It's time to reframe defiance. When our kids don't listen to us or are being "defiant" by doing the complete opposite of what we've asked them to do, it's important to remember that they are still good kids. They are good kids who need firm and loving boundaries, connection, and to feel a little powerful on occasion. This week, Dr. Becky chats with a mom struggling with her son's "defiant" behavior and who's looking for a way to reconnect and repair with him.

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