As a child, first generation Chinese American, Iris Chen, author of Untigering: Peaceful Parenting for the Deconstructing Tiger Parent, was raised in a strict, high expectation house. As her own children began to rebel against her authoritarian parenting, Iris began to question what it truly means to be a “good” parent. In this episode, Hunter talks to Iris about her experience of “untigering” and her journey to change generational patterns. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: Love is not about control Children are like plants, having individual needs that must be met in order to thrive Success is for each of us to define for ourselves in ways that are meaningful for us Iris Chen is the author and founder of the Untigering movement. Her mission is to promote peaceful parenting, intersectional unschooling, and anti-oppression, especially among Asian communities. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week’s sponsors: You can get an exclusive, one-time offer of 15% off your order of Bitty Baby products with promo code HUNTER at americangirl.com. Go to GreenChef.com/hunter100 and use code hunter100 to get $100 off including free shipping! Try Acorn TV free for 30 days, by going to Acorn.TV and use my promo code hunter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices