Today, Mohna and BJ discuss shoes. The comfortable ones. The ones you wear daily, even when they don't match your attire. You put these shoes on in a heartbeat, whenever you try to be comfortable. The problem is that you may be too comfortable. Which could be the reason why there is little to no growth. The shoes you may be wearing may effect the outfit of your life, and how everything coordinates with each other! Have you ever thought about that?

Questions that are posed in this episode are:

1. Whose shoe are you trying to fill? - Yours or someone you love or look up to?

2. Are your shoes to small? - Is the shoes you are filling a space much too small, that prevents proper position, comfort, and footing?

3. Does the shoes match the Outfit? - How does your comfort effect the outfit of your life? Are you lazy because of your comfort zone? Are you slothful to try on a new shoe and outfit, to change life's appearance?

4. Do you buy shoes you know you cant fit? - Buying things that you intend to grow into. Does that work? Does that backfire?

This is a episode where you have to use your intuitions to figure this life thing out. Maybe life hasn't changed much simply because you are just way too comfortable!!!!

 

Every Episode seems like we are trying our hardest to lift our spirits and fight through another week. So this week's episode of Our2Cents was spent making one declaration. TO SAY NO MORE. And it can be put to use any way you would like to use it....whether you chose to say NO more than you say YES. Or, you say NO MORE when it comes to being used, abused, mistreated, taken advantage of, etc. Its time to reclaim your peace and sanity. That was pretty much the entire conversation.

We talked about how we communicate our not so positive feelings and emotions. Mohna still shows empathy and compassion. BJ has completely thrown both hands up. But overall, a person's no is their no...whether you like it or not!!!

Mohna Lyssaa gave us her "Comfort Zones Is For Suckas" that she affectionately titled WWBJD (What Would BJ Do??)...she also states how comfort doesn't make much of a difference, in her current stage of life. She wants to navigate through discomfort with more determination, bravery, and willingness. BJ has somehow inspired a more productive use of his IDGAF attitude. Selfishly focusing on nothing but his own priority and happiness. Later finding out that your no is a release and a boundary we need to have for ourselves. You can't let any and everything get you down. Lastly, we discuss the power of just saying OK, instead of no. Although OK could represent a multitude of feelings...It could definitely do more harm than good! Tune in to Episode 16 and let us inspire you to say NO more....or say NO MORE!!!!!

Welcome to Episode 15 of the Our2Cents Podcast. Today we discussed quite a few things. From a brief tale of Mohna Lyssaa giving her boyfriend the boot, we somehow ended up talking about support when it comes to men. How much do you give a man, in the event he is down? Is he entitled? How much support do you get for just being a human being? Is there a point to say "fuck it"??? Or even "fuck you"???

BJ goes into Comfort Zones Are For Suckaz, detailing how perspective can greatly affect rejection and disappointments. Something that we all experience. How you view being told no can make or break you. It's a valuable lesson in love and adulthood. A "No" doesn't mean you missed out. It sometimes means that you need to readjust your approach.

Then we discuss our topic...Mary J Blige made the declaration that she will insist that the only men she will be involved with will be men who make more than her. Many women sympathize, and agree, with her sentiments. But none question her judgments in picking that man. There was never a question if she has good taste in men. Did she decide to settle for a man that was convenient or available? Why is it that the man is always at fault when the relationship sours? Could looking for status and salary be the reason you overlook key necessities in a relationship. We break that down. 

We also talk spousal support when it comes to men. Is spousal support cowardly, when it comes to men? We talk sacrifices men make that get no credit. This conversation was pretty good. Lots of perspective and analogies for ways to renew commitment between two people...despite their status. Check out episode 15 and let us know what you think!!!!

Good day to all of you amazing people that are returning to listen to Mohna Lyssaa and BJ talk their shit! Our2Cents is back with a new episode that was very different than any other episode so far. Today we talk about the pimp game. Where did it come from? How did it start? Is it still alive? From doing our "Googles" we got a few pointers....So with this conversation, we delved into our experiences and interpretations. And found out that it's very possible that it's under a different name....called sex trafficking.

Mohna kicks off the show with a vivid tale of her childhood innocence. Chronicling a typical summer day riding her bike to a park with a friend. Being very observant to her surroundings, she notices a suspicious vehicle. Questioning her safety, she decides to leave and head back home. The car proceeded to follow. Could she have been prey? Was this a potential abduction? This led us into our conversation.

BJ talks about his misunderstanding of what pimp actually meant. Believing it to be a glamorized life of wealth and multiple women at your disposal. Never considering the violence, manipulation, and abuse these women suffer at the hands of a pimp. Is the reason why the pimp game has changed due to the fact that men are failing at just being men? because both men and pimps are expected to provide and protect. And lately, both have done neither.

We talk sex work, misconceptions, enterprise, underworld dealings and more in this episode. We introduce a segment called Comfort Zones Are For Suckas. And we discuss how women have changed the game completely...even in the pimp game. Tune in and tell us what you think!!!

 

Welcome Back to Our2Cents Podcast. We are sorry we kept you guys waiting so long on our return. But we are back. Very much still uncertain to what we have to look forward to in 2019 with this show. But very much prepared to approach the journey with optimism, courage, and great content. 

Today's episode is a recap of our 2018. Explaining why things crumbled. Mistakes we made as creatives. The next stage going forward. We are owning our shit from 2018, and using it as inspiration for a better 2019. There is a moment that we are both chasing after. Instead of having so many fucked up moments to recap, we want "Fuck It Up" moments. Where you step into certain spaces and cant believe its you. Leaving people in in disbelief when they think about how far you've come. We want to turn our fucked up moments into "Fuck It Up" moments. We will start the quest for those moments where we are!

Take a listen to our comeback episode. Hope you enjoy it! If not, we are coming back even harder the next episode!!!!

Welcome back to another episode of Our2Cents Podcast. We are here with another episode of great dialogue. This episode is a great dialogue about the mental health needed to withstand an imbalanced partnership...whether friendship, relationship, or marriage. A few days ago, a pastor named John Gray, made a declarative statement that his wife was a covering to him, in time of him dealing with some insecurities/fragility in his manhood. He also stated that his wife endured more pain birthing him, than she did their children. That sent women into an outrage, because he never once considered her humanity, while she assisted in his! Women began to show their disgust for him, and even his wife for her tolerance. But is that because he used her for his own personal gains? Or because she was actually able to reap the reward of sticking with a man she sacrificed for...and you didnt?...or couldn't? We brought someone along to help us break down this dysfunction. We have TaKenyah, a very outspoken podcast trailblazer, who doesn't back down from any type of conversation that challenges your comfort when it comes to privilege and inequality. She brought so much wisdom and personal discovery to the conversation. She talked about her upcoming graduation from college in December. The depression and emotional traumas that suddenly appear at the peak of one of her biggest accomplishments. She also talked about how toxic John's narrative was for both women of color in a relationship; and for women who are single, who are looking forward to love. Advising woman to focus on your self worth, versus determining your worth based on what you do for a man. Mohna gave some profound pointers on how words can be misconstrued by the emotions behind them. How adding special dressings on top of your words can backfire, just like it did for our beloved brother. She places emphasis on compassion, understanding, detail, and communication being focal points for men and women. BJ brings a more spiritual perspective to the conversation, while taking in the conversation of two women with different views on the topic. Asking the questions that men are too uncomfortable to ask. Where is divine order in black love? How do we emotionally gain support as black men, without being degraded? The process of talking out the issues between men and women brought a lot of great pointers to build on in any relationship state. Listen and let us know what you think!

Welcome Back!!! Did you miss us (certainly hope so!!!)??? Mohna and BJ are back from a brief hiatus to talk about a few things. And its good too!!! We start the show by discussing whats been going on, that had us miss a few drop dates. We are making strides to adjust to our circumstances, so that we wont miss release dates going further. But nonetheless, we bring you back up to speed with a very dope conversation.Somehow, from Mohna discussing an encounter with the meat man at Kroger...we flow into a conversation about the male anatomy. Or the lack thereof. Stemming from a twitter post from a very well known podcaster, comes a conversation that is bound to make men uncomfortable. We talk dick size, over compensated confidence, stroke of ego, and countless other man issues we all know and see daily. But the difference is that Our2Cents has a more constructive approach to the criticisms. We offer suggestions that will aid in the struggles men go through with dealing with women criticizing them for the member. We also grabbed a few intelligent women, who took the time to give pointers and opinions on the matter as well. If a little dick is your issue in(sex)life...SO WHAT!!! Use it to the best of your abilities. Just know that the proper attitude and instructions make the difference. We also address the women as well. Because yes....if a little dick man has "I'll Beat Your Shit Up" in his vocabulary...its probably YOUR fault. We discuss our women, and the need for them to be more honest, vocal, and compassionate to our men. That they may understand that some men need to hear truth, constructively of course. We address scenarios that all are familiar with. Even briefly talk sexual health. This was a pretty good conversation for our return back!!!Hope you enjoy the show!!! Press Play!!!!!!

Today's episode is titled "The Future Is Feminine"...and it features @mohna.lyssaa and @penroseeames ... the conversation touches on the current state of feminism, and the direction it will take the world. Now that women have taken reign over entertainment, politics, sports, etc...Women have come forward, and are dominating. And men have become fragile, emotional, desperate, and even envious...simply because the tides are turning. Is it possible that men are uncomfortable with the future taking shape, simply because the women are in the forefront? And refuse to be silenced, and placed in the position that men now stand in....which is the background? Have men now begin to understand what it means to be a female, in a male dominated world? We have a layered conversation that touches several topics. We talk about communication. How men feel like women have an unorthodox way of communicating, that only they understand. Is the possibility of your misunderstanding due to lack of listening? Maybe this is why they are screaming at society to be heard. And the actions are backing the voices. We also talk about women in leadership. How it may be time to accept women running things...like the home...the White House...and many other institutions. Has the man's time come to an end?....and now it's our turn to understand what feminism feels like? This is a multi layered conversation with great friends that will definitely entertain. So the next time you hear the statement "The Future Is Female" understand that that is not a gender specific statement. It simply means that the direction we will follow and inherit going forward will be of a woman. We will walk into the future, guided by the light and wisdom of a woman. And if you men are smart, you will follow suit....or SKIRT!!!!!

Episode 10: The "Cancelled" Culture (feat. Penrose Eames) by Mohna Lyssaa\Dergobj

Today's episode of Change The Subject deals with making certain life choices, in order to improve the quality of living you have. BJ takes an every day occurrence and turns into a very talk worthy conversation. Have you every asked yourself that question...."What Do You Do For A Living??? And when we say "living", we don't mean for money...or as an occupation. We are discussing the steps to living your absolute best life possible... We touch on partnership as well. giving some perspective to why partnership is important. How labeling certain responsibilities man/woman's jobs can be very inconsiderate of the other person. How to be of support of someone, even when you are uncapable of actually handling any parts of the other person's responsibility. Take a listen as we discuss and dissect or living arrangements. Is it time for our lives to be rearranged???