We're makin' it NICE this episode with our fave L-Word reviewer and writer, Kayla Kumari Upadhyaya! But we're not dyking out about Gen Q. We're dissecting the Real Housewives franchise for all the queer and queer-coded content it regularly serves up. These ladies are acting gay AND doing crimes, so what's more queer than that? And they're not just acting gay, some franchises have queer women amongst the cast. Also, we manage to make comparisons to The L Word. We make the case that The Real Housewives is a great show to watch with your significant other. Plus, we give our REAL gayest things from Provincetown. And we learn straight people will see what they want to see when reading your gay t-shirt. Finally, we end on one of our trickiest listener questions yet!

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The bird's the word on this episode with author and blogger Grace Bonney. Grace's love of watching birds is queer and contagious. So what's the big deal about birding anyway? How can it positively affect your mental health? What's the community like? Why does it feel so queer? Which birds seem most sapphic? Are all pigeons elder queers? We answer all these questions and nerd out about so much more. Plus, we also talk about Grace's latest book, Collective Wisdom, and what they learned in the process of writing it. Also, find out if the omicron variant hindered Carolyn and Melody's gayness this week. Finally, we strap in for a listener question about strap-on etiquette.

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Might as well face it you're addicted to (things that actually aren't but can sometimes trick you into thinking it's) love! Actor/Musician/Comedian/Writer/Reader Rivkah Reyes joins us to dyke out about their recovery and journey to being spiritually healthy.

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When it comes to making meaningful connections with people in the LGBTQ community, it can be brutal out there. But does it have to be? Love's a Pitch is a show about love, dating, desire, and ultimately, putting yourself out there. Each week, a new guest will pitch themselves to listeners, making their case for why they're a catch and joining the host in a conversation about all things love and dating. If you like what you hear, you can follow up and shoot your shot, or play matchmaker for a friend, or go do something nice for your partner so that they never leave you and you'll never have to put yourself out there like this. Hosted by comedian Carolyn Bergier from the popular Dyking Out and A League of Their Own Recap podcasts, Love's a Pitch is full of laughs, sincerity, and queer longing.

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First, another update from Carolyn! Then, another favorite ep of ours! Listen to Carolyn's new podcast Love's A Pitch on Spotify or Apple Podcasts.

Breasts, boobs, boobies, knockers, tits, titters, titties, honkers, hooters, melons, jugs, tatas - whatever you call them, we're dyking out about them with the crazy talented and boobacious Michelle Badillo (One Day At A Time, Vida, The Bold Type). Michelle and Melody bond over the trauma and triumphs of having large breasts, while Carolyn struggles to relate to their shared nipple experiences. Whether they're big, small, or in between, are we all doomed to feel like we can't win with them? Or even without them? Plus, we geek out over Michelle's amazing career that's just getting started. And, we reflect on this Jenny Schecter of a year. You'll also find out if your hosts survived the holidays, are how much PDA they forced on their family members. Finally, we wrap it up with the perfect chaotic question to end this chaotic year.

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We are THRILLED to be joined by the astute and prolific Valerie Complex to talk about all things Portrait of a Lady On -- Er...Female Gaze. We definitely do not spend half of this episode talking about how much we love a certain sapphic film and instead talk about why it makes a huge difference to treat women as subjects, not objects, on screen. Valerie is a film critic and freelance writer, and also a member of Portrait nation. Oh no, we did it again. We swear that's not all we talk about. There's also much discussion about negative experiences we've had in France, like when Valerie went to Cannes and saw - you guessed it - Portrait of a Lady On Fire. After nerding out about or favorite femme-heavy flicks, we answer an interesting question from a listener who is hung up on a past fling!

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