When we focus on trying to 'fix' dysregulation without acknowledging how it emerged, we are conveying a message that somehow the anxiety or overreaction just ‘appeared’ because of an imbalance in their brain and that distress, dysregulation and anxiety are an isolated problem about that individual.  Treating the brain in isolation not only sends a disempowering message to the person experiencing challenges, it's also neurologically inaccurate. The ability to self-soothe is not genetically programmed to just ‘happen’ without the right conditions.  Our ability to self-regulate comes from social feedback systems that help us build our self-regulating circuitry.