Today we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and we think you will too!

 On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. Listen to Cultivating H.E.R. Space at https://herspacepodcast.com/ 

Enjoy! 

Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status quo. In this convo, she shares how her rocky relationship with a community she once loved transformed into an unexpected journey of healing and growth. And, in true Mollena fashion, the insights she gleaned from this transformative, powerful experience are life lessons we can all benefit from, no matter our chosen community or family. This is part one of our two-episode extended conversation.

Mollena Williams-Haas Bio

Mollena is an NYC-born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned and collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas since 2013, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the composer-and-his-wife-creativity-through-kink.html?_r=0">New York Times.

Active in the Leather community since 1996 and teaching since 1998, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, The Huffington Post, comes-to-harvard.html"> Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. She is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast. She’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton.

Molena is also a leather titleholder– International Ms Leather 2010 and Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009. She’s the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play.” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”. 

A professional stage performer since the age of 5, Mollena’s credits include singing on the soundtrack for The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America’s Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won the “Cinekink’s Best Experimental Film" Award. Mollena’s latest performance piece is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula.

Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/ 

Episode 203 Helpful Links & Resources

• All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/

• Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/ 

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas

• Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave

• Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk

• The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU

• The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK

• The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text 

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• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

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Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss: 

• The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook up the adult industry

• How the far-reaching consequences affect us all

• Who’s behind the Traffickinghub campaign, related anti-trafficking organizations & why 

• What Pornhub did wrong & did right

• The role of adult performers in maintaining checks & balances in the industry

• The ins & outs of data collection & site moderation on Pornhub 

• The recent surprise announcement that Pornhub was acquired by a company called Ethical Capital Partners

Guest Bio – Mike Stabile

Mike Stabile is an activist, journalist, and documentary filmmaker who has written about and advocated for the rights of sex workers and sexual speech for over a decade. His firm, Polari Media, has developed press and media strategies for some of the adult industry's most well-known brands. Mike currently serves as the Director of Public Affairs at Free Speech Coalition, the trade and advocacy group for the adult industry.

Episode 202 Helpful Links & Resources

• Mike Stabile Twitter https://twitter.com/mikestabile 

• Free Speech Coalition https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/ 

• FSC Twitter https://twitter.com/FSCArmy 

• MoneyShot: The Porn Hub Story on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/81406118 

• The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text 

• ResistBot  https://resist.bot/petitions

• Find & Contact your Legislators https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/118/s686/comment 

• Chat GPT https://chat.openai.com/chat 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp

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Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sex lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sex as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues and a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Orgasms are not the great equalizer. Political, cultural, and systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode: 

• How the belief that only men who have money deserve sex impacts BIPOC communities
• The importance of distinguishing between pleasure worthiness & entitlement
• Why sex ed in schools & adult pleasure education are key
• Tips for navigating cultural pressures in relationships while prioritizing pleasure, boundaries & survival
• Why good sex can be an act of revolution & resistance
• How race, capitalism, and sex intersect in complex ways
• What we can do as allies & PoC to shift the culture, subvert systems & more

Guest Bio – Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons

Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She is the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast and How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. She has published over 50 research articles and has been featured in the Huffington Post, the APA Monitor, Good Housekeeping, Women's Health, Blavity, Cosmopolitan, and the labor.html">New York Times.

Episode 201 Helpful Links & Resources

• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Website www.DrCandiceNicole.com 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.candicenicole 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drcandicenicole/ 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Twitter https://twitter.com/drcandicenicole 
• F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast https://m.youtube.com/@dr.candicenicole 
• FTS Podcast on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@fts_podcast 
• How to Love A Human Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-love-a-human/id1198383806 
• Women Of Color Sexual Health Network https://www.wocshn.org/ 
• Sex Positive Families https://www.instagram.com/sexpositive_families
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
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Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities remain steeped in heteronormativity, leading to the fetishization and othering of gender non-conforming and trans people. Some of what we touch on: 

• Why gender bias exists in kink
• The commodification & politicization of GNC & trans kinksters
• Tips for vetting communities & individuals
• The responsibilities of allies & accomplices
• Issues with sissy play & cuckolding
• Commonalities between marginalized groups in BDSM & more  

Guest Bio – Veronika Kestrel

Veronika Kestrel (She/Her) is a Professional Dominatrix and kink lifestyle educator affiliated with the Los Angeles Sanctuary. A 15-year veteran of the kink lifestyle, she began her kink journey in the Denver community and relocated to Southern California in 2018, where she helped facilitate trans-focused events in the Orange County scene. Since then, she has conducted clinics for the LA Sanctuary, CancerPhase Productions, and at numerous private venues. She was a panelist at DomCon 2022, and has appeared on "Your Kinky Friends", "Pink Kink Podcast", and, of course, "American Sex Podcast"! She prides herself in her efforts to make Kink a friendlier, more ethical, and inclusive community in any way she can. She can be often found helping facilitate newbie-focused events in her local community and hosting the Kestrel Industries Monthly Doll Play munch in Anaheim, CA. 

Episode 200 Helpful Links & Resources

• Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero
• Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel
• Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/veronikakestrel/
• Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/VeronikaKestrel
• Veronika Kestrel FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/13001382
• Ep 176 Dollification with Veronika Kestrel https://sunnymegatron.com/dollification-doll-play-kink/ 
• The Dom/sub Virtual Summit on demand VIP Package $99 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit
• 94 Nonbinary BDSM Titles & Honorifics https://zippermagazine.com/non-binary-bdsm-names-dom-sub/
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
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Adult grooming is often misunderstood -- from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why -- most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship - including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context.  

Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spot unhealthy power dynamics in BDSM and deconstruct preconceived notions of what manipulative abuse looks like, who can do it, and why. You'll also learn:

• How the 6 stages of grooming apply to D/s dynamics 
• How to recognize coercive abuse in BDSM relationships
• How pop culture kink stereotypes fuel grooming within BDSM
• The reasons groomers manipulate & who they are
•  How my breakable rules analysis can help you spot unhealthy kink & more

 p.s. Don‘t forget to grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 where I'll be teaching my "No B.S. Approach to Consent & Safe Words." http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021's XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.   

 Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous teaching style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find their power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

 Episode 199 Helpful Links & Resources

• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?

• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron

• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/

• The Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit

• Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/

• What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/

• BDSM Test American Sex Podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/the-bdsm-test/  

• 193 - Safewords episode part 1 https://sunnymegatron.com/safewords-consent-kink-is-customizable/  

• 194 - Safewords episode part 2 https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-nuance-podcast/

• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• How to Tell if Your BDSM Relationship is Abusive https://www.vice.com/en/article/panjbz/how-to-tell-if-your-bdsm-relationship-is-abusive

• The 6 stages of grooming https://www.skillsplatform.org/blog/6-stages-of-grooming-adults-and-teens-spotting-the-red-flags/

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp

• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Here’s the quickie bonus episode link you’re looking for! http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit

Want a recap? Read on … 

The Dom/sub Dynamic Virtual Summit was designed to help you improve your D/s relationship & navigate the BDSM lifestyle. The Summit features 5 jam-packed days of classes from 15+ educators covering topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between.

Get your free ticket to The D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit here: http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit

You also have options! Attend each day during the scheduled stream with the speaker or watch the replay any time you’d like within 24 hours. You also get access to the private virtual group to talk with other attendees plus you'll get a few more free perks too. 

The All-Access-Pass purchase grants attendees lifetime access to the classes/materials plus a bunch of additional free education from the instructors like worksheets, passes to their paid digital classes, etc (I’m surprised at how much stuff is offered, TBH -- and I’m not easily impressed, lol!).  

Thanks & hope to see you there! 

p.s. Keep an eye on my socials for my All-Access-Pass giveaway too! 

And here’s the link to my @SunnyMegatron social media posts about the D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit if you'd like to share or read what others have to say: TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook 

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink. 

We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships.

Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local BDSM community, a global perspective can broaden your understanding of the psychology behind what we all do, no matter where we do it.    

Guest Bio – Midori

“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”

Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”

Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori  where she is working on her next shibari book!

Episode 198 Helpful Links & Resources

• Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
• Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
• Midori Newsletter inc.com/newsletter">https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
• Midori class/event calendar inc.com/classes">http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
• Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/

• What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/
• Dear Gen Z Tradwives: Have You Considered Kink Instead? https://zippermagazine.com/gen-z-tradwives-have-you-considered-kink/
• Caning Fetish & the Surprising Reason Behind Its Popularity https://zippermagazine.com/caning-fetish-popularity-miss-ruby-marks/
• Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Santa Fetish https://zippermagazine.com/what-is-santa-fetish/
• 20 Christmas Roleplay Ideas https://zippermagazine.com/christmas-kink-scene-role-play-ideas/
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/

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Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.”  They bring all the nuance and then some.  We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more.

Guest Bio – Phrygian Monk

Phrygian Monk (They/Them) is a BDSM presenter and educator who is bringing diversity and a new outlook to kink education. With a 5-plus year background engaging in the kink and leather communities, Monk has decided to take the education that they have received, and pass that on to their fellow peers. With classes in subjects such as vetting, negotiation, and various forms of play, Monk hopes to connect with fellow younger kinksters and provide a space for peer learning and education. Also an activist in the kinky world, Monk uses their experiences and knowledge as a black queer individual to share about and fight for a more inclusive and safer community for all people. Having hosted and participated in various talks, discussion groups, and panels on the subject of race, racism, and how they impact the kink community, Monk hopes to see change, growth, and diversity flourish in local communities and individuals as they introspect, grow, and become active participants in fighting for a community that is for everyone.

Episode 197 Helpful Links & Resources

• Phrygian Monk TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@phrygian_monk
• No Nut November https://zippermagazine.com/whats-the-fuss-about-no-nut-november/ 
• Race & Kink Series with Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas https://www.eventbrite.com/e/race-kink-a-discussion-series-tickets-244730093297
• Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856
• Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

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*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY  (and a 40% off everything Black Friday sale!)

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Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on:

• Attachment injury
• Triggers
• Grounding techniques
• Getting into your “resilient zone”
• The EPIC communication model

Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT

Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities.

In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.

Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.

Episode 196 Helpful Links & Resources

• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree
• Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships book https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com

• Ken Melvoin-Berg's Thunderpants Academy Gaming Page 
• https://www.facebook.com/ThunderpantsAcademy
• Ken Melvoin-Berg's Twitter https://twitter.com/ThunderpantsDM 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

Episode 196 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter