Katherine and Naama discuss the popular personal advertisement section known as "Missed Connections," made popular on Craigslist. Who and what are the authors of these ads really hoping to attract? Subscribe to "we met online" for new episodes every Monday on anchor.fm/we-met-online, substack.com/wemetonline and follow us on twitter @wemetonlinepod.

A bonus episode that will most likely self-destruct within 24 hours about the events of this week and weaponized concern trolling.Bartók: Dance Suite, Sz. 77 - 1. Moderato. London Philharmonic. 1965 Decca Music Group Limited.

On the inaugural episode of "we met online," Naama and Katherine discuss 2011's seminal doc, Catfish: the film that launched the TV show, the phenomenon, and the prolific career f its star, Nev Schulman. Subscribe at: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/we-met-online/episodes/CATFISH-e21os99/a-a9k7oeo

Here's a bonus episode with Dr Sohom Das (@dr_s_das), a London-based forensic psychiatrist, author, and YouTuber who I met on the Shaun Attwood Show, answering some of my questions about violence, criminal behavior, mental illness and where they all meet. Check out Dr. Das's YouTube channel, "A Psych for Sore Minds": https://t.co/NyhrUHxWkc——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255—————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

Today’s episode features a young man who’ll go by Paul, in his 30s, from England, who’s not quite an incel - he lost his virginity at 27 and had a brief relationship of a couple months - but otherwise, he basically is. He thinks that his relationship with his mother might have had something to do with it, a theme that seems to run quietly throughout the incelosphere. "Momma Said" by the Shirelles. 1961. Courtesy of UMG. ——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255—————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

This week’s guest is Jake (@FIat_Stanley), a 23 year-old American incel who doesn’t really identify as such; he isn’t much of a joiner. He’s also abstinent from alcohol and mind-altering substances, and he believes there’s a connection. We discuss, and get into a fascinating discussion about ethics, consent, and social engineering. J.I.D. performing "151 Rum" by J.I.D. 2019. Dreamville Records. Check out Jake's YouTube channel, @Jakester897: here. ——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255 —————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

Today we sit down with Joe Whittaker (@CTProject_JW), an extremism researcher who teaches cybercrime at Swansea University in Wales, to continue our series about the wonderful world of Countering Violent Extremism. We talk about his research on online radicalization and get into the nuts and bolts of some of these "derad" programs everyone’s always talking about.——————————————————————— "untitled 07 | levitate" by Kendrick Lamar. 2016. Courtesy of Universal Music Group.——————————————————————— Read Joe's article about online radicalization: https://www.universiteitleiden.nl/binaries/content/assets/customsites/perspectives-on-terrorism/2022/issue-4/whittaker.pdf——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255—————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

Today you’re in for another treat with Gio (@giantgio), host of Gio’s Content Minded Corner, a fellow podcaster and fantastic artist (and a truecel, according to him, for those of you listeners griping about the excess of normies on the lineup). We discuss inceldom, romance, philosophy, the e-Right, gatekeeping, turning 30, critical theory, wrestling, Law & Order SVU, the gender wars, pay-pigs, and much more. Dig in. "Never Meant" by American Football. 1999. Courtesy of Polyvinyl Records. ——————————————————————— Check out Gio's podcast, Content Minded, at https://www.youtube.com/@GiantArtProductions, and more of his art on Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/giantproductions ——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255—————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

Today’s guest is the writer Mary Gaitskill, whose novels and short stories have been adapted into motion pictures and nominated for major literary prizes like the PEN/Faulkner award, the National Book Award, and the National Critics Circle Award, and if you’ve read any of them, you know why, you know how her characters make you feel seen, for all the cruelty and strength and fragility and beauty and ugliness you possess, how they remain alive within you long after you turn the last page, and change the way you move through the world. We first met when she interviewed me for it, actually, to talk about incels — with whom she feels a kinship for many reasons that we get into today... ———————————————————————"Hallelujah" (cover) performed by Jeff Buckley. 1994. Courtesy of Columbia Records. ——————————————————————— Read Mary's brilliant essays from "Out of It": https://marygaitskill.substack.com/ and listen to our first interview if you missed it: https://marygaitskill.substack.com/p/only-the-lonely ——————————————————————— Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255 —————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com

Today’s guest , Matt, is also a former incel, who ascended at 23, and is currently married — essentially — with four children, and studying psychology. He also has a YouTube channel, sort of a self-help for incels, called @BlackPillMedicine. It’s a tiny channel, in a sea of similarly themed content - self improvement, DIY psychology, red pillers, and the like — but Matt stands apart from this crowd, for a number of reasons, including his comprehensive theory of inceldom as a social disorder. Check out his channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCwqK6Px_Vjiha_-wxOEwUAw "Children Will Listen / Finale" from Into the Woods by Stephen Sondheim, cast recording. 2022. Courtesy of Craft Records. ———————————————————————Please check out my Patreon channel for bonus content, newsletters, community, and early, ad-free episodes on www.patreon.com/naamakates ——————————————————————— INCEL is created and produced by Naama Kates for Crawlspace Media. Music by Cyrus Melchor. —————————————————————— If you or someone you know is struggling emotionally, or having a hard time, please call someone, or contact one of the excellent resources provided below. —————————————————————— Suicide Prevention Lifeline w: https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ t: 1.800.273.8255 —————————————————————— Samaritans Website: https://www.samaritans.org and telephone (UK): 116.123 —————————————————————— Please contact Naama at INCEL with any comments, inquiries, or just random thoughts: e: theincelproject@gmail.com