Talk Thirty To Meinactive
- Publisher |
- Anthony Turgman and Randolph Zuniga
- Media Type |
- audio
- Podknife tags |
- Growing Up,
- Millennials,
- Society & Culture
- Categories Via RSS |
- Personal Journals,
- Society & Culture
Take a journey with us as we tackle the hard truths and the joys of life in your 30s. This weekly show covers the disruptors, the history-makers and the storytellers driven by a desire to boldly live their truth and transcend career conformity. So, get ready for our real-life discussions on relationships, finances, career, race relations, community, life and a whole lot of laughs! Millennials, welcome to 30.
- People |
- Country Of Origin |
- USA
- Produced In |
- Los Angeles, CA
- Premiere Date |
- 2016-01-10
- Frequency |
- Weekly
- Explicit |
- Yes
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Nov 14, 2018
The Many Stages of 30 (feat. Tyree Vance)
When you start to realize life is starting to change, change with it.
Can we challenge the standard educational model to pursue a different path?
Tyree shares how during his graduate school days, he struggles to accept the reality that it would change his life. But, knowing how much effort it took to get there - along with striving to make his mother proud - he finished the studies and graduated. But, was it worth it? A lot of us struggle with education as a bonus. Many of us never went to graduate school in our 20s and may consider it now. So, what's the real deal with graduate school?
Transitions always have a catalyst that help to illuminate the path
Losing family members is never easy. Tyree shares how his struggle to accept losing his mother shaped his 30s moving forward. What choice do you have other than to accept and move on? IS there more to accepting loss than simply admitting it happened and to cope with the hole left in your life? Turg mentions that loss doesn't always necessarily translate to a bad thing. And on the opposite side of loss, there is gain. Lessons can be learned in both forms and may be equally difficult to cope with.
So with loss comes gain and with gain comes personal growth
How do we measure our progress without a catalyst to help push us through to the next level? What changes inside of us bleeds into our lives in more ways than we can measure. Tyree shares a bit of his perspective on the totality of death and the weight personal loss may carry on someone's soul. Nothing is final - but it may feel that way. Rise above and take yourself out of the moment in order to see what the future may hold.
Nov 08, 2018
Don’t Doubt the Possibilities (feat. Brandie Freely)
The guys are joined by Brandie Freely - author,writing coach - as they dive into the essence of adult-level procrastination, why writing a book can teach you a lot about yourself, how love manifests itself in many different ways and...
Battling long-term, adult level procrastination
When trying to accomplish tasks that take a lot of focus, it can seem daunting to even think of crossing the finish line. Brandie shares her journey as she fights to complete her first book after a 10-year long process.
Long distance relationships don't have to be out of reach
Brandie gets personal as she and Randy compare experiences dating long-distance partners throughout their 30s and how that takes more than just a tough spirit to accomplish. The hardships of dating long-distance are well-documented, but how do these two really rate their experiences? Was it all worth the trouble?
When taking a chance on someone pays off
Eventually, when you find the person that's right for you it's a good time to reflect on the journey you took to get there. Brandie shares her struggles and successes with the triumphant outcome of her long-distance relationship and what it means for her today.
Learning to not to doubt the possibilities can help you learn more about yourself
When Brandie had the chance to reflect on her accomplishments to-date, it became all-to-real of a realization that staying open to all of the opportunities and possible outcomes was her key to success.Closing doors leads to remorse and that's the last thing anyone needs in their lives, let alone their 30s.
Oct 30, 2018
The Decisions That Make Us and the Actions That Make Us Great (feat. Assemblymember Chris Holden)
This week Turg and Randy Z took a trip out to the beautiful 41st State Assembly District in Pasadena, California to connect with Assemblymember Chris Holden as he shares his journey through his 20s and 30s in the political arena as well as insights and tips for how to join the noble fight as an activist in your community.
So, you're in your 20s and you're thinking about politics?!
Chris shares his exposure to politics at an early age and how he was able to reflect on his role to make and impact changes in the community in which he grew up. So what does a 23-year-old know about politics? Well, really not a whole lot - but that doesn't mean you can't try to shake things up a bit. But, the decision wasn't easy. Chris talks about the choice between his love for basketball and the commitment he made to his community to pursue his purpose.
Find out more about Assemblymember Chris Holden on his district website and on Twitter
Oct 18, 2018
Learning to Grow Through Emotional Experiences
Another one for the road – Turg and Randy Z sit down for yet another 1-on-1 conversation that touches on the depth of our human emotion, experiencing traumatic situations and how we can use (our) children as a conduit to better understand our own emotion and how all of this relates to what helps push us through our 30s.
Kids are a tough nut to crack – but what if we had stronger tools with which to ‘crack’ them?
When we think of survival mode, we don’t really understand what activates within us that triggers our survivalist mentality. Randy shares his recent experience with bedtime at the Turgman residence and how he equates his experience to when Tom Hanks’ character in Castaway lost Wilson.
Turg walks us through his experiences with parenting and the conversations that couple must have to divide and conquer the “kiddie chaos”. The most important thing to remember is to not let the chaos transcend reason and destroy the relationship. The next most important thing is to remember not to lose your cool – they’re just kids (easier said than done. Trust me, I know! – Turg)
But going back to survival mode
Survival mode is something we are all born with. It’s also something we aren’t always too sure on how to control. It can lead to undue stress and anxiety and if we let it – it can destroy our interpersonal relationships. Not to mention it can harm how we view ourselves. It’s important to understand our approach to our own emotions as well as our approach to parenting so that we are ensure the development of successful, confident and strong children.
When taking risks, we don’t always understand what they are and how to approach them
How we view the risks we take depends on how we perceive the situation and how well we take hold and work our way past the adversity. In its most simple form, we can learn a lot from our children and how they handle the ever-changing environment around them.
Rationalizing a child’s behavior to help us better understand our own emotions
Understanding the situation and understanding how to handle it – and most importantly not beating the crap out of your kid is the most important part of being a parent.
Oct 10, 2018
Determining Your Path Isn’t Easy
This week, Turg and Randy Z take a moment out of the interview schedule to go back to basics and discuss careers and pathways in more depth than ever before.
Is spending too much time at one career stop a bad thing?
Randy mulls over the past 10 years of his career at the same place. It's a bit of knowing you are in the right place and a little bit of complacency. But, with the comfort comes benefit and sacrifice. It's up to you to determine what is worth more at this point in your life. Is it worth starting over, or is it worth staying and growing in one place? Turg contrasts the last 4 years of career growth and challenges. There is a lot of change that comes with starting over so frequently, so when do you stop and 'smell the roses'? Does it ever end?
When we take time to reflect - what do we find as the result of our thoughts and ambitions?
Turg shares his experiences in speaking with other people on LinkedIn as he has found a new 'calling' as a self-proclaimed career coach of sorts. And within the recent dialogue, Turg shares a story about one of his LinkedIn interactions that stood out and serves as inspiration for him to reconsider the career path he's chosen. Seeking out others online - especially people you don't know - is sometimes a good strategy to get some real-time feedback without judgement. Have you ever considered going out of your 'local' network to find advice about your job or entrepreneurial aspirations?
Why is it so hard to take your own advice?
New conversations always bring about this revelation. So, why is it that we can never seem to find the answer? Why is it that it's so much easier to watch others succeed rather than to try and succeed within our own world? Of course, every circumstance is different and offers its own set of challenges. Some people are just more risk averse than others and some people plain don't care about the risk or even considering it and just take a leap of faith simply based on confidence.
So in the end, how do I figure out what I really want to do?
This is a challenging question that we can never really answer for you. But, here are some things you have to consider when contemplating your current situation (if you're not already self-employed):
Do you want to feel fulfilled as part of an established enterprise?Do you want to feel that sense of collaborative validation?Do you feel like you've learned enough throughout your career to do it "on your own" as an entrepreneur? Do you know the risks associated with your decisions to stay or "go" and have you realistically evaluated them from every angle? Can you really account for every factor in your life that may impact your success? (The real answer here is NO, but it doesn't hurt to ask...)
And of course, while we are always advocating finding your self and doing something you love - pursue the most realistic approach; something that works for you. In the end, if you're not happy - reach out and find a support system that will help you see, learn and grow more.
Oct 04, 2018
Finding the Courage to Overcome the Pain (feat. Lakitia Woodard)
This week Turg and Randy Z are joined by LaKitia Woodard - Founder of A Sister's Truth, a company focused on helping women cope with the hardships that arise throughout their journey - as they discuss the reality behind the story of a sexual abuse survivor who set out on a mission to discover her purpose in life while working to inspire others to find courage behind their own voice.
Sharing your story not only helps inspire others, it helps liberate the soul
LaKitia shares her story - or as she puts it - her journey to purpose and the feeling of loss she felt as she quietly suffered. It took one instance for her to break out of that feeling of perpetual hopelessness - when she began sharing her story. From then on, her journey was clear: help others in need of the same help, no matter the problem.
The truth is that everybody has common ground
When we focus on exposing our truth and converting that into our purpose, we win. The benefit of sharing what pains us throughout our lives is the ability to find others who share the same experiences. Unifying a community of like-minded people, LaKitia focuses on searching out the issues and turning them into triumphs. This helps liberate others to love themselves and own their truth in order to overcome and find the courage to overcome their pain.
The 30s are amazing - so why do most people fear turning 30?
Sharing a lot of what set the stage for her 30s, LaKitia talks about what made her 30s so powerful. Establishing herself and learning about herself and what drove her to success all began with her first experience in sharing her story. It all boiled down to a single interaction with a little girl who had been a consistent victim of sexual abuse. This interaction helped spur the passion behind her mission to help others fight these wrongs. The inspiration that came from that one moment helped her affirm what she sought to find.
United by a singular purpose
Often, when we look back at our lives and try to identify the turning point it comes down to a single moment in time. When we take the time to think about the triumphs we all experience throughout our lives, the ideal we need to maintain is that we help others along the way; it's not solely about us. How we help others throughout our journey through 30 is how we help ourselves thrive and grow as members of this global community.
To find out more about LaKitia and her mission at A Sister's Truth and join her on her mission to help others on their journey through 30.
Sep 26, 2018
The Difference Between Need To and Want To
Join Turg and Randy Z as they rap battle it out with their guest Jonathan - lawyer and once-upon-a-time rapper - as they discuss the duality of doing what you know you have to do and quenching that nagging feeling of what "could be" if you pursued your true purpose - something completely different than now.
What happens when you look back and realize you missed one of life's hidden messages?
Jon shares his experiences with choosing Law over an MBA and choosing school over pursuing a career in music. When we look back on our lives and the experiences we encounter, we can easily point out where things went wrong. How often have you wondered how different things could be had you pursued a different path throughout your 20s? How would that have impacted your 30s?
The choices we make don't always land us down the path we envisioned, so why don't we just start over?
Shifting gears and pursuing a passion as a full-time career after investing so much time and effort into your existing career is a tough thing to imagine. Jon discusses how he is using his passion to help him supplement his current skill sets. Being a full-time lawyer doesn't allow time for much else. But, taking on his passion in a different way - from a different perspective - is something he is pursuing to help him
Why do we reach these revelations of change in our 30s?
A lot of what we think boils down to that feeling of accomplishing something. A lot of us are approaching that point in our lives where we feel we have achieved a milestone. At that point, do we shift gears and change our path or do we stay the course? That nagging feeling we get - that thought of "I could be doing something more fulfilling" keeps chipping away at your patience for your current life choices. What do we do now? The guys discuss the challenges of fighting convention among those feelings of knowing we could do something much greater and on our terms. The focus of a Millennial mindset emphasizes independence and individuality. The world is stacked against us, but it is up to us to challenge the norm and take that leap to embrace the unknown.
But what about everything we might potentially risk?
The sacrifice that people made for us to get here is something in need of preservation. Jon mentions that there is a balance between just risking it all and taking a measured approach to pursuing a passion as a full-time gig. That's a very real fact. We are the product of several generations of sacrifice. Whether we realize it or not, we are here to preserve the hard work of those that helped shape our future. But, that doesn't always mean we shouldn't pursue what truly makes us happy. Jon shares how he is building his base to help him launch something even greater than what a 9-to-5 can provide.
Sep 19, 2018
We Might Actually Know Something (feat. Leslie Antonoff)
Join Turg and Randy Z as they are joined by guest and friend-of-the-show Leslie Antonoff - blogger, writer, cooking star - as they discuss how daily growth and experience can help propel you to the next level in your life and...
Knowing what to expect can be helpful sometimes...
We can't really know what the expect when we haven't been there yet. But, throughout the journey through our 30s we are sometimes presented with the opportunity to learn at light speed. These experiences can help us generate a lot of knowledge in a short amount of time. Now - approaching our mid-30s - we can leverage the experience to help us thrive in our endeavors.
Being over-exposed to things isn't always a bad thing
Though our generation has been painted as the "slash generation" in somewhat of a negative light, it isn't a bad thing. We are being exposed to so much in such a short amount of time that we are able to narrow our focus down on something we enjoy. Whether you pursue your passion or passionately pursue your endeavor, leverage what you learn to give you the edge.
Millennials and kids get a bad wrap, but is it all true?
If you have kids, you know it's tough. Statistically, Millennials have been acknowledged as the least likely to have kids. But why is that? Do kids get a bad wrap or is it just our personalities? Turg and Leslie discuss how kids are a lot of work, but in the end it's a joy they cannot live without. Kids do get a bad wrap among Millennials, but maybe it's because we just want to enjoy the freedoms. Or maybe it's a fear of impacting future generations.
Sep 12, 2018
Chasing Your Dreams (feat. Janice Llamoca)
Join Turg and Randy Z and their special guest Janice Llamoca - multimedia freelance journalist and associate producer for NPR's Latino USA - as they discuss Janice's journey through her 20s into her 30s as she climbed the ranks in her career as a journalist and producer.
Where does a journey start and end?
That is the question often asked, but rarely answered. It's difficult to know where life will take you throughout your journey. But, there's one thing you can always rely on, your sense of determination to strive toward your dreams. Janice shares with the guys how she managed to navigate her way through a tumultuous period in her 20s and still tackle her goals to land her dream job.
Plans don't always pan out, so what then?
Janice talks about how she planned to elevate her career game by continuing on with grad school. Well, turned out that it was too expensive to justify. When plans don't work out, sometimes we need to get creative. Combining skill with education doesn't always have to cost a fortune. Janice shares how she got creative and still got the degree she sought.
Cultural influence is a necessary part of embracing your heritage
Janice shares how she learned to embrace her culture through the spoken word. Through this she hopes to help influence others to learn about and embrace their culture. Her role in the community can be felt in a much broader way. Janice helps give back to others by simply sharing her knowledge and her stories.
To learn more about Janice or to hear her piece - With You, Peru - on NPR's Latino USA, follow the links.
Sep 05, 2018
Faking It Until You Make It (feat. Erin Rivera)
This week Turg and RandyZ as they redefine one of the many 'isms' that define the Millennial generation: "Faking it until you make it" with their guest Erin Rivera - photographer, videographer and brand storyteller. There are times when life just takes a turn and just going with it is the best bet. But what happens when that takes a turn for the worst and you end up stuck at a crossroads?
Mixing business and pleasure - which gives way to which?
Letting a relationship define you. What changes when it all ends?
Is dating at 30 contributing to the rise of the vanity in our society?
Feeling the pressure to get it right now more than ever. Can that lead to getting it wrong instead?
Risk = success, so what now?
Nov 14 | 00:43:18
The Many Stages of 30 (feat. Tyree Vance)
Nov 08 | 00:32:46
Don’t Doubt the Possibilities (feat. Brandie Freely)
Oct 30 | 00:40:50
The Decisions That Make Us and the Actions That Make Us Great (feat. Assemblymember Chris Holden)
Oct 18 | 00:30:51
Learning to Grow Through Emotional Experiences
Oct 10 | 00:40:25
Determining Your Path Isn’t Easy
Oct 04 | 00:40:25
Finding the Courage to Overcome the Pain (feat. Lakitia Woodard)
Sep 26 | 00:35:23
The Difference Between Need To and Want To
Sep 19 | 00:35:58
We Might Actually Know Something (feat. Leslie Antonoff)
Sep 12 | 00:32:30
Chasing Your Dreams (feat. Janice Llamoca)
Sep 05 | 00:36:00
Faking It Until You Make It (feat. Erin Rivera)
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