Across the United States, millions of families are confronting a seemingly impossible question: When dementia changes a relative, how much should they accommodate their new personality and desires?

Katie Engelhart, a writer for The New York Times Magazine, tells the story of one family’s experience.

Guest: Katie Engelhart, a writer for The New York Times Magazine.

Background reading: 

• mother.html?smid=pc-thedaily">The Mother Who Changed: A Story of Dementia
• Katie Englehart has reported on dementia for years, andprisons.html?smid=pc-thedaily"> one image of a prisoner haunts her.

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