Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on:

• Mismatched Libido 
• Responsive vs spontaneous desire
• Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction
• How gender & orientation factor in
• Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy
• Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck
• How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground

Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine!

Cyndi Darnell Bio

Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program.

Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide.

Episode 190 Links

• Cyndi Darnell Website www.cyndidarnell.com
• Cyndi Darnell Twitter https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell
• Cyndi Darnell TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@cyndi_darnell
• Cyndi Darnell Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage
• Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire https://www.amazon.com/When-Dont-Feel-Like-Rediscovering/dp/1538161702  

• Zipper Magazine Launch 6/8/22 https://zippermagazine.com/
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• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
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