Too many people allow their EXTERNAL circumstances to determine their INTERNAL reality.

The way you feel is going to be one of the most important things you will ever tend to in your life, because your feelings influence every area of your life. It’s a powerful, powerful thing. So if you allow anything other than yourself to influence the way you feel…

You’re giving up your power. And that is NOT the vibe.

It’s time to take power back. It’s time that you put YOURSELF in charge of your feelings, the way you move throughout the world, and the beliefs you hold about yourself.

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When you walk into a designer store, you do it differently than you would walk into a Walmart.

You enter with a different price tag in mind. You probably already know what you want—or at least know that you’re there to make a purchase, not browse. You’re not wasting your own time or anyone else’s. 

Because of the way Louis Vuitton conducts itself through marketing, atmosphere, and treatment of their products, it calls you to a higher standard yourself, because the energy is different.

The same principle applies to dating. When you embody your standards and uplevel your frequency, people feel that and respond to it—you don’t even have to say it to them. They just know.

It’s time to dive past the surface level of standard-setting and start embodying the standards we’ve supposedly set for ourselves.

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How often have you immediately blurted out “You too!” when somebody compliments you?

“You have such pretty hair!” “You too!”

“You’re so smart!” “You too!”

“You’re so beautiful.” “You too!”

It’s like we can’t stand to just sit and HOLD attention when it’s given to us…we have to throw it back as fast as we can. Why?

Because we’ve trained ourselves to be uncomfortable holding it.

Because we don’t think of ourselves as “attention-seekers.”

Here’s the thing: attention-seeking is not the same as receiving attention. And until we learn that lesson, we’re never going to be comfortable holding attention from others…and we’re never going to be able to have the supportive relationship we dream about where we are known, loved, and seen for exactly who we are.

Let’s talk about VISIBILITY, VULNERABILITY, ATTENTION, and BEING SEEN…without feeling the need to get everyone’s eyes off of us as fast as possible.

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Last week, we had a chat about what it looks like when your standards are actually conditions, and you’re too wishy-washy about standing firm in the standards you’ve set…

This week, I want to talk about what happens when you’re TOO strict with your standard-setting, and it actually ends up narrowing your dating pool unnecessarily.

I’ve heard a lot of people asking whether their standards are “too high,” and honestly? I don’t believe this is even a thing. Standards aren’t high or low; they just are. They’re something that you’ve decided to set and stand behind…

But sometimes, we set them in places that aren’t actually aligned with what we’re truly seeking in a relationship.

Let’s talk about what happens when you set standards from a place of entitlement or outside pressure rather than what will ACTUALLY make you feel safe and secure in a relationship. Because I’m betting that your ego has started an unconscious game of peek-a-boo within your standards…and it’s actually starting to sabotage your dating life.

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I don’t actually believe in the idea of “lowering” your standards.

I don’t believe that STANDARDS can be lowered. A standard is something that just IS. It is the way things are, no unless, ifs, ands, or buts…

And if you disagree, I’m willing to bet you haven’t been setting standards. I think you’ve been setting conditions.

If your “standards” rely on outside factors and are constantly lowering and raising depending on what you’re experiencing, guess what? That’s not a standard. 

And if you want to actually attract what you SAY you truly want, we need to sit down and get solid about what your standards truly are…

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If you get a bad taste in your mouth when you hear the words “dating apps”...this is the episode for you.

Dating apps are NOT the problem. Odds are, it’s not the apps that need to be ditched…it’s likely your approach that needs some rethinking.

Luckily for you, I have gathered up my top five tips for navigating dating apps in a way that’s going to help you actually ENJOY the process of dating through your favorite dating app, instead of dreading the entire process.

Before you push that DELETE button on the app, hit the PAUSE button instead…then hit PLAY on this episode. I’m going to help you rework your mindset surrounding the dating app dance.

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I have a question for the entrepreneurs in the audience…

How do you react when someone misunderstands your meaning, your intentions, etcetera?

If you get panicky, feel the impulse to COMPLETELY overhaul your approach + personality, or get defensive in the comments of your IG post…you’re not gonna make it as an entrepreneur.

A lot of people in the entrepreneurial space think that if somebody misunderstands them, that's a sign that they need to change how they do things. They think they should never do that thing again, say that thing again, talk about that thing again for fear of someone else getting upset about it.

This. Isn’t. True.

If you can't hold that space between how you see yourself and how others see you, I'm telling you right now, you will crumble. Let’s talk about why.

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There are soooo many lessons that I’ve learned from being in a relationship for just over a year now. 

Firstly: if you think that once you get in a relationship, your triggers all pack up and head out the door…that’s just not it. It is NOT IT, friend.

Secondly: If you want trust at the core of your relationship, you want to consider getting REALLY honest with yourself and your partner.

Thirdly…well, you’ll just have to listen to the episode to find out the rest!

The work doesn’t stop when you get into a relationship…in fact, it’s only just beginning. Let’s go over the five biggest lessons I’ve learned from being in a year-long relationship.

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Let me know if this sounds familiar at all:

“Why am I STILL getting triggered by this? Why am I still responding this way? I DID this work already.”

Mmm…did you, though? Or did you just listen to a podcast episode about it and call it a day?

Inner work takes TIME and PATIENCE…and as uncomfortable as it can get, true elevation requires you to sit and hold yourself when things come up for you…even if it’s something you’d rather pretend isn’t there at all.

It’s time to get curious. It’s time to get patient. And it’s time to set the ego aside, because the truth is, we all have sides of us we’d rather ignore. It’s the people who can sit with those sides of themselves that actually hit that next level.

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Tune in to find out how Self Love Over Codependency (now called Self Trust Alchemy) alum Sara DEEPENED her connection to her intuition, built her confidence, and found self-love Self Trust Alchemy, my 16-week shadow work group program on how to step into your sovereignty as a POWERFUL leader over your life who makes decisions with clarity and DEEP levels of self-trust (formerly known as SLOC), begins THIS Wednesday, Feb 15!

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