Leave your relationship dilemmas and questions for Dr. Colleen at LoveUnboxedPodcast.com 

Dr.Colleen introduces the Coaching Through Chaos audience to Love, Unboxed: the podcast for the hopeful romantic.  This show is for the person who hasn't given up on love.  In this episode, "Birds with Broken Wings Belong at the Vet, not in your bed!" Dr. Colleen unboxes the Broken Wing Syndrome.  What does it mean? Who loves the birds with broken wings? What they each need to heal and have healthier relationships and how to know if you are dating a birdie with a broken wing.  

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"Love, Unboxed: A Podcast for the Hopeful Romantic" is a new project by Dr. Colleen Mullen.  Dr. Colleen hopes this becomes collaborative with you. Each week, Dr. Colleen unboxes one topic on love & relationships so that you gain a deeper understanding of it and can manage it when it shows up in your life. 

Leave your relationship questions for Dr Colleen at LoveUnboxedPodcast.com. The first 5 people who leave a relationship question get a free copy of the journal Dr. Colleen designed: My Mindful Reflections: A Daily Journal for Better Mental Health.

This is Season 1, Episode 1- The subject up for unboxing is the Broken Wing Syndrome. This is sometimes called the Broken Brid Syndrome. Neither the Broken Wing or Broken Bird Syndromes are actual diagnostic terms, rather, they are very popular ways of discussing a particular relationship dynamic.  Dr. Colleen has coined those who have the Broken Wing Syndrome and fall in love with the Birdies with Broken Wings, the Wing Whisperers. 

If you don't know these terms, but you've been insecure in relationships, or seem to reflect on past relationships and feel like you stayed too long, or can see in the reflection that you couldn't get what you needed from your partner emotionally, I encourage you to listen to this. You may relate to what Dr. Colleen unboxes. 

This unboxing includes:

1. The love story of Jenny & Jack, who really enjoy each other, but ultimately can't be what each needs.
2. How the Broken Wing Syndrome is different than the Savior Complex.
3. What the Bird with the Broken Wing needs to heal their wing.
4. What the Wing Whisperer needs to heal in order to find a more balanced partnership.
5. The things Dr. Colleen wants the Wong Whisperer to know.
6. TellTale signs you are dating a Birdie with a Broken Wing.
7. What Jack & Jenny's relationship would have looked like if they got a post-therapy do-over.

What topics do you want Dr. Colleen to unbox??? 

Leave your relationship questions for Dr Colleen at LoveUnboxedPodcast.com. 

More Resources from Dr. Colleen 

• My Mindful Reflections: A Daily Journal for Better Mental Health (get it on Amazon) -  This is a journal designed by Dr. Colleen.  You can use it to track your emotions, highlight  special moments, learn from difficult ones , let go of daily steam through daily narrative pages , and even learn to give yourself permission to take a break.
• Do you want to hire Dr. Colleen to help you?  Please check out her therapy & consulting page at CoachingThroughChaos.com

Upcoming Workshops in 2024

Date Differently  - for the singlles who want to break free from past relationship obstacles. 

Love Them More  - for those in committed relationships who  want to  protect their relationship from future obstacles. 

SUPPORT THE SHOW! 

1. AMAZON.COM Use code LoveUnboxed-20 at checkout when you make your regular purchases on Amazon or visit Dr. Colleen's Amazon storefront.  You wont pay anything extra, but Dr. Colleen will make a small commission on what you purchase.
2. Patreon- FInd out the perks of joining the Hopeful Romantic community!

Disclaimer

This show exists only for educational and/or entertainment purposes.  Although Dr. Mullen is a licensed therapist, in the capacity of  her show hosting duties, she is not your therapist. This show is not meant as a replacement for therapy.  

Resources for Finding a Mental Health Professional in the U.S. 

1. Therapy Den
2. Psychology Today
3. Mental Health Matters
4. Therapy for Black Girls
5. Dial 211 to be connected to a Social Services Helpline in your area that can provide you with information on menatl health resources in your area.
6. The National Suicide Prevention Helpline.  or call 988    If you, or someone you love is thinking about suicide, they are there to help.

Dr. Colleen's online voicemail line is powered by SpeakPipe 

Episode Overview: In this heartfelt farewell episode, Dr. Colleen Mullen addresses her loyal Coaching Through Chaos listeners after a three-year hiatus. She reflects on her journey and introduces her exciting new podcast project, Love Unboxed, aimed at hopeful romantics.

Key Highlights:

• Acknowledgment of Absence: Dr. Mullen shares her reasons for stepping back from Coaching Through Chaos and acknowledges the life changes everyone has experienced in the past few years.
• Introducing Love Unboxed: Discover Dr. Mullen's new podcast, designed for those who believe in love despite challenges. She aims to provide hope and practical advice for better relationships.
• Weekly Topics and Listener Questions: Each episode will feature a new relationship topic, and listeners are encouraged to submit their dating dilemmas and topic suggestions for future episodes.
• Personal Journey: Dr. Mullen opens up about her own transformation in love and relationships, how she applied her therapeutic knowledge, and her desire to share these insights with you.

Call to Action:

• Visit loveunboxpodcast.com to leave voicemails with your questions and suggestions for topics.
• Subscribe to Love Unboxed, launching on October 1st, and continue your journey toward healthier, happier relationships.

Closing Thoughts: Dr. Mullen expresses her gratitude for the support received during Coaching Through Chaos and invites listeners to join her on this new adventure.

Thank you for being part of the Coaching Through Chaos community, and get ready to unbox the love you deserve on Love Unboxed!

Dr. Wendy Bruton, host of "I Used to be a Therapist" podcast has lived a few lives.  She joins me to talk about how and why she decided to pivot out of her chosen profession as a licensed psychologist after a year-long battle through a professional trauma. Hear how she works to help women now, how this former university professor and researcher adopted essential oils into her life, and what she has to say after being married to her high school sweetheart for more than 3 decades. 

In this episode, we discuss:

• Deciding to pivot and shift professionally
• The toll professional trauma can take on your personal life
• How she discovered a usefulness for essential oils in her life and her current work
• The results she and her clients are finding with the use of the oils
• Sage advice on keeping a love going through the decades

You can listen to  "I Used to Be A Therapist"  on your favorite podcast platform (the link i included takes you to the episode I was on where Wendy explored how I was dealing with family dynamics as my life shifted through trauma  and  unofficially adopting my sister). 

Follow Wendy on IG: I Used to be a Therapist

Work with Dr. Wendy at The Essentially Better Life 

Get her book: Essentially Better: Essential Oils for People with Feelings

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We all know we will lose people we love during our lifetime, but there is a special kind of pain when you lose a child. Shelly Buck's son, Ryder, got diagnosed with cancer when he was 22. He recovered quickly from that, only to be killed in a roadside accident some months later. Shelly talks about surviving the unthinkable loss of a child, while still being Mom to her other kids and about how the family survives. Shelly wrote a book about her experience with her best friend, Kathy Curtis, who happens to be a grief coach. The book is Leave Your Light On: The Story of An Illuminating Spirit. Join us to hear her story and ways people cope through grief. The timing of this episode was that it was recorded just 2 days after losing one of my brothers to cancer. I think just going ahead and keeping the recording appointment was helpful to me in my own grieving process.  Please take a listen. 

The book combines the reflections of Shelly Buck, along with entries from Ryder's own journal and commentary from his friends. Ryder was a talented and creative young man, who was only moments into adulthood when his life was taken. You can find the book, as you can with all the authors who have appeared on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, on the CTC Bookshelf. 

If you'd like to work with Kathy Curtis for some assistance through your grieving process, you can find her at: Kathy Curtis Ink

Thank you for taking te time ourt of your day to listen to this episode. If you have any suggestions of topics or guests you'd like to hear from, just reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook 

If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:

1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!

2. Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.

3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

How can one night in the DJ booth can get your business spinning in the right direction? That's some of what my conversation with Amani Roberts, AKA DJ AmRo of the Amani Experience, focuses on. Amani takes his knowledge of marketing, hospitality and the DJ business and creates ideas around how to help your business get off the ground. 

In this episode, we discuss: 

• How one night out gave him the vision of his career.
• What are the markers of a good brand
• What Amani learned in the hospitality business that helped him in his entertainment business and vice versa.
• How and why he teaches
• Why everyone should try a night in the DJ booth!

You can follow Amani:

On IG

On Twitch 

The Podcast : The Amani Experience

The Book: DJs Mean Business 

The Website:  AmaniExpereince.com/Buzz

If You are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast,  I'd love for you to think of supporting the show in 1 of 3 ways:

1. Leave a  5-Star Review on your favorite podcast playing app. Positive reviews help the show continue to grow - Thank you to all that have already taken the time to leave a positive review. 
2. Shop on Amazon with my shop link!   When you show for anything you would normally buy on Amazon and use my link: Amazon.com/shop/DrColleenMullen, you help support the production costs of the show. You don't  pay and extra dime, but I get a small percentage of the cost of the goods purchased.  It's a win-win for us both! 
3. Become  patron on Patreon. On Patreon, you can sign up for special levels of support .  Each of the 4 levels of monthly support comes with their own exclusive content! This ranges from shout outs, to a free e-book, to  free self-help content I record just for my patrons - to even 20 minute monthly coaching sessions with me!  

However you choose to support my podcast, I am so grateful.  And I thank each and everyone of you who has gotten this far to read this post.  There are a few thousand of you listening each month and I really can't explain how exciting and humbling that is for me.  THANK YOU! 

I hope to see you between epsiodes over on IG/FB or Twitter @DrColleenMullen

Benjamin Preston has a passion for helping young professionals figure out what is getting in their way from going after the career they want.  He has had some great professional experiences along his journey, including winning and entrepreneurship award as recognition for beins successful at launching several businesses, as well as joining the leadership team at a start-up. He know what it takes to find the confidence, figure out how to manage the relationship dynamics, and confront his own perceived deficiencies in order to take and create the opportunities that have come his way. He has put his knowledge into the book, “Harness Your Butterflies: The Young Professional’s Metamorphosis to an exciting career”. 

In this episode we discuss:

1. Why this book was important to Benjamin. Why did it matter so much?
2. He explains what the career Strategist is and the Career Experimenter. Do you know which one you are?
3. His top strategies for helping a person tap into their motivation.
4. The power of intention in regards to figuring out their career path.
5. His suggestion for a person gathering an accurate accounting of their strengths.
6. His advice for when someone who is young in their career finds themselves in a toxic work environment or on a toxic team.
7. How to manage adversity in the workplace.
8. How you can benefit from the use of silence.
9. How Benjamin found a creative way to develop empathy for a coworker.

You can find out all about Ben’s work at BenjaminPreston.com . If you are in your 20’s and trying to figure out your path, or why you keep hitting obstacles in your way, reach out to him. Find out how he can help you.

Let me know how you deal with adversity in the workplace - Reach out to me on Instagram or Facebook 

If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:

1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!

2. Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.

3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

Let's face it, 2020 has been like the toxic, chaotic boyfriend who won't go away.   I wish I had the definitive answer for how to get him out of all of our lives, but I don't. What I do have, however, is a collection of podcast episodes I've been creating over the last 5 years to help you learn ways to conquer the chaos in your life. So, since chaotic 2020 needs some extra resources to get conquered, I've put together a sampling of some of my favorite episodes for you. 

There are so many resources right here for you:

Becoming more Resilient: Christian Moore is a guy who learned how to overcome a learning deficiency, low self-esteem,  and hopelessness about the future to now teach both adults and kids about how to be resilient. Christian was raised on the streets with little guidance. The love of a neighbor helped him conquer his childhood demons. His book, The Resilience Breakthrough, can be found on the CTC Bookshelf, and his program, "Why Try?" is implemented in over 12,000 organizations across the US and Canada. Listen to what he has to say about the pow  er of resiliency. 

Virtual Reality Treatment for Phobias and Combat Trauma: The Virtual Reality Medical Center is equipped to help you overcome your every fear, utilizing virtual reality techniques.  They even work with the military personnel, both pre & Post deployment to help decrease the incidences of long-term problems from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD). 

Financial Compatibility for Couples: Jeff Motske, a Certified Financial Planner and CEO/President of Trilogy Financial has been helping couples explore their relationship with finances for decades now. His book, Financial Compatibility for Couples explores how couples can assess, talk and plan about their financial future, even when big discrepancies lie in personal viewpoints on the subject. Hear what Jeff has to say about what a couple needs to do if one is a spender and one is more frugal. (get the book and take the compatibility quiz right here!).

Suicide Prevention with Dr. Jonathan Singer:  A few years ago, I met Dr. Singer at the  Podcast Movement conference for podcasters. Dr. Singer has been hosting the Social Work Podcast for about a decade, but he is also one of the leading experts in suicidology in the US.  I had him on the show for a couple of reasons. One was  to talk about how to recognize suicidal behavior in children. The other reason was to help me share my experience as a survivor of a sibling suicide.  I have rarely talked publicly about my experience with my brother's depression, so I asked Dr. Singer if he could help me tell the story. This episode is full of so much necessary information if you or a loved one struggles with suicidal thoughts. Sharing this episode could help save someone's life. Check out Dr. Singer's book, Suicide in Schools. 

Post Traumatic Recovery:  If you follow me on Facebook, then this next guest probably wont be a surprise as I think I have this episode with my conversation with Ret Fire Chief, Matt Shobert,  100x more than others just because it's tough to find another person who has lived through what he has. He's a real life Super Hero to himself when his accident happened, but also now to other fire fighters as he tries to advocate for better mental health, and specifically, PTSD awareness among his fire fighter brotherhood.  Follow Matt & his trusty sidekick, Butters the PTSD Firedog on Facebook.

*Here's a link to a video where you can also hear from Matt's wife, Tami, to hear a bit about her experience through this traumatic event and the aftermath.

Before we get into my Life with Suzy update, I want to also give a quick shout out to my friend, and ADD Crusher, Alan Brown. Alan is the Mess to Success Entrepreneur who now helps others embrace their Attention Deficit traits in order to live productive and purposeful lives.  

Another quick shout out to my therapist colleague, Quintin Hafner. Quintin took his onw life experience, coupled with his MFT training AND his jiu-jitso training to write the marriage handbook for men, The Black Belt Husband. I love how Quintin found a new way to introduce relationship skills training to men. I found this book very helpful and I'm sure you will too. '

Ok - finally, last but not least, there is the Suzy update.  My original episodes I posted about Suzy, "My New York Story" and "The Suzy Chronicles", are still my top 2 most listened-to episodes. Im thinking you'll be interested in a Suzy update. Well, Suzy is doing amazing!!!!  I share with you about all the great things she is doing and learning at The Meetingplace Clubhouse,  her 85lb weight loss and subsequent surgery to help her be even more healthy post weight loss. I also tell you about some of the struggles with the system we are involved with: Medi-Cal Insurance fails as well as random Social Security attempts at 30 year old overpayments. Our situation is unique, yes, in that I am her parent, sister, caretaker, financial support, but we know others are out there in similar situations. That's why we decided to launch a new podcast, My Life with Suzy. When I say "we", it will primarily be me , telling the stories of our life, but Suzy is there by consent and occasionally to share her own perspective. I think it will be cathartic for me as well as I hope to help others feel less alone in their unique situation. If you want to follow along with us, just check my IG towards the end of January for the announcement. 

If you've been enjoying the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, there's a few ways you can support the show:

1. Become a patron on Patreon. For as little as the cost of 1 fancy cup of coffee a month, you can support the show as well as get some freebies from me. For just a few dollars more, check out the Chaos Crushers tier so you can get exclusive self-help recordings each month for more chaos crushing tips!
2. Leave me a review  You can leave a review on whichever platform you listen to the show. It really helps others find it and can even push it up the screen to the featured shows.
3. Share an episode you enjoyed on your social media. Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram are great platforms for sharing podcast episodes. You just share hit "share" on the platform you're listening on and you can then post the link on your social media page.

Robert Delude is the host of the None of Your Business Podcast, where he talks to his entrepreneurial guests about anything but their business (you can check out an earful I gave him about my own personal struggles and successes in an upcoming episode), but today, I flip the script on him to get him to talk about why he is so focused on helping others climb out of dark places in life. He shares his story of a chaotic childhood where he didn't think he fit in.  It was only when he first got high at 12 yrs old that he felt better.  This need to detach from his insecurities became a need to get high.  This quickly turned into a decade of selling drugs, toxic relationships and hiding his true self from anyone he knew. 

It was only when an older friend who got recovery took him under his wing was he really able to stay on a path through recovery. He is now forging ahead, feeling more confident, working on himself, fleeing from people who tap into his codependency or ignite his self-sabotaging.  

His story isn't finished, but it's an inspiration as to what can happen and how good life can be when you start to fight the dark emotions, keep sticking with what you know works, and allow others to care about you. 

You can hear Robert bring other people's stories of success to life on the None of Your Business Podcast on Apple Podcasts and anywhere else you love to listen! 

You can find Robert on the socials:

IG: NoneofYourBusinessPodcast

Facebook: RobertCDeLude

If you happen to be struggling with addiction, here are a couple of FREE  nationwide resources:

Alcoholics Anonymous 

Narcotics Anonymous

Smart Recovery

The Salvation Army Adult Rehabilitation Services

or Call 211 in your area to find local resources - rehabs, therapists, free groups and other outreach services.  If you're struggling, help is available. 

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If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow me at on Facebook  , Instagram  or Twitter. 

Check out what I've got for you over at Patreon.com/CoachingThroughChaosPodcast. That's where you can pick your own plan for supporting the show.  Their are 4 Tiers to pick from- and every level gives you some items you can only get when you subscribe! Maybe you want a 20-minute coaching call with me each month.  Maybe you want to "Ask a Therapist Anything" each month. Go check it out and see what I'm offering :)

Your best value is in Tier 2- The Chaos Crushers! For just $9/month, you will get:

1. A shout Out of Thanks on the show!
2. A Free e-book - "Five Ways to Tackle Almost Anything! 
3. Three exclusive Patreon-Only recordings just for you! These are essentially an entirely new podcast of self-help guidance that I am recording just for my @Patreon subscribers!!! 

For a fun take on life and love through the movies, you can join me and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins at my other podcast   Shrink@Shrink .

You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! 

If you want to work with me for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.

Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! 

Thanks for listening! 

Who wants to talk abotu estate planning or leaving your legacy to your family? Not me! I want to live forever. Well, unfortunately, so did my parents, but I have no experienced both of them passing on with absolutely nothing planned for as far as their estates go. What a complicated experience, with a lot of complicated emotions! 

When I discovered Leslie Quinsay's booke, Legacy: A Guide to Successfully Transferring Wealth from One Generation to the Next,  I wish I had an opportunity to implement her guide with my parents. EVen though I missed my chance, I don't want you too - and if you've been avoiding discussing and writing down your plan for what to do about your business and other assets should something happen to you, this is your que to get on it! 

In this episode you will hear:

1. Leslie's personal story of how she almost lost her father- and how that health scare, forced her to explore what her father's intention was in regards to handing down the family business. 
2.  Lesli's  "Legacy" formula for how to open and continue the discussions around estate planning. 
3. What Leslie means when she says estate planning is a team sport. 
4. What advice Leslie gives for families where conflict arises around the estate planning  (What if you don't want to take over the family business?).
5. The One Ting to remember to stay motivated to get the estate planning completed. 

You can find her book on her website or on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast Bookshelf on Amazon (#commissionsearned). 

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ANNOUNCEMENT!!!!

The Patreon Page launched Oct. 1!!! Im so excited to give you so much extra for your contribution to the show! 

Check out the 4 Reward Tiers at 

Patreon,com/coachingthroughchaospodcast.   

The Best Value is the Chaos Crusher! Tier at $9.00/m.  For your contribution, you will get access to 3 self-help audio recordings per month.  There are some other fun rewards that include an hour long Chaos Crushing Q&A with me each month and even a 20-minute coaching call with me.  I am so grateful for your support along this journey with me! 

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If you are enjoying The Coaching Through Chaos Podcast, and you want to stay connected and want to chat about the episode, just follow me at on Facebook  ,  Instagram  or Twitter. 

For a fun take on life and love through the movies, you can join me and fellow therapist, Courtney Calkins at my other podcast   Shrink@Shrink .

You can buy the book: The 60-Day Plan for Embracing Your Inner Leader!   as well as the book of ALL the guests you've ever heard on the Coaching Through Chaos Podcast right on my Amazon Bookshelf! 

If you want to work with me for personal 1:1 coaching to help you conquer the chaos in your life, just reach out through CoachingThroughChaos.com click on the Contact page.

Keep kickin' that chaos out of your life! 

Thanks for listening!