Hurt people hurt people. Ok great, now what? Well, some people don't intent to hurt others. And some people intend to hurt others, with glee, and blame their victims for "forcing them to hurt them".

One key helps us decode a narcissist's lies. And there is one tell that helps us recognise a narcissist's victim.

Watch on YouTube here 

When there's a disagreement, how can you tell who is being unreasonable - so you avoid "wrestling with pigs"?

I share two stories and some tips about how to find more clarity.

Enjoy this podcast exclusive episode!

Narcissists often make snarky remarks and claim they are "only joking". We might be tempted to believe them. But there is an objective method to determine if what they say actually qualified as a joke. Or if it is just being mean. Tune in to find out what this method is.

How do you deal with narcissists over Christmas and other holidays? Sometimes we feel stuck with narcissists, whether partners, family members, or partners of family members. So, what can we do to limit the damage they can cause during holidays?

This episode is available on the YouTube channel with full visual illustrations to help make sense. Here is the link:

https://youtu.be/PLNn2lzd1B0

Podcast exclusive. We can create a scale of toxicity from 0 to 10. Doing so empowers us and helps us compare what we do to what others do. I used this recently with a client who wondered if he had done something to turn his ex into a fully blown psycho who turned their children against him and destroyed his car with a baseball bat. My response: maybe. But highly unlikely. In this episode, I share some of the ideas I share with him.

When we're stressed, our personality can change. Narcissists like stressing us. That tells us... it can be helpful to dig a bit deeper ;-)

Our personality changes between when we are relaxed, between our everyday self, and when we are stressed or overextended. Perhaps this holds a key to understanding ourselves better?

Watch on YouTube with all visuals and drawings here: https://youtu.be/X7sGDTJCMhA

Relationships with narcissists feel like we're playing heads or tails: heads they win, tails you lose. Sounds fun?  

We can use logic and statistics to unravel their toxic games, let me show you how.  

There's one good place to argue with them. And that is inside your head.  

We can test their statements with a simple sentence: if this is true, what else must be true.  

Narcissists accuse us to things, such as having an unhealthy obsession with sleep. How do we deal with that? By taking it seriously. Let me show you how.  And in any relationship, who is the judge?

Life can feel really lonely, especially after being with a narcissist or a toxic person. When I travelled to Kazakhstan, I met these therapists who did body work on me. Despite not speaking the same language, everything was easy: "you are here, you are in pain, we will help you."

Having a platform such as this one is crazy. Being able to record thoughts and share them, and have people tell me this is helpful, this is crazy. I wouldn't have dreamt it was possible during my darkest moments. 

So, using this platform: you, dear listener, are just like me. The support I received, it is there for you too. You may not know it yet, but it is there. You are not alone and many, many people do actually care.

Thank you for listening and take good care of yourself - and of your "elephant".