I met business strategist & coach (and former therapist) Diann Wingert on the Zoom screen at a women’s networking group where I just knew when she talked that she was speaking my language. Her multiple marriages, single parenting, and several careers were similar to my life course - but also the shame that can come from living out of the box.  She speaks with us today about the idea of personal evolution. Most people “pick and stick” early in life  - decide who they think they are, take the same vacation every year - and those of us who pivot and make change can think, why can’t I just stay the course?  We question and judge why we are so driven to change versus applauding ourselves for being willing to live out of our comfort zones. We even leave situations that are for all intensive purposes, successes, when we know there is more to explore.

Diann is a delight to listen as she has great metaphors like a “too tight pair of shoes” and “passing for normal.” We also have a frank discussion on her leaving the Christian church, and how I just was baptized a Christian.

And of course I take her through the drill of why she hasn’t yet written a book. We talk about the level of commitment as a big issue.

Listen to hear more about:

• Why you shouldn’t “stay the course” if you are not satisfied.
• When it is a good idea to sit back and take some inventory of your situation.
• How abuse survivors can find each each other due to our chameleon nature.

If you enjoyed this show, may we suggest other similar episodes you may like? Check out Dr. Bonnie Zucker, an LA psychologist, who talks about anxiety, or Author Gretchen Hydo sharing about her book on how to Break Our Dirty Little Secrets.

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