Sophie McCallum has first and foremost on her website the question, “Are you ready to love being you?” This is over her looking very chic riding an escalator up from the NYC Subway. She emulates strength and grace in mid life, but that hasn’t always been the case. She tells about hitting herself repeatedly in the head with a brush when she looked in the mirror or biting her arm so hard it bled when she was a young girl. When she met her husband and had her boys, she became a super mom… until that fell apart and after divorce came shared custody, and then the terrible bouts of drinking. Sophie hit her bottom. I can relate as a sober woman who used to drink my feelings of low self-worth and emotions away! When she became sober, she was able to look within and find and understand long trapped emotions that held her back from knowing her true self.

So why hasn’t she written her book yet? On today’s episode we get real and honest about our journeys as moms and also as rock star women (she actually plays in a band), as well as my needling her about why she hasn’t yet written the book and why.

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As a Certified Professional Coach, Energy Leadership Index Master Practitioner and School of Life Participant, Sophie’s mission is to guide women to their strongest position: Self-Love. Join us as we find out where she is in the writing process, her many relapses with alcohol and amazing tools for self-love.

You can learn more about Sophie at https://selflovepeddler.com/meet-sophie

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I have written a  book!  Check out No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making The Choices That Can Change Your Life. I also have a 21 week series Abused No Longer. 

A main focus of certified Leadership Coach Tanya Geisler’s work is with the imposter complex. Come on, don’t act like you don’t have one. We all do, even the most accomplished of us have that voice that tells us we need to do more, work harder and just be better.  On today’s show, I talk with Tanya about how she landed on this work as well as how the imposter shows up in her in terms of the book she wants to write but hasn’t yet. I coach her through her book idea and we debate what kind of  

She has a great Iconic quiz which she created to not make people feel crappy about having the value of perfection. Why isn’t it okay that you want to show up for excellence? You can be a big vision thinker but women who own businesses, or first time authors, tend to have a intrinsic desire to belong which can be translated into a desire to belong in a tribal way. So we cap ourselves because it doesn’t feel good to be the first. Or what got me here won’t get me there, and what I need to do means I have to become a variation of myself I don’t want to be.

When people we love in our life tell us they see so much for us at a young age, we can feel the onus of the broadness of that goal. So when supporting women, Tonya likes to be super intentional in her recognition of what is available for women. She talks about the book is the expression of thought leadership. Writing comes out of us to be expressed from our hearts. Sometimes we don’t understand why we want to write about what sets us on fire so we suppress it when in fact it is our greatest message.

She also tells me she loves the name of my podcast with “the fire of a thousand suns” which may be my favorite statement of 2023.

You can learn more about Tanya at https://tanyageisler.com/

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out recent episodes with Sarah Sperry, a Wellness Coach who works with women about burnout, or one of my great book clients Ethan Bach talking about his five psychotic breaks. Subscribe to not miss any upcoming guests, and if you liked this episode, I would love a review! It’s the lifeblood of podcasts.

I have written a  book!  Check out No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making The Choices That Can Change Your Life. I also have a 21 week series Abused No Longer. 

Chronic exhaustion and burnout can hit complete with panic attacks, seemingly coming out of nowhere. The answer at first for health seems to be medical doctors, and we can seek out all the opinions when in truth we know in our gut we have to make change to stop running on empty. The panic attacks can be painful, and really are our wake up calls.

So as highly motivated women, we have to look at the lens differently. Wellbeing coach Sarah Sperry was working in the male-dominated field of finance when she hit her burnout. The problem she was having was shared by lots of women, but the company benefits were box-checking (under the guise of great services). She had never heard of burn out before until it came up on her Bloomberg terminal. She read the article, gobbled up some books and researched the condition. She was ultimately self-diagnosing. No doctor had asked her about her stress levels!

Women in male dominated fields who are “the only” face unconscious bias and toxic work environments contribute to the burn out. They can't seek out other women in leadership roles to have counsel because they feel alone. Luckily, they can hire someone like Sarah to help them through these signs of burnout.

Join me as I coach Sarah through her book idea. We debate what kind of  book she could write and the how to/self-help model to tell about the stories she hears from women could ultimately give them a new path in six steps. Women need to author a new code for living in business so they can feel not so alone, and have other solutions.

You can learn more about Sarah at https://www.sperrywellness.com

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out recent episodes with Linda Lingo, a financial coach who rolls out the great tips for making money,  or Author Gretchen Hydo sharing about her book on how to Break Our Dirty Little Secrets.

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I have written a  book!  Check out No Longer Denying Sexual Abuse: Making The Choices That Can Change Your Life. I also have a 21 week series Abused No Longer.

Money! Money! Money! What a big conversation for women! Women are so inquisitive and smart, but we have a tendency to not ask all the questions about our finances especially if we are being undermined by a financial advisor, or told by a partner we don’t know anything about money.

Financial Coach Linda Lingo has personal and relatable experiences that are so helpful to women. She stayed in a marriage for way too long because she liked the retirement numbers. She was so tied to the retirement plan, she couldn't sever the tie. When she did write the six figure check to leave the marriage, she found freedom. She also looked at what her ex-husband had told her about herself. That she was incapable with money, and she had taken on these false beliefs until she was on her own.

She helps women to feel confident to ask the right questions about managing their money and investing. She helps them out of their education blind spots by looking at their money mindset and blocks. She also focuses as a coach on money values. By helping women to build confidence and education, they can build wealth.

She wants to write books about money for the various ages. Like in your 30’s, you are in the accumulation age and typically making a decent living. She wishes she had known in the 30’s how to invest the 401k. The HR person cannot tell you what to do. There is not a lot of education out there. Listen in to hear her advice for the 40’s and older and what she would put in her book.

For all ages, she asks the universal question, what is important about money for you?

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out Why We Second Guess Ourselves with Sunday Paper Editor Stacey Lindsay or Author Gretchen Hydo sharing about her book on How to Break Our Dirty Little Secrets.

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Also, my book is out!  Head over to nolongerdenyingsexualabuse.com.

Chris Whitney worked in construction, sold women’s shoes and was successful in insurance until one day a famous global evangelist came to his church when he was working as an usher, and showed Chris an ocean liner filled with grain headed to China to feed hungry people. This man was the first guide to plant the seed for Chris to one day open One Gen Away in Nashville that rescues food from restaurants, grocery stores, caterers and farms before it goes to waste. In 2022, his organization, with his wife Elaine, (that they started from the trunk of their car) served food to over 3 million hungry people in three states. Hope, honor and dignity shared through food is their mission.

Chris also unveils great insights about service. When we serve others, we get the answers to our troubles in our heart.  When we listen to others, we discover we all have the same wants, needs and desires. He also speaks on the power of prayer: When someone has one need, they have others. If you are food insecure, you probably are transportation insecure. The prayer can be, is there anything I can pray about for you today?  The goal is not trying to win them over (which is something that can be assumed about Christianity as manipulative.)

If you are at a turning point in your life, and unsure which way to turn, Chris can open your eyes to a new way of living. He plans to write a book in 2023 about obedience, which involves sacrifice and deepening your trust.

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out Why We Second Guess Ourselves with Sunday Paper Editor Stacey Lindsay or Author Gretchen Hydo sharing about her book on how to Break Our Dirty Little Secrets.

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You can find Chris Whitney at https://onegenaway.com/

Want 2023 to be the year where you get results? Sure, you have seen so many coaches say this, especially in the early months… but the key to results is to slow your mind down, and figure out what are the origins of self-defeating feelings and voices in your head.  My conversation with Leadership Coach Jenna Dillon who is all about results is very eye opening in the way that we can go after our goals, and have solid discernment about the emotions attached to your dreams. She uses a whiteboard in her sessions for clients to see what is coming out of their mouths about how they truly feel  about their dreams and the realities.

2023 is already an on fire year and this interview is designed to help you sew the seeds in the soil for who you want to be by December 2023. We all have our big goals, and how fantastic to be able to acquire them this year. Transparency and our roles in our success are not to be avoided by just pushing through and being a taskmaster. Being tough isn’t the key. We can be soft and also incredibly successful as women. We talked about my mindset being the true driver of wanting to sell my book to a top publisher, syndicating my weekly column and becoming a media conglomerate.

We also talked about why people hedge on investing in coaching when it could be the very conversation they need to get the results they desire. What do people need to do to maintain their dreams through the course of the year and not stop believing? Coach Jenna talks about the “being conversation.” It’s more about who you are first, diving deep, and getting rid of underlying habits and associations that are wired in our brains. It’s not the magnitude of the goal… but rather are you the person set up to receive that goal.

Will Jenna write a book in 2023? She talks about how much information is in her head that she wants to put in a book, it holds her back. But I explain how book coaching is designed to tease out the best ideas that demand the spotlight and then grow the book from there.

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I met business strategist & coach (and former therapist) Diann Wingert on the Zoom screen at a women’s networking group where I just knew when she talked that she was speaking my language. Her multiple marriages, single parenting, and several careers were similar to my life course - but also the shame that can come from living out of the box.  She speaks with us today about the idea of personal evolution. Most people “pick and stick” early in life  - decide who they think they are, take the same vacation every year - and those of us who pivot and make change can think, why can’t I just stay the course?  We question and judge why we are so driven to change versus applauding ourselves for being willing to live out of our comfort zones. We even leave situations that are for all intensive purposes, successes, when we know there is more to explore.

Diann is a delight to listen as she has great metaphors like a “too tight pair of shoes” and “passing for normal.” We also have a frank discussion on her leaving the Christian church, and how I just was baptized a Christian.

And of course I take her through the drill of why she hasn’t yet written a book. We talk about the level of commitment as a big issue.

Listen to hear more about:

• Why you shouldn’t “stay the course” if you are not satisfied.
• When it is a good idea to sit back and take some inventory of your situation.
• How abuse survivors can find each each other due to our chameleon nature.

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out Dr. Bonnie Zucker, an LA psychologist, who talks about anxiety, or Author Gretchen Hydo sharing about her book on how to Break Our Dirty Little Secrets.

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Join me and journalist Stacey Lindsay on today’s show to talk about how women can second guess themselves when it comes to asking questions and being curious. It’s not entirely the fault of the female race! The patriarchy has kept women from asking challenging and different questions for ages. Women have been afraid of what will happen when they act outside the box, and that has fed into a universal lack of self-trust.

Stacey Lindsay has written for many popular outlets as a journalist and reporter, including holding the position of Senior Editor for Maria Shriver’s Sunday Paper and editorial director of September Letters, a mental health advocacy platform (https://septemberletters.com/) created by Jaspre Guest and Brittany Snow. Over the course of her career, she has learned how to ask the questions she feels most curious about in her stories and discovered a new level of intimacy with her subjects. At a press junket, she deviates from the standard questioning of a celebrity and discovers they have a shared narrative about grief.  Women writers and journalists that have inspired her include Anna Quinn and  Sharyn Alfonsi.

Knowing she wants to write a  book, we explore what makes someone a writer, and how unknown it can be just how hard writing is. But if you have that longing and desire to put a voice to the page, you can push through and write a book that has an impact out into the world. You can read more about Stacey at staceyannlindsay.com.

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Burnout is a buzz word. Women everywhere are talking about it. But Rebecca Whitman is an abundance coach and she doesn't want women to be burnt out. She wants them to feel Balanced, Beautiful and Abundant. Yes, please!  And she sees life in a beautiful way. On this week’s episode, she dishes about finding her spouse, and building a fulfilling life that didn’t look like her original game plan a decade prior. She has also written a book How to Make Six Figures Working Part Time (which is really about living in the 7 pillars of abundance, and you will be shocked the order - finance is not first!) Her dad was who she credits on pushing her to write, and she now has the  idea that one day she may write a memoir.

Join me as she gives sage advice about what holds women back from meeting their mate, her history and emotional evolution in playing tennis, and why she created coaching programs that only cost $7.

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Clinical Psychologist Bonnie Zucker writes about panic and anxiety, and offers tips on how to lessen the blow, and yours truly does a stand-alone episode on Finding Your Safe Space in Writing.

To connect with Rebecca, visit: https://linktr.ee/rebeccaewhitman? 

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Tom Henschel is a whole a pie of amazingness– he’s not only a Julliard trained actor but an extremely successful coach helping leaders in top companies such as Disney, Netflix, Walmart, Amazon, navigate the workplace, their peers, and conflict externally and internally. I met Tom early in my coaching career and we reconnected recently over our podcasts.  Tom’s podcast, The Look & Sound of Leadership, is ranked in the top 1% of most popular. His use of dialogue with an imaginary client brings in an experiential component.  We enjoyed talking about leadership, his past TV career, the power of listening and why Tom, with good reason,  will never write a book.

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out former manager of Britney Spears and Steven Tyler Rebecca Warfield on working with creatives, and also Ryan Farley on writing on the hit show Ozark.

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