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SHOW DESCRIPTION: In this podcast I talk about how life is not an “either this or that” game. Rather, it is an “and” game, which means that it is normal to hold two or more opposing ideas or feelings in your head at the same time, even in your relationships, and accepting this will save you a lot of mental distress!

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PODCAST HIGHLIGHTS:

2:34, 5:40 Why life is not an either/or game

3:00 You can hold two opposing views in your mind at the same time

3:11 How you can love someone and be triggered by someone at the same time

4:45 The dangers of toxic avoidance

8:50 How to deal with guilt and shame in relationships

12:25 How writing helps integrate your thinking

17:15 How to use mind management and the Neurocycle to heal your relationships

18:17 Why you can’t change someone—you can only change yourself!

19:00 The importance of clear boundaries in your relationships

21:55 The way we show up in our relationships has a reason—we don’t live in a vacuum!

24:00 How to go from reacting to responding in your relationships

28:10 Why change is not easy but always worth it!

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