In the 100th episode of But Why Clemmie hands the reigns to producer Steve (host of BBC pod You, Me and the Big C) as he delves into the life and times of Creative Director/Instagrammer/Blogger/Podcaster/Author/Fitness Fanatic and mother of three Clemmie Telford.

In a raw, honest conversation, we get to know a young Clemmie, find out about her most challenging life moments and her secret talent, and - the big one - we finally discover what her favourite crisp is. Plus why she's so into astronomy, how she met husband Ben and why she's chosen a sober life by the sea.

Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and indulge yourself in more pod content @Butwhy_podcast. And if you're interested, you can find Steve on there too @Mr_Blandy.

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In this bitesize episode, Clemmie talks luck and serendipity with Dr Christian Busch, who is the bestselling author of Connect the Dots: The Art & Science of Creating Good Luck, and an internationally known expert in the areas of innovation, purpose-driven leadership, and serendipity.

Clemmie and Christian explore how we can make our own luck, how embracing the unexpected can lead to a more fulfilling life, and how there might actually be science behind serendipity.

Christian is the director of the CGA Global Economy Program at New York University (NYU), and also teaches at the London School of Economics (LSE). His work has been featured by outlets such as the Strategic Management Journal, Harvard Business Review, Forbes, The Guardian, Washington Post, and the BBC. He is a regular speaker at conferences such as the World Economic Forum, TEDx, and Financial Times Summit, and is a member of the World Economic Forum's (WEF) Expert Forum, a Fellow of the Royal Society of Arts, and on the Thinkers50 Radar list of the 30 thinkers "most likely to shape the future."

Find him on Twitter: @ChrisSerendip.

You can also find Clemmie on Instragram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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This week's episode is all about women without kids, as Clemmie talks to British-born author, editor, podcaster and the founder of Numinous Books Ruby Warrington. Recognised as a true thought leader, Ruby has the unique ability to identify issues that are destined to become part of the cultural narrative. 

Her previous books include Material Girl, Mystical World; Sober Curious; and The Sober Curious Reset, and her work has been featured by countless media outlets globally, including the New York Times, The Guardian, and Good Morning America. 

Her latest book “Women Without Kids” set Clemmie's brain absolutely whirring and questioning so much:

“I am speaking to the ones who’ve never wanted to be mothers, the ones who are teetering on the fence, the ones who’ve tried and failed to become parents, and the ones for whom it just never happened.”

It's a challenging, and enlightening chat.

You can find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast. Check out Ruby @rubywarrington.

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In this bitesized episode, Clemmie explores happiness, or maybe contentment....or should that be joy? Either way, her guest is one of her mum's faves, and two-time Brit award winner Will Young.

Will shot to fame in 2002 after winning the first series of Pop Idol. He has released seven albums, four of which hit Number One in the UK charts, and he has 10 million record sales and two Brit Awards to his name.  

But that's just the tip of the iceberg. Will is a leading voice in mental-health awareness. His highly acclaimed book 'To be a Gay Man' explored mental-health awareness, particularly within the LGBTQ+ community with a focus on gay shame. He has a podcast - ‘The Wellbeing Lab’ - where he interviews experts on different mental health topics each week, AND his second book ‘Be Yourself Only Happier’ was released last year - when this conversation took place!

In this episode Clemmie finds out what makes Will happy and what steps he's taken in his life to ensure he stays that way. Plus they do not talk about dry stone walling.

Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Will @willyoungofficial, and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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**Trigger warning – this episode contains talk of intrusive thoughts of harm. Please take care when listening.

In this episode Clemmie chats to chartered clinical psychologist Dr Caroline Boyd about intrusive thoughts. Caroline has over 10 years' experience working in the NHS and mental health settings, and specialises in supporting parents from pregnancy to childbirth and beyond. She is also the author of Mindful New Mum, and her published research explores mothers' experiences of intrusive thoughts about their babies. Her work has been featured in You magazine, Grazia, BBC Radio Scotland and Woman's Hour on BBC Radio 4.

Caroline specialises in supporting parents around difficulties related to anger and anxiety. In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, she works integratively and draws on Compassion Focused Therapy, Mindfulness and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, as well as Systemic, Narrative and attachment models. Caroline is fully trained in Eye Movement Desensitisation and Reprocessing (EMDR), an effective approach for working with difficult memories and traumatic events.

Caroline shares psychology ideas on Instagram and in the media to help parents feel more connected - to themselves and their children - and less alone.

 You can reach Caroline at drcarolineboyd.com or via Instagram @_drboyd

In her independent psychology practice, Parent Therapy Hub, Caroline offers workshops and courses supporting mums around maternal anger:

https://drcarolineboyd.com/course-mum-rage

Caroline’s book, Mindful New Mum: A Mind-Body Approach to the Highs and Lows of Motherhood, is available to buy online Amazon, Waterstones or Bookshop

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Note – Fathers also report experiencing these thoughts, but to a slightly lesser degree than mothers.

If this episode raises any concerns for you please talk to a trusted health professional such as your GP.

You can also reach out to the services below:

UK: PANDAS - 0808 1961 776

Samaritans – 116 123

For emergency help - call 999 or visit your local A&E department

US: Postpartum Support International - 1-800-944-4773(4PPD)

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In this bitesized episode Clemmie speaks to author and psychotherapist Anna Mathur about rage. And in particular maternal rage. We've all been there - your jaw is tightening, you can feel your blood boiling, you feel trapped and frustrated and suddenly you find yourself yelling CAN EVERYONE JUST PUT THEIR SHOES ON! Only to instantly regret it. 

The pair discuss why these ‘loss of control’ moments happen, why they make us feel so awful and more importantly what we can do to make them less likely to happen. It's honest, reassuring and jam-packed with useful advice.

Resources:

Anna has two books:

‘MIND OVER MOTHER: Every mum's guide to worry and anxiety in the first years 

‘KNOW YOUR WORTH: How to build your self-esteem, grow in confidence and worry less about what people think’ 

You can find Anna on Instagram @annamathur and while you're there, check out Clemmie @clemmie_telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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This week Clemmie explores selfishness and why it might actually be a good thing, with five-board accredited life coach, broadcaster and public speaker Michelle Elman.

Named as one of The Sun’s most inspirational women in the UK, Michelle quickly established herself as the Queen of Boundaries. With a huge following she shares her experiences and expertise with an engaged audience who have followed Michelle’s journey and rise in popularity with pride. 

She has written 3 books: “Am I Ugly?”, “The Joy of Being Selfish?’” and, most recently,“The Selfish Romantic: how to date without feeling bad about yourself” .

Michelle and Clemmie delve into what it means to be selfish, why boundaries are important and how being selfish can impact, and benefit, your dating life.

You can find Michelle on Instagram @michelleelman and while you're there, check out Clemmie @Clemmie_Telford and more pod content @butwhy_podcast.

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We all need boundaries right? But are we setting enough, and are they the right ones? In this week's bitesize episode Clemmie talks all things boundaries with transformational coach Zoe Blaskey, who founded Motherkind, a self-empowerment platform for mums, and a podcast of the same name.

They cover:

• the differences between internal and external boundaries
• why boundaries are the key to successful relationships
• and why you shouldn't ever use the word 'boundaries'!

To become the most 'alive and joyful version of you, and to check out more of Zoe's work, head to MOTHERKIND or find Zoe in Instagram @motherkind_zoe.

Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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Clemmie talks about comparison this week, with Lucy Sheridan, who is the world’s first and only Comparison Coach™. Through her book ‘The Comparison Cure’, private practice and workshops, Lucy has helped thousands of people go from compare and despair, to #comparisonfree.

Accredited by the Association for the Psychological Therapies, named as one of the New Wellbeing Specialists by Style Mag and praised as one of the UK’s most successful coaches by The Times, Lucy's work has been featured in global outlets such as Psychology Today, BBC, Forbes and Google Labs.

And she loves wearing white in winter!

You can find Lucy on Instagram @LucySheridan on Instagram and check out her work at The Comparison Free Club · Lucy Sheridan.

Check out Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford, and find more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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In this week's bite size episode Clemmie talks about expectations and more importantly, how to manage them, with award-winning journalist, author and power lifter Poorna Bell. Poorna is the former Executive Editor and Global Lifestyle Head for HuffPost. She won Stylist's Rising Star award for 2019, Red Magazine's Big Book Award for 2019.

Poorna has published three works of non-fiction: Chase The Rainbow, In Search of Silence and Stronger, which won a 2022 Sports Book award. Part memoir, part manifesto, Stronger explores society’s pressures and expectations where women’s fitness is concerned. She tackles everything from toxic environments and self-esteem to ageism, sexism, desirability and why choosing between your potential and social acceptance can be limiting.

In Case of Emergency is Poorna's first work of fiction.

Find Clemmie on Instagram @Clemmie_Telford and Poorna @Poornabell. And get more podcast content @butwhy_podcast.

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