Today we’re sharing a preview of a new podcast we’re enjoying and we think you will too!

 On this episode of the Cultivating H.E.R. Space podcast, Dr. Dom and Terri have a deep conversation about the truth of gaslighting, red flags, and manipulation. Maybe you’ve heard these terms recently, but do you really know what they mean? Accessing the language around these pieces of the cycles of abuse can help you create a toolkit that can help you identify them earlier in your relationships. Knowing these terms can also help you identify when you have been the initiator of potentially harmful behavior. Listen to this episode with your journal and a ton of grace and self-compassion. Terri and Dr. Dom clearly lay out the signs so that you can see them early and make decisions from a centered place. Listen to Cultivating H.E.R. Space at https://herspacepodcast.com/ 

Enjoy! 

Mollena Williams-Haas, a.k.a. The Kink Doula, is back to serve up a slice of community healing. As a BDSM Leather community veteran and legend, Mollena understands the challenges of living your truth when it falls outside of the alt-sex status quo. In this convo, she shares how her rocky relationship with a community she once loved transformed into an unexpected journey of healing and growth. And, in true Mollena fashion, the insights she gleaned from this transformative, powerful experience are life lessons we can all benefit from, no matter our chosen community or family. This is part one of our two-episode extended conversation.

Mollena Williams-Haas Bio

Mollena is an NYC-born and raised writer, actress, BDSM Educator, Storyteller, sobriety fiend since March 2007, and Award-Winning Executive Pervert. Owned and collared by renowned contemporary composer Georg Friedrich Haas since 2013, she serves as his beloved slave, submissive, wife, servant, and Muse. February 2016 saw a groundbreaking piece about their relationship featured in the composer-and-his-wife-creativity-through-kink.html?_r=0">New York Times.

Active in the Leather community since 1996 and teaching since 1998, Mollena's viewpoints on Kink-related issues are frequently sought after by sources like The New York Times, The Huffington Post, comes-to-harvard.html"> Newsweek, Essence, Ebony, etc. She is a frequent guest expert on Dan Savage’s “Savage Lovecast,” Tristan Taormino’s “Sex Out Loud”, and Margaret Cho’s “Monsters of Talk” podcast. She’s even spoken about Kink at Harvard, Yale, and Princeton.

Molena is also a leather titleholder– International Ms Leather 2010 and Ms. San Francisco Leather 2009. She’s the co-author of the “Toybag Guide: Taboo Play.” and “Playing Well With Others: Your Guide to Discovering, Exploring and Navigating the Kink, Leather and BDSM Communities”. 

A professional stage performer since the age of 5, Mollena’s credits include singing on the soundtrack for The Wiz and co-starring with Danny Bonaduce in underground cult-classic America’s Deadliest Home Video. Her short film, IMPACT, won the “Cinekink’s Best Experimental Film" Award. Mollena’s latest performance piece is Hyena, a collaboration with her husband. They are also both the subject of the documentary The Artist and The Pervert. Mollena also appeared on Sex with Sunny Megatron on Showtime. Her latest endeavor is The Kink Doula.

Mollena's Full Bio: http://www.mollena.com/about/ 

Episode 203 Helpful Links & Resources

• All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/

• Kink Doula https://kinkdoula.com/ 

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena

• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas

• Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave

• Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk

• The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU

• The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK

• The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text 

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• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

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Mike Stabile, who appeared in Netflix’s Moneyshot: The Pornhub Story joins us to talk about important details that didn’t make it into the documentary. Some of what we discuss: 

• The aftermath of the 2020 New York Times article that shook up the adult industry

• How the far-reaching consequences affect us all

• Who’s behind the Traffickinghub campaign, related anti-trafficking organizations & why 

• What Pornhub did wrong & did right

• The role of adult performers in maintaining checks & balances in the industry

• The ins & outs of data collection & site moderation on Pornhub 

• The recent surprise announcement that Pornhub was acquired by a company called Ethical Capital Partners

Guest Bio – Mike Stabile

Mike Stabile is an activist, journalist, and documentary filmmaker who has written about and advocated for the rights of sex workers and sexual speech for over a decade. His firm, Polari Media, has developed press and media strategies for some of the adult industry's most well-known brands. Mike currently serves as the Director of Public Affairs at Free Speech Coalition, the trade and advocacy group for the adult industry.

Episode 202 Helpful Links & Resources

• Mike Stabile Twitter https://twitter.com/mikestabile 

• Free Speech Coalition https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/ 

• FSC Twitter https://twitter.com/FSCArmy 

• MoneyShot: The Porn Hub Story on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/81406118 

• The Restrict Act Bill S. 686 https://www.congress.gov/bill/118th-congress/senate-bill/686/text 

• ResistBot  https://resist.bot/petitions

• Find & Contact your Legislators https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bills/118/s686/comment 

• Chat GPT https://chat.openai.com/chat 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp

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Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons joins us for a conversation about the ways racial inequity hurts the sex lives of BIPOC folks. Although many view sex as an escape from the stresses of real-world issues and a common experience we all share -- it’s not that simple. Orgasms are not the great equalizer. Political, cultural, and systemic societal forces have everything to do with the ways we experience pleasure. Some of what we unpack in this episode: 

• How the belief that only men who have money deserve sex impacts BIPOC communities
• The importance of distinguishing between pleasure worthiness & entitlement
• Why sex ed in schools & adult pleasure education are key
• Tips for navigating cultural pressures in relationships while prioritizing pleasure, boundaries & survival
• Why good sex can be an act of revolution & resistance
• How race, capitalism, and sex intersect in complex ways
• What we can do as allies & PoC to shift the culture, subvert systems & more

Guest Bio – Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons

Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons is an award-winning associate professor of counseling psychology at the University of Kentucky, where she studies sexual wellness and liberation. She is the host of F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast and How to Love a Human, a liberation podcast that asks people with multiple marginalized identities what the world would be like if it loved them. She has published over 50 research articles and has been featured in the Huffington Post, the APA Monitor, Good Housekeeping, Women's Health, Blavity, Cosmopolitan, and the labor.html">New York Times.

Episode 201 Helpful Links & Resources

• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Website www.DrCandiceNicole.com 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Instagram https://www.instagram.com/dr.candicenicole 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Facebook https://www.facebook.com/drcandicenicole/ 
• Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons Twitter https://twitter.com/drcandicenicole 
• F*ck the System: A Sexual Liberation Podcast https://m.youtube.com/@dr.candicenicole 
• FTS Podcast on TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@fts_podcast 
• How to Love A Human Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-to-love-a-human/id1198383806 
• Women Of Color Sexual Health Network https://www.wocshn.org/ 
• Sex Positive Families https://www.instagram.com/sexpositive_families
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
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Veronika Kestrel joins us for a conversation about creating safe & inclusive kink spaces for everyone across the gender spectrum. Despite the BDSM subculture's roots in the queer community & emphasis on inclusivity, many communities remain steeped in heteronormativity, leading to the fetishization and othering of gender non-conforming and trans people. Some of what we touch on: 

• Why gender bias exists in kink
• The commodification & politicization of GNC & trans kinksters
• Tips for vetting communities & individuals
• The responsibilities of allies & accomplices
• Issues with sissy play & cuckolding
• Commonalities between marginalized groups in BDSM & more  

Guest Bio – Veronika Kestrel

Veronika Kestrel (She/Her) is a Professional Dominatrix and kink lifestyle educator affiliated with the Los Angeles Sanctuary. A 15-year veteran of the kink lifestyle, she began her kink journey in the Denver community and relocated to Southern California in 2018, where she helped facilitate trans-focused events in the Orange County scene. Since then, she has conducted clinics for the LA Sanctuary, CancerPhase Productions, and at numerous private venues. She was a panelist at DomCon 2022, and has appeared on "Your Kinky Friends", "Pink Kink Podcast", and, of course, "American Sex Podcast"! She prides herself in her efforts to make Kink a friendlier, more ethical, and inclusive community in any way she can. She can be often found helping facilitate newbie-focused events in her local community and hosting the Kestrel Industries Monthly Doll Play munch in Anaheim, CA. 

Episode 200 Helpful Links & Resources

• Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero
• Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel
• Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/veronikakestrel/
• Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/VeronikaKestrel
• Veronika Kestrel FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/13001382
• Ep 176 Dollification with Veronika Kestrel https://sunnymegatron.com/dollification-doll-play-kink/ 
• The Dom/sub Virtual Summit on demand VIP Package $99 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit
• 94 Nonbinary BDSM Titles & Honorifics https://zippermagazine.com/non-binary-bdsm-names-dom-sub/
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
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Adult grooming is often misunderstood -- from what it looks like, to who is most vulnerable, what types of people groom, and why -- most assume it can’t happen to them. The fact is, grooming comes in many forms and can happen in any type of relationship - including BDSM dynamics. And because kink often involves power imbalances, it can be especially difficult to recognize in this context.  

Whether you're new to kink or a seasoned veteran, episode 199 of American Sex will give you the tools to spot unhealthy power dynamics in BDSM and deconstruct preconceived notions of what manipulative abuse looks like, who can do it, and why. You'll also learn:

• How the 6 stages of grooming apply to D/s dynamics 
• How to recognize coercive abuse in BDSM relationships
• How pop culture kink stereotypes fuel grooming within BDSM
• The reasons groomers manipulate & who they are
•  How my breakable rules analysis can help you spot unhealthy kink & more

 p.s. Don‘t forget to grab your FREE ticket to the Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 where I'll be teaching my "No B.S. Approach to Consent & Safe Words." http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Sexologist, BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, and media personality. She’s the host & executive producer of the Showtime original series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast, and was 2021's XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. Currently, she’s the Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.   

 Known for her one-of-a-kind, build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous teaching style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find their power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

 Episode 199 Helpful Links & Resources

• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?

• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron

• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/

• The Dom/sub Virtual Summit 2/20-24 http://bit.ly.sunnydssummit

• Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/

• What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/

• BDSM Test American Sex Podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/the-bdsm-test/  

• 193 - Safewords episode part 1 https://sunnymegatron.com/safewords-consent-kink-is-customizable/  

• 194 - Safewords episode part 2 https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-nuance-podcast/

• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

• How to Tell if Your BDSM Relationship is Abusive https://www.vice.com/en/article/panjbz/how-to-tell-if-your-bdsm-relationship-is-abusive

• The 6 stages of grooming https://www.skillsplatform.org/blog/6-stages-of-grooming-adults-and-teens-spotting-the-red-flags/

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron

• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp

• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Here’s the quickie bonus episode link you’re looking for! http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit

Want a recap? Read on … 

The Dom/sub Dynamic Virtual Summit was designed to help you improve your D/s relationship & navigate the BDSM lifestyle. The Summit features 5 jam-packed days of classes from 15+ educators covering topics ranging from confidence in the bedroom to dealing with chronic illness, and everything in between.

Get your free ticket to The D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit here: http://bit.ly/sunnydssummit

You also have options! Attend each day during the scheduled stream with the speaker or watch the replay any time you’d like within 24 hours. You also get access to the private virtual group to talk with other attendees plus you'll get a few more free perks too. 

The All-Access-Pass purchase grants attendees lifetime access to the classes/materials plus a bunch of additional free education from the instructors like worksheets, passes to their paid digital classes, etc (I’m surprised at how much stuff is offered, TBH -- and I’m not easily impressed, lol!).  

Thanks & hope to see you there! 

p.s. Keep an eye on my socials for my All-Access-Pass giveaway too! 

And here’s the link to my @SunnyMegatron social media posts about the D/s Dynamics Virtual Summit if you'd like to share or read what others have to say: TikTok, Instagram, Twitter, Facebook 

Midori joins us to discuss Japanese BDSM & why recognizing fundamental differences in various cultures around the world is the key to understanding the how & why behind kink. 

We talk about differences in consent & safety, how differing social norms & hierarchies influence our collective play styles, and how these insights can enhance our own relationships.

Most of us aren’t great at recognizing our way isn’t the only way. But even if you plan on never venturing outside your local BDSM community, a global perspective can broaden your understanding of the psychology behind what we all do, no matter where we do it.    

Guest Bio – Midori

“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”

Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”

Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori  where she is working on her next shibari book!

Episode 198 Helpful Links & Resources

• Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
• Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
• Midori Newsletter inc.com/newsletter">https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
• Midori class/event calendar inc.com/classes">http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
• Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/

• What's the Difference Between a Tradwife & Domestic Service Submissive? https://zippermagazine.com/tradwife-vs-domestic-service-sub/
• Dear Gen Z Tradwives: Have You Considered Kink Instead? https://zippermagazine.com/gen-z-tradwives-have-you-considered-kink/
• Caning Fetish & the Surprising Reason Behind Its Popularity https://zippermagazine.com/caning-fetish-popularity-miss-ruby-marks/
• Everything You Ever Wanted To Know About Santa Fetish https://zippermagazine.com/what-is-santa-fetish/
• 20 Christmas Roleplay Ideas https://zippermagazine.com/christmas-kink-scene-role-play-ideas/
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/

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Fact: The BDSM world has a race problem. Queer, Black, kink educator, Phrygian Monk joins us to talk about it. This conversation stemmed from one of their no-nuance November observations: “Kinktok is heavily segregated and pretty racist – like 1950s level.”  They bring all the nuance and then some.  We discuss why it’s essential for everyone to consider how different forms of play relate to POC kinksters, why we should take a pause before condemning all forms of race play, why many kinksters of color never feel fully safe playing with white folks, what those in the community can do to foster genuine inclusivity and be actively anti-racist, and more.

Guest Bio – Phrygian Monk

Phrygian Monk (They/Them) is a BDSM presenter and educator who is bringing diversity and a new outlook to kink education. With a 5-plus year background engaging in the kink and leather communities, Monk has decided to take the education that they have received, and pass that on to their fellow peers. With classes in subjects such as vetting, negotiation, and various forms of play, Monk hopes to connect with fellow younger kinksters and provide a space for peer learning and education. Also an activist in the kinky world, Monk uses their experiences and knowledge as a black queer individual to share about and fight for a more inclusive and safer community for all people. Having hosted and participated in various talks, discussion groups, and panels on the subject of race, racism, and how they impact the kink community, Monk hopes to see change, growth, and diversity flourish in local communities and individuals as they introspect, grow, and become active participants in fighting for a community that is for everyone.

Episode 197 Helpful Links & Resources

• Phrygian Monk TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@phrygian_monk
• No Nut November https://zippermagazine.com/whats-the-fuss-about-no-nut-november/ 
• Race & Kink Series with Marla Renee Stewart & Luna Matatas https://www.eventbrite.com/e/race-kink-a-discussion-series-tickets-244730093297
• Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856
• Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

Episode 197 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY  (and a 40% off everything Black Friday sale!)

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–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

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Having difficult conversations with one partner is hard enough. When consensual non-monogamy is part of the equation it can feel overwhelming. In this episode, therapist Kate Loree gives insight and actionable strategies for working through uncomfortable emotions in polyamory/CNM like jealousy, envy, insecurity, and feeling disempowered. She also provides valuable tips on identifying & managing triggers with our partners and metamours. Some of what we touch on:

• Attachment injury
• Triggers
• Grounding techniques
• Getting into your “resilient zone”
• The EPIC communication model

Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT

Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities.

In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE-certified sex educator and an EMDR-certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.

Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.

Episode 196 Helpful Links & Resources

• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree
• Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships book https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com

• Ken Melvoin-Berg's Thunderpants Academy Gaming Page 
• https://www.facebook.com/ThunderpantsAcademy
• Ken Melvoin-Berg's Twitter https://twitter.com/ThunderpantsDM 

• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Zipper Magazine website https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

Episode 196 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15with code SUNNY

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–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Asexuality and kink?! Isn’t that a contradiction?! Nope! Asexual BDSM is quite common. In fact, a significant segment of the kink subculture is on the ‘ace’ spectrum.  On ep 195, Evie Lupine joins to talk about it. A few of the things we discuss:

• Asexuality vs. Responsive Desire & how to tell the difference
• How someone can be asexual but still have & enjoy sex
• Why the kink community appeals to many aces
• What IS sex? Do we have the definition all wrong?
• The relationship between sex & BDSM + why some allosexuals prefer “platonic kink”
• How asexuality factors into the “Kink at Pride” discourse & more

Are there asexual folks in your community or life that you’d like to understand better? Maybe you’ve considered this identity for yourself? Does it blow your mind that many ace identified people practice kink & enjoy sex? We cover a lot in this episode that will help you answer those questions!

Evie Lupine Bio

Evie Lupine is an asexual kink educator and YouTuber that first began her journey into the lifestyle about 7 years ago. In that time, she's been a 24/7 collared submissive, a petplayer, a bondage freak, and an occasional sadist. Her passion for learning as well as her diverse interests within kink naturally led her in the direction of helping others with their own discovery processes. She focuses on supporting folks developing happier, healthier relationships while separating the fantasy from the reality of doing BDSM everyday.

Episode 195 Helpful Links & Resources

• Evie Lupine YouTube https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine
• Evie Lupine Twitter https://twitter.com/EvieLupine
• Evie Lupine Patreon https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine
• AVEN Forum (Asexual Visibility & Education Network) https://www.asexuality.org/en/
• Emily Nagoski Come As You Are (book) https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Come-As-You-Are-Revised-and-Updated/Emily-Nagoski/9781982165314
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• com https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

Episode 195 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 20% off an at-home lab test at http://everlywell.com/sunny
• For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric& http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetbwith code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactoryand the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

In episode 194 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron continues her deep dive into the murky, messy, nuances of kink. She examines some of the most popular kink “rules” pertaining to consent & safewords and the grey areas that cause community friction:

• “Never renegotiate during a scene”
• “When there’s a problem someone will use their safeword”
• “Never do heavy impact without a warm-up”
• “Safewords can be abused”
• “Safewords are for sex and BDSM”

This episode will help you diversify what’s in your consent toolbox, assess risks in intimate situations, evaluate exceptions to BDSM rules, differentiate personal preferences from useful & inclusive best practices, and more.

Sunny Megatron Bio

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of kink-focused Zipper Magazine.   

Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catchphrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

Episode 194 Helpful Links & Resources

• The History of SSC (Safe, Sane & Consensual) vs. RACK (Risk Aware Consensual Kink) https://historyofthedominatrix.com/blogs/blog/the-history-bdsm-consent-ssc-vs-rack
• Putting SSC in perspective TikTok Video https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7147630034147233066
• Why do many consider SSC harmful and outdated? https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron/video/7016472196205956357
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/
• ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy 

Episode 194 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• 20% off an at-home lab test at http://everlywell.com/sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

Safe words aren't as deep & complicated as we make them out to be. They aren’t necessarily as simple as we think either. In kink & sex, safe words are simple communication tools that stop the action & trigger a predetermined protocol. What they mean, how they're used & what you do after is up to you. How do you decide that? Episode 193 of American Sex Podcast will help you figure it out. 

This convo was inspired by a listener suggestion to unpack some of the fiercest kink community debates about consent, how BDSM *should* be done, and the customizability of kink. Sunny Megatron explores ways you can evaluate BDSM rules and decide if, when, and how much to customize them to fit your own needs. She does this entirely through the lens of safe words and consent. This is also the first show back from summer hiatus and in the intro, Sunny announces some big changes for the future of both American Sex and their family.

Episode 193 Links

• Everything You Need to Know About Safewords by Sunny Megatron https://zippermagazine.com/everything-you-need-to-know-about-safewords/
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb
• ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy

Episode 193 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• For 40% off unlimited access to Calm’s entire library go to http://CALM.COM/Sunny
• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY at http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• 20% off an at-home lab test at http://everlywell.com/sunny
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 10% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

“The BDSM Test” is infamous in the kink community and beyond. Since 2014, thousands have proudly posted results like a badge of honor on FetLife profiles. We use it as a roadmap, educational tool, and kink negotiation starter. It’s even gone vanilla as the focus of social media challenges and pop magazine writeups.

But is this kink subculture phenomenon all it's cracked up to be? While some find it helpful & validating, many say it’s othering, stigmatizing, and normalizes red-flag behavior disguised as “kink.”

Midori & kinky therapist Joe Zarate-Sanderlin join us on ep 192 to deconstruct the BDSM test question by question + explore its wider impact. Why don't we scrutinize it the same way vet other educational sources? Who wrote this kink test, why, and what are they using the massive amount of data they’re collecting about our deviant desires for? Turns out, it’s a bit of a mystery…

Midori Bio

“Your Fairy God-Auntie of Kink. Exploding Expectations. Challenging Conventions.”

Trailblazing educator, sexologist, artist, and irritant to banality, Midori founded Rope Dojo and ForteFemme: Women’s Dominance Intensive. She penned the first English instruction book on Shibari, “Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage” in 2001, paving the way for the popularity of rope. Dan Savage calls her the “Super Nova of Kink,” while others affectionately call her Auntie Midori for her cool, tell-it-like-it-is, funny, reality-based teaching. She is also the author of “Wild Side Sex,” “Master Han’s Daughter,” and “Silk Threads.”

Education, Coaching, Private Learning & Art: https://planetmidori.com. Special membership perks! Learn, laugh, and enjoy her special online classes, events, and art at www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori  where she is working on her next shibari book!

Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Bio

"Joe Zarate-Sanderlin, an Assigned Male at Birth non-binary person (pronouns: they/them/theirs), came of age in the New York City kink scene in the late 1990s and early 2000s and they have connections in the Boston and San Francisco kink communities. They are a California Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a private practice in San Francisco where they specialize in working with gender, sexuality, and relationship diversity. They teach several courses at Golden Gate University and were recognized as an Outstanding Adjunct Professor for 2022. They provide training and consultation regarding Talking to Clients about Sex, Gender in Psychotherapy, Open Relationships, BDSM Relationships, and other topics. In addition to private practice, their clinical experience includes being supervised by Dossie Easton for two and half years plus volunteering at a Catholic school for three years, a continuation high school for one year, and at a low-fee clinic for four years.  They worked for the Burning Man Emergency Services Department for ten years, both in the Nevada desert and in the streets of San Francisco. In their spare time, they ski, coach and referee soccer, brew kombucha, dance to 80s music, and parent elementary-aged old twins."

Episode 192 Links

• Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
• Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
• Midori Newsletter inc.com/newsletter">https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
• Midori class/event calendar inc.com/classes">http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
• Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Twitter https://twitter.com/jzsmft
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Website http://www.jzsmft.com/
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Email: joe@jzsmft.com
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin  GGU Presents: Empathic Communication https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Empathy
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Gender Inclusive Language https://tinyurl.com/GGU-Gender
• Joe Zarate-Sanderlin Rebel Therapist: Express Yourself https://rebeltherapist.me/podcast/93
• The BDSM Test http://BDSMTest.org
• @FocusedOnInfinity “Welcome to America” https://www.tiktok.com/@focusedoninfinity/video/7113012283181190442?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789
• @MargaretCho “Don’t Be Scared” https://www.tiktok.com/@themargaretcho/video/7112909096608730410?is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=6901962179530294789
• TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/
• CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/
• Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program
• Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink- Midori https://zippermagazine.com/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink/

Additional Links

• ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 192 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout

• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

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–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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Kink & BDSM stigma is alive and well in the mainstream, in our own communities, and even in professional/academic spheres. In episode 191 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron busts some of the most common kink myths + provides clinical & academic resources for therapists, academics, and skeptical naysayers. She deconstructs the following kink & BDSM myths:   

• Kink is always sexual and platonic kink does not exist
• Kink is considered abnormal by psychologists & the scientific community
• There's a dramatic difference between academic/clinical understanding of kink (that's always more accurate) and BDSM community education 
• Dark age play aka sexual littles' play is abusive and reenacting pedophilia
• Kink practitioners engage in unhealthy self-harm by proxy and/or glorify abuse
• Kinks are caused by unresolved trauma … and more!

Sunny Megatron Bio

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning BDSM & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts AASECT Award-winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. Sunny was also named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year 2021 and is Editor-in-Chief of Zipper Magazine.   

Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others overcome shame and find power through play and pleasure. Currently, she’s working on her first book, “Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play.”

Episode 191 Links

• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
• ZipperMagazine.com https://zippermagazine.com/
• Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/
• Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B0776PYDNM&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_WFW3MV22QFGNPEMR6T4F
• Sex and Psychology Podcast https://www.sexandpsychology.com/podcasts/
• Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) https://www.sexscience.org/
• TASHRA -THE ALTERNATIVE SEXUALITIES HEALTH RESEARCH ALLIANCE https://www.tashra.org/
• CARAS - The Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities https://www.carasresearch.org/
• AASECT - The American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists https://www.aasect.org/
• Sexual Health Alliance Kink Informed Certification Program for Therapists & Care Professionals https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program
• Why Good Sex Matters Book by Nan Wise, PhD https://www.amazon.com/dp/1328451305/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_x_tPnCFb0FAF4R5
• Hurts So Good: The Science and Culture of Pain on Purpose, Leigh Cowart https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B08RYPSNVB&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_CG15B6Z43TYVFCDDPA3V
• Play: How it Shapes the Brain, Opens the Imagination, and Invigorates the Soul, by Stewart Brown, M.D. & Christopher Vaughan https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B001SCK720&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_VCMYS78KPC9ENVJTX9K7
• The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Sources of Passion and Fulfillment, Jack Morin Ph.D. https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B009YJYEKK&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_FMT1SPK6QAABA7EYYKGX
• Woodhull Sexual Freedom Foundation
• 2018 Research, Littles: Affects and Aesthetics in Sexual Age-Play (“Download” unlocks the free PDF) https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s12119-018-09580-5
• Why You Need BDSM's "Prime Directive" By Mollena Williams-Haas https://zippermagazine.com/why-you-need-bdsms-prime-directive/
• Romancing the Shadow: Challenging Limiting Beliefs Through Kink- Midori https://zippermagazine.com/challenginglimiting-beliefs-through-kink/

Prior Related Episodes

• Therapeutic Kink With Andrea Glik – Ep 189 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Therapeutic-Kink
• Attachment Styles With Aida Manduley – Ep 130 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Attachement-Styles-Aida-Manduley/
• The Science Of Sexual Fantasy With Dr. Justin Lehmiller – Ep 74 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Justin-Lehmiller-Sexual-Fantasy-Podcast/
• Kink Informed Therapists & Care Professionals W/ Midori – Ep 165 https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Kink-Certification-Midori/
• Geek Therapy With Nicki Line – Ep 155 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Geek-Therapy/
• Sex, Kink & Trauma W/ Jamila M. Dawson August Mclaughlin - Ep 173 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Sex-Bdsm-Trauma/
• Decriminalizing BDSM W/NCSF, National Coalition For Sexual Freedom – Ep 185 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Explicit-Prior-Permission-Ncsf-Podcast/
• Rethinking Kink With Kate Loree & Sunny Megatron – Ep 184 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Rethink-Kink-Podcast/
• BDSM Community Real Talk w/ Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree – Ep 188 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Bdsm-Community-Influence/
• Kink Education Freestyle w/ Sunny Megatron – Ep 172 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Bdsm-Education-Sunny-Megatron-Podcast/
• Kink Education Freestyle Part 2 w/Sunny Megatron – Ep 180 Https://Sunnymegatron.Com/Kink-Education-Sunny-Megatron-Podcast/

Additional Links

• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 191 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunnyOR enter code SUNNY at checkout

• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

Many of us go through periods in our lives when we’re not happy with the amount of sex we do or don't want. In Ep 190 of American Sex Podcast, Cyndi Darnell gives tips for changing our relationship to pleasure and navigating intimacy when one partner is perpetually ‘not in the mood.’ Some of the things we touch on:

• Mismatched Libido 
• Responsive vs spontaneous desire
• Arousal vs libido vs desire vs attraction
• How gender & orientation factor in
• Reasons people have desire changes & discrepancy
• Common myths about desire & arousal that keep us stuck
• How to talk to partners & work together to find common ground

Sunny also makes an exciting announcement about the new, kink-focused digital publication, Zipper Magazine!

Cyndi Darnell Bio

Cyndi Darnell (she/her) is a clinical and somatic sexologist and author of Sex When You Don’t Feel Like It The Truth About Mismatched Libido & Rediscovering Desire (Rowman & Littlefield). Originally from Australia, she’s now based in New York City where she runs a global consulting practice to clients worldwide. A psychotherapist by training, Cyndi currently supports individuals, couples and polycules navigating relationships and sexual difficulties, plus professional mentorship and case consultations to clinicians and sexologists worldwide seeking to deepen their understanding of the links between psychotherapy, sexology, relationships work and somatic practice. She's a Clinical Associate of Pink Therapy UK & Board Affiliate for University of Wisconsin STOUT Sex Therapy Certification program.

Her podcast The Erotic Philosopher brings guests of diverse backgrounds together to explore issues affecting modern sex and relationships. Her numerous academic works are published in Journal of Sexual & Relationship Therapy and Journal of Sex Education among others. Her expert opinion is frequently sought by media outlets worldwide.

Episode 190 Links

• Cyndi Darnell Website www.cyndidarnell.com
• Cyndi Darnell Twitter https://twitter.com/cyndi_darnell
• Cyndi Darnell TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@cyndi_darnell
• Cyndi Darnell Facebook https://www.facebook.com/cyndidarnellpage
• Sex When You Don't Feel Like It: The Truth about Mismatched Libido and Rediscovering Desire https://www.amazon.com/When-Dont-Feel-Like-Rediscovering/dp/1538161702  

• Zipper Magazine Launch 6/8/22 https://zippermagazine.com/
• Zipper Magazine Instagram https://www.instagram.com/zippermagdotcom/
• Zipper Magazine Twitter https://twitter.com/ZipperMagDotcom
• Zipper Magazine Facebook https://www.facebook.com/Zipper-Magazine-113123824749292
• Zipper Magazine Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCxFDRtDhukxyQ_9t-Xfo2-w
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 190 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 10% off your first month with BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/asp
• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout
• Bump’n https://getbumpn.com/ Hundreds of millions of people are unable to take pleasure into their own hands due to disability, ageing, arthritis or illness. Bump’n is on a mission to change this with the Bump’n Joystick - the world’s first accessible sex toy! Help spread self-love and fund an orgasm today
• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

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• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

Kink isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it can be therapeutic. On Ep 189 Andrea Glik, LMSW explains the impact of trauma on our nervous system, depression as a survival response, the stress response cycle, the difference between glimmers and triggers, how BDSM can be used to heal trauma for both doms and subs, how she integrates clients BDSM experiences into therapy, plus how healing can manifest through CNC, little space, subspace, aftercare, and more. Even if you're not a kinkster, this episode will help you discover how trauma & shame affect your s3xual identity. Also a must-listen for mental health providers and those struggling to get their therapists to understand the importance of kink in their lives.     

Andrea Glik Bio

Andrea Glik, LMSW is a psychotherapist, somatic healer, and sex educator. Andrea specializes in treating trauma and PTSD for women, survivors, and queer & trans folks, utilizing body-based and feminist therapy practices to help clients come home to themselves. Andrea practices on occupied Lenape territory (colonized as NYC) and can also be found on Instagram @somaticwitch.

Episode 189 Links

• Andrea Glik Instagram https://www.instagram.com/somaticwitch/
• Andrea Glik YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCVUm2ZAxWeu7DrcMRpP1JPw?
• Andrea Glik website https://www.andreaglik.com/
• Healing through BDSM class & https://www.andreaglik.com/post/healing-through-bdsm
• Other workshops andreaglik.com/shop
• Inside Eyes Podcast, Healing Sexual Trauma with Psychedelics & Entheogens   https://www.lauramaenorthrup.com/inside-eyes-podcast
• Burnout, The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Response Cycle by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Burnout-Secret-Unlocking-Stress-Cycle/dp/198481706X
• Waking the Tiger: Healing Trauma by Peter Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 189 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• 10% off your first month with BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/asp
• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout
• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

–Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

–To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

–Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

–Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

Sunny & Ken, xo!

Being a part of community isn't required to practice BDSM, although it may seem like it due to visibility. What is important is knowing the positive and negative ways community influences the kink subculture. Yes, mainstream myths and stereotypes contribute to BDSM stigma, however, misleading info from the community causes harm too. On ep 188 of American Sex, Sunny Megatron & Kate Loree discuss this plus give advice on verifying the validity of educational info, sniffing out gatekeeping and “one twue wayisms,” doing effective gut checks in consent situations, and more. Sunny also discusses the far-reaching implications of overturning Roe vs. Wade & how the Earn It Act ties in. 

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron (Kink-Specific Bio)

Sunny began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication. She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the year in 2021, Kinkly’s sex blogging superhero in 2017, plus her alternative sexuality focused podcast American Sex won the AASECT podcast award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum & teaches about BDSM for sexuality educators, therapists, and care professionals including professional certification courses like the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play is scheduled to be released in 2022.

Episode 188 Links

• State of Kink Survey https://surveymonkey.com/r/socialkink
• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/

• Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Act https://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLV or OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409

• Roe Vs Wade implications beyond abortion https://www.npr.org/2022/05/05/1096732347/roe-v-wade-implications-beyond-abortion
• Ep 184 Pt. 1 Rethinking Kink https://sunnymegatron.com/rethink-kink-podcast/
• Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_CBCD2NJQ93Q58Q0C46XZ
• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 188 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 10% off your first month with BetterHelp http://betterhelp.com/asp
• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout
• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

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Sunny & Ken, xo!

All relationships are susceptible to hurdles & conflict--resentment, attachment injuries, navigating mental health, unhealthy coping strategies, overcoming societal conditioning, trauma, and more. It’s hard enough between 2 people; in polyamory, we have multiple partners to factor in plus unique issues like jealousy and couple’s privilege. 

On episode 187 of American Sex Podcast, Kate Loree draws from her years as a polyamorous relationship therapist to talk about strategies for compassionate communication, cultivating self-awareness, breaking unhealthy patterns, and reconciling conflict in consensually non-monogamous relationships.

Guest Bio – Kate Loree

Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities and the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships.

In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.

She co-hosts her own sex-positive podcast, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron, has been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has been a guest on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She has written for Good Vibrations and Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.

Her private practice resides in Encino, CA. For more information, please visit her on the web at KateLoree.com. 

Episode 187 Links

• Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_CBCD2NJQ93Q58Q0C46XZ 

• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@opendeeplywithkateloree
• Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

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• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
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Sunny & Ken, xo!

The kink community has a reputation for being accepting & inclusive. When it comes to race, however, we have some work to do. Recent research published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found at BDSM events people of color were 16x more likely to feel discriminated against & 17x more likely to feel fetishized than their white counterparts.

On ep 186 of American Sex podcast, Luna Matatas discusses insight she's gleaned from the monthly Race & Kink discussion series she co-hosts with Marla Renee Stewart. What actionable steps can allies and accomplices take to tackle these issues head-on? How can we truly make our communities & events welcoming beyond saying “all are welcome”? What are we doing right? How are we missing the mark? 

Guest Bio – Luna Matatas

Luna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure Educator with over 15 years of experience teaching sex and empowerment workshops. She celebrates body confidence, self-adoration, and building shame-free pleasure in and out of the bedroom. She teaches a wide range of topics; including threesomes, BDSM, and sexual confidence. Luna hosts The Plug Podcast, an anal sex podcast by b-Vibe. She created Peg the Patriarchy® and Meditate Medicate Masturbate® brands as part of her sex-positive and feminist merchandise.

Episode 186 Links

• Luna Matatas Website http://lunamatatas.com/
• Luna Matatas Twitter https://twitter.com/lunamatatas
• Luna Matatas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lunamatatas/
• Kinky Tapas $100 off w/code SUNNY 4/28-5/1/22 Oakland, CA http://www.kinkytapas.com/

• Challenge at the Intersection of Race and Kink: Racial Discrimination, Fetishization, and Inclusivity Within the BDSM (Bondage‑Discipline, Dominance‑Submission, and Sadism‑Masochism) Community https://www.dropbox.com/s/hj0yzhzcv401eue/Erickson%2C%20Slayton%2C%20Petersen%2C%20Hyams%2C%20Howard%2C%20Sharp%2C%20%26%20Sagarin%20%282022%29%20Challenge%20at%20the%20Intersection%20of%20Race%20and%20Kink.pdf?dl=0
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 186 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

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• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout

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• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

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Sunny & Ken, xo!

U.S. law interprets consensual kink activities as harmful, criminal acts. This makes prosecuting sexual assault cases within the context of BDSM difficult. How can you prove non-consensual sex occurred if kink isn’t considered sex in the eyes of the law, it’s assault? The National Coalition for Sexual Freedom/NCSF worked along with the American Law Institute to establish a legal definition of consent in kink. They just unveiled the New Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact.

On ep 185 of American Sex Podcast, the NCSF’s Susan Wright & BebeBlueEyes explain how this gives legal power to sexual assault survivors, how it’ll be adopted state-by-state, about the new consent model EPP/Explicit Prior Permission & why implementing it as community standard is integral to changing case law, what you can do to help, how the NCSF can assist you with criminal sexual assault cases involving consensual kink, and more. If you're kinky this is a MUST LISTEN--you need to know how the legal definition of consent is changing.     

Guest Bio – Susan Wright, M.A

Susan Wright, M.A., (she/her) founded the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom in 1997, and currently serves as Executive Director. In addition, she serves on the advocacy and community advisory committees for AASECT, the APA’s Division 44: Task Force on Consensual Non-monogamy, Kink Clinician Guidelines, and the Diverse Sexualities Research Education Institute. She chaired the successful DSM-5 Revision Project which helped result in the consensual paraphilias being separated from the APA’s Paraphilic Disorders in 2013. She currently chairs the Consent Counts Committee that worked with the American Law Institute on the new Model Penal Code on Sexual Assault to create Section 213:10: Affirmative Defense of Explicit Prior Permission for use of force and restraint with sexual contact. Her research for NCSF focuses on discrimination and violence against alt-sex practitioners; consent practices and attitudes; and the mental and physical health of alt-sex practitioners, with papers published in journals including the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health, Psychology & Sexuality, Journal of Trauma and Dissociation, Journal of Interpersonal Violence, Archives of Sexual Behavior, Journal of Sexual Medicine, Journal of Behavioral Health Services & Research, Journal of Social and Clinical Psychology, International Journal of Social Psychiatry, and Journal of Homosexuality.

Guest Bio – BebeBlueEyes

Bebe is a Poly, Het, very active, giggle bottom, service topping ‘s type’.  Since 2009, Bebe has been serving the broader kink & poly communities, presenting classes related to her passion, the ever-evolving topic of Consent. During covid, Bebe started the Submissive Safe Call, an online discussion group to keep ‘s types’ connected. She founded StL PolyHarmonic, a local group for kinky & polyamorous persons.  In 2020, Bebe was humbled & honored to be chosen by Leather Leadership Conference for their Servant Leadership award! She s currently serving her 7th year on the Board of Directors of National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSFreedom.org). She is mother of a TNG kinkster, an IT Professional, Avid Foodie & Music Lover, and Debauchery Explorer! She’s also an ICASA certified Sexual Assault Victim Advocate for the State of IL!  Her passions are service to the community, education, and personal responsibility through empowerment.

Episode 185 Links

• NCSF Website www.ncsfreedom.org
• NCSF Facebook http://facebook.com/NCSFreedom
• NCSF Twitter http://twitter.com/NCSF
• NCSF Instagram http://instagram.com/nationalcoalitionsexualfreedom
• EPP/Explicit Prior Permission video & Resources https://ncsfreedom.org/key-programs-2/consent-counts/
• EPP/Explicit Prior Permission Best Practices with Consent to Kink Practices-for-Consent-to-Kink.pdf"> https://secureservercdn.net/198.71.233.216/9xj.1d5.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2022/01/Best-Practices-for-Consent-to-Kink.pdf
• The state of the Law with consent in BDSM and-BDSM-The-State-of-the-Law.pdf"> https://secureservercdn.net/198.71.233.216/9xj.1d5.myftpupload.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/12/Consent-and-BDSM-The-State-of-the-Law.pdf
• NCSF Incident Reporting & Response https://ncsfreedom.org/incident-reporting-and-response-form/
• The Vi Johnson Liberation Award & nominee info https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gzg227E5yrA
• Race Kink Discussion Series TUES 3/29/22 http://raceandkink.com (tickets are income-based + include a recording if you can't attend live)

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 185 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

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• 65% off Beducated’s yearly pass (discount locked in for LIFE!) http://beducate.me/sunny and use code SUNNY
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• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout

• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

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On episode 184 of American Sex Podcast, Sunny Megatron & sex-positive therapist, Kate Loree, look at BDSM through an atypical lens. We chat about the misconceptions we worked through as people who stumbled upon kink later in life and how that perspective is helpful now in our careers. We discuss the headspace & strategy needed to tap into the customizable nature of BDSM, plus dive into the science & psychology behind kinky play--why do masochists like suffering? What happens to the body & mind during the altered states of consciousness subspace & topspace? How do people use kink to be more grounded, regulate the nervous system, explore intense emotional states with minimal risk, and more? There’s a lot more to BDSM than ropes, paddles, and floggers!

Guest Bio – Kate Loree, LMFT

Kate Loree, LMFT, is a sex-positive licensed marriage and family therapist with a specialty in non-monogamous, kink, LGBTQ, and sex worker communities.

In addition to her master’s in marriage and family therapy, she also has an MBA and is a registered art therapist (ATR). She is an EDSE certified sex educator and an EMDR certified therapist with additional training in the Trauma Resiliency Model (TRM) for the treatment of trauma. She has been practicing psychotherapy since 2003.

Kate is the author of Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22) and cohosts the sex-positive podcast of the same name, Open Deeply, with Sunny Megatron. She’s been featured in Buzzfeed videos, and has guested on Playboy Radio and many podcasts, including American Sex, Sluts and Scholars, and Sex Nerd Sandra. She’s written for Good Vibrations, Hollywood Magazine and is a frequent public speaker.

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron, CSE

Host of the Showtime Original Series, Sex with Sunny Megatron, began teaching about BDSM in 2010. Her area of expertise is the soft skills--which center around things like ethics, cultivating self-awareness, and strategies for effective communication.

She received a FROST Certificate of Gratitude in 2020 honoring her service to the kink community, was voted XBIZ Sexpert of the Year in 2021, and Kinkly’s Sex Blogging Superhero in 2017. Her alternative sexuality-focused podcast American Sex was awarded the AASECT Podcast Award in 2020. Sunny also creates curriculum about BDSM for sexuality professionals.

Some of her most recent kink-related projects include designing & teaching the BDSM unit for a well-known sex educator certification program plus a lesson for the Sexual Health Alliance’s Kink Informed Certification Program for therapists and other care professionals. Sunny’s first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Erotic Play is scheduled to be released in 2022.

Episode 184 Links

• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree
• Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships (release date 4/19/22)  https://www.amazon.com/dp/164742335X/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_ZHACQ8RJHMR2R9HGHBMY

• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com

• No Bullsh*t Intro to Kink workshop, Sunny Megatron/Sex Positive World 3/19/22 https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/a-no-bulls-it-intro-to-kink
• Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators in 2 minutes via text with https://resist.bot/

• @TransTexas/TENT resources for Texas families with transgender kids https://linktr.ee/Transtexas
• Info from @EqualityTexas “What to do if CPS shows up at your door in regards to your trans child?” https://vm.tiktok.com/TTPdUchp2B/?k=1
• Equality Texas Twitter https://twitter.com/EqualityTexas
• Info about the passing of Milo Winslow, trans rights advocate in Lincoln, Nebraska https://www.upworthy.com/world-has-lost-hero-lgbtq-activist-milo-winslow?rebelltitem=1#rebelltitem1
• Video by Jazari Kual with information on how to reach out to the Lincoln City Council requesting they rescind the revisions to title xi--one of Milo's final wishes
• https://www.facebook.com/watch/?v=656262748790839
• “Don’t Say Gay” passes in Florida https://www.hrc.org/news/florida-senate-passes-dont-say-gay-or-trans-bill-legislation-heads-to-desantis-desk-for-signature-or-veto
• Texas court blocks investigation of families with transgender youth https://www.aclutx.org/en/press-releases/texas-court-blocks-state-investigating-families-transgender-youth
• Idaho House passes HB675 calling for providing or allowing trans-affirming care for minors punishable by life in prison https://www.newsweek.com/idaho-house-passes-anti-trans-youth-treatment-bill-hb675-1686298

• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

Episode 184 Sponsor & Affiliate Discount Codes/Links

*by using our links & codes you can help support our work while saving a few bucks too—win/win!

• 65% off Beducated’s yearly pass (discount locked in for LIFE!) http://beducate.me/sunny and use code SUNNY.
• 15% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout

• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• 15% off most items from Stockroom https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15 with code SUNNY

_______________________________________________________________

--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

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Sunny & Ken, xo!

On Ep 183 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Sinclair Sexsmith about dominance & submission. While most are aware that Dom/sub play is common in kink, we also have a very narrow view of what it entails. D/s isn’t always cruel & authoritarian. We talk about the many ways people engage in D/s & how they find strength by surrendering to powerlessness, including:

• The different types of D/s & selecting areas of control
• Building healthy dynamics
• “Subs hold all the power”
• Balancing fantasy & reality
• “Giving up” safe words
• D/s as an “intimacy fetish”
• Deconstructing power

Guest Bio – Sinclair Sexsmith

SINCLAIR SEXSMITH (they/them) is an award-winning queer trans masc writer focusing on queer culture, trauma, dominance, submission, spiritual kink, and transgender and nonbinary issues. Sinclair’s creative nonfiction and queer erotica writings are widely published online and in more than thirty anthologies, including eight volumes of Best Lesbian Erotica series. They are the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica of the Year Volume 4, Volume 5, Volume 6, Best Lesbian Erotica 2012, Erotix: Literary Journal of Somatics, and Say Please: Lesbian BDSM Erotica. Their short story collection, Sweet & Rough: Queer Kink Erotica, was a 2015 finalist for a Lambda Literary Award. Sinclair writes at sugarbutch.net since 2006, recognized numerous places as one of the top sex blogs. They have been teaching about erotic writing, the power of queer narratives, somatic arts, and many sex and kink techniques since 2002. Sinclair is an international leather titleholder, a pretty good cook, and an avid creative journaler. Follow all their work at patreon.com/mrsexsmith.

Episode 183 Links

• Sinclair Sexsmith Quicklinks http://allmylinks.com/mrsexsmith
• Sinclair Sexsmith Twitter http://twitter.com/mrsexsmith
• Sinclair Sexsmith Instagram http://instagram.com/mrsexsmith
• Sinclair Sexsmith Facebook http://facebook.com/sugarbutch
• Sinclair Sexsmith Patreon http://patreon.com/mrsexsmith
• Sinclair Sexsmith Blog http://sugarbutch.net
• D/S Playground Classes https://dsplayground.com/
• Sinclair Sexsmith Website https://www.mrsexsmith.com/
• Is kink a sexual orientation? Discussion in American Sex Episode 181: https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/
• The Dominance Playbook: Ways to Play With Power in Scenes and Relationships by Anton Fulmen https://www.amazon.com/Dominance-Playbook-Power-Scenes-Relationships/dp/0937609900
• Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life by Emily Nagoski https://www.amazon.com/Come-You-Are-Surprising-Transform/dp/1476762090

• No Bullsh*t Intro to Kink workshop, Sunny Megatron/Sex Positive World 3/19/22 https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/a-no-bulls-it-intro-to-kink
• Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Act https://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLV or OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409
• ACLU roundup of current anti-trans & anti-LGBTQ+ bills https://www.aclu.org/legislation-affecting-lgbtq-rights-across-country
• Legislation proposing bans of LGBTQIA+, racial & other “divisive” topics discussed/taught in classrooms https://www.edweek.org/policy-politics/heres-the-long-list-of-topics-republicans-want-banned-from-the-classroom/2022/02
• GOP pushes anti-LGBTQ+ legislation https://www.msnbc.com/zerlina/watch/gop-pushes-anti-lgbtq-legislation-132900421866

• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com (Current guest Mollena Williams Haas)
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

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• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY

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• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
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What does the Joe Rogan/Spotify controversy have to do with the freaky things you do in the bedroom?

Surprisingly, A LOT!

This situation uncovered bigger issues regarding corporate control of information & influence over censorship. In 2022 posting about sexual health, LGBTQIA+ activism, or thirst traps online is risky due to SESTA FOSTA, bank restrictions, and impending legislation like Earn It. Discussions about structural inequity and/or content made by marginalized creators is suppressed by biased algorithms.

Indie podcasts & audio apps are among the last least censored mediums and a central hub for these kinds of discussions. How could one corporation's aggressive ambition to dominate audio entertainment threaten that & more? How did Spotify become the largest podcast platform & what’s next? This episode is a wild ride taking you from Joe Rogansville all the way to your sexual freedom. 

Guest Bio – Sunny Megatron

Sunny Megatron is an award-winning Kink & Certified Sexuality Educator, Certified Relationship Coach, and media personality. She’s the host and executive producer of the Showtime original television series, SEX with Sunny Megatron, plus co-hosts the AASECT Award winning American Sex Podcast and Open Deeply Podcast. In 2021 Sunny was named XBIZ Sexpert of the Year. 

Known for her one-of-a-kind build-your-own-adventure approach to sex, kink & relationships, Sunny coined the BDSM community catch-phrase, Kink is Customizable™. In her sell-out workshops, her unique brand of “edutainment” seamlessly combines her humorous lecturing style, interactive exercises, and the latest sexuality research. Sunny’s passion is helping others disarm shame and find their power through pleasure and play. Her first book, Customizable Kink: A Strategic Guide to Adult Play is expected in late 2022.

Episode 182 Links

• American Sex Apple Podcasts https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/american-sex/id1269884261
• American Sex Player FM https://player.fm/series/american-sex
• American Sex Pandora https://www.pandora.com/podcast/american-sex/PC:9136
• American Sex Google Podcasts https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbWVyaWNhbnNleC5saWJzeW4uY29tL3Jzcw?sa=X&ved=0CAMQ4aUDahcKEwjQy_ip1v31AhUAAAAAHQAAAAAQAQ&hl=en
• American Sex Podchaser https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/american-sex-548077/creators
• No Bullsh*t Intro to Kink workshop, Sunny Megatron/Sex Podcaiotive World 3/19/22 https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/a-no-bulls-it-intro-to-kink
• Spotify CEO says company won't be "silencing" Joe Rogan
• ceo-streamer-wont-silence-joe-rogan-68bb602d-ed95-426a-bc5e-27c24c79b1cd.html"> https://www.axios.com/spotify-ceo-streamer-wont-silence-joe-rogan-68bb602d-ed95-426a-bc5e-27c24c79b1cd.html
• Sunny’s Twitter threads/discussions on Rogan/Spotify https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1490179339689758723 https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1490100633067614210 https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1490062826899226637
• https://twitter.com/SunnyMegatron/status/1489708490075430914
• Resistbot: Send an email to your legislators asking them to vote NO on the Earn It Act https://resist.bot/petitions/PVLKLV or OR TEXT SIGN PVLKLV TO 50409
• Earn It Act from The Electronic Frontier Foundation https://www.eff.org/deeplinks/2022/02/its-back-senators-want-earn-it-bill-scan-all-online-messages
• Why sex workers are sounding the alarm on the EARN IT Act https://www.dailydot.com/irl/earn-it-act-sex-workers-sesta-fosta/
• Earn It Act Stanford Law: THE EARN IT ACT IS BACK, AND IT’S MORE DANGEROUS THAN EVER https://cyberlaw.stanford.edu/blog/2022/02/earn-it-act-back-and-it%E2%80%99s-more-dangerous-ever
• Video Recap about Earn It Act https://twitter.com/NightShiftNyx/status/1490363717254631426
• ACLU roundup of current anti-trans & anti-LGBTQ+ bills https://www.aclu.org/legislation-affecting-lgbtq-rights-across-country
• Legislation proposing bans of LGBTQIA+, racial & other “divisive” topics discussed/taught in classrooms https://www.edweek.org/policy-politics/heres-the-long-list-of-topics-republicans-want-banned-from-the-classroom/2022/02
• GOP pushes anti-LGBTQ+ legislation https://www.msnbc.com/zerlina/watch/gop-pushes-anti-lgbtq-legislation-132900421866
• Spotify’s next conquest: Audio Books https://www.businesswire.com/news/home/20211111006067/en/
• THE POLITICS OF SEX CENSORSHIP – EP 151 AMERICAN SEX PODCAST https://sunnymegatron.com/politics-of-sex-censorship/
• CENSORSHIP & SEX ON THE INTERNET – EP 148 https://sunnymegatron.com/sex-censorship-internet/
• ONLYFANS & THE MORALITY WAR WITH KITTY STRYKER – EP 166 AMERICAN SEX PODCAST https://sunnymegatron.com/onlyfans-ban-kitty-stryker/
• Kitty Stryker: SESTA/FOSTA, Consent & Juggalos – Ep 36 American Sex Podcast https://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/
• Wisconson Assembly Bill 411 & Senate Bill 411  https://wisconsinexaminer.com/2021/09/28/gop-passes-bills-ensuring-students-can-write-civics-papers-in-cursive-but-cant-discuss-race/

• Bill 411 Full list of proposed banned topics Addendum on page 3 https://docs.legis.wisconsin.gov/misc/lc/hearing_testimony_and_materials/2021/ab411/ab0411_2021_08_11.pdf
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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Sunny & Ken, xo!

On episode 181 American Sex Podcast we have the convo you WISH you could have with your doctor . . . if they were sex & kink-positive, didn’t shame or judge, told jokes that made you snort-laugh, and had all the time in the world to answer every one of your questions about sex & genitals. Urologist Dr. Ashley Winter joins us for a fascinating chat about the medical side of the freaky things we do. Some highlights:

• Myth-busting & pleasure biology of g-spots, squirting, clit sensation, prostate play, pre-cum, erections & more
• How patients & doctors can better talk to each other about sexual health
• Why urethral sounding feels good & how to play safe
• Pubic hair & diabetes
• Kinkster’s common belief that urine is sterile—Fact or Cap
• How COVID can affect sexual health: Covid dick, Restless anal & genital syndrome, Urine therapy, sperm production & more

Guest Bio – Ashley G Winter, MD

Dr. Ashley Winter is a board-certified urologist who specializes in sexual medicine. She is one of a few physicians with fellowship training in sexual medicine for ALL genders. She completed medical school at Rutgers University, her urology residency at New York Presbyterian-Weill Cornell Medical Center, and her fellowship training under Dr. Irwin Goldstein in sexual medicine. She is an associate editor of Sexual Medicine Reviews. She practices in Portland, Oregon, and she tweets enthusiastically at the handle: @ashleygwinter

Episode 181 Links

• Dr. Ashley Winter Twitter https://twitter.com/AshleyGWinter
• Ep 180 Kink freestyle episode--clitoris 8k nerve ending myth at 44:30  https://sunnymegatron.com/kink-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/
• Kink+ Asking for What You’re Worth Class 2/12/22 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/asking-for-what-youre-worth-tickets-175894825157

• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Ken’s charity DnD game Mondays 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Sunny’s Free Kink Negotiation & Scene Planning Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/l/negotiationwb

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• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny
• Get up to 2 free months of podcasting service with Libsyn using this link https://signup.libsyn.com/?promo_code=SUNNY or use code SUNNY
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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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  Sunny & Ken, xo!

On episode 180 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron Is back for a second installment of free-style BDSM education. She gives helpful tips and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed:

• Important similarities & differences between the terms BDSM, kink, D/s, fetish, SM
• Is kink a sexual orientation?
• The problem with online BDSM tests
• Clit myth-busting
• How age play terminology means very different things in various communities
• Is “Sane, Sane & Consensual” harmful?
• Edging vs. edge play
• The secret behind Farty Parties

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 180 Links

• XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year, Sunny Megatron voting open now - 3027.php">https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php
• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Kink Education Freestyle Pt 1 ep 172 https://sunnymegatron.com/bdsm-education-sunny-megatron-podcast/
• The Leather Couch Book https://www.amazon.com/dp/0367439921/ref=cm_sw_r_tw_dp_A94ENPDMQF6Z0QZQCAQ6?_encoding=UTF8&psc=1

• Some Popular Online BDSM Tests https://bdsmtest.org/ , https://sexualalpha.com/bdsm-kink-test/
• American Sex Podcast Episodes about age play https://sunnymegatron.com/abdl-adult-baby-diaper-lover/ , https://sunnymegatron.com/age-play-paul-rulof/ , https://sunnymegatron.com/diaper-boy-groupie-diaperperv/
• American Sex Podcast Episode about Taboo Play with Mollena Williams-Haas https://sunnymegatron.com/mollena-williams-haas-taboo-kinks/
• The History of the Age Regression community https://allaboutarden.wordpress.com/history-of-the-age-regression-community/
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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This week we talk with Andrew Gurza & Heather Morrison, the brother-sister team behind the first line of sex toys for people with disabilities, Bump’n. The idea started a few years ago with a chance conversation about Andrew’s increasing difficulty with self-pleasure due to Cerebral Palsy. Last week, the company they founded launched their first product. Some of what we talk about:

• Ways the sexual health & wellness industry ignores the needs of people with physical limitations
• The challenges of founding a sex tech startup with no prior experience
• How user feedback about The Joystick--a huggable, humpable, 3 ft long device designed for hands-free pleasure--uncovered profound intimacy benefits for people of all abilities
• How preliminary research lead to a partnership with a leading design expert and a groundbreaking book detailing personal stories and insights about sex & disability

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

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              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 179 Links

• Bump’n website https://getbumpn.com/
• Bump’n release video (Andrew gives a nod to Steve Jobs!) https://vimeo.com/652219391
• Bump'n Twitter https://twitter.com/getbumpn
• Bump'n Instagram https://www.instagram.com/getbumpn/
• Bump'n Facebook https://www.facebook.com/getbumpn
• Andrew Gurza website http://www.andrewgurza.com/
• Andrew Gurza Twitter https://twitter.com/andrewgurza_
• Andrew Gurza Instagram https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza_
• Andrew Gurza Patreon https://www.patreon.com/disabilityafterdark
• Disability After Dark Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/disability-after-dark/id1151890990
• #DisabledPeopleAreHot Merch https://store.podcastjukebox.org/collections/disabled-people-are-hot
• Picture This Documentary https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3fMCsyhvnEc
• Episode 55 American Sex Podcast with Andrew Gurza https://sunnymegatron.com/andrew-gurza-sex-disability-ep-55-american-sex-podcast/
• Episode 88 American sex Podcast with Andrew Gurza https://sunnymegatron.com/disabled-people-are-hot-andrew-gurza/
• XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year, Sunny Megatron voting open now - 3027.php">https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/

Episode 179 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

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• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 this link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
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It’s sex toy season! Between all the holiday discounts hitting our inbox and impending supply shortages, many of us are making snap decisions to buy new gear. With more sex toys available than ever before and new technology available, wading through this sea of options can be overwhelming. This week Sunny spills all her tips for selecting toys suited to your body and specific needs so you can get the most bang (pun intended) for your buck. Some of what’s covered:

• Tips for sex toy gift-giving etiquette
• Sex toy myth-busting
• Rumbly vs. buzzy vibrations & why it matters
• Important pleasure anatomy
• How to determine what kinds of toys match well with your personal preferences
• Which toys and accessories have good reputations &  reviews and which don’t

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 178 Links

• XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year, Sunny Megatron voting open now (voting allowed once per day) - 3027.php">https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php
• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Stockroom.com this link + code SUNNY = 15% off ON TOP of holiday sales https://bit.ly/sunnystockroom15
• Lovehoney this link + code SUNNY = 15% off ON TOP of holiday sales http://bit.ly/lovehoney15
• Fun Factory Toys https://us.funfactory.com/en/?a_aid=Sunny_Megatron
• Womanizer https://shrsl.com/3a10a
• We-Vibe Toys https://shrsl.com/3a10d
• We-Vibe Melt https://shrsl.com/3a10b
• WeVibe Tango https://shrsl.com/3a10e
• Fun Factory Blow & Glow https://us.funfactory.com/products/blow-glow-kit?a_aid=Sunny_Megatron&a_bid=163b973b
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• Fun Factory Cobra Libre https://us.funfactory.com/products/cobra-libre-ii?a_aid=Sunny_Megatron&a_bid=163b973b
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• 30% off ANY SATISFYER when you use this link https://us.satisfyer.com/us/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=SUNNY&utm_campaign=2H AND enter code SUNNY30 at checkout

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• bVibe toys https://shrsl.com/3a10f
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• Fuck Saw Vac-u-lock Adapter (code SUNNY for additional 15% off) https://bit.ly/3nYDedY
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/

 Episode 178 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

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Why are so many people into deep anal insertion? One theory is because it can stimulate the vagus nerve. Not only can this feel amazing, but it may also trigger a cascade of health benefits!

Ruby Ryder of Pegging Paradise fame joins us to talk about advanced butt stuff & pegging on ep 177 of American Sex Podcast. Some of that we cover:    

• How vagus nerve stimulation via the back door could lead to reduced inflammation, anxiety, and egocentric behavior
• The somatic similarities between anal play & kink
• How the term pegging is evolving & used in some circles as an inclusive act to be enjoyed by anyone regardless of gender or anatomy
• How the patriarchy hurts cismen and ways that the popularity of pegging has helped heal shame and combat prejudice  

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 177 Links

• Ruby Ryder’s Free Pegging Classes (virtual) https://www.theartofpegging.com/upcoming-webinars
• Ruby’s Websites: https://peggingparadise.com/ & http://pegging101.com/
• Ruby Ryder Patreon https://www.patreon.com/RubyRyder
• Ruby Ryder Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therubyryder/
• Ruby Ryder TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@peggingparadise
• Ruby Ryder Twitter https://twitter.com/Ruby_Ryder
• Ruby Ryder Bonus Audio Content https://www.patreon.com/posts/58960458
• Pegging w/ Ruby Ryder Ep 91 American Sex https://sunnymegatron.com/ruby-ryder-pegging-paradise/
• Hankey's Link (excellent for wider toys) https://hankeystoys.ositracker.com/123528/9217
• Square Peg Slink (for depth play): https://www.squarepegtoys.com/shop/slink/
• Bespoke Surgical: https://bespokesurgical.com/
• Ruby’s affiliate link for toys & gear (supports her work) https://www.enticeme.co/#rubyryder
• Posts on FetLife about the word Pegging:
• Of the Word Pegging, Homophobia and Transphobia by @Ruby_Ryder : https://fetlife.com/users/365662/posts/7415232
• I will never peg a man again by @Rebekah_Salt : https://fetlife.com/users/12786367/posts/7412901
• Flip Fucking is not a thing by @Rebekah_Salt : https://fetlife.com/users/12786367/posts/7419184
• Impact Play Stair-Step article: https://peggingparadise.com/2021/02/the-endorphin-levels-in-bdsm/
• Steely Dan Reelin’ in the Years https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GaH25Sghoqc
• Adapted cold shower as a potential treatment for depression https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17993252/
• Open water swimming as a treatment for major depressive disorder https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6112379/
• SNL Sketch, Man Park https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9XOt2Vh0T8w
• Sex & Psychology Podcast Dr. Lehmiller & Dr. Prause The Science of Orgasms https://www.audible.com/pd/Episode-60-The-Science-of-Orgasms-Podcast/B09LQQ72BG
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/
• XBIZ 2022 Awards Sexpert of the Year voting begins Wednesday, Nov. 24 – 3027.php">https://xbizawards.xbiz.com/voting/XBA-3027.php

Episode 177 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

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• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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Veronika Kestrel joins us for ep 176 of American Sex Podcast to talk about one of her favorite kinks, Dollification. Dollification is doll roleplay--sounds basic on the surface but dollification is one of the most versatile and customizable kinks adaptable to both sensual and extreme play. Some of what we touch on in this conversation:

• Viewing kink as a collaborative art
• Dollification as a vehicle for other kinks/playstyles like: bondage, gender exploration, CNC, humiliation, emotional empowerment, objectification/dehumanization, worship, fear play, orgasm control/enhancement, etc.
• Animated vs. stationary dolls & similarities to other kinks like bimbofication and dronification
• Scenarios for dominant dolls & submissive makers
• Doll types--robots, stuffies, mannequins, marionettes, etc.
• Possible therapeutic benefits of dollification & doll headspace

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 176 Links

• Veronika Kestrel Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@switchvero
• Veronika Kestrel OnlyFans https://onlyfans.com/vkestrel
• Veronika Kestrel Instagram https://www.instagram.com/switchveronika/
• Veronika Kestrel Twitter https://twitter.com/SwitchVeronika
• Veronika Kestrel FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/13001382?
• Kestrel’s Nest FetLife group https://fetlife.com/groups/223277
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/
• Episode 176 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

• Get your first Quip refill FREE http://quip.com/sunny
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• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 this link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01
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On episode 175 of American Sex Podcast, we talk with Codi Vore and Queen Ava about sex worker mutual aid and the organization they helped co-found, SWAID Las Vegas. Some of what we cover: 

• How mutual aid differs from traditional non-profits & how this strategy eliminates exploitation and inequity common in mainstream charity 
• Why mutual aid is especially beneficial to sex workers and circumvents barriers that are specific to this industry
• How the pandemic has affected the sex work community and made mutual aid efforts more mainstream in many different communities
• Decriminalization of sex work and how it differs from legalization
• Financial discrimination of all types of sex workers from full service to cam performers and OnlyFans creators 

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

____________________________________

Episode 175 Links 

• SWAID Vegas https://swaidvegas.org/
• SWAID Twitter https://twitter.com/swaidvegas
• SWAID Instagram https://www.instagram.com/swaid_vegas/
• Queen Ava Website https://queenavasworld.com/
• Queen Ava Twitter https://twitter.com/iamqueenava4
• Queen Ava Only Fans https://onlyfans.com/iamqueenava4
• Queen Ava Youtube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCktGWqoG_Nq4tCeHkSI5cBA
• Codi Vore Twitter http://Twitter.com/codi_vore
• Codi Vore SFW Twitter http://Twitter.com/codivoresfw
• Codi Vore Tiktok http://TikTok.com/@codi.vore
• Codi Vore OnlyFans http://OnlyFans.com/codivore
• The Politics of Sex Censorship ep 151 https://sunnymegatron.com/politics-of-sex-censorship/
• OnlyFans & The Mortality War Ep 166 https://sunnymegatron.com/onlyfans-ban-kitty-stryker/
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/

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• 30-day free trial of Dipsea Stories when you use code SUNNY http://dipseastories.com/sunny

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• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
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On episode 174 of American Sex Podcast Sunny has a conversation with Amp Somers from the Watts Your Safeword Podcast about erotic humiliation and psychological edge play. Some of what we cover: 

• Neurodivergence & psychological kink
• The trauma love languages can be used for aftercare & trigger plans
• Negotiation considerations for humiliation play
• Using kink therapeutically-- what’s helpful & what’s dangerous
• Shame & BDSM
• Balancing real-world power dynamics with kink D/s
• Cultivating emotional intelligence through erotic play & more

___________________________________

--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 174 Links 

• Watts the Safeword Website http://www.wattsthesafeword.com/
• Watts The Safeword YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCokRyLsHxh-NykvT4uA6n2g
• Watts the Safeword Twitter https://twitter.com/WattsTheSafewrd
• Amp Somers Twitter https://twitter.com/PupAmp
• Watts the Safeword Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wattsthesafeword/
• Watts the Safeword Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WattsTheSafeword/
• Humiliation & Edgeplay Watts Your Safeword Podcast with Sunny Megatron https://open.spotify.com/episode/4N4Zs4YK3oUmLMotZfndQQ?si=L_bk1U81TFWq2WjT2GbfGQ
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/

Episode 174 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

• Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com
• 20% off AND free shipping when you go to http://LikeAKitten.com/sunny OR enter code SUNNY at checkout

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
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Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT & August McLaughlin join us for episode 173 of American Sex Podcast to talk about sex, kink and trauma.  The pair recently wrote a book on the subject called, With Pleasure: Managing Trauma Triggers for More Vibrant Sex and Relationships. If you’re a human you likely have trauma and whether you realize it or not, it can affect your connection to pleasure. 

Some of what we cover in this conversation:

• What trauma is/isn’t
• If “fuck” is a trauma response like fight/flight/freeze/fawn
• Trauma & the mind/body connection
• Why some people find BDSM therapeutic
• The difference between subspace & dissociation
• Being trauma-aware in sex-positive communities
• Neurodivergence, trauma & sex

As heavy as the subject seems, per our usual, we approach the subject with lightheartedness and lots of laughs! Life is too short to be serious all the time 😉

___________________________________

--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit http://patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

--Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com

--Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter

              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 173 Links 

• Jamila M. Dawson, LMFT Website: https://fireandflowtherapy.com
• Jamila Dawson Twitter: https://twitter.com/Jamila_Dawson
• Jamila Dawson Instagram: http://instagram.com/jamila.thesextherapist
• Jamila Dawson Facebook: http://facebook.com/jamiladawson
• Jamila Dawson LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jamila-dawson-2a033b2b/

• August McLaughlin Website: https://augustmclaughlin.com/
• August McLaughlin Podcast: https://augustmclaughlin.com/podcast/
• August McLaughlin Twitter: https://twitter.com/augstmclaughlin
• August McLaughlin Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/augustmclaughlin/
• Girl Boner Podcast Instagram https://www.instagram.com/girlbonermedia/
• August McLaughlin Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/AugustMcLaughlin/
• Girl Boner Podcast Girl Boner Podcast https://www.facebook.com/MyGirlBoner
• August McLaughlin LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/augustjmclaughlin

• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex
• Updated free BDSM Negotiation sheet/Mini-Workbook https://sunnymegatron.gumroad.com/

Episode 173 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info

• 30% off ANY SATISFYER when you use this link https://us.satisfyer.com/us/?utm_source=Podcast&utm_medium=SUNNY&utm_campaign=2H AND enter code SUNNY30 at checkout

• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation

• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
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On episode 172 of American Sex Podcast, Host & Kink Educator Sunny Megatron free-styles BDSM education, gives helpful tips, and busts myths that are commonly spread within the kink community. Topics discussed:

• Benign masochism & the neuroscience of BDSM
• Myths about sadomasochism and the notion that pain = pleasure
• Examining the WHY behind our attraction to certain kinks
• The surprising relationship between BDSM & sex 
• Kinksters on the neurodivergent and asexual spectrums
• The differences between subspace & domspace
• How community affects kinksters that aren’t involved in community
• Platonic kink & the “dynamic escalator”
• The many types of kinksters
• How dangerous BDSM misinformation spreads on the internet
• Consensual non-consent & the latest research on rape fantasies

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Episode 172 Links

• Sunny Megatron website https://sunnymegatron.com/
• Sunny Megatron TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@sunnymegatron?
• Sunny Megatron Twitter https://twitter.com/sunnymegatron
• Sunny Megatron Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sunnymegatron/
• Kink Academy Online BDSM Learning Library http://bit.ly/kinkacademy
• Science of BDSM Research Team https://www.scienceofbdsm.com/
• Tell Me What You Want Dr. Justin Lehmiller https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B0776PYDNM&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_WFW3MV22QFGNPEMR6T4F

• Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle – Nagoski https://read.amazon.com/kp/embed?asin=B07DT4GW16&preview=newtab&linkCode=kpe&ref_=cm_sw_r_kb_dp_P6XYQGYRXQFSP8Q92F0W
• Infinite Quest Podcast https://infinitequestpodcast.com/
• Ep 163 Lessons from a New Kinkster w/ Catie & Eric https://sunnymegatron.com/new-to-kink/
• Adapted cold shower as a potential treatment for depression https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/17993252/
• Open water swimming as a treatment for major depressive disorder https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6112379/

• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Want to be a sex or kink educator? Or become a better one? Maybe you’re a student wondering how to better vet the instructors you learn from? Stefanos and Shay join us for ep 171 of American Sex Podcast to talk about pleasure education. During the pandemic, the mainstreaming of virtual classes caused demand for kink and sex ed to skyrocket. The number of brand new “educators” teaching ethically questionable and dangerous techniques has exploded too. We discuss what you can do as a student or instructor to help combat lack of diversity and quality education in kink & sex ed, the ethics of teaching in a sexually charged setting, dos and don’ts for presenters, tips for attendees on mastering challenging material, red and green flags students can look for when vetting educators or online educational content creators, and more. Stefanos and Shay literally wrote the book on this subject – Creating Captivating Classes: A Guide for Kink, Sexuality, and Relationship Presenters, which includes input from more than a dozen well-known educators.   

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Episode 171 Links

• Stefanos & Shay Website https://www.stefanosandshay.com/about-us/
• Shay Twitter https://twitter.com/ShayBlondie
• Stefanos Twitter https://twitter.com/MaestroStefanos
• Creating Captivating Classes (support Wicked Grounds!) https://wickedgrounds.com/Creating-Captivating-Classes-p395828583
• Creating Captivating Classes (Amazon)  https://www.amazon.com/Creating-Captivating-Classes-Relationship-Presenters/dp/0578942240/ref=sr_1_2?dchild=1&keywords=creating+captivating&qid=1633842365&sr=8-2
• Creating captivating classes academic review https://teachingpals.wordpress.com/2021/09/16/book-spotlight-creating-captivating-classes-a-guide-for-kink-sexuality-and-relationship-presenters/amp/?
• Loladex, Dirty Lola’s list of marginalized pleasure educators https://twitter.com/i/lists/1028473897627385856
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (Free recorded replay available until mid/late October) https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Why are dark, disgusting fantasies that are in direct opposition to our moral beliefs some of our biggest turn-ons? How can what’s ‘so wrong’ be ‘so RIGHT’? Mollena Lee Williams-Haas tells us what’s behind this on episode 170 of American Sex Podcast. If your porn search history is twisted, you’re not alone. Taboo kinks are quite normal. We touch on: why the BDSM community can surprisingly be the most judgmental, how to handle it when people yuck your yum, the right and wrong reasons to explore taboo, how some examine oppressive systems like sexism and racism through taboo play, and why the WHY and intention behind it all is the key to everything. Mollena also breaks down a fear many of us wrestle with--will thinking about extreme fantasies push us to act out dangerous things or lead to the erosion of our personal ethics in real life? How can we determine if others will eventually cross that line? Even though the subject matter is dark, this conversation is lighthearted and hilarious too. Laugh your way to “strange boner town” with us!

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Episode 170 Links

• All That and Mo, Podcast hosted by Mollena Lee Williams Haas https://allthatandmo.com/
• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Website http://www.mollena.com/
• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Facebook https://www.facebook.com/mollena
• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/mollena_lee_williams_haas/
• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Twitter https://twitter.com/mollena
• Mollena Lee Williams Haas Patreon https://www.patreon.com/MollenaLeeWilliamsHaas
• Mollena on RISK! Episode 442 “Slave” https://soundcloud.com/riskshow/slave-by-mollena-williams-from-episode-442-slave
• Hyena Teaser Trailer https://youtu.be/UrAJji7qdwk
• The Artist and the Pervert Trailer https://youtu.be/ko_6bGeADGU
• The Artist and the Pervert Documentary on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/Artist-Pervert-Georg-Friedrich-Haas/dp/B08NC5C1PK
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (Free recorded replay available until mid/late October) https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Jaki Griot gives us the real talk on femme dominants on ep 169 of American Sex Podcast. In the kink world, they’re often disrespected, devalued, and held to higher standards than their masculine counterparts. Femme doms of color, even more so. This undercurrent is present in lifestyle play, sex work, and community leadership. Jaki talks about their experiences both in the lifestyle and in sex work, how default world misogyny skews these D/s dynamics, and the benefits and drawbacks of entitlement on both sides of the slash. Jaki also offers tips for femmes eager to explore their dominance—how to work past barriers and imposter syndrome, compromise on your own terms, and more!   

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Episode 169 Links

• Jaki Griot Instagram http://instagram.com/pervertsofcolor
• JK Toyz Instagram http://instagram.com/jk_toyz
• JK Toyz Twitter https://twitter.com/Jk_toyz
• Jaki Griot Twitter https://twitter.com/jakigriot
• Jaki Griot Tiktok http://tiktok.com/@jktoyz
• JK Toyz Store http://www.jktoyz.xyz
• Mean Mommy Kink Podcast https://anchor.fm/jaki8/support
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• BDSM Strategy & Soft Skills Chat with Erin Tillman for Sex Positive LA 9/29/21 7pm PT https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/spla-l1-lets-talk-about-sex-positivity-w-sunny-megatron-virtual
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (Free recorded replay available until mid/late October) https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Polly Superstar is a sex culture revolutionary and she’s also our guest on episode 168 of American Sex Podcast. Over the last 14 years her legendary event, Kinky Salon, has spread to 16 cities around the world. Some describe it as a sex party but it’s actually so much more—theatrics, erotic exploration, an opportunity to embrace ridiculousness in the safe container of creativity and community, to name a few. Each event is thoughtfully crafted with intention, accountability, inclusivity at the center. Polly tells us how it all started—from the underground fetish clubs of London to San Francisco and beyond--and where it’s going now that lockdowns dominate our lives. Plus learn how Pervy Activity Liaisons keep consent and safety concerns in check, about the allure of alien mating ritual contests, and how the Kinky Salon community has thrived through the pandemic thanks to Polly’s innovative use of closed social channels. 

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Episode 168 Links

• Polly Superstar’s Kinky Salon kinkysalon.com
• Text Polly Superstar! 702 996 4243

• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• BDSM Strategy & Soft Skills Chat with Erin Tillman for Sex Positive LA 9/29/21 7pm PT https://www.sexpositiveworld.org/event-details/spla-l1-lets-talk-about-sex-positivity-w-sunny-megatron-virtual
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (Free recorded replay available until late October) https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Daddy play is hitting the mainstream and Luna Matatas joins us on episode 167 of American Sex Podcast to talk about the many flavors of this role-play. Contrary to popular belief, you don’t have to engage in age play to enjoy the daddy archetype. It’s not always a DDLG dynamic, although it can be. Luna explains why we find this kink so hot, the different types of daddy archetypes we can portray, why daddy play isn’t gender-dependent, the surging popularity of FemDaddies & gender non-conforming daddies, how it differs from mommy play, why not all daddies are dominant, the cultural and psychological origins of this kind of play, and more. 

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Episode 167 Links

• Luna Matatas Website http://lunamatatas.com/
• Luna Matatas Twitter https://twitter.com/lunamatatas
• Luna Matatas Instagram https://www.instagram.com/lunamatatas/
• Luna Matatas “Body Fluid Play” podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/body-fluids-luna-matatas/
• Luna matatas “CBT” Episode https://sunnymegatron.com/cbt-cock-and-ball-torture/
• Luna Matatas & Marla Renee Stewart “Race and Kink” podcast episode https://sunnymegatron.com/race-kink-marla-luna/
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (free!) 9/14/21 11am PT https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Last month, news of OnlyFans explicit content ban rocked the world. What was behind it? Were they sanitizing the platform to court new investors? Was their grand plan to exploit adult creators to grow the site only kick them to the curb once it gained mainstream appeal? Were payment processors pressuring them? And how were they able to reverse their decision so quickly? In episode 166 of American Sex Podcast, Kitty Stryker explains the complex and deep-rooted reasons for this unexpected series of events. It has ties to the censorship in media movement that goes back decades, religious groups with hidden agendas, shady anti-trafficking organizations, and more. She warns that even though OnlyFans ban was suspended, there may be more to come that will affect every corner of the internet.   

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Episode 166 Links 

• Kitty Stryker Twitter https://twitter.com/kittystryker
• Kitty Stryker Facebook https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker
• Kitty Stryker Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker
• Kitty Stryker Patreon patreon.com/kittystryker
• International Day of Consent, November 30th – https://idoconsent.org/
• Sex Workers Deserve Better than OnlyFans article by Kitty Stryker https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/onlyfans-debacle-morality-battle?fbclid=IwAR0UvY7HNGoFUCDoZNJ6rsR_jj-gisamnX9hBNks2g3VXb6uEubAlIeiSpc
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (free!) 9/14/21 11am PT https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Sex Down South Virtual Conference Fri 9/10-Sun 9/12 https://hopin.com/events/sex-down-south-conference-2021
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Kink trailblazer Midori joins us for episode 165. Now at the helm of the first Kink Informed Professionals Certification of its kind, Midori recently partnered with the Sexual Health Alliance to bridge the gap between BDSM and mental health/care professions. Once pathologized, kink has recently become a serious area of professional interest and study. In this conversation, Midori tells us how myths from popular culture and those perpetrated by the BDSM community itself have contributed to bias in care professions. We pinpoint why the mental health field is beginning to see BDSM as a healthy outlet for creativity, resilience, and valid erotic expression. We also touch on the ways abuse hides within kink and how stigma around that affects our relationships with therapists, doctors, social workers, attorneys, and other care professionals we come into contact with. 

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 Episode 164 Links 

• Kink Informed Certification - Sexual Health Alliance https://sexualhealthalliance.com/kink-informed-certification-program
• Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
• Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
• Midori Newsletter inc.com/newsletter">https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
• Midori class/event calendar inc.com/classes">http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
• Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/
• KPACT The Psychological Appeal of BDSM 10/15/2021 https://www.kpact.xyz/product/the-psychological-appeal-of-bdsm/
• Consent Dojo w/Midori & Sunny Megatron (free!) 9/14/21 11am PT https://shibaristudy.com/authors/midori
• Midori History of Shibari (free!) 9/4/21 11am  https://shibaristudy.com/programs/histories-and-cultures-of-shibari
• Creative Living Coaching and Private Sexological Consultations: ask@planetmidori.com
• Sex Down South Virtual Conference Fri 9/10-Sun 9/12 https://hopin.com/events/sex-down-south-conference-2021
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Ep 164 of American Sex Podcast is SHOCKING! Sunny talks electric play with Emma & Cass from the Honeydew Me Podcast. If you think e-stim is all about pain, think again! Electrosex devices are incredibly versatile. With just a simple setting adjustment you can go from a hardcore BDSM scene to gentle, sensual, hands-free orgasms! In this conversation, we start with the basics of TENS units and violet wands and pace up the action step-by-step so you can zero in on what suits you. You’ll learn safety information, about body piercings & electric play, how-tos, accessories you can find around the house, party games, and more. There’s something in this episode for every type of player from vanilla to extreme.  

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 Episode 164 Links 

• Honeydew Me Podcast http://www.honeydewmepodcast.com/
• Honeydew Me INsyagram https://www.instagram.com/honeydewmepodcast/
• Honeydew Me Twitter https://twitter.com/honeydewmepod
• Honeydew Me TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@honeydewmepodcast?
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Ep 163 of American Sex podcast is jampacked with so many practical tips and insights for new & experienced kinksters alike! When Erik got into kink less than a year ago, he didn’t realize how profoundly it would change his life both inside and outside the bedroom. Joined by his partner & mentor Catie, Erik walks us through his transformative journey of self-discovery. We discuss strategies for negotiating your first scene when you don’t know how kink tools feel or what experiencing a scene is like. Erik tells us about his unexpected feeling of mourning and how to handle expectations that don’t match up with reality, how Erik & Catie dealt with the common phenomenon known as frenzy, navigating kink with ADHD, and how it can help align your body and mind. We also get into switching and the similarities and differences between subspace, domspace, and their respective drops. This is a must-listen for those curious about or into kink.   

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 Episode 163 Links 

• Catie Osborn TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@catieosaurus
• Catie Osborn Youtube http://youtube.com/catieadhd
• Catie Osborn Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/catieosaurus/
• Catie Osborn Twitter https://twitter.com/CatieOsaurus
• Catie Osborn Patreon http://patreon.com/catieadhd
• Erik Gude Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@heygude
• Erik Gude Instagram https://www.instagram.com/heygude/
• Erik Gude Twitter https://twitter.com/erikgude
• Infinite Quest Twitter https://twitter.com/Catieanderik
• Sunny’s guest  episode of Infinite Quest Podcast about Consent & ADHD https://open.spotify.com/episode/6WrcQ08sXegqASVAraCwcQ
• Ken’s charity DnD game Monday’s 4pm-7pm PT https://www.twitch.tv/thunderpantsacademy
• Los Angeles Kink Pride 6/4-13. My Erotic Humiliation Class is 6/13 http://lakinkpride.com/
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Kinky religious play is the ultimate taboo. But why is it so popular? Go on to any porn site and you’ll find countless sexy latex-wearing nuns or roleplays that start with “forgive me, father, for I have sinned” and feature the naughty penance that follows. On ep 162 of American Sex Podcast Danarama and Arielle Aquinas explore why this kind of play is so popular, how you can engage in it without sacrilege, and why the trauma it brings up for some can be healing. Dan & Arielle give us scene ideas too including how we can pervert the sacraments plus real-life and specialty items we can use in play. Whether you’re a non-believer, a recovering catholic, or curious about exploring your faith through sexuality without engaging in blasphemy-- there’s lots in this conversation you’re going to love!   

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 Episode 162 Links 

• Arielle Aquinas Instagram http://instagram.com/RevArielle
• Arielle Aquinas Twitter http://Twitter.com/RevArielle
• Arielle Aquinas Fetlife com/users/170235
• Arielle Aquinas Only Fans http://OnlyFans.com/RevArielle
• Arielle Aquinas Many Vids ArielleAquinas.manyvids.com
• Danarama website http://CreativeBDSM.com
• Danborama’s online Catholicism Kink class on April 25th, 2021 https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/5108799
• Danarama Twitter http://twiter.com/DanaramaSF
• Danarama FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/34389
• Kink University http://bit.ly/DanKU
• Los Angeles Kink Pride 6/4-13. My Erotic Humiliation Class is 6/13 http://lakinkpride.com/
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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On Ep 161 of American Sex Podcast, Justine Cross helps us navigate our emotions around getting back to dating, traveling, and attending sex parties in a post(ish)-COVID world. Although many of us are vaccinated and the CDC has relaxed social distancing guidelines, we’re having unexpected mixed feelings about integrating back into our real-life sex-positive communities. Introverts that thrived online are anxious about their newfound virtual communities disappearing. Visually stunning live online performance has become its own art form that we just can’t duplicate in a real-life setting. Which in-person events do we go to? When? How do we throw our own vaccinated-only gatherings? Justine gives us the pep talk we all need plus lays out practical tips for event planning & navigating post-quarantine uncertainty.

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

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 Episode 161 Links 

• Mistress Justine Cross Website http://LosAngelesDominatrix.com
• Mistress Justine Cross Instagram http://instagram.com/TheJustineCross
• Mistress Justine Cross Twitter: http://twitter.com/justineplays
• Dungeon West http://dungeonlosangeles.com/
• Dungeon East http://dtladungeon.com/
• Los Angeles Kink Pride 6/4-13. My Erotic Humiliation Class is 6/13 http://lakinkpride.com/
• Free BDSM Sexpert Panel 5/19/21 https://www.loveuniv.com/sexpert-panel
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• Get 20% off + free shipping at Manscaped.com with code SUNNY http://manscaped.com
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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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You’re invited to our puppy pile! On ep 160 of American Sex Podcast, Amp Somers from Watts the Safeword joins us to talk puppy play. This episode is your ultimate pup resource! Find out exactly why so many people enjoy this role-play plus learn what kind of gear you need, how to join community & who’s welcome, how consent works when your words are barks, dynamics between pup and handler, switching as a puppy, similarities in role-playing other animals and primal kink, public play and when it crosses the line, various pup roles, how solo & non-community puppy play works, and more. We even talk about a recent puppy play scientific research study.  

This episode is so jam-packed with helpful info you won’t want to PAWS it! We leave no bone unturned! *groan*

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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 Episode 160 Links 

• Watts the Safeword Website http://www.wattsthesafeword.com/
• Watts The Safeword YouTube https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCokRyLsHxh-NykvT4uA6n2g
• Watts the Safeword Twitter https://twitter.com/WattsTheSafewrd
• Amp Somers Twitter https://twitter.com/PupAmp
• Watts the Safeword Instagram https://www.instagram.com/wattsthesafeword/
• Watts the Safeword Facebook https://www.facebook.com/WattsTheSafeword/
• Humiliation & Edgeplay Watts Your Safeword Podcast with Sunny Megatron https://open.spotify.com/episode/4N4Zs4YK3oUmLMotZfndQQ?si=L_bk1U81TFWq2WjT2GbfGQ
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric
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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
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Have an idea for a new sex toy design but no clue how to actually produce it? Let this conversation with Glenise Kinard-Moore be your inspiration! A couple of years ago Glenise was an average person with an off-the-cuff idea and today she’s the founder of the lifestyle tech startup, SkiiMoo. Her flagship product, VDOM, isn’t only a pleasure tool, it's also a groundbreaking gender-affirming prosthetic made for the LGBTQ+ community. Glenise walks us through the process of starting with zero background in the pleasure business and what she did every step of the way.  She also talks about disrupting the status quo as a queer Black woman entering an industry that isn’t always as inclusive as it appears. 

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              Sunny & Ken, xo!

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 Episode 159 Links 

• VDOM website https://thevdom.com/
• VDOM Instagram https://www.instagram.com/the.vdom
• VDOM Twitter https://twitter.com/vdomatl
• Glenise, creator of VDOM video https://youtu.be/mIaoT5wg5sc
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Sexual Health Magazine Cover Story https://www.sexualhealthmagazine.com/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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The word “manipulation” has a very negative connotation. But is all manipulation abusive? Does it always have the potential to undermine consent? On ep 158 of American Sex Podcast Kitty Stryker joins us to analyze how manipulation shows up in sex, relationships, and kink. It turns out we manipulate a lot more than we realize and sometimes it can be for noble intentions. But what differentiates positive manipulation from abuse? We discuss what manipulation red flags to look for when vetting potential partners, how to manipulate ethically in BDSM scenes, how to negotiate manipulation in play, how to recognize when it’s being used as an abusive tactic, how it relates to brat play, and more.    

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 Episode 158 Links 

• Twitter: https://twitter.com/kittystryker
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/officiallykittystryker 
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@kittystryker
• Patreon: patreon.com/kittystryker
• International Day of Consent, November 30th - https://idoconsent.org/
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Tending the Garden Virtual Summit April 24-25th https://www.tendingthegarden.love/virtual-summit
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Syphilis is making a comeback. In the last 4 years cases have increased by 81%. On Ep 157 of American Sex Podcast Danarama joins us to talk about syphilis past and present. Learn about the stages of this disease, how it’s treated, and how to protect yourself. Plus its long and tragic history, from its start coinciding with the genocide against the Indigenous Peoples in the Americas right up through today. Dan tells us about notable figures throughout history stricken with the disease and how it affected their decision-making and legacy, the beauty and fashion trends that spawned from treatments (some we still wear today), the horrific Tuskegee Syphilis Experiment supported by the CDC until 1972, and more.

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

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            Sunny & Ken, xo!

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 Episode 157 Links 

• Danarama website http://CreativeBDSM.com
• Danborama's online Catholicism Kink class on April 25th, 2021 https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/5108799
• Danarama Twitter http://twiter.com/DanaramaSF
• Danarama FetLife https://fetlife.com/users/34389
• Kink University http://bit.ly/DanKU
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Tending the Garden Virtual Summit April 24-25th https://www.tendingthegarden.love/virtual-summit
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Did you know the average person has 13 secrets? On episode 156 of American Sex Podcast, Therapist Kate Loree joins us to examine the role secrets play in our lives. Find out: When are secrets good? When are they bad? How can we tell the difference? What does keeping secrets do to our relationships? Our friendships? Our physical and emotional selves? When should we reveal our secrets? And is telling others always a positive thing? What about people that just can’t stop keeping secrets even when they don’t have to -- like polyamorous folks that go out of their way to cheat on their partners? Are there healthy ways we can fetishize and act on our secrets in erotic play?

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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            Sunny & Ken, xo!

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 Episode 156 Links 

• Kate Loree Website: http://kateloree.com
• Kate Loree Facebook http://facebook.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Twitter http://twitter.com/kateloreelmft
• Kate Loree Instagram http://instagram.com/opendeeplywithkateloree
• Kate Loree YouTube https://www.youtube.com/kateloree
• Open Deeply Podcast http://opendeeplypodcast.com
• Tending the Garden Virtual Summit April 24-25th https://www.tendingthegarden.love/virtual-summit
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Ep 155 of American Sex Podcast explores the intersection of gaming, BDSM roleplaying, and healing. Guest, therapist Nicki Line, uses TTRPGs like Dungeons & Dragons in her practice.  Learn how playing therapeutic games can reveal how you approach relationships, experience anxiety, or become triggered. It’s also a great way to explore hidden parts of ourselves in a safe way without real-world consequences. Some use play to experiment with gender or explore communication obstacles within a polycule. Neurodivergent folks can use it to explore unfamiliar emotional states, social skills, and coping strategies. Kinksters will get inspiration for bringing more role play into their scenes and gamers will get inspiration for incorporating mindfulness into their campaigns.

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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 Episode 155 Links 

• Nicki Line Instagram https://www.instagram.com/therapistnicki/
• Nicki Line Facebook https://www.facebook.com/unicorn.nicki
• Nicki Line Twitter https://twitter.com/TherapistNicki
• HarmonyUs Inc. Mental Health Services https://harmonyusinc.com/
• Self Soothe Me https://selfsoothe.me/
• Sex-Positive Academy https://sexpositiveacademy.com/
• International Academy of Collaborative Counseling and Coaching Education https://iaccce.org/
• Shard Tabletop https://www.shardtabletop.com/
• Geek Therapeutics https://www.geektherapeutics.com/
• Virtual Social event with Midori, Caroline Carrington & Sunny Megatron 3/21/21 https://www.facebook.com/events/142893031038790/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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On Ep 154 of American Sex Podcast, trans activist & content creator Rosalynne Montoya tells us about her journey of self-discovery. Seeing real LGBTQ+ people sharing their lives on YouTube was a lifeline for Rose coming of age as the child of a pastor in a conservative town. When she started sharing her own transition journey online, she became a role model for so many people with no transgender and queer representation in their lives. When her social media popularity skyrocketed in so did transphobic hate. Targeted by a small group of bigots, Rose was harassed and attacked relentlessly on TikTok. Fighting this intolerance, Rose gave visibility to a huge flaw on social media—a system that allows marginalized voices to be silenced at the hands of intolerant bullies. What she uncovered is mind-blowing.

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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           Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 154 Links 

• Rosalynne Montoya Website http://RosalynneMontoya.com
• Petition to Change TikTok Community Guidelines: https://www.change.org/tiktokcommunityguidelines
• Jade’s GoFundMe https://gofund.me/05aa1792
• Rosalynne Montoya Trans Is Beautiful Website http://TheTransIsBeautiful.com
• Rosalynne Montoya Facebook http://facebook.com/RosalynneMontoya
• Rosalynne Montoya Instagram http://instagram.com/RosalynneMontoya
• Rosalynne Montoya TikTok http://www.tiktok.com/@RosalynneMontoya
• Rosalynne Montoya TikTok (backup) http://www.tiktok.com/@Rosalynne.Montoya
• Rosalynne Montoya Twitter http://Twitter.com/RosalynneJM
• Rosalynne Montoya Merch: http://rosestransplants.com
• Hot & Healthy Erotic Humiliation recorded class https://gum.co/humiliationclass
• Virtual Social event with Midori, Caroline Carrington & Sunny Megatron https://www.facebook.com/events/142893031038790/
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
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On ep 153 of American Sex Podcast, Kevin Patterson & Dr. Liz Powell talk about the complexities of both finding a therapist knowledgeable about non-normative lifestyles/identities and becoming a therapist who is. Learn why non-monogamous people shy away from therapy, questions to ask practitioners when searching, and how to handle a judgmental or uneducated health professional or coach. Find out if vanilla therapists can ever be a good fit for clients in alt lifestyles, why many therapists don’t divulge their personal experience with non-monogamy, if there’s professional credentialing to indicate a provider can work effectively with clients in these communities, and why censorship is making it more difficult for people to find polyamory and kink-friendly therapists. 

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--Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

--To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)

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           Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 153 Links 

• Unfuck Your Polyamory Courses for both clinicians and individuals https://unfuckyourpolyamory.com/?wpam_id=5 (professional weekend intensive coming up 2/20/21)
• Dr. Liz Powell Twitter http://twitter.com/drlizpowell
• Dr. Liz Powell Instagram http://instagram.com/drlizpowell
• Dr. Liz Powell Website https://drlizpowell.com/ 
• Building Open Relationships http://buildingopenrelationsips
• Kevin Patterson Twitter http://twitter.com/PolyRoleModels
• Kevin Patterson Instagram http://instagram.com/PolyRoleModels
• Poly Role Models https://polyrolemodels.tumblr.com/
• Love’s Not Color Blind Book Amazon https://www.amazon.com/dp/1944934464/ref=cm_sw_r_fa_dp_t2_DiNUzbMDAA9EW
• Kink & Poly Aware Professional List from NCFS https://www.kapprofessionals.org/
• Polyamory Friendly Professionals List https://www.polyfriendly.org/
• Healthy Erotic Humiliation Class 2/24/21 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sanctuarys-the-course-hot-and-healthy-humiliation-by-sunny-megatron-tickets-138121642551
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html">https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
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• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
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Episode 152 of American Sex Podcast is jampacked with tips for fantastic fellatio! In our conversation with Carly S we start with the psychology of BJs-- does viewing it as a dominant or submissive act affect our enjoyment and technique? Also learn important penis anatomy, which lube is best, what to do with the balls, gagging, how to handle foreskin, deep throating tricks, how to combat sore jaw or a small mouth, maneuvering around sharp teeth, spitting vs. swallowing, blowing using barriers, how to determine what rhythm & technique your partner enjoys most, how to negotiate oral sex, and more.

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Episode 152 Links

• Carly S. TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@makeupandsin
• Carly S. Twitter https://twitter.com/Makeupandsin
• Carly S. Website https://www.dildoordildont.com/
• Carly S. Beacons https://beacons.ai/makeupandsin
• Healthy Erotic Humiliation Class 2/24/21 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sanctuarys-the-course-hot-and-healthy-humiliation-by-sunny-megatron-tickets-138121642551
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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If you think the latest round of internet censorship doesn’t affect you, think again. Social media TOS changes, Visa/MasterCard halting services on Pornhub, and Section 230 being wrapped up in our COVID relief bills affect not only sex censorship but everyone who uses the internet. What happens when sexual assault survivors can't easily search for resources because the word “sex” is no longer permitted on social media? How do LGBTQ+ youth with no one to turn to find support when activists & educators are being silenced? How do we create change if we’re not allowed to organize social movements on social media? Why is the US government attacking legal sex work sites like Only Fans--the one income source so many marginalized people have turned to during the pandemic? On ep 151 of American Sex Podcast, you’ll learn how all these issues are interrelated and have unsuspecting dark origins.        

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Episode 151 Links

• American Sex Podcast Ep 148 http://sunnymegatron.com/sex-censorship-internet/
• American Sex Podcast Ep 36 http://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/
• Book - Algorithms of Oppression: How Search Engines Reinforce Racism https://www.amazon.com/Algorithms-Oppression-Search-Engines-Reinforce/dp/1479837245/ref=sr_1_1
• Book - Race After Technology: Abolitionist Tools for the New Jim Code https://www.amazon.com/Race-After-Technology-Abolitionist-Tools/dp/1509526404/ref=sr_1_1
• FSC - Free Speech Coalition (needs your donations!) https://www.freespeechcoalition.com/
• EEF - Electronic Frontier Foundation https://www.eff.org/
• Woodhull Freedom Foundation https://www.woodhullfoundation.org/
• Twitter thread about SISEA  https://twitter.com/acvalens/status/1340347550117883907
• Twitter thread about SISEA being reintroduced https://twitter.com/AshleyLatke/status/1347969963135537152
• NYT article “The Children of Porn Hub” rape-trafficking.html"> https://www.nytimes.com/2020/12/04/opinion/sunday/pornhub-rape-trafficking.html
• The Family on Netflix https://www.netflix.com/title/80063867
• Vox - How the Capitol riot revived calls to reform Section 230 https://www.vox.com/recode/22221135/capitol-riot-section-230-twitter-hawley-democrats
• Inside Exodus Cry: The Shady Evangelical Group With Trump Ties Waging War on Pornhub    https://www.thedailybeast.com/inside-exodus-cry-the-shady-evangelical-group-with-trump-ties-waging-war-on-pornhub
• Wayfair & Human Trafficking Statistics - You're Wrong About Podcast https://open.spotify.com/episode/4xgMoffYsLBicu1CnMqqiq?si=TOD_D0srRvOrqT5Vbjw4tw
• Made in Missouri: Senator Hawley's Quest to Revive Obscenity Prosecutions https://www.xbiz.com/news/256564/made-in-missouri-senator-hawleys-quest-to-revive-obscenity-prosecutions
• The New War on Porn: How Moral Crusaders, Mainstream Media and Politicians Are Gunning for XXX https://www.xbiz.com/news/256588/the-new-war-on-porn-how-moral-crusaders-mainstream-media-and-politicians-are-gunning-for-xxx
• New Congress Cleans Slate for Bills Targeting Free Speech, Sex Workers https://www.xbiz.com/news/256616/new-congress-cleans-slate-for-bills-targeting-free-speech-sex-workers
• Senators Propose Far-Reaching New Adult Industry Regulations https://www.xbiz.com/news/256391/senators-propose-far-reaching-new-adult-industry-regulations
• SISEA is “Unworkable” – Not to Mention Likely Unconstitutional https://www.ynot.com/sisea-unworkable-unconstitutional/
• There May Be Casualties, But the War on Porn Will Fail https://www.ynot.com/war-on-porn-will-fail/
• American Women Lost More Than 5 Million Jobs In 2020 https://www.forbes.com/sites/maggiemcgrath/2021/01/12/american-women-lost-more-than-5-million-jobs-in-2020/?sh=2ed73d212857
• The US economy lost 140,000 jobs in December. All of them were held by women https://www.cnn.com/2021/01/08/economy/women-job-losses-pandemic/index.html
• Jobless, Selling Nudes Online and Still Struggling pandemic-users.html?smid=tw-share"> https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/13/business/onlyfans-pandemic-users.html?smid=tw-share
• QAnon’s Creator Made the Ultimate Conspiracy Theory https://foreignpolicy.com/2020/10/06/qanon-creator-ultimate-conspiracy-theory-q/
• A QAnon ‘Digital Soldier’ Marches On, Undeterred by Theory’s Unraveling meme-queen.html"> https://www.nytimes.com/2021/01/17/technology/qanon-meme-queen.html
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
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• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Rope bondage can be visually stunning. But many of us leave erotic human macrame to the experts because the prospect of doing it ourselves is so intimidating. Do we need specialty rope, impeccable technique, and the confidence to go with it all? No according to Midori! On Ep 150 of American Sex Podcast Midori guides us through rope bondage for beginners with items we all have at home. Learn about safety, get inspiration for scene ideas, and how to have fun with long-distance bondage play. Midori also discusses the cultural origins of Shibari. Is it an honorable ancient Japanese practice like many of the rope enthusiasts claim? Or is there some cultural misappropriation at play? The answer may surprise you.

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Episode 150 Links

• Midori Twitter https://twitter.com/PlanetMidori
• Midori Instagram https://www.instagram.com/planetmidori/
• Midori Newsletter inc.com/newsletter">https://www.fhp-inc.com/newsletter
• Midori class/event calendar Inc.com/classes">http://www.FHP-Inc.com/classes
• ONLINE: Interrogation Scenes and Military Play - Part 1. Discussion of Structure & Psychology https://www.brownpapertickets.com/event/5027440
• Midori’s Patreon https://www.patreon.com/PlanetMidori/
• Midori talking about Aural Sex on American Sex Live video stream https://getvokl.com/live-broadcast/Aural-Sex-with-Midori
• Midori Ep 126 American Sex - Seduction http://sunnymegatron.com/midori-seduction-podcast/
• Midori Ep 72 American Sex - Hotter Negotiation http://sunnymegatron.com/hotter-negotiation-midori-podcast/
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• The "Messenger Bag" move with Midori https://youtu.be/wRhw5hupv-w
• Midori's Easy Release 2 Column Rope Tie https://youtu.be/xKMWnGpKDDs
• Midori & Zoe Ligon on Japanese Rope / Shibari https://youtu.be/MvOjPkJ-lyU
• Full length class video: Rope Bondage-Sense & Sensuality Exercises https://www.patreon.com/posts/full-length-rope-43106804
• Midori's Lightning Harness, a rope body harness https://youtu.be/X23nU_d5Vis
• The History & Myths of Japanese Bondage: Censorship, Sex Work, and Othering in the World of Shibari https://journal.spectrumboutique.com/article/the-history-myths-of-japanese-bondage/
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Butt play is for everyone. It doesn’t have a gender or orientation. So many folks are curious but don’t know where to get safe information. Who better to ask than a gay GI doctor who not only knows the medical side of things but is no stranger to butt stuff himself?! On ep 149 of American Sex Podcast, Dr. Carlton tells us everything we need to know about the back door. We discuss enemas, considerations for hemorrhoids and fissures, how to stretch safely, how much is too much, prostate stimulation, anal orgasms for people with vulvas, lubes, fisting, must-know tips for tops and bottoms, and more. Also learn why it’s important to tell your doctor about the kind of sex you have and what to do if they shame you. 

• Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com
• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
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Episode 149 Links

• Dr. Carlton Tiktok https://www.tiktok.com/@doctorcarlton
• Dr Carlton Instagram https://www.instagram.com/doctorcarlton/
• Dr. Carlton Twitter https://twitter.com/doctor_carlton
• Dr Carlton Website (coming soon!) http://DoctorCarlton.net
• Dr. Carlton Email doctorcarlton@doctorcarlton.net
• Kink & Poly Aware Professional List from NCFS https://www.kapprofessionals.org/
• Find an LGBTQ+ Health Care Provider http://glma.org/
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• Pervertibles live stream with hashtag open http://bit.ly/sunnygetvokl
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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Whether it’s for long-distance play during quarantine or to replace lost income using sites like Only Fans, more people than ever are using the internet for sex. Many are shocked when their accounts are shut down after using Zoom for a date, storing thirst trap content on Google Drive, or posting PG-13 content on mainstream social media. Why does this happen? In this conversation, Sunny Megatron details the modern history of sexual censorship in the U.S. starting with Miller vs. California in 1973 diving down the rabbit hole of historical events leading us to where we are now. If you’ve ever wondered why Instagram, TikTok or adult sites have the odd rules they do about adult content, the answer is in this episode-- and it might surprise you. 

• Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com
• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
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Episode 148 Links

• Ep 136 SESTA/FOSTA http://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/
• Ep  83 Lance Hart http://sunnymegatron.com/lance-hart-podcast/
• Frontline 2002 episode on adult industry censorship “American Porn” https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/frontline/film/showsporn/
• An overview of past pornography/obscenity rulings by the US Supreme Court https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/porn/prosecuting/overview.html?pepperjam=&publisherId=96525&clickId=3381471605&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=affiliate
• More information from the Forntline program: https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/pages/frontline/shows/porn/
• Sunny’s episode of Bawdy Storytelling w/the telephone “Fem Dom Mindfuck” story https://bawdystorytelling.com/podcast/season5eps123sunnymegatron
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• Pervertibles live stream with hashtag open http://bit.ly/sunnygetvokl
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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On episode 147 we talk with Bekah Rose about abuse in the kink community and in kink relationships. How do we most effectively deal with habitual abusers in our spaces? Is it always possible to make room for people that abuse to change and heal? What are the most common types of abuse we see within the kink community? In intimate relationships why is it so hard to spot subtle abusive tactics like gaslighting and emotional manipulation? How can we better support others who are experiencing this? What’s the difference between a consent violation and consent failure? Abuse is present in every community and has the potential to perpetrated by anyone in any type of relationship. This is episode required listening no matter what community you belong to.    

• Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com
• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
• Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com
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Episode 147 Links

• Bekah Rose TikTok https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJQMvRwn/
• Bekah Rose Instagram https://www.instagram.com/plusthefuckup/
• Transformative Justice A Curriculum Guide finalrev.pdf"> https://transformharm.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/12/tjcurriculum_design_small-finalrev.pdf
• Toward Transformative Justice A Liberatory Approach to Child Sexual Abuse and other forms of Intimate and Community Violence Document.pdf"> http://www.generationfive.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/07/G5_Toward_Transformative_Justice-Document.pdf
• Handbook on Restorative Justice programmes https://www.unodc.org/pdf/criminal_justice/Handbook_on_Restorative_Justice_Programmes.pdf
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
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In the kink world a mindf*ck involves ethically using mental manipulation to bend a bottom’s reality. Whether it’s the subtle twisting of details to enhance a sensory experience or an elaborate rouse akin to an erotic practical joke, minf*cks can greatly enhance kink & role play. On ep 146 Sir Ezra deconstructs this psychological tool. Learn why mindf*cking gets a bad wrap, what steps to follow when executing a mindf*ck, and hear about real-world examples used in kink scenes. We also discuss how to remain ethical when topping, plus how during vetting, negotiation, and play you can spot red flags in partners using these techniques for malicious manipulation and harmful deceit.

• Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com
• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
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Episode 146 Links

• Sir Ezra Website http://whatsinmykinky.com/
• Sir Ezra TikTok https://www.tiktok.com/@houseofalgos
• Sir Ezra Twitter https://twitter.com/HouseOfAlgos
• Virtual Dom(me) Support Group 11/18 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/domme-support-group-tickets-122446241003
• Virtual Tuesday Book club “The New Topping Book” with Sir Ezra and Queen Ana 10/27-12/15 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/tuesday-book-club-with-sir-ezra-and-queen-ana-the-new-topping-book-tickets-116073132865
• Virtual Saturday Book Club “The New Topping Book” 10/31-12/19 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/saturday-book-club-with-sir-ezra-and-queen-ana-the-new-topping-book-tickets-117051830175
• S.O.S. with Ana: Soft Skills, Organization, and Support Group 11/19 & 12/18 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sos-with-ana-soft-skills-open-discussion-and-support-hosted-queen-ana-tickets-116270828177
• S.O.S. with Ana: Soft Skills, Organization, and Support Group Thursdays in 2021 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/sos-with-ana-soft-skills-open-discussion-and-support-hosted-queen-ana-tickets-126439807869
• Finding A Play Partner class 11/30 https://www.eventbrite.com/e/finding-your-play-partner-tickets-126191495159
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
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• Pervertibles live stream with hashtag open http://bit.ly/sunnygetvokl
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

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• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html"> https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
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The most popular place to learn about kink is the internet. Social media platforms have become a wealth of BDSM information for newbies and beginners alike. While websites and pop culture have made kink more acceptable and accessible, they are also allowing potentially dangerous misinformation to spread like wildfire. On ep 145 Safiya Darling talks about the plusses and pitfalls of learning about kink in the digital age. We discuss edgeplay activities like knife play & erotic choking, how to properly vet partners and educators, ways to be sure you’re getting a well-rounded kink education & more.  

Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com

• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
• Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com
• Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter 

 Sunny & Ken, xo!

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Episode 145 Links

• Safiya Darling Twitter https://twitter.com/spsafiya
• Safiya Darling TikTok https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMJ5P9HSm/
• Safiya Darling Facebook https://www.facebook.com/SexPositiveSafiya/
• Safiya Darling Instagram https://www.instagram.com/sexpositivesafiya/?hl=en
• Safiya Darling email SexPositiveSafiya@gmail.com
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• GetVokl BDSM Q&A live stream, Weds 11/11 8pm PT live stream http://bit.ly/aspstream
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex

Episode 145 Sponsor, Affiliate & Giveaway Info 

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• Prestige Cams: A model owned, model-centric website, which works off Mobile Cell and Laptop for Pay per Minute Webcams, Phone Chat, and XXX Content. Registered models own their own content, which is protected by DMCA. https://prestigecams.net/
• 10% off American Sex Podcast & Sunny Megatron merch with code SUNNY (t-shirts, mugs, phone cases & more) http://bit.ly/sunnyshirts
• Sunny & Ken’s classes on Kink Academy http://bit.ly/kinkacademyelectric  & http://bit.ly/kinkacademyhumiliation
• Prostate Play for Beginners (recorded class) from Sugar Baltimore milking-for-beginners.html"> https://www.sugartheshop.com/prostate-milking-for-beginners.html
• 15% off your order at Lovehoney when you use this link http://bit.ly/lovehoney15 (This link can be a little wonky and does not keep tracking cookies. If the discount does not show up in your cart (or disappears after you shop around on the site), access the site with that link again. Your items will still be in your cart & the discount will appear)
• 15% off everything at Lelo.com with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything (with minor restrictions) online from woman-owned, feminist, trans & queer-friendly Early To Bed http://bit.ly/sunnyetb with code SUNNY
• 10% off everything from Fun Factory using this link http://bit.ly/sunnyfunfactory and the code SUNNY at checkout
• At least 25% off BDSM gear & sex toys with Stockroom’s daily deal (there’s a new product each day!) https://www.stockroom.com/dailydeal/?acc=7c590f01490190db0ed02a5070e20f01
• 15% off most items from Stockroom http://bit.ly/sunnystockroom with code SUNNY

Age players are not only often misunderstood by those in the vanilla world but even by the kink community. On ep 144 Mako Allen sets the record straight. Age play often involves tapping into a particular state of mind and vulnerability and he explains why this is so appealing. We discuss if and how age play might be tied to rewriting childhood trauma, the existence of dominant littles, what benefits those playing the role of a big enjoy, and diaper play, plus Mako tells us about his personal journey rejecting exploring the role of a little due to fear and stigma. We also learn about the new app Mako created to help those in M/s and D/s dynamic manage punishments and rewards.  

• Submit your BDSM & sex advice questions by email to americansexpodcast@gmail.com
• To support American Sex podcast, please visit patreon.com/americansex (plus you’ll get all episodes early, secret episodes, bonus stories from guests, on-air shout-outs, stuff in the mail & more!)
• Get friendly with us on Twitter at @AmericanSexPod or visit sunnymegatron.com or americansexpodcast.com
• Join our mailing list by visiting http://sunnymegatron.com/newsletter 

 Sunny & Ken, xo!

____________________________________

Episode 144 Links

• Mako Allen Twitter https://twitter.com/makoallen
• Big Little Podcast http://www.biglittlepodcast.com
• Website http://www.onlydoing.net
• Blog http://www.onlydoing.net
• WeMinder Info https://info.weminder.app/coming-soon & https://blog.weminder.app/
• SESTA FOSTA Episode http://sunnymegatron.com/kitty-stryker-sesta-fosta-consent-juggalos/
• Esperanto  https://www.buzzsprout.com/962578/5288973
• Ken's TTRPG Gaming Streams (Sunny Plays Tuesday nights at 5pm PT) http://twitch.tv/thunderpantsrpg
• Ken's gaming Twitter handle http://twitter.com/thunderpantsdm
• XBIZ Industry Forum https://www.xbiz.net/index.php?c=home.updates&referrer_id=1410259
• American Sex Podcast Discord Community http://bit.ly/discordasp
• American Sex Podcast subreddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/americansexpodcast
• Pervertibles live stream with hashtag open http://bit.ly/sunnygetvokl
• American Sex Podcast Patreon http://patreon.com/americansex