Brook and Kari talk about adult female friendships, meeting Internet friends, friends when you’re married, the work of being a friend, the friends at work, lessons from Oceans 8, how friendships awkwardly dissipate.

A great podcast all about friendship: Friendshipping

Oceans 8

The Nancy podcast episode about Gaggles

Brook and Kari talk about conferences: going to them, enjoying yourself, getting your money’s worth, doing a talk, understanding the code of conduct.

Brook and Kari chat about recent movies we’ve seen, books read, and podcasts listened to. 50 Shades spoilers. Tolkien white guys. Superhero movies. Writers writing about experiences they don’t have.

Movies we talk about:

• Black Panther
• Get Out
• Cloverfield Paradox
• Cloverfield
• 50 Shades of Grey
• I Don’t Feel at Home in this World Anymore
• Hunt for the Wilderpeople
• Thor: Ragnarok

Our Goodreads lists:

• Brook
• Kari

Mo’s video game and Patreon

Podcasts:

• Burn It All Down
• Imogen Watches Classic Films
• QEERY

Brook and Kari talk about what we’ve been up to, since we haven’t been podcasting a whole lot. Some really good book, movie, TV, and podcast recommendations here. I (Kari) can’t believe I didn’t mention I listened to S-Town. Plus, we talk about gender confirmation surgery.

Brook and Kari talk about Pride month, celebrations, marches, mainstreaming, commodification, rainbow-washing, chanting, mourning, abstaining, and showing up for the actual work the rest of the year. Should you go? Yes.

Brook and Kari discuss chosen families, constructing family units, friends that stick, healthy boundaries for adults, rules for showing up for your friends.

Brook and Kari discuss drinks, from breastfeeding and tap water, to aquavit and bourbon, to weird sodas. Our favorite cocktail recipes and our basic go-to comfort drinks. Mnemonic rhymes aren’t as helpful as just not drinking too much.

I could not find the article I mentioned in the recording about how your body processes what you drink. If you know the one I’m talking about, and have the link, send it along?

Also, tell us on twitter @grownups_fm what your favorite drinks are.

Leah McLaren, what the flip?

Kari and Brook talk about Canada. Justin Trudeau is cute. Colonialist settlement was horrible, and so is the government’s treatment of indigenous people. Pipelines, socialized medicine, parental leave, RCMP, blinking green lights, grams of salami.

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Young Justin Trudeau

Indigenous Writes by Chelsea Vowel - Great guide to First Nations, Metis, and Inuit issues in Canada

Truth and Reconciliation Commission Calls to Action - The Canadian government trying to figure out how to undo a bunch of wrongs

Video of the RCMP Musical Ride - synchronized horseback riding in red uniforms!

Brook and Kari discuss crying, particularly at work, and what it means, why we do it, and what to do if you see someone doing it.

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Crying at work could damage your career, study suggests

Naaaahhhhh

Kari and Brook revisit the topic of travelling: how we pack, what we pack, how we make ourselves feel at home when away, and the weird things human bodies do when you’re on the road.

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• Jet lag diet

Friend-of-the-show Nick swears by this diet for adjusting your body to a new timezone before you fly.

• Travel Light: Update

Brook’s post about what she travels with.