evolving, so are you. As your wants and needs shift, it’s important to recognize where you can quit certain patterns or behaviors to save yourself precious time and energy.  

I have done a few “permission to quit” episodes over the years. I love these episodes because they are gentle invitations to you to take a critical look at some of the things you might be doing without realizing they are no longer serving you. 

In this episode, I invite you to stop overgiving, overdoing, overproving; to stop setting goals based on other people’s agendas, opinions, or choices; and to stop quietly accepting old-school norms (that are quite likely misogynistic in nature.) Enjoy taking notes and then QUITTING ALL THE THINGS! 

Link mentioned:

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Rachel Nielson is the host of the popular parenting podcast, 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms. Each 30-minute episode gives 3 actionable takeaways to help women find more meaning in their unique motherhood experiences. Rachel lives in the mountains of Idaho with her husband and her two miracle children who arrived to their family through adoption and IVF. As a former high school English teacher, she loves to read, write, and talk about deep ideas...which has made podcasting a perfect career for her to do from home.

Rachel and I first connected as podcasters who shared side-by-side rankings in Apple Podcasts Kids & Family top charts. Some may have suggested we were competitors, but we immediately saw one another's work as complementary. When we had the opportunity to meet in person in 2020, we were able to see that as colleagues, friends, and confidants in this industry we could lean on each other and build a really special relationship that could support us as women, moms, and podcasters. I so treasure my sweet friendship with Rachel.  

We have spoken about guesting on each other’s shows for years. To be honest, the challenge has been narrowing down what to talk about because we could talk to each other for days about so many things related to motherhood. But, I asked Rachel if she would be willing to talk about something deeply personal and special today - the adoption of her precious son, Noah.

Listen in to hear Rachel share:

• Her family's journey into open adoption
• How she honored and did her best to center her son’s birth mother, Katie, throughout the process of adoption
• The unfathomable grief she held for Katie the day Noah was born
• The trauma of adoption for adopted children, no matter how healthy relationships they have with bio parents and adoptive parents
• How she and her husband navigated building and maintaining positive and healthy relationships with Noah’s bio parents, Katie and Drew
• How Katie’s death by suicide shifted Rachel’s perspective on the ethics of adoption
• What her family’s relationship with Drew looks like - how he is so significant and special in Noah’s life
• What she wants prospective adoptive parents to consider before going through the adoption process

Links mentioned:

• Register for my 2023 Plan & Prep Pajama Party: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Rachel: 3in30podcast.com
• Rachel’s Podcast: 3 in 30 Takeaways for Moms
• Get Rache’s Course, 5 Days to More Meaning in Your Motherhood: 3in30podcast.com/sma
• Rachel on Instagram

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I am always already behind on January 1st. I’m late and disorganized and definitely underprepared. Pre motherhood, I would spend the last couple weeks of December reflecting on the year gone by and planning for the new year. I would spend time drafting lofty dreams and creating spreadsheets with goals and metrics. There would be graphs and charts and vision boards. I would wake up on January 1st READY.  

Ready to start fresh. 

Ready to live my crisp new dreams.  

Ready to make sh*t happen. 

Then I became a mom.  

For the last 10 years, I have spent the holidays in chaos. Lovely, exhausting, magical, frantic weeks on end where I have no time, no childcare, and no energy to sit and dream about a new year. 

As a result, I wake up every January 1st knowing that a bunch of people spent the last few weeks in quiet reflection and dreaming - but I did not. I spent it creating and managing magic for my child and family.  

A few years ago I gave myself permission to let January be an entire month of beginning and becoming. I don’t need to start fresh, live my crisp, new dreams, or make sh*t happen right on January 1st. I have the whole month to figure out where I’m going. And, during that month, there is only ONE thing that needs to happen. 

If this ONE thing happens, I know I’ll be set for the year. This ONE thing can happen on a Monday evening or a Thursday morning or a Saturday afternoon. This ONE thing can take 20 minutes or 2 hours. This ONE thing can happen on my terms.  

In this episode, I will share the ONE thing and why it is critical to helping you create a vision and action plan for 2023.  

Link mentioned:

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Dr. Sasha Heinz, Ph.D., MAPP, is an academic who went mainstream, using her background as a developmental psychologist to become a mindset coach who teaches people the science of getting unstuck. An expert in positive psychology and adult development, Dr. Heinz has based her entire career on helping clients make real transformations, giving them the tools to develop their mental fitness by facing challenges and breaking our mind’s default modes for stress, self-criticism, and anxiety.

Dr. Heinz received her BA from Harvard, her Ph.D. in developmental psychology from Columbia, and her Master’s in Applied Positive Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania, where she also served as a faculty member. She was one of the first 33 people in history to receive a degree in Positive Psychology.

Listen in to hear Sasha share:

• The growth curve all adults face - that no one talks about
• The developmental edge that motherhood brings us to the moment we become mothers
• How the self-help industry can be harmful to people
• The difference between technical and adaptive problems
• The 3 P’s of a socialized mindset: perfectionism, people pleasing, and paralysis
• The concept of moving from a socialized mindset to being self-authored
• The truth about “life hacks” and what is required for actual change and growth

Links mentioned:

• Register for my Plan & Prep Pajama Party on January 23rd: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Dr. Sasha: drsashaheinz.com
• Sasha’s Mental Fitness Club: mindyourmind.com
• Sasha on Facebook
• Sasha on IG
• Sasha on LinkedIn

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Viki Zarkin was diagnosed with cancer in 2011, has been living with Stage 4 metastatic cancer for over 10 years, and is the only person in the world alive with this aggressive illness. She was diagnosed in her 40s when her doctor first told her to go home and get her affairs in order and at the time, she had 2 small children at home. Viki spent the next several years fighting for her life, advocating for herself, navigating through the healthcare world, and following her gut. Today, Viki is a beacon of hope for others, she’s a motivational speaker and coach on a national level and a successful author.

Viki inspires women to change the way they have been programmed to think and emphasizes the importance of starting with young women on how to believe in themselves, challenge the status quo, find their voices and listen to their hearts. 

Listen in to hear Viki share:

• Her diagnosis of stage 4 metastatic cancer 12 years ago
• What happened when she grabbed her doctor by the neck when her doctor suggested she might not survive her diagnosis
• What it was like working through stage 4 cancer treatment with children ages 8 and 11
• What her life is like being treated every 28 days with chemo to manage her cancer
• The side effects of long-term cancer treatments
• What it has been like to mother while also managing cancer for 12 years
• Her bargain with God and how that has played out 
• How to navigate power differentials in healthcare

Links mentioned:

• Register for my Plan & Prep Pajama Party on January 23rd: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Viki: iamtheone.com/
• Viki on FB
• Viki on IG

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Ruchika Tulshyan is the author of Inclusion on Purpose: An Intersectional Approach to Creating a Culture of Belonging at Work (MIT Press). She’s also the founder of Candour, an inclusion strategy practice. A former international business journalist, Ruchika is a regular contributor to The New York Times and Harvard Business Review.

I first heard Ruchika speak on Brene Brown’s podcast, Unlocking Us. I became immediately obsessed with her work. I had the honor of hearing her speak at her book launch party here in Seattle and I’ve been fangirling over her ever since. The work she’s doing is so critically important and the way she does the work is so thoughtful and deeply impactful. I was so excited and so honored when she said YES to coming on the show. 

Listen in to hear Ruchika share:

• How being an immigrant and woman of color has impacted and challenged her as a mother
• The social construct of imposter syndrome for women and how it parallels the social construct of mom guilt
• Her challenges around being a working mom who travels for work and how she is treated differently than men in the same boat
• The difference between diversity and inclusion and how current systems undermine inclusion, even if promoting diversity
• Her BRIDGE framework for allies, advocates, and those wishing to lead in more inclusive and equitable ways across social systems

Links mentioned:

• Join my 5th annual Plan & Prep Pajama Party on January 23rd: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Ruchika and get Inclusion on Purpose: inclusiononpurpose.co
• Ruchika on Twitter
• Ruchika on Instagram
• Ruchika on LinkedIn

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As you come to the close of another year, I am inviting you to pause for a moment to own and honor 2022. I know pausing and taking a moment to yourself in this busy season might sound like a ridiculous suggestion. WHO HAS TIME TO PAUSE?!  

Perhaps you pause as you sip your coffee today. Perhaps you pause while taking a shower. Perhaps you pause as you walk the dog. Perhaps you pause for a few minutes before you go to bed.  

Whenever & however you choose to pause, I want you to think through the following questions:

1. What am I most proud of from 2022?
2. When did I show up as the person I most want to become in 2022?
3. What did I learn about myself in 2022?

In this episode, I walk you through these questions and how you can frame them in order to get the most out of them. I share my personal answers with you so you can see the value in looking back before you move forward.  

Link mentioned:

• Join my 5th annual Plan & Prep Pajama Party on January 23rd: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty

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Sarah Stevens is a former healthcare executive turned writer, speaker, and entrepreneur. After leaving her career in corporate healthcare in 2016, she founded The Beautifull Project - a storytelling collective that has reached tens of thousands of women across the globe with its powerful message about learning to take up space. Today, Sarah helps other people tell their stories through Branded, by Sarah Stevens, a small business offering a full suite of marketing services. She also serves as the Community Impact Officer at The Project of The Quad Cities, a nonprofit that serves people living with HIV and the LGBTQ+ community. Sarah is a gifted storyteller with a skill for using her own story as a woman navigating the world in a fat body to invite her audience to encounter the parts of themselves they hide away from the world, the parts they believe to be “too much.” Addressing everything from “too-big” bodies to a fear of failure that cripples confidence, Sarah amplifies a message that moves beyond a body-positive sentiment and creates a movement that makes room for everybody to tell their truth and take up space. She draws out confidence and courage. She believes in being free and full. And she will make a believer out of you, too.

This is Sarah’s third time on the show. I invited her back after finding myself in a parenting conversation around body image that I was worried I totally screwed up. I reached out to Sarah and asked if she would be interested in hashing this topic out on the show and she immediately said yes. This is a really important conversation, as the pervasiveness of diet culture continues to be so insidious, oppressive, and ultimately deadly, in our culture. 

Listen in to hear Sarah and I discuss:

• How my child casually throwing around words like “fat” and “chubby” threw me into a parenting tailspin
• How to check your own body image trauma when talking to your kids
• The importance of entering conversations with curiosity & compassion (vs lecturing and shaming)
• The truth about the insidiousness of current diet culture in spite of the fact that so many of us think we know better than to fall victim to it
• How to talk to your kids about fat without causing them to have an anti-fat bias (or “fatphobia”)
• The systemic oppression that is very present and real for people living in fat bodies
• How pushing kids to “make healthy choices” can be rooted in diet culture if we aren’t careful
• The importance of teaching kids to learn to trust their bodies - and how difficult this is if you don’t trust your own

Links mentioned:

• Join me for my 2023 Plan & Prep Pajama Party and save $50 with Early Bird Registration: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty
• Connect with Sarah: thebeautifullproject.com
• Past SMA Interview with Sarah - Episode 571: How to Take Up Space and Love Yourself in the Process
• Past SMA Interview with Sarah - Episode 366: The Beautifull Project: The Truth About Fatness and Thin Allies
• Sarah on Facebook
• Sarah on Instagram: @thebeautifullproject and @seeing_sarah 
• Sarah’s TED Talk: Stripped: The Art of Being Seen
• Sarah’s Podcast: Beauti: The Interviews

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Vulnerable episode alert.  

2022 was a year of a messy mindset for me. I made the choice to go after a lot of big things this year and many of them did not pan out for me. I think it’s great to reach for the stars. But sometimes when you only aim really high, you have a lot of misses. This is 100% OK! But, it can be tricky to internalize.  

In this episode, I talk about how my mindset got messy this year and how I clawed my way through my own headspace over and over again. I dig into my history of PTSD and how my mindset can be prone to messiness as a result. I share with you the tools that have worked for me this year - because I’m guessing you might have had some messy mindset moments this year too. Or maybe you're stuck in a messy mindset moment right now?? If that’s the case, I got you.  

Listen in to hear 5 ways I worked on managing my mindset when I felt like crawling under my desk and crying (which I sometimes did!)  

It’s ok to be messy, friend. You are not alone. 

Link mentioned:

• Join me for my 2023 Plan & Prep Pajama Party and save $50 with Early Bird Registration: shamelessmom.com/pajamaparty

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Yoky Matsuoka is the Founder & CEO of Yohana, an independently-led subsidiary of Panasonic, focused on building consumer technology products and services to help people live healthier and happier lives. As an accomplished executive and technologist, Yoky brings more than two decades of leadership experience to her role where she also leads global innovation and serves as the Managing Executive Officer of Panasonic Corporation.

Prior to Yohana, Yoky was a VP at Google, a CTO at Nest, a senior executive at Apple, and CEO of Quanttus, a health tech startup. She has also spent time as an endowed professor at Carnegie Mellon University and the University of Washington. She is the recipient of the MacArthur Genius Award for her work in robotics and neuroscience and the founder of YokyWorks Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to helping children with physical and learning challenges, focused on removing reading barriers to unlock the potential of every child.

She is also a Shameless Mom of four children, a dog, and a pet pig.

Listen in to hear Yoky share:

• How she intentionally set goals and went after dreams based on what her mom regretted
• Her choice to leave big tech and build Yohana right before the pandemic
• How her mentality around “The best way to do it to do it myself” led her to build an innovative company that supports moms
• Why embracing her attitude around “I’m different and different is good” has served her well her entire life
• How the pandemic highlighted the need for the services she knew she wanted to create as she started to build her company
• How to get out of your own way to quit tasks that don’t allow you to reach your bigger goals 
• Her powerful two-part mindset reset to release mom guilt

Links mentioned:

• Get the SMA Newsletter to learn about our January 2023 events: shamelessmom.com/newsletter
• Connect with Yoky: https://www.yokymatsuoka.com/
• Learn more about Yohana: yohana.com
• Yohana End of Year Promo: get a free trial and save 40% a month on your membership (or gift Yohana to someone!) at yohana.com with promo code ENDOFYEAR
• Yohana on IG
• Yoky on IG
• Yoky on Twitter
• Yoky on LinkedIn

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As moms, we naturally center our children (and often our partners and extended families) repeatedly over the course of the holiday season. As caretakers and givers (mayyyybe over givers?) we love to make all the magic happen for everyone. But what about making magic for yourself?? 

Over the course of the holidays, it’s easy to completely neglect yourself and sometimes even compromise your core values in the process. 

Every year around this time, I record a holiday episode as an invitation to center YOU over the holidays. 

An invitation to:

Prioritize your joy over other people’s expectations

Do things differently

Do less and breathe more

Reconsider what brings you joy

In addition to this invitation, I’m offering you 4 strategies to get what you want out of the holidays. My hope for you is that you get to the end of this month (and the end of 2022) feeling like you created all the joy you wanted for your family and yourself without overgiving, overdoing, over proving yourself in every moment of this season. 

Listen in to get ideas on how to make all the magic without all the hustle this holiday season.

Link mentioned:

Get the SMA Newsletter to learn about our January 2023 events: shamelessmom.com/newsletter

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Vanessa Quigley is a renowned memory expert and mother of seven. In 2014, she co-founded Chatbooks to help families organize and enjoy their family stories. Vanessa's aha moment came when she found her youngest son clutching his most prized possession: a photo album his preschool teacher made for him. 

Once an avid scrapbooker, Vanessa knew there needed to be a better solution for her photos stuck on her phone. Now millions of parents have printed their family memories with the Chatbooks app.

Vanessa was named Ernst and Young’s Entrepreneur of the Year in 2017, authored DIY advice book Real Moms, Real Hacks, and hosts The MomForce Podcast. In 2021, Chatbooks was named the #1 place to work for women in the United States, by Fortune magazine.

And… fun fact: Vanessa is Miss Utah 1994 and a professionally trained opera singer. In her downtime, you can find her in the mountains with her family, seeing the everyday magic.

Listen in to hear Vanessa share:

• Her road to becoming a tech founder as a mom of 7
• How her company Chatbooks was inspired by her experience in motherhood
• How women differ from men in leadership and why it’s so critical for more of us to hold positions in leadership
• How can we make more space for women and moms in tech
• The massive struggle for childcare across our nation
• The importance of flexible work schedules for everyone
• What she wants the future of work to look like for moms
• How she has intentionally created a culture at Chatbooks and the importance of actual integration of values
• Her advice to moms who don’t feel seen/heard in the workplace

Links mentioned:

• Get the SMA Newsletter to learn about our January 2023 events: shamelessmom.com/newsletter
• Check out Chatbooks: Chatbooks.com
• Podcast: The Mom Force Podcast
• Vanessa on IG: @vanessaquigley
• Chatbooks on IG: @chatbooks

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Last Monday, on my 47th birthday, I sat down at my desk and decided it would be a good day to integrate some new software into my business.  

Look, it’s never a good day to integrate new software, but it’s an especially rotten decision on your birthday.  

Shortly after that awful life choice (and 13,000 messages on chat support with said software company), I accidentally deleted 84,628 emails. That is not an exaggerated number I made up. That is the literal amount of emails that I watched disappear from my inbox.  

84,628.  

Most of them were from the last 18 months. Many of them were filled with things like contracts and critical client information. 

Needless to say, I spent a decent chunk of my birthday having VERY BIG feelings. The kind your 3-year-old has when you give them the orange cup instead of the green cup.  

VERY BIG.  

I yelled. I cried. I definitely dropped a few (like, 347) F-bombs.  

I tried to remind myself of what my therapist recently shared with me. Based on research from brain scientist Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor, she told me that feelings are waves that rise and recede all day long. These waves last only 90 seconds. After that, we're simply re-stimulating our internal circuitry. In other words, if we stay stuck in horrible feelings for longer than 90 seconds it’s because we have created our own feedback loop keeping us there. This is great news because it tells us we have the power to move through feelings very quickly if we have the right skills in place.  

This just made me madder, if I’m being honest. I knew that I was gonna need more than 90 freaking seconds. And how dare these doctors and therapists try to put limits on my ability to hold rage!

I had to dig deep into my coaching toolbox to coach myself on my birthday. While I definitely felt the universe was conspiring against me, I was determined to move through my big feelings in order to still find a way to find joy in my day.

In this episode, I talk you through how to use unconventional gratitude practices to get over yourself and get through sticky emotions - whether you deleted 84,628 emails or someone gave you the orange cup instead of the green one. 

Link mentioned:

• Get the SMA Newsletter to learn about our January 2023 events: shamelessmom.com/newsletter

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Mia Hemstad is a mom, speaker, self-care coach, and the founder of No Longer Last, which is a movement that helps women prioritize their health, happiness, and well-being. Mia is an abuse survivor, and she lives with diagnosed PTSD and depression. She shares her healing journey online to fight mental health stigma and to help other people heal too. Mia's work has been featured in major media outlets such as Parents.com and Romper. Mia continues to write and teach from Portugal, where she recently moved with her husband and two kids.

Mia is a past guest of the SMA, as well as a Shameless Mom Con Speaker. She’s well-known and well-loved in our community. I’ve been watching her as she’s ventured across the globe to move her family to a safer country and I’ve been in awe of her entire experience. I asked her if she would be open to coming back on the show to talk us through what motivated their family’s move and what it’s been like as they’ve gotten settled in a new country. I’m so grateful she said yes. 

Listen in to hear Mia share:

• What inspired her family's move to Portugal - specifically around gun violence and lethal racism in her community, as well as across the US
• The role of her mental health on her decision to move
• How living in a safer place has changed her life
• Her shift from being a self-sacrificial mom to giving herself permission to make such a different and bold move
• How to discern resentment vs taking responsibility for your life in hard times 

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Mia: miahemstad.com
• Mia's Free Portugal Visa Guide:.miahemstad.com/d7visa
• Mia’s Podcast: The No Longer Last Journey: anchor.fm/mia-hemstad
• Mia on IG
• Mia on Youtube

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Some of you know I’ve been car hunting for a few months now. It’s the worst time to buy a car. Like, the worst. But it’s been the worst time to buy a car for a couple of years now and will likely still be the worst time to buy a car for a couple more years. And, mama’s 2009 Nissan Murano might not have that many trips to the mountains left in her.  

The time had come….

As I went through this whole car-buying journey, Vinnie saw me searching day in/day out on various online platforms. He had a lot of opinions and requests - most (ok, all) of which I could not honor.  

“No, V, we’re not getting a Tesla. Or a Porsche. Or a Lambo.”

We are not fancy car people. We are very practical car people. Buy something that is a few years old and drive it for 10-12 years. I mean, we could not be more boring car people. 

After months of searching, I found a fantastic Toyota Highlander Hybrid option down in Texas. We had it shipped up here via CarMax (CarMax is not a sponsor of this show, but they definitely should be. I am a huge fan.)

When the car arrived, we all went to see it and test drive it. It was the perfect car for us. We decided to move forward with the purchase. 

My husband sat in on the initial sales process to ask a couple of questions, but then headed home. Vinnie and I stayed at the dealer and completed the process. I didn’t plan for V to watch me buy a car, but I’m so glad he did.  

He saw a woman make a major household decision and purchase. He saw me fill out the paperwork, manage the financing, ask questions, request clarity, negotiate terms, and CLOSE THE DEAL.

Why does this matter?  

It matters that our kids see us as powerful as possible. It matters that they see us manage the money, negotiate the terms, and sign the papers. It matters that they see us ask questions and require answers. It matters that they see us wield as much power as our partners.  

This breaks down gender barriers and models equity in power and decision-making.  

While I did not expect this car-buying experience to be a huge lesson in gender roles, it definitely turned into that. And I’m so grateful.  

Where in your life are you actively breaking down gender stereotypes? Listen in to hear me break down different areas where we all might have some growth in this.

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What do you get when you raise a girl in the Arizona desert with 5 siblings, a strong matriarchal mom, a soft-spoken feminist dad, and an innate desire to LIVE BIG? You get Katie Krimitsos - an ever-curious woman who continues her evolution as a loving being of light - who is having fun being a mom, wife, creator, and friend in this life. Whose softness and wisdom have often come as the result of painful experiences. Whose ego is always trying to get the best of her. Who's deeply in love with a Greek man she's definitely known in another life. Who's lived through 12-step programs, athletics, and half a dozen businesses. Who creates meditations for women as songs to light their souls and wants to save all the animals of the world. She believes life keeps on getting better the older she gets. And so far, she's right. ;)

This is Katie’s third time on the show. I keep inviting her back because she is always a good time and always full of so much insight that moms can immediately put into action in quick & simple ways that have big impact. 

Listen in to hear Katie share:

• How she listened to her own fears and worries as well as the world’s fear and worries in order to create meditations for women during the pandemic
• How listening to her intuition has led her to success over and over again - and how anyone can do this
• Specific steps you can take to develop a stronger sense of self-trust
• How to build your “self-trust wings” in motherhood
• A breakdown of what meditative practices can look like and how to integrate meditative practices that you actually enjoy, while learning to listen inward 
• The power of the pause in meditation and the space it opens up
• The value of guided meditation, especially for those who struggle to sit in silence
• How to use (simple and brief) meditative practices to separate yourself from the noise of the world
• How to lean into self-trust to do things differently and give yourself permission to live an unscripted life

Links mentioned:

• Katie’s Gratitude Giveaway: Leave a review for The Women’s Meditation Network to enter Katie’s Gratitude Giveaway
• Connect with Katie and the Women’s Meditation Network: womensmeditationnetwork.com
• Follow The Women’s Meditation Network on IG
• Follow Katie on IG

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Work-life balance is a social construct. It is an idea and philosophy that is sold to women as something to be desired, something to be attained, and something to aspire to.  

The myth that work-life balance can actually exist is a crappy bill of goods sold to us by the Patriarchy.  

As feminism has evolved over the last few decades, we have been told, “YAY! Women can have it all.” But we have been given no resources and no support. There has been no systemic restructuring (philosophical or logistical) to shift our expected full-time household and parental contributions as we take on other societal roles. 

We have been conditioned that because we can have it all, we should go after it all. And then once we go after it all and fill every millimeter and pore of our metaphorical plates, we should also keep it all balanced in some picture-perfect mathematical ratio - as if our lives are as simple as some sort of formula or squeaky clean quadratic equation.  

We are told if we have better balance, we wouldn’t be so stressed out all the time.  

We are told if we have better balance, we will be better moms and our kids will be more likely to thrive.  

We are told we are lucky to live in an era where we can work full time (if not more) and also parent full time - cramming 48 hours of work into every 24-hour day.  

Because we are told this myth is possible, we are left to feel inadequate, guilty, and resentful when we cannot figure out how to make it work.  

When we are working, we feel guilty that we aren’t parenting. When we are parenting, we feel guilty that we aren’t working.  

When men set aspirational goals around work-life balance and do things like, say, coach their kids' soccer team, we say, “Wow, he’s such an involved father.”  

When is the last time you heard someone say, “Wow, she’s such an involved mom.”

We just are. Involved, engaged, ON… 24/7.  

If you feel like you don’t have a work-life balance, it’s because there is no such thing.  

So, how will you make peace with this crappy bill of goods we have been sold?

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CEO of Sales Maven, Nikki Rausch has the unique ability to transform the misunderstood process of “selling”. With 25+ years of selling experience, entrepreneurs and small business owners now hire Nikki to show them how to sell successfully and authentically. Nikki has written 3 books, all available on Amazon. And she has a podcast called Sales Maven which you can find on your favorite podcast platform.

Nikki and I have been in a few professional circles together over the last few years - podcasting, Seattle women entrepreneurs, online marketers… I’m always so impressed by how she shows up and her deep knowledge around selling in high integrity ways. She came in and did a training on selling with my business coaching clients last year and it was FAB. I asked her if she would be a guest on the SMA, with the caveat that I didn’t want to limit the conversation to selling because I know that’s not relevant to all of you. She suggested we talk about some of her other areas of expertise, like How to Stop Overcommitting. This was obviously a fast & easy HARD YES for me! I loved this conversation and can’t wait for you to listen in.

Listen in to hear Nikki share:

• What are the most common reasons women overcommit
• What is at risk when you overcommit
• 4 questions you suggest people ask themselves before committing
• What you can say to buy yourself time to think about what you’re being asked for instead of giving a quick response that you might regret later
• How to use silence in conversations as a way to build credibility
• How you can get out of commitments with grace and integrity

Links mentioned:

• Free ebook: Closing The Sale: yoursalesmaven.com/shameless
• Connect with Nikki: yoursalesmaven.com/
• Podcast: Sales Maven 
• Nikki on FB 
• Nikki on IG
• Nikki on LinkedIn

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700 EPISODES!!! YAY, US! 

700 times I’ve hit record.  

700 times you’ve shown up to listen. 

UNREAL.  

I wanted to do something fun for you for this 700th episode. So, I decided to take you behind the scenes to answer some of the most common questions I get about the show.

1. Is it all about motherhood, diapers, and temper tantrums?
2. Do you ever run out of content?
3. Do you get sick of recording?
4. Do you ever have difficult guests? (pssst… YES.)
5. How do you show up so consistently? Is it exhausting?
6. What does your recording schedule look like?
7. What’s the future of the show?  

I had so much fun answering these questions, spilling some tea (see #4), and letting you see what it’s like creating this show behind the scenes. Have fun listening in!  

And thank you, THANK YOU for listening in. Whether this is your first episode or your 700th, I appreciate you being here. I do this for YOU. It is a true honor.  

Lastly, if you want more of the SMA, let me know! I’m considering adding some additional episodes in 2023 (woo-hoooo!!) But, I want to know that you actually want more. If you want MORE, please leave a review and let me know what you love and what you want more of over at shamelessmom.com/review. 

Link mentioned:

• Want more episodes of the SMA each week?? Leave me a review and let me know: shamelessmom.com/review

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Britt Frank is a licensed psychotherapist, trauma specialist, and author of The Science of Stuck. She holds a BA from Duke University and an MSW from the University of Kansas, where she later became an award-winning adjunct instructor. Britt is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner and Level 3 training in Internal Family Systems.

I was introduced to Britt via a past SMA guest, Andrea Owen. Andrea suspected Britt and I would hit it off and she was spot on. Britt’s work involves all the mental health stuff I love to geek out on. We dig into a lot around trauma and dysfunction and dysregulation in this conversation. I think you will find Britt’s work to be as fascinating as I did! And you MUST read her book, The Science of Stuck - a brilliant compilation of stories, science, and strategies to help you heal your mind.

Listen in to hear Britt share:

• How her “normal” upbringing made her dismiss her childhood trauma
• How function and dysfunction can coexist in our lives for years, if not decades - and the costs to our lives over time
• How dissociating into academics became her coping mechanism and why dissociation into high achieving is common for trauma survivors
• The necessity of suffering in order to process grief and trauma and get to a place of peace and joy
• Why celebrating tiny wins is a powerful brain hack that positively our nervous system 
• The impact of the global trauma over the last few years, including why our trauma responses might be coming down the road and could show up as PTSD if we aren’t aware of the trauma we have endured
• Why trauma is inevitable and PTSD is preventable
• How to set our children up to process their inevitable trauma
• The #1 thing a parent can do for their children’s mental health

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Britt: Scienceofstuck.com
• Book: The Science of Stuck
• Book: Trauma Proofing Your Kids
• Britt on IG

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Last weekend, we hosted our Fall Retreat for our membership community. The theme of this retreat was Tap Into Your Intuition. One of the activities we did early in the retreat was build-out our Self Trust Resumes. We had members take a look at their past skills & strengths (those that are innate and those they have trained). Members were invited to take a close look at how their education, professional experience, and personal experiences have formed who they are and who they are becoming.  

When we are looking toward goals and dreams, it’s easy to forget all the ways we have already qualified ourselves, making us perfectly poised to go after whatever it is we want right now.  

When I was in London 2 weeks ago training a communications team of a Fortune 10 company, we invited folks to share stories from their past as proof of leadership abilities today. It was absolutely incredible to hear what folks came up with.  Your past qualifies you to own your future.  

When we push pause and create space to look back for a moment, we can find such clear and striking evidence of what we are capable of moving forward. But, when we are in the hustle and bustle of daily life, we quickly forget this. We are so busy getting through the chaos of the day or the season that we can’t see what we’re capable of in the future.  

I want to invite you to push pause. Think of a goal you are working toward right now - whether it feels like a long term dream or an immediate fixation. Now, look back over the course of your life and find a few pieces of evidence that prove you are capable of going after big things, you are good at figuring out new things, and you are brave when embarking on an uncertain journey.  

You have undoubtedly proven these things to yourself repeatedly over the course of your life. Once you start owning them, you will see how incredibly qualified you are to go after whatever it is you want right now. 

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Amber Hawley is a licensed therapist and lifestyle strategist who works with entrepreneurial individuals and couples with the emotional side of business. She is the owner of a therapy practice in Silicon Valley, and the host of The Easily Distracted Entrepreneur and Couples Fix podcasts. She is also a wife, a Shameless Mom of three kids, and a Marvel movie super fan. Amber originally worked in the tech industry but her love for people led her to pursue a career where meaningful relationships are at the center of everything she does. A lot of Amber’s work is centered around neurodiversity, as she brings her experience of having ADHD, as well as parenting children with ADHD to much of what she does.

As soon as Amber and I got started in this conversation, I knew we would need more time. I wanted to make sure to dig into ADHD as it relates to women, as well as ADHD as it relates to kids. Amber was so kind to agree to turn this into a two-part conversation. This is Part 2 of our conversation - all about kids and ADHD. In Part 1 (Episode 696), we talked all about women and ADHD.  

Whether or not you are parenting a child with ADHD, your kid is in school with kids who have ADHD. This conversation can help you as a parent to your own kids, but also as a parent who supports other kids in your community.

Listen in to hear Amber share:

• 3 Types of ADHD in kids and how they manifest differently
• How her 2 children with ADHD exhibit very different symptoms
• The importance of acknowledging ADHD as a dopamine deficiency in the brain
• The connection between anxiety and ADHD
• When to seek a professional assessment for your child’s mental health
• How a diagnosis can be helpful, even a powerful tool, especially if your child has a strong tendency to mask their symptoms
• The layers of making decisions around medicating your child who has ADHD and different kinds of medications that can support children who have ADHD
• How all parents and kids can be supportive of neurodivergent kids in the community
• Some of the superpowers and superstrengths of kids with ADHD

Links Mentioned:

• Connect with Amber: https://amberhawley.com/
• Podcast: The Easily Distracted Entrepreneur
• Amber’s work with couples
• Dr Amen’s ADD 7 Types Quiz
• Amber on FB
• Amber on IG
• Amber on LinkedIn

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Amber Hawley is a licensed therapist and lifestyle strategist who works with entrepreneurial individuals and couples with the emotional side of business. She is the owner of a therapy practice in Silicon Valley, and the host of The Easily Distracted Entrepreneur and Couples Fix podcasts.  She is also a wife, a Shameless Mom of three kids, and a Marvel movie super fan. Amber originally worked in the tech industry but her love for people led her to pursue a career where meaningful relationships are at the center of everything she does.  A lot of Amber’s work is centered around neurodiversity, as she brings her experience of having ADHD, as well as parenting children with ADHD to much of what she does.

As soon as Amber and I got started in this conversation, I knew we would need more time.  I wanted to make sure to dig into ADHD as it relates to women, as well as ADHD as it relates to kids.  Amber was so kind to agree to turn this into a two-part conversation.  In Part 1 (Episode 696), we will talk about women and ADHD.  In Part 2 (Episode 697), we will talk about ADHD as it relates to kids. 

Buckle up, friends.  You are about to jump into the brains of two women with ADHD.  We are loud & proud (and maybe a little chaotic - in the best way!)  and can’t wait to share this convo with you.

Listen in to hear Amber share:

• The multiple types of ADHD, and how women tend to experience ADHD
• What is a hyperfocus hangover and why rest & recovery matters so much
• Women’s symptoms of ADHD that don’t look stereotypical or like what you might expect
• The benefits of getting an ADHD diagnosis
• Strategies to help moms with productivity and focus

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Amber: https://amberhawley.com/
• Podcast: The Easily Distracted Entrepreneur
• Amber’s work with couples: couplesfix.com
• Dr. Amen’s ADD 7 Types Quiz
• Amber on FB
• Amber on IG
• Amber on LinkedIn

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Kat Vellos is a trusted expert on the power of cultivating healthy teams and meaningful friendships in adulthood. Formerly a UX designer at Slack, Pandora, and multiple startups, her work today focuses on helping people design belonging into their lives and workplaces. She is the author of We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships. Her work has been featured in The New York Times, TED Talks, Forbes, Real Simple, Communication Arts, SF Design Week, Lesbians Who Tech, and many more.

The hard truth is that it’s hard to make new friends as an adult. Sometimes it’s even hard keeping the friends we have. Friendship is just not as easy as it was when we had time to play with each other at recess everyday in our school days. But hope is not lost. Friendships are essential for our health and well being and there are some simple things you can do to establish and grow incredible friendships right now!

Listen in to hear Kat share:

• The difference between meeting people and actually making friends
• The 4 reasons it gets harder to make friends as we age
• The specific challenges for moms in making friends
• How our relationships evolve (for better or worse) as our various identities evolve
• The significance of reciprocity in healthy adult friendships
• The important role of curiosity in friendship
• How to maintain strong friendships even when you’re on separate life paths
• Steps to take to invest in a new friendship
• Specific steps we can take to invest in the relationships we want to grow and preserve

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Kat: weshouldgettogether.com
• Get Kat’s Book: We Should Get Together: The Secret to Cultivating Better Friendships
• Kat on IG
• Kat on Twitter

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I had a 4am realization last week. 4am realizations are the best… 

My realization had to do with “the space between”. I realized that so much of my discomfort of the last few years has come from having to live in “the space between”.  

The space where one thing has ended, but the next thing hasn’t started yet. 

The space between realizing something has changed permanently and you cannot go back to what was and what lies ahead is scary.  

The space between who you used to be and who you are becoming. 

The space between what you once thought to be true and uncomfortable new truths.

The space between playing small and playing big. 

The space between standing in your truth and waiting to see who will stand beside you. 

The space between holding your breath and finally speaking up. 

Perhaps some of these spaces between are familiar to you too?

In this episode, I share the agitation and impatience that tends to show up for me when I’m in the space between. Then, I walk you through 5 ways to navigate the space between.  

The space between is uncomfortable, for sure. But it’s a necessary piece (errr, gift?) of growth. If you’re in the space between right now in one (or multiple) areas of your life, you are not alone. I’m in it with you, friend.

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• Leave a review for the SMA: shamelessmom.com/review

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Shonda Moralis, MSW, LCSW is on a mission to help ambitious moms play big without burning out. Author of the award-winning book, Breathe, Mama, Breathe and Don’t Forget to Breathe, she is a Psychotherapist, Life Balance Coach, Therapreneur, and Podcast Host. Shonda serves on the board of Shanthi Project, an education nonprofit providing evidence-based mindfulness services to children and adults. She lives in Pennsylvania with her husband and two kids, loves to play outside, endeavors to practice what she preaches, and is perennially fascinated by what makes people tick.

The timing of this interview was so serendipitous. The day before I interviewed Shonda, my therapist told me I would really benefit from mindfulness meditation. I was skeptical, if not downright doubtful. So, I loved picking Shonda’s brain as we dug into all the ways mindfulness as a practice can shift our brains to help us achieve balance (although not in the sense you might assume), greater productivity, creativity, and overall energy. 

Listen in to hear Shonda share:

• Her experience raising two children 10 years apart in age
• Her parenting philosophy: good enough is great
• How “balance” shifts over the course of motherhood and should be a gentle recalibration over time, not massive sweeping overnight changes
• How to integrate 1-5 minutes of mindfulness to shift your day - and the importance of keeping it short & doable
• The science of mindfulness and how meditation changes the shape, function, and efficiency of your brain
• The difference between mindfulness, meditation, and mindful breaks - and the benefits of each
• How to use breath, becoming, and balance breaks in short (like 1 minute) ways to increase your calm, increase your energy, or restore a mindset of balance to your day

Links mentioned: 

• Connect with Shonda and get her free 5-minute mindfulness meditation: shondamoralis.net
• Shonda’s podcast: Therapeutic Perspective Podcast 
• Shonda on Instagram
• Shonda on Facebook
• Shonda on Linkedin

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When I’m working with private business & leadership coaching clients, one of the things we are always talking about is building traction. When you’re eager to grow and evolve in your leadership (in a business, the workplace, or your community), it’s easy to overlook the significance and impact of small (tiny!) actions over time.  

Tiny action adds up. But you have to be paying attention. Notice how you are showing up to do the little things each and every day that further your growth toward your goals. Be methodical and strategic in taking tiny actions and tracking your traction. This can be done by tracking tiny wins as you tick little things off your To Do List, or writing down small accomplishments and achievements at the end of each day.

When I am in seasons of struggle and I feel like my growth is stunted or things are just not going the way I want, I commit to taking small, simple steps each day to keep going, while also noting the small (sometimes minuscule) wins each day that prove to me that simple action creates momentum (ie: traction!) and that always feels good. 

In this episode, I talk through 5 ways to build traction by taking tiny action. Let’s keep going and growing together! 

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Denisha Seals was raised by her mother, a single parent, who had not had a childhood. She was a teenage mom in an abusive relationship. Unfortunately, the unresolved trauma from her mother’s past was projected onto Denisha from the time she was very young, leaving Denisha with low self-esteem and vulnerability to people who exploited her innocence. 

A high school teacher helped Denisha realize she had a choice: to continue to hurt and to follow in her mother’s footsteps, or to start her own healing journey. She began counseling and realized that her traumatic childhood was not her fault.  

Denisha is now engaged in converting the pain of the past into lessons that can be shared with people in a myriad of creative ways for the greater good. She is a writer and a speaker, impacting the world through her storytelling and powerful messages of hope.

Listen in to hear Denisha share:

• Her documentary, HINT: Historical Intergenerational Nutritional Trauma, about the nutritional genocide of people of color
• How her childhood trauma of incestual sexual assualt inspired her work and her support of her Indigenous culture
• The significance of her Indigenous culture and African culture in her birth experience and how that informs how she shows up in the world today
• How growing up as a Afro Indigenous child who had been neglected and violated in foster care and phases of homelessness impacted her youth
• How she has intentionally shaped relationships and specific boundaries with her parents in order to heal
• Her book, Butterflies In Me, written and designed to support children’s mental health
• How she intentionally made her book inclusive of many children’s marginalized backgrounds and struggles from race to mental health

Links mentioned:

• www.water2spirit.com
• Water2spirit on Instagram
• Water2spirit on LinkedIn LinkedIn
• Facebook: https://m.facebook.com/water2spirit1

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Over the last few weeks, I have had the opportunity to speak to multiple groups on mindset. In researching and prepping for these conversations, I dug into some hard truths around our current culture. Namely, the fact that we are all enduring Collective Trauma - and no one is talking about it.  

An article in Psychology Today (linked in this episode’s show notes) teaches that “Collective trauma is a response that can follow a variety of traumatic experiences. Situations that may elicit a collective trauma response may include but are not limited to: wars, natural disasters, mass shootings, terrorism, pandemics, systematic and historical oppression, recessions, and famine or severe poverty.”

It goes on to say collective trauma “can change the entire fabric of a community… In fact, collective trauma can impact relationships, alter policies and governmental processes, alter the way the society functions, and even change its social norms.” 

Once we acknowledge that we are experiencing this, we can see how our mindsets have shifted to match this arduous cultural moment in history. In fact, it stands to reason that we have quite possibly (and very understandably) shifted our default mindset to a fixed mindset framework, instead of a growth mindset framework. As a refresh, fixed mindset vs growth mindset is the work of the great Carol Dweck. Author of the book Mindset - which every human should read! 

In this episode, I explore why you might be defaulting to fixed mindset, how it’s limiting you, and how to shift out of it in order to see more opportunities, potential & possibility in your life - instead of defaulting to seeing obstacles & roadblocks. This isn’t to say the obstacles aren’t real. Things are hard. But let’s uncover how to hold space for two truths:

1. Things are hard. 
2. You are resourceful and resilient and can make great things happen in your life. 

Links mentioned:

• Psychology Today article: What is Collective Trauma?
• Book: Mindset by Carol Dweck

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Amy Lang, MA has been a sexual health educator for over 25 years. With her lively, engaging and down-to-earth style she helps parents become comfortable and confident talking to their kids. Amy’s books, online solutions center and podcast, show parents they really can become their kids' go-to birds and bees source. Amy is still married to her first husband and they are getting the hang of parenting their recently launched man-child. She lives in Seattle WA. 

Amy was on the show to talk about how to talk to younger kids about bodies a few years ago. This time she is back to talk about how to talk to your tweens about sex. Given that Vinnie turned 10 just a few days ago, I was in desperate need of this convo. Amy is an incredible educator who makes talking about sex one million times easier and more fun than anyone else I know. 

 Listen in to hear Amy share:

• Why sex talk nearly always falls to the mom as a result of our own conditioning and experiences around sexuality 
• How to get tweens to listen to you when you talk about sex and sexuality
• The importance of knowing how to talk about sex with your kids BEFORE you actually engage in conversation
• The importance of knowing your values around sex/sexuality before you talk to your kids about it
• How to make up or redo a conversation if you feel like you made a misstep
• Why we don’t need to worry about giving our kids too much information on sex and sexuality
• How to talk to our kids about sex in an inclusive way that honors a variety of sexual orientations
• Why must talk to your kids about porn - no matter what you think your kid is or is not seeing on the internet
• How to talk to your kids about porn in a really clear way
• Specific steps to take to monitor, filter and bock web exposure

Links mentioned:

• Amy’s Book: Sex Talks with Tweens
• Amy’s Podcast: Just Say This
• Connect with Amy: birdsandbeesandkids.com
• Amy’s first interview on the SMA: Birds and Bees and Kids
• Amy on IG
• Amy on FB
• Bark Parental Control app: Bark.us

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This one is for all my friends who have spent their lives collecting A+’s and doing all the extra credit.  

I know perfectionism kept me in my own way for a lot of my first 20 years of life. If I couldn't do something to an A+ level, I didn't want to do it at all. In the last 15 or so years, I've learned that the fun, power, and momentum that allow me to have the most impact in the world comes when I am intentionally imperfect. Doing things well, but "good enough" instead of sitting on them until they are absolutely 100% A++ perfect. 

In my mid-twenties, I started giving myself permission to try things I hadn’t done before. This was a huge departure from never trying anything new out of fear of failure and even more fear of looking foolish.  

By my mid-thirties, as I was growing businesses, I learned that trying new things, giving myself the space to be a newbie, and sitting in the discomfort of learning were actually really rewarding.  

Now, in my mid-forties, I am able to have so much FUN doing things I’m not great at. This is how I was able to learn to ski at age 42, get back into triathlons at age 46, try new things in my business, allow myself to be more creative, and laugh at my imperfections #everydamnday, while riding out the massive momentum that comes with staying in imperfect action and never taking myself too seriously.  

In this episode, I talk you through what I’ve learned from getting great at doing things I’m not great at, why we stop ourselves from doing things we’re not great at, and what we gain when we get great at doing things we’re not great at.  

This one is for my fellow perfectionists and recovering perfectionists. I GOT YOU. 

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Peter Mutabazi is an entrepreneur, an international advocate for children, and the founder of Now I Am Known, a corporation that supplies resources that encourage and affirm children. A single father of one white son and foster dad to many, Peter is a former street kid who has worked for World Vision and the International Committee of the Red Cross and has appeared on media outlets such as the BBC and the TODAY show. A passionate and popular speaker, he currently lives in Charlotte, North Carolina.

I am so delighted to welcome Peter back to the show. He recently released his first book, Now I Am Known. When I heard he wrote a book about his experience of not being known and literally not having a name as a child living on the streets of Uganda through his present-day reality of having fostered 27 children, I knew I wanted him to come back for another conversation. 

Listen in to hear Peter share:

• The current makeup of his family includes an adopted son, 3 foster children, and 2 dogs
• How his experience growing up as a street kid in Uganda informed his life and his commitment to helping other children who have traumatic pasts
• How one stranger seeing him through a different lens changed his life entirely and how he has used that experience to see others through a different lens
• How to meet your kids where they are at vs where you want them to be
• His advice to those living in survival mode
• His really important mission with his book, Now I Am Known
• All the ways we belong to each other - as he supports foster kids, bio parents, and asks his community to step up and support him and other foster kids

Links mentioned:

• [Time Sensitive] Become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy
• www.NowIAmKnown.com
• Peter on YouTube
• Peter on Instagram
• Peter on Facebook
• Peter on TikTok

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We are really good at finding reasons to wait. And sometimes waiting is warranted. But often, we wait because we have made up a story that we are not yet ready, worthy, capable, or qualified. Often that story is a bold-faced lie.  

When we wait to go after what we want, take action, or accomplish something that makes us proud, we waste our precious mental and emotional resources, our energy, and our TIME.  

While we are waiting, we often compromise our values, stall our growth, and stay STUCK in a headspace that lends itself to self-doubt and negative self-talk. 

I’m not a leap person. I don’t make big bold moves. But I am an action taker. I take small action steps to test the waters and collect data. Those small steps and pieces of data determine my next steps and move me toward what I want so I’m not stuck in the emotional and mental purgatory of waiting to accomplish something. 

In this episode, I’m going to dig into what is wasted while you’re waiting. You’re costing yourself more than you know. You are ready. You are capable. You are qualified. Now. 

Link mentioned: 

• For a limited time, become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy

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Fareedah Shaheed is the CEO and Founder of Sekuva SehKOOvuh, where she helps parents and caretakers protect their kids online. She has taught thousands of people online security & safety, has hosted lunch and learns, and has delivered keynotes on the subject. She is a Forbes 30 Under 30 honoree and is currently serving on the Forbes board for the Under 30 community.

Fareedah was named Cybersecurity Personality of the Year 2020. And her work has been featured in Cisco, NASA, FOX 25, FOX 46, FOX Carolina, NBC Washington, The Grio, Yahoo!, AfroTech, The Every Mom, StartPage, TripWire, Infosecurity Magazine, and most recently on the NASDAQ. Fareedah is on fire when it comes to spreading her message. I connected with Fareedah via LinkedIn and as I got to know more about her work and her personal story, I knew she would be a fantastic guest. She did not disappoint! 

Listen in to hear Fareedah share:

• Her experience growing up as a third culture kid
• How her identity as a Black Muslim gamer raised in Saudi Arabi inspired her work in cybersecurity
• How her relationship with her mom especially informed her experience around her own cybersecurity
• The significance of her mom embracing imperfection in order to create a more safe, secure and soulful mother/daughter relationship
• What holistic online safety is and why it’s so much more important than blanket rules that might serve only as bandaids 
• The importance of connection over control and a strong parent/child bond in online safety
• Why she champions parental therapy and therapeutic practices in order for parents to have a connection to self as a foundation to protect your child from the online world
• First 3 steps to take toward cybersecurity for your child

Links mentioned:

• From September 14th-20th only, become a member of The Shameless Mom Academy: shamelessmom.com/academy
• Connect with Fareedah: Cyberfareedah.com
• Join Fareedah’s Safe Kid Movement: safekidsmovement.com
• Fareedah on all social media: @CyberFareedah 
• Fareedah’s podcast: The Accidental Arab

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Last weekend I did my first triathlon in 18 years. It was an incredible experience - which I almost put it off until next summer. I’m so glad I didn’t wait. I shifted a 12-month goal to a 2-month goal and it paid off - big time.  

Whether you’re working toward a new goal or returning to a goal from the past, I want to invite you to take a look at how you’re approaching your goal. Your perspective and approach will deeply impact your experience and your outcomes.  

When I did triathlons 18-22 years ago, it was so much work and so much stress. A lot of the training felt like a grind. It was all very intense.  

You would think, at age 46 and being out of the game for so long, I would have felt that intensity and stress return as I took up training again. I did not.  

I was really intentional about how I approached this goal. My approach allowed me to enjoy every moment of training and every second of race day.  

In this episode, I talk you through 5 Important Lessons On Trying Something New in hopes that you can cut your deadlines on your goals in half in order to get to the finish lines faster - and with a ton more ease and joy! 

Link mentioned:

• Join my free workshop: How to Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm

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Beth Syverson is a mom of an 18-year-old son, Joey, who has been struggling with addiction and mental health issues for several years. She struggles with addiction as well, though not with the same substances as her son. This experience has given her empathy for her son's struggles. She has learned to maintain firm boundaries while still nurturing a positive relationship with Joey. She is walking beside Joey as he struggles with his recovery, while she works on her own personal growth and healing. Joey and Beth started Safe Home Podcast in August 2021 in order to help other families avoid the pain they've endured. They are committed to destigmatizing addiction and mental health, and they want to help as many families as possible by sharing their stories.

This is such an incredibly important topic and conversation. I’m so grateful to Beth for sharing courageously and vulnerably. It’s also important that you know, Joey gave consent, even encouragement, for his mom to have this conversation and share parts of his journey with this audience of Shameless Moms. 

Listen in to hear Beth share:

• The impact of her son’s in utero trauma and the first 7 months of his life in Japan
• How Joey’s experimentation with vaping and nicotine led to life-threatening, full-fledged addiction
• What to look for if suspect your child might be using - and the signs Beth missed when Joey was first using
• How Joey’s first suicide attempt opened her eyes to his struggle with addiction
• How to use curiosity as a tool in talking about substance use/abuse with your child in order to open up conversations instead of shutting down conversations
• How she uses the CRAFT method: a special communication method to prioritize a relationship with someone who is on an addiction journey 
• The importance of removing shame from addiction
• The boundaries she keeps in place while prioritizing their relationship
• How she and Joey co-created a podcast, Safe Home Podcast, and why the show is so important to all parents of tweens and teens
• Her #1 piece of advice for parents of struggling teens

Links mentioned:

• Join my free workshop: How to Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm
• Connect with Beth and find her events: safehomefamilies.com
• Listen to the Safe Home Podcast: anchor.fm/safe-home-podcast
• Safe Home Podcast on FB
• Safe Home Podcast on IG
• Safe Home Podcast on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCYoW-LxFFes2EX71ENcFVCQ

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When we get overwhelmed or frustrated or feel the universe is working against us, we tend to drop our heads, metaphorically and literally. We stop seeing the good around us. We stop seeing potential. We stop seeing opportunity. We look down and miss the magic that is right in front of us, if not passing us by.  

I’m only able to describe this because I’ve been there. When I feel overwhelmed or rejected or frustrated, it’s easy for me to start to shrink. And in that shrinking, I become fixed on the fact that I cannot fix what is broken and no one else can fix it, either.  

Sometimes my husband will offer solutions and I will excitedly point out how they are all awful - because EVERYTHING IS WRONG AND BROKEN right now.  

But when I step back for a moment - typically a few hours and a good workout - I can start to see how he may be right. There might just be a few options that could work just fine, even if they are not the exact options I initially had in mind.

This happened recently when we learned we would need to get a new car - that we were not planning for in 2022. I had a meltdown because there were just NO GOOD OPTIONS. To be fair, this is a really sucky time to buy a car, but… BUT… there are still options. As he laid out some options for us, I shut down. None of his options were my top picks for options. I went to bed quiet and grumpy. The next morning, I was able to see where he had some good points. There are options and a decent number of them are, well, decent.  

If you’re a Type A person like me, you might be quick to look down, lock up, and to lock out possibilities when you feel like things are not working out for you. In this episode, I’m going to invite you to LOOK UP.  

When we look up, everything shifts. There are options and alternatives galore - and often they are even better than what we originally thought we wanted.  

Link mentioned:

• Join my free workshop: How to Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm

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Sue Holt is the founder of Mommy's Life Coach. Sue coaches moms who yell at their kids. She helps them to stop feeling guilty and enjoy being a mom. As a stay-at-home mom for the past 16 years to four children, Sue remembers sitting at the bottom of her steps with her head in her hands crying, not because she yelled so loud that her throat hurt from screaming at her daughter for spilling salad dressing on her new boots that Mom bought her, but because she felt guilty and ashamed. Sue created Mommy's Life Coach as a space to integrate, validate, acknowledge, encourage, and celebrate moms. Sue lives in Philadelphia with her hubby, four kids, and Irish Setter, Oscar. When Sue is not watching her 3 boys play ice hockey, lacrosse, baseball, track, football, or her daughter dance, sing, act, or play field hockey, she enjoys taking dance classes, working out, and relaxing on the beach.

Listen in to hear Sue share:

• Why moms yell at their kids 
• How moms high expectations of themselves get in their own ways and contribute to mom rage and emotional dysregulation
• How anger is often a mask for sadness, grief, and fear
• The definition of mom rage and what it looks & feels like 
• How mom rage comes from an inner influencer and outer influencer
• Why mom rage is shrouded in secrecy
• 5 Steps you can take to manage your mom rage
• The correlation between identity loss in motherhood and mom rage

Links mentioned:

• Join my upcoming free workshop, How to Calm Your Chaos and Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm
• Connect with Sue: mommyslifecoach.com/
• Sue’s Podcast: The OutRAGEous Mommy Podcast
• Sue on Instagram @mommyslifecoach 
• Sue on FB: The OutRAGEous Moms Facebook Group

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A couple of months ago, we did our annual Shameless Summer Survey to find out what you all needed - where you were struggling most and what you were craving. Over and over again you said you were overwhelmed, exhausted, and stuck. You said you were tired of the constant chaos. You said you were craving calm.  

I hear you.  

It is common to feel all of this at any stage of motherhood, but when you layer in what mothers have endured over the past 2.5 years, it’s especially understandable that you would be feeling these feelings in the most overwhelming way.  

We have been through a lot - A LOT - in the last few years and we are now expected to move on as if it’s all over and it’s all fine.  

We are not fine.  

And that is ok. 

In this episode, I dig into why you're feeling the way you’re feeling and how to start to gently climbing your way out of the chaos and back to some at least intermittent calm in your daily life. I mean, I can’t make your kids leave you alone permanently, but I can give you some great tips on how to process and release some of your chaos & crap in order to create a sense of calm on a regular basis. 

Link mentioned:

• Join my upcoming free workshop, How to Calm Your Chaos and Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm

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• Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/
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Trudi Lebrón is the author of The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity-Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, & Leadership. Trudi is also the CEO of ScriptFlip! LLC and creator of the Institute for Equity Centered Coaching, a coaching and consulting firm, that helps entrepreneurs build antiracist businesses and become equity-centered coaches and leaders through their certification programs, consulting packages, and executive coaching. By the time Trudi was 16, she had two children and had dropped out of high school—all the odds were against her. Trudi holds a BA in Theater, a Master of Science in Psychology, and is currently ABD in her Ph.D. program in Social Psychology.

After recently reading Trudi’s book, I immediately asked her to come back on the show to talk about the role we all play in building and supporting communities, businesses, and organizations. Trudi always helps me see things in significant new ways while guiding me to become a better, more thoughtful, and inclusive citizen.  

Listen in to hear Trudi share:

• Why it’s important to be informed on anti-racist business practices whether you own a business, work for a business or purchase things from businesses
• What is “White People Shit” and what white people need to know about White People Shit
• How white culture is about being right and how that is problematic for all people
• How hustle culture and creating a sense of urgency is a product of White Supremacy
• Where practices around overworking come from 
• The responsibility each one of us holds in building anti-racist organizations - from our workplaces to our churches to our community centers and kids' sports leagues
• What Community Agreements are and why they are so important anytime we gather people 
• The problem with white women’s rage - and how this is traumatizing for Black women 

Links mentioned:

• Join my free workshop, How To Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm
• Connect with Trudi: trudilebron.com
• Book: The Antiracist Business Book: An Equity-Centered Approach to Work, Wealth, & Leadership 
• Podcast: Business Remixed 
• Trudi on Instagram

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• Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/
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Brutal truth: I’ve experienced more professional rejection in 2022 than any other year in my 19 years of business.  

I’m talking about this because no one talks about this side of growth, professional or otherwise. But, it is a very real and common experience when you decide to stretch yourself in new ways. 

Rejection is often the result of an audacious act, a brave reach, or a leap into uncharted territory. Rejection comes on the backside of courage, determination, and vulnerability.

It’s easy to feel beaten down, if not completely swallowed, by rejection. It’s easy to overlook the fact that you stepped up to the plate in a bold way to say, “I’m here. I’m ready. I can do this.”  

In the face of rejection, we typically say, “I’m not worthy”, instead of, “I was qualified for that and not getting it is not a reflection of my talent or worth.” Or, “I’m really proud of myself for trying. Now I feel ready and even more prepared to go for something else big like this.”

I pitched myself for something I really wanted this fall. I was rejected. At first I was mad, even hurt. A few days after getting that NO, another opportunity - a better one - came up for the same time. I realized that NO was a gift and made space for me to pitch the same thing to an even better organization.  

It’s time we talk about rejection as a necessary part of growth instead of a quiet pool (ocean?) of shame. 

In this episode, I’ll walk you through how I’ve been managing rejection as I uplevel and how you can do the same.  

Link mentioned:

• Join my free workshop: How To Calm Your Chaos & Let Go of Your Crap: shamelessmom.com/calm

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Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers host the popular podcast Pantsuit Politics, which was named one of 2021’s best shows by Apple Podcasts and has been featured in The New York Times, The Atlantic, Good Morning America 3, The Guardian, Elle Magazine, and Parents Magazine. They are also the authors of “I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversation” and “Now What?: How to Move Forward When We're Divided About Basically Everything”. 

Sarah and Beth met in college before going their separate ways for law school. Sarah pursued a career in politics as a congressional staffer and campaign aide and Beth practiced law before serving as a human resources executive. Sarah lives in Paducah, KY, with her spouse, Nicholas, and children Griffin, Amos, and Felix. Beth lives in Union, KY, with her spouse, Chad, and children Jane and Ellen. Sarah’s dog, Cookie, and Beth’s dog, Lucy, are beloved (and involuntary) contributors to their work.

When I heard Sarah and Beth had a new book out, I immediately asked them to come on the show. The way they navigate and guide hard conversations in incredibly divisive times is so important and powerful. I always learn so much from them. 

Listen in to hear Sarah and Beth share:

• The difference between being a citizen vs being a consumer
• How to talk to your kids about hard things
• How to talk differently to boys vs girls about power & authority
• The significance of moms owning their power, especially economic power, as a voting block
• How society has carved moms into smaller blocks - on purpose - and how we need to sew ourselves together to hold more power
• How moms can more effectively use your voice and your vote

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Sarah and Beth and listen to Pantsuit Politics: https://www.pantsuitpoliticsshow.com/
• Book: I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening): A Guide to Grace-Filled Political Conversation
• Book: Now What?: How to Move Forward When We're Divided About Basically Everything
• Pantsuit Politics on Instagram
• Pantsuit Politics on Twitter
• Pantsuit Politics on Facebook

Sponsor info and promo codes:

• Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/
• Interested in becoming a sponsor of the Shameless Mom Academy? Email our sales team at sales@adalystmedia.com

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I know it’s not officially fall yet, but hear me out.... Fall is coming - fast. And I want you to be prepared.  

As you straddle this end of summer/back to school/almost fall season, I want you to consider what you want for yourself, for your kids and out of motherhood. I always joke that September is January for moms. It’s when we start fresh, try new routines, recommit to things that serve us, dump the junk that doesn’t. It’s basically our New Year. Cheers to a New Year, friend. 

As I was thinking through what I want for myself this fall, I was trying to get clear on what I want to say YES to and what I want to say NO to. I love defining these things for myself with each new season - recognizing that in each new season I have grown a bit, as has my child. We each need different things than the season before. I always want to honor that in how I show up for myself and how I show up in motherhood. 

In this episode, I walk you through 3 things to say YES to as you walk into fall. My hope is that these 3 things will bring you clarity, ease and JOY! 

I’m inviting you to say YES to a reorg of your needs, habits and routines, as well as those of your kids. 

I’m inviting you to challenge yourself, your voice and your skills.

I’m inviting you to say YES to joy, celebration and fun. 

I am inviting you to seriously consider your YESes and NOs as we broach this new season. Don’t let the wrong YESes fall out of your mouth so you don’t have space for the actual YESes you desire, my friend. 

Link mentioned:

• Get on the waitlist to join The Academy: shamelessmom.com/waitlist

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Dr. Lynyetta Willis is a psychologist, family empowerment coach, speaker, and award-winning author who helps frustrated families break free from Stable Misery™ and unhelpful parenting and partnership patterns, so they can create more harmony at home.

Over 20 years of journeying with countless clients led her to design the research-supported Elemental Living® Model and her P.A.T.H.S. Relationship Framework. These powerful tools help parents and partners improve communication, minimize overreactions, and transform intergenerational trauma. Her programs have supported parents across the globe - in South Africa, Israel, New Zealand, and Australia.

Dr. Willis’s multi-award-winning book, My Forgotten Self: A Story about a Girl, a Powerful Encounter, and a Universal Message, received high acclaim from individuals such as Dr. Shefali Tsabary, author of The Conscious Parent and “Oprah’s Parenting Expert”. Dr. Willis lives in Georgia with her husband and their two children.

Listen in to hear Lynyetta share:

• How she was raised within the framework of the 4 horsemen: Pain, Blame, Shame and Avoidance
• How she learned to navigate and negotiate the symptoms of her intergenerational dramas and traumas in order to heal
• The difference between healing your mind through learning vs healing your body by working through trauma
• What intergenerational dramas are and how they impact our lives across generations
• The difference between stressors and triggers in parenting and how to handle them differently
• Her 5 part PATHS framework to parenting in a more productive way
• What Stable Misery is, how we unintentionally spend so much time here, and how to get out of Stable Misery

Links mentioned:

• Free Workshop: Calm My Parenting Triggers
• Quiz: What’s Your Parenting Trigger Score?
• Connect with Dr. Lynetta: drlwillis.com
• Dr. Lynyetta on IG
• Dr. Lynyetta on FB
• Dr. Lynyetta on LI

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• Please find our sponsor information here: shamelessmom.com/sponsor/
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I sat down to write notes before recording this episode at least 14 times. 

Each time I could not find a starting point. Or an ending point.  

So, I decided to just hit record. With no notes.  

In this episode I share my relationship with my dad with you. For the last 10 years, it was complicated and confusing. It was a relationship that never had closure, but ultimately has peace. 

Since his passing, so many of you have reached out to share your love. Thank you. I appreciate you - so much.  

I have also heard from many of you who have complicated and confusing parent relationships. I recorded this for you. When we have pieces of our lives that are complicated and confusing it helps so much to hear from others who have a similar lived experience. It makes you feel seen and held. It helps you feel less alone and more normal. I SEE YOU. You are not alone.  

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Tanya Sheckley is Founder and President of UP Academy, an elementary lab school that values innovation, empathy, and strength and incorporates a unique neuro-development program for children with physical disabilities. Tanya’s vision and mission show it’s possible to celebrate differences, change what’s broken in the American education system and that all children can receive a rigorous, well-rounded education. She is the host of the Rebel Educator podcast, an Edpreneur, an International Speaker, and the author of her new book, Rebel Educator: Create Classrooms of Imagination and Impact.

As soon as I learned about what inspired Tanya to build her own school, I knew I wanted to have her as a guest on the show. She has a powerful and important story about education and how she will forever honor her daughter, Eliza.  

Listen in to hear Tanya share:

• How and why she intentionally build a school around her daughter Eliza’s legacy
• Eliza’s story of living with Cerebral Palsy
• Her journey of building international medical support around Eliza
• How she navigated advocating for Eliza’s needs when Eliza was able to meet grade level expectations but was not expected to 
• What it looks like and feels like and smells like inside UP Academy
• The benefits of mixed age and mixed ability classrooms
• Examples of what accessible learning looks like
• The importance of having children with disabilities and children without disabilities learning alongside one another
• What she wants parents to know about parenting a child with disabilities

Links mentioned:

• Learn more about UP Academy: upacademysf.com
• Resources for Rebel Educators: rebeleducator.com
• Connect with Tanya: Tanyasheckley.com
• Book: Rebel Educator
• Tanya on LinkedIn
• UP Academy on FB
• UP Academy on IG
• Eliza’s story: https://www.upacademysf.com/elizas-story

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I spent three days last week in a Trauma-Informed Practice Intensive for Coaches and Leaders. One of the things we kept coming back to over the course of these three days was making sure we, as coaches, are creating spaces that allow our clients a strong sense of agency.  

As we dug into this from various angles and examined it through the lens of trauma, I got more and more curious and started doing my own research on the side. I know, super nerd alert. I love geeking out on this stuff.  

While I won’t bore you with the super coachy stuff, I do want to share with you the juicy parts - the pieces I know will benefit you right away. 

One of the best parts of my job is providing you with tools to see your own power and your own ability to make choices that serve you. I want you to feel confident in your own sense of self and sense of agency that guides your decision-making and action-taking.

In this episode I dig into:

• What is personal agency
• Why is a sense of agency important
• What are 6 ways to develop your sense of agency

It is my hope that developing your sense of agency will give you clarity and discernment around who you are and who you are becoming. 

Links mentioned:

• Article: https://www.mindful.org/seven-ways-to-develop-personal-agency/
• Trudi Lebron: trudilebron.com

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Asha Frost (she/her) is an Indigenous Medicine Woman and a member of the Chippewas of Nawash First Nation. She is from the Crane Clan, the totem of leadership, and believes in holding space from vision and heart. As an energy healer, homeopath, and mentor, Asha has guided thousands of people through profound and lasting transformation.

Impacted by generational trauma and colonization, Asha has been on a lifelong journey of reclamation. A lupus diagnosis sent her on a path of studying and practicing a multitude of energy Medicine modalities with many guides. She has blended this life experience with her innate gifts and the wisdom of her Ancestors. She loves sharing her Medicine in powerful ways through Ceremonies, teachings, and speaking events. Through this work, she loves seeing people reclaim their roots, find their healing wisdom, and rise into their power.

She is the author of You are The Medicine published by Hay House and has an Oracle Deck coming out next year. She is also a Shameless Mom to her 5 and 10 year old sons.

Listen in to hear Asha share:

• The importance of acknowledging and not bypassing the trauma of the pandemic
• How generational trauma and colonization led to her journey of reclamation 
• How her diagnosis of lupus at age 17 impacted her life
• The costs of her assimilation when she was the only Indigenous child among white kids growing up
• Her sense of responsibility to represent her people and her ancestors, even if imperfectly
• Her vision for her book - to decolonize and storytell
• The difference between Indigenous appropriation and appreciation - and what she wants white women to know about both
• The Indigenous core wound of invisibility
• The gift of connecting to your own lineage and land in order to access your ancestors

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Asha: ashafrost.com 
• Book: You are The Medicine: youarethemedicinebook.com
• Asha on IG
• Asha on FB

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I’m training for my first triathlon in 18 years. It has definitely been a little daunting getting back into tri training. As I’ve been hopping in the water, onto my bike, and into my running shoes, I’ve been giving a lot of thought to the grit, fortitude, and tenacity it takes for us to get to any start lines in our lives.  

When we cross a finish line, there is often a decent amount of fanfare. People show their support, give you all the accolades, and boost your confidence with cheers. But no one congratulates you for getting to the start line.

Getting to any start line typically involves quiet, vulnerable, and methodical decision-making. It takes overcoming self-doubt, shutting down negative self-talk, and deciding, “I am worthy, qualified, and capable to START.”  

It takes a lot of grit, fortitude, and tenacity that no one ever sees and no one ever gives you credit for.  

I would argue that it’s substantially harder to get to a start line than a finish line.  

In this episode, I talk through what it looks like to get yourself to the start line and how to own, honor and embrace what a character-building experience it can be. 

I SEE YOU approaching start lines in your life. I believe in you. I know you can do it. I am proud with you and so excited for you. 

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Christina Roulund is the founder of Size: Happy, a movement focused on helping women on their journey to self-love heal from and rebel against the unattainable standards that society inflicts on them, and instead... embrace their own unique beauty.

After suffering from Breast Implant Illness, Christina went through explant surgery and experienced nearly complete healing from the multitude of symptoms and side effects of having breast implants. She is now recognized as an expert in the Breast Implant Illness Community, helping other women reclaim their health and happiness through education on her blog at SizeHappy.net ...and through her Facebook group, Breast Implant Illness Rejuvenation & Education with Christina.

I was unaware of the prevalence of Breast Implant Illness until I did this interview. Fascinatingly, after doing this interview, I started hearing stories about BII from a number of women. This conversation is for anyone who has implants, knows someone with implants, who has struggled with your relationship with your breasts, or who has been unheard or unseen by the medical community. 

Listen in to hear Christina share: 

• How women develop relationships with their breasts in youth and young adulthood
• What motivated her to get breast implants in her early twenties
• Her experience of enduring Breast Implant Illness 
• Her experience of being dismissed by her doctor for 3 years as she experienced BII symptoms
• The relief she felt in self-diagnosing her BII and going through explant surgery
• The trauma of being unseen and unheard by medical professionals
• Initial steps to take to start to recover and relearn healthier, more joy-filled body talk

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Christina: https://sizehappy.net
• Christina on IG
• Facebook Group: Breast Implant Illness Rejuvenation and Education With Christina 
• YouTube: Size Happy

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You are not powerless.  

I know motherhood, and heck, the state of the world, will try to make you feel differently on any given day.  

It is easy to let outside circumstances dictate how you feel, how you show up, and what you think is possible in any given moment.  

But, what if YOU could dictate how you feel, how you show up, and what you think is possible in any given moment?

Today, I’m sharing with you 10 Ways to Own Your Day in 10 Minutes or Less. These are little tricks I’ve been using for years to help me step back into my power when I feel rocked by circumstances outside myself - anything from my child having a massive meltdown to a tough day in my business to devastating world news.  

Because I’m determined (like, fiercely determined) to show up for myself, my family and for you all, I’ve had to learn how to keep going and find my power in really sticky, if not impossible, moments. Once you know how to harness a few of these tricks, you can shift your energy and your power in mere minutes on any given day.  

Being able to use these 10 Minute Tools will allow you to:

• Listen inward and find guidance from your intuition
• Shut down distractions
• Gain clarity around what you choose to let in and focus on for the day
• Be reminded of what is good in your life, what you are capable of, what you have to look forward to

You are not powerless. You have the opportunity to own #everydamnday.

Link mentioned:

• Grab my free 15 Minute Manifest: shamelessmom.com/15mm

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Kimberly Didrikson is the founder of Learning Motherhood, a consulting agency and online community platform that helps women return to work after having a baby from feeling overwhelmed with motherhood and career to thriving in navigating the changes that occur when becoming a mother and also pursuing a career. Kimberly spent 15 years growing her career at a Fortune 100 company and as a director managed teams with portfolios of over $20 million in yearly sales... yet nothing prepared her for growing and birthing a child and returning to work. Determined to change how mothers are supported through this transition back to work, Kimberly created Learning Motherhood. Her passion runs deep in transforming the workplace to support working parents by also providing programs to assist organizations in creating a work environment that embraces families to strengthen company values. She is a workplace advocate for family-friendly policies including parental leave for all and national paid leave programs.

Listen in to hear Kimberly share:

• How she’s reclaiming her Unicorn Space
• How her career was massively connected to her identity and idea of success prior to having kids
• How motherhood “played tricks” on her identity
• The significance of millions of moms leaving the workforce during the pandemic
• The specific long-term impact on the future of work when we consider moms leaving the workforce in droves
• The significance of men being part of the parental leave conversation - and actually taking parental leave
• Why parental leave should be gender-neutral, not labeled maternity or paternity leave
• Steps you can take to speak up and ask questions about parental leave in your workplace

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Kimberly: Learningmotherhood.co
• Kimberly on IG
• Kimberly on FB
• Learning Motherhood on LinkedIn
• Kimberly on LinkedIn
• Podcast: Motherhood and Career Collide

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Born and raised in Detroit, Penny Decree began her career in construction management working on many of the commercial projects that dot the city’s downtown skyline. After deciding to start a family and giving birth to two boys, Penny wanted to make sure her sons saw themselves and were affirmed early on in the literature they read. She knew championing them and teaching them how to empower themselves at an early age would fortify their foundation as they grew older and faced new challenges as Black males growing up in America. Preparing them early for the societal forces that would work against them was a priority in her parenting strategy.

Penny began reciting morning affirmations with her two sons- who were toddler-aged at the time. Penny then decided to transform their affirmations into a book for them and others. Witnessing the power of affirmations in her own life and their little beginnings is what fueled the journey of writing and sharing her debut book, 'I Am Enough' with others.

Founding Decreed Publishing along with her two sons was the next step to continue the impact on Black youth. Together, they create empowering children’s books and products to help parents ground their children in truth and take control of their destinies.

Listen in to hear Penny share:

• How she started to incorporate affirmations with her very young sons to help with anything from potty training to being young Black boys
• How to use fluid and flexible affirmations with your kids as they grow and evolve
• How she is using affirmations with Black boys so they can own their truth and their worth in a society that puts a target on their back
• The importance of diversity in children's literature for Black kids and white kids
• The reality of “both Americas” for Black people
• The difference in reality between my white son and Penny’s Black sons playing with police cars at a young age
• The dignity afforded white children vs Black children

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Penny and buy her products: DecreedPublishing.com
• Penny on FB
• Penny on IG 

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Amanda Kingsley is a Certified Life Coach and Doula, and the host of the Speaking Light Into Abortion podcast. After her own unanticipated abortion as a mother of three, she recognized the need for a wider conversation around mental health and the complex emotional landscape of life after abortion. She reminds her audience that it’s okay to feel all the feelings after abortion and that we can honor our decisions by living the life we made our choice for. 

Amanda and I set out to have this conversation in November of 2021. But a series of life events kept pushing out our recording date. How serendipitous that we would end up recording this just days after Roe vs Wade was overturned by the Supreme Court. It was hard to have this conversation as we were both still processing what this means for us - as citizens, women, and moms. But this conversation has never been more crucial. I am so grateful to Amanda for showing up and speaking up in the middle of this devastating season. 

Listen in to hear Amanda share:

• The story of her abortion when she was already a mom of 3 
• Myths and truths and things we often don’t consider about abortion
• Some of the privileges she carried during her abortion experience
• Permission to hold joy and pain simultaneously when enduring hard times
• What she learned about abortion that she could only learn by going through it herself
• The expansiveness that came out of her abortion experience
• How she realized that 60-65% of women who have abortions are already moms and the anger that brought her
• Who should be speaking up about abortion right now

Links mentioned:

• Take my Shameless Summer Survey and win $100 gift card: shamelessmom.com/survey
• Connect with Amanda: amandastarkingsley.com
• Amanda on IG
• Amanda’s Book: What I Wish: 100 love notes to help you survive, come alive, and thrive after abortion
• Amanda’s Podcast: Speaking Light into Abortion

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Let your rage be your fuel.  

The rage I have carried over the last 6+ or so years has fueled so much of my work. But rage is not a long-term plan.  

If you want to show up in advocacy, allyship, and activism you need more than rage. Rage will only take you so far. I want your rage to fuel you - it can be the gas that allows you to keep your foot on the pedal. But, I also want you to be able to sustain the long-term fight that is often required to make change. And that will require more than rage.  

In this episode, I walk you through how to let your rage be your fuel while also not letting you get overly caught up in any one moment. The power of pacing yourself in your advocacy, allyship, and activism is what will allow you to stay in the work over the course of the next few decades - and that is what we need from you. 

From the moment Roe vs Wade was decided in 1973, people (white men of privilege, to be exact) have been working to overturn it. They have worked on this diligently for 50 years. 50 years! While I don’t think it will take 50 years to codify abortion rights, I do believe we have a long haul in front of us. This goes for this fight and so many others.  

Advocacy is an ongoing, long-term commitment. In this episode, I talk you through how to stay in this commitment over the long haul as well as how you can take action today. 

We can use our rage for good. We can keep showing up, no matter how long it takes. We can get loud. We can get creative and innovative and scrappy AF. We can and will stay in this as long as is required.  

Link mentioned:

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Amy Shlosberg, Ph.D , is an Associate Professor of Criminology and Department Chair at Fairleigh Dickinson University where she teaches courses on Wrongful Conviction, Offender Reentry and Reintegration, Race and Crime, Penology, Comparative Justice Systems, Data Analysis and Research Methods. Her primary research focuses on miscarriages of justice, the negative implications of incarceration and issues surrounding reentry, with an emphasis on policy and procedural reform. She is also the co-host of two podcasts: Women & Crime and Direct Appeal

Amy and I connect via Instagram (where all the best relationships are born) and I immediately knew I wanted to have her on the show. The work she is doing in our criminal justice system is so important. And it’s so important that all of us US citizens understand the way our system works - and repeatedly fails to work. I learned so much in this conversation and I think you will too.  

Listen in to hear Amy share:

• How she got involved teaching people in prisons and why it lights her up
• The impact of bringing university students into her prison classroom
• What inspired her and her podcast co host to create Women & Crime
• How women can be offenders and victims in our criminal justice system at the same time
• Her thoughts on whether or not our current criminal justice system works
• How the culture of poverty impacts our criminal justice system
• Why people are wrongfully convicted and the role of bias in wrongful convictions
• The problem with our bail system
• Why she has hope for our criminal justice system in spite of its current 

Links mentioned:

• Take my Shameless Summer Survey and win $100 gift card: shamelessmom.com/survey
• Connect with Amy: womenandcrimepodcast.com/
• Podcast: Women and Crime
• Podcast: Direct Appeal 
• Women and Crime on Instagram and Facebook: @womenandcrimepodcast

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Every time I’ve surveyed you all over the last 6 years, you have shared with me that overwhelm is one of your biggest struggles.  

I HEAR YOU.  

It seems no matter the season of life, if you are parenting, you are overwhelmed. Whether it’s the challenge of the constant caregiving logistics, that challenge of the state of the world, the challenge of holding emotional space for your children, or the challenge of trying to find some semblance of your own sense of self in all of this - IT IS A LOT. And it is CONSTANT. 

Today, I’m giving you permission to start dropping some balls. Maybe one. Maybe two. Maybe, like 13???  

In this episode, I walk you through how to determine which balls to drop and how to restructure time so you can keep the most important balls in the air.  

I hope this episode helps you take a close look at what you can let go of in order to make space for more peace, joy and sanity.  

Link mentioned:

• Take my Shameless Summer Survey and win $100 gift card: shamelessmom.com/survey

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Former litigator Shari Leid currently operates An Imperfectly Perfect Life, LLC, a professional mindset coaching business serving clients who are in those tricky middle age years, helping them create the life of their dreams. She is the author of the Friendship Flow transformational book series, which includes The 50/50 Friendship Flow: Life Lessons From and For My Girlfriends and Make Your Mess Your Message - More Life Lessons From and For My Girlfriends.

Shari’s life has been an incredible journey of identity shifting and identity shaping events that have led her to such a beautiful place of honoring who she is and how she wants to show up in the world and share her life with other women.  

Listen in to hear Shari share:

• Her story of being adopted from Seoul Korea in 1970 in the first wave of international adoptions by Japanese American parents who were interned during WWII
• Her parent’s memories of living and working in internment camps
• The impacts of her parent’s internment on her upbringing
• How she ended up growing her family by 2 children in less than one year
• How adopting her daughter brought her full circle in seeing her own adoption journey
• Her massive shift in identity when she left a career as a litigating attorney to become a stay at home mom - and the major struggle to maintain her sense of self
• The impact of her physical sense of self as she had double hip replacement from hip dysplasia and double mastectomy after a breast cancer diagnosis

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Shari: animperfectlyperfectlife.com
• Shari on LinkedIn
• Shari on IG
• Shari on FB
• Shari on YouTube
• Shari on TikTok

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As I’ve worked with moms over the last 19 (!!) years, I’ve noticed how quickly society sells us short. And how often we, in turn, sell ourselves short.  

I want to invite you to cross more finish lines - BUT - not by working more or working harder. I want you to cross more finish lines, reach more goals, and live more of your dreams by simply owning and honoring who you are, where you’ve been and how that journey makes you completely magical, uniquely talented, and tough as nails.  

Motherhood makes you a better leader, advocate, and citizen. Motherhood allows you to hone skills you never knew you’d need and maybe never wanted - master negotiator, thoughtful persuasionist, quick adaptor, highly efficient productivityist, and intentional & considerate champion of others. Motherhood positions you as an expert and an authority on compassion, connection, and unconditional love. 

If you can own and honor these skills, the world opens up for you. But, we aren’t taught to own and honor these skills. Let’s change that.  

In this episode, I’ll talk you through 4 ways you can leverage the gifts of motherhood in ways that can be mutually beneficial for you and for the world. 

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Jessica Sinarski is a highly sought-after therapist, speaker, and change-maker. Extensive post-graduate training and 15+ years as a clinician and educator led her to create the resource and training platform–BraveBrains. She makes brain science practical, helping parents and professionals become healers for hurting children. She is the author of the award-winning Riley the Brave series, Hello, Anger, and more.

This is Jessica’s third time on the show! Anytime she has a new book, I’m dying to get her back on the SMA. Jessica’s ability to help kids and parents understand brain science in order to support emotional management is incredible. I walk away from every conversation with Jessica feeling like I have a ton of new tools to support my child and myself. 

Listen in to hear Jessica share:

• What anger is and why it’s so crucial to talk about it now
• The importance of recognizing anger as a protection mechanism
• Why we need to recognize that anger is not bad
• The vicious cycle of anger and shame 
• How mom overwhelm triggers anger
• The importance of really accessing our anger and working through it vs avoiding it and stuffing it (which ultimately forces it to show up in dysfunctional ways)
• How to explicitly ask for help with your anger or shame
• Why it was important to her to write a book that honors anger, not shut it down

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Jessica: www.bravebrains.com
• Book Jess: info@bravebrains.com
• Shop Books: www.rileythebrave.org/bookstorev2
• Jessica on IG
• Jessica on Twitter
• Jessica on Facebook

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I have spent the last year co-chairing the Parent Association at Vinnie’s school. I have learned so much from this experience. I’ve stretched myself in new ways and humbled myself more than once. I’ve made incredible new friends and led in ways I never saw coming.  

You may recall many occasions in which I encouraged moms to “Get off the PTA! Stop volunteering so much!” So, yes, I feel like a bit of a hypocrite sharing my commitment to our school’s Parent Association. But hear me out… 

While I stand by the fact that moms over give and it’s a big problem, I am so grateful for this opportunity to show up and lead in new ways. I believe it has qualified me to lead in other new ways down the road. This role has allowed me to see myself as capable and qualified to do new things in my community that I never previously considered and that feels like a huge win and huge gift. 

I’m not at all suggesting that you all go out and become Volunteer of the Year at your kids school. But, if you do choose to step into leadership in your community in a similar way, I think my lessons might help you. 

To anyone from Vinnie’s school who might tune into this one, thank you for the opportunity to lead in this way and for affording me constant grace. I feel so fortunate to be a part of this community. It has been an honor to serve in this way. 

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As a speaker, teacher, podcast host and author, Miranda Anderson provides tools and inspiration for women to live a creative, adventurous, and intentional life. Starting out as a lifestyle blogger in 2007, Miranda now offers thousands of weekly listeners of the Live Free Creative podcast something new to think about, feel and DO as they move toward living the life of their dreams. In 2018, she published ‘More Than Enough’ to chronicle her family’s 12-month no-shopping challenge that both shaped their perspective and family culture, and informed some of her most popular content on sustainability and intentionality. Since then, she’s hosted online courses, creative retreats, and in-person workshops in her efforts to help those ‘go-getter at heart’ women who feel stuck by circumstances live a life more aligned with their dreams and values.

Listen in to hear Miranda share:

• Her philosophy on “just going for it”, knowing full well she may fail
• The massive impact of her 12 month no-shopping minimalism challenge, which inspired her book, More Than Enough
• What she learned about herself and how she learned to listen to her intuition by not buying anything new for herself or her family of 5 for 12 months
• How the 12 month challenge evolved and inspired her work today
• How she helps moms adopt a sense of adventure as a mindset
• Using adventure as a mindset and a lens to creativity, curiosity, connection, calm
• The difference between perfectionism and striving in how we manage outcomes
• How moms (especially risk averse or perfectionist moms) can practice being adventurous in low stakes way that can have big impact

Links mentioned:

• Enroll in Momentum Mamas: shamelessmom.com/momentum
• Connect with Miranda: livefreecreative.co
• Join Miranda’s Grown Up Summer Camp July 14th-17th
• Miranda’s Podcast: Live Free Creative
• Miranda on Facebook
• Miranda on Instagram
• Miranda on Twitter
• Miranda on YouTube
• Miranda on Pinterest

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Fear is a beast. Don’t get me wrong, fear can be functional. It can protect us from great harm. But, it can also hold us back from taking action. It can paralyze our heads and our hearts. It can prevent us from dreaming, doing, and becoming.  

There are some very real reasons to carry fear right now. That will continue to be the case. So, how will you learn to navigate fear and all the internal and external noise that accompanies it?

Fear keeps us stuck. 

Fear allows our inner critic to grow louder each and every day. 

Fear keeps us stuck in inaction.  

Right now, we cannot afford to sit in fear. 

When we are feeling fear, everything constricts - our ability to see possibility and potential, our ability to be nimble and adaptive, our ability to see what else is true beyond our fear. 

In this episode, I walk you through the ways that your fear might show up. Then, I share how to see it, listen to it, and continue to move through it - with it at your side instead of in your driver's seat. 

Link mentioned:

• Enroll in Momentum Mamas: shamelessmom.com/momentum

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Piers Kowalski is an average father of two with a not so average story.

Born and raised in Colorado, Piers lived and worked on the west coast for 11 years before moving back to Colorado with his wife. He started building a career in his dream field of performance psychology, his wife went back to school for nursing, and they had two children. They seemed to be living a typical life. But at the age of 36, Piers was seven years, two kids, and two dogs into marriage when he discovered he was transgender. He was afraid he was going to lose everything and everyone he loved.

On a mission to change the world, Piers shares his story of pain, self-discovery, fear, love, and hope to help others better understand the transgender experience, community, and humanity.

We have had parents of trans kids on the show in the past, but Piers is our first trans parent to come on the show. I am so grateful and honored that he said yes. This was a really special and important conversation. I hope you’ll listen and then share it widely.

Listen in to hear Piers share:

• The unexpected process of realizing he was trangender at the age of 36
• The choice he had to make to either live with his family as a women - internalizing destructive pain - or take the risk of transitioning to living in his full male identity and potentially lose everything that meant the most to him
• The social conditioning of shame that creates immense and unnecessary pain for trans people
• His experience coming out to his mom and where she made missteps out of love that ultimately caused harm
• Simple steps cisgender people can support transgender people
• His 4 part advice for parents of a child who identifies as trans/non-binary or who are gender expansive/diverse in their gender identity or expression

Links mentioned:

• Piers’s Personal IG
• Piers’s Professional IG

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How do you get people to do what you want them to do?

How do you help people make decisions that will benefit them?

How do you help people see the potential they have to be leaders, culture shifters, and culture shapers?

How do you move people to action?

This might sound daunting, I know. But here’s the thing… You are already doing this in your parenting. You help your children make decisions. You help your children see their potential. You walk them into opportunities that serve them. You probably also cheer for and champion your partners and friends when they are doing something great.  

How can you take the next step to become someone who inspires others to take action, to step into their gifts to lead, to advocate for themselves and others?  

You can do this. I’m going to give you 4 steps to do it. 4 steps to inspire your children, partner, parents, friends, and co-workers to become better action takers.

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Sonora Jha is the author of the memoir How to Raise a Feminist Son and the novel Foreign. After a career as a journalist covering crime, politics, and culture in India and Singapore, she moved to the United States to earn a Ph.D. in media and public affairs. Sonora’s op-eds, essays, and public appearances have featured in the New York Times, on BBC, and elsewhere. She is a professor of journalism and lives in Seattle.

I recently discovered Sonora and her book, How to Raise a Feminist Son, on Instagram. I got her audiobook and was hooked by the end of her introduction. Sonora is a phenomenal storyteller and truth teller. She is a magical combination of professor, comedian and friend as she digs into her life as a single mom who left India to bring her son to Seattle and raise him as a feminist as she built a family around them. I couldn’t be more excited and delighted to be sharing her with you all today. 

Listen in to hear Sonora share:

• How her 27 year old son is showing up as an activist for women’s rights today
• What inspired her book, HOW TO RAISE A FEMINIST SON
• How raising her son in the dark - at the movies - launched her and her son as a family unit into the world
• How she intentionally built a family around her and her son - that did not include blood relatives
• Why feminists can and should include men in their activism - and how we might need to check our biases and assumptions that men aren’t open to being feminists
• How she redefined motherhood in order to raise a feminist son
• Why it is important for men and boys to be intersectional feminists

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Sonora: sonorajha.com
• Book: How to Raise a Feminist Son by Sonora Jha
• Book: Bad Feminist by Roxane Gay
• Book: Inclusion on Purpose by Ruchika Tulshyan
• Sonora on Twitter
• Sonora on Instagram
• Sonora on Facebook

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Madeline Reeves is the founder & CEO of Fearless Foundry, a creative consultancy that supports ambitious humans in building branding, marketing, and business development strategies that allow them to make a meaningful impact in the world. Madeline is an outspoken force for promoting equity, collaboration, and community in business and she spends her time working with clients, creating content, hosting the Finding Fearless podcast, and leading her growing team. 

I have had the pleasure of interviewing Madeline as well as being interviewed by her and I can tell you she is the real deal.  She walks the walk and lives the values she has posted on her walls and on social media. It’s been awesome getting to know her as we’ve guested on each other’s podcasts! 

Listen in to hear Madeline share:

• Her story of having the rug pulled out from under her in her corporate career
• How to assess the cost of staying in a position that’s not working for you
• The power and significance of negotiating and advocating for yourself even if you don’t get what you want
• How to assess if a company is aligned with your core values and if they are actively LIVING their core values vs just plastering them on a wall
• How having to go back to work 2 weeks postpartum fuels her work around parental leave policies
• How to start building a strategy and plan if you want to make a career change or start your own business

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Madeline: www.fearlessfoundry.com
• Madeline’s podcast: Finding Fearless
• Madeline’s interviewing Sara on Finding Fearless
• Madeline on IG
• Fearless Foundry on IG

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Luvvie Ajayi Jones is a two-time New York Times bestselling author, sought-after speaker, and podcast host who thrives at the intersection of humor, media, and justice. Her critically acclaimed books Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual (2021) and I’m Judging You: The Do-Better Manual (2016) were instant bestsellers and established her as a literary force with a powerful pen. Her newest book Rising Troublemaker: A Manual for Teens is out NOW!

Luvvie is a proud disruptor who has been featured in NPR, Forbes, Inc, Fortune, Chicago Tribune, and more. She has disruptively graced the stages of Google, Facebook, Microsoft, Twitter, and Nike and many more top brands. Her renowned TED talk "Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable" has over 8 million views, has been transcribed into 23 languages, and has placed her in the Top 1% of TED Talks of all time.

Born in Nigeria, bred in Chicago and comfortable everywhere, Luvvie enjoys laying

around in her plush robe, eating a warm bowl of jollof rice in her free time. Her love

language is shoes.

Listen in to hear Luvvie share:

• The importance and urgency of showing up in this very moment in history
• How to be a Troublemaker in ways that are authentic and true to who you are
• Why you must become a Professional Troublemaker yourself in order to raise a Troublemaker
• Why Troublemakers need to ask more questions
• How to circle back on missed chances to speak up
• The 4 types of Troublemaker
• 3 things three things Rising Troublemakers can do every day to own your dopeness
• The domino effect of using your words to have impact

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Luvvie: luvvie.org/
• Book: Rising Troublemaker: A Fear-Fighter Manual for Teens 
• Book: Professional Troublemaker: The Fear-Fighter Manual
• Podcast: Professional Troublemaker
• Luvvie’s Community: LuvvNation
• Luvvie's Blog: https://awesomelyluvvie.com/
• Luvvie on Social Media: @luvvie on all platforms

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For a few years now I have walked you all through building Summer Bucket Lists. I love that a number of you have taken on this tradition with your families. It is such a fun and meaningful tradition.  

When I told Vinnie I was going to record an episode on Summer Bucket Lists, he lit up. “Mom, it’s time to make ours!!” I asked him if he had any advice for all the Shameless Moms who are getting ready to make their Summer Bucket Lists and he told me, “You should put a lot of fun things on your list.”  

So, FUN is the official #1 rule of Summer Bucket Lists. 

In this episode I walk you through why Summer Bucket Lists are so special and meaningful as a family tradition. Then, I share a few (very loose) rules for building your Summer Bucket List. Lastly, I give you 3 steps/categories to use when creating your Summer Bucket Lists:

1. Old Traditions
2. New Adventures
3. Soul Nourishment (This one is just for you, mama. You’re welcome.)

After you listen to this episode, please create your Summer Bucket Lists and share them to inspire other mamas to make theirs. And make sure to tag me @shamelessmomacademy so I can see all the FUN you are planning this summer. (Don’t forget the FUN.)

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Neill Williams is a Master Certified Life and Productivity Coach, host of “The Unbusy Your Life” podcast, and creator of the Unbusy Entrepreneur Mastermind. Only after ditching her own belief that success was measured by the number of hours worked was Neill able to achieve true lifestyle freedom while juggling her roles as a mom, wife, Master Certified Coach, entrepreneur and employee. Now, she helps too busy high-achieving online entrepreneurs simplify their schedules to 30 hours or less for more time and lifestyle freedom.

Listen in to hear Neill share:

How she scaled her corporate job from 60 hours a week to 30 hours a week

Why she set a goal to quit working overtime hours after proudly being the employee with the most overtime hours for a long time

How to negotiate cutting work hours without cutting your salary

The two questions you should ask if you want to work fewer hours

The powerful difference between making a To Do List vs a Done List

How to shift your mindset around productivity and what you can get done in shorter time frames

Why she thinks “productivity” is an outdated concept that needs to be rethought

Why scheduling is a self care tool

How traditional jobs reinforce mom guilt and unnecessary busyness - and how the pandemic massively compounded this

How to catch yourself when you’re worrying about someone’s reactions to you

Links mentioned:

• Connect with Neill: neillwilliams.com
• Neill’s podcast: Unbusy Your Life
• Neill on IG
• Neill on FB

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