It might seem strange that a porn addict is coaching The Naked Podcaster, however, when I read Josh's book, "He's A Porn Addict... Now What?" I realized that I have triggers from my past. I also realized 3 of my 4 serious relationships had porn as part of the mix and I became curious about how that impacted me, how I was attracting people and if I could have handled it differently. I also felt a little confused about my negative reaction to pornography.  

In Session 2 you will learn more about me from a sexual standpoint. In the end, with some great coaching from Josh, he determines that I am an open, healthy sexual person, evolved, transcendent and willing to openly discuss sexuality and I'm not in your face about it. In my mind, I feel I should have a more open, healthier attitude by LIKING porn but I DON'T LIKE IT. I don't want to admit that because in my mind it pokes holes in the balloon of being openly sexual. My definition of being openly sexual is defined on INCLUDING porn, so because I don't really like it, I struggle with if I can be healthy sexually when I don't really have that openness.  

In the moment I wasn't sure if that was accurate or how accurate it is, but with hindsight, I believe it's spot on. I DO like lower-key sexual encounters in an R rated movie, but once it's blatant, I'm actually uncomfortable. What this has meant since we recorded, is embracing that having a healthy sexual relationship does not have to be all-inclusive and that's OK.I also don't want to have a 3-some, am not interested in women and have never wanted to attend a sex party and those things didn't determine feeling that I'm sexually open. We all have to determine what's in our comfort zone. 

I appreciate that Josh was willing to have me as a coaching client since I"m a bit removed from my engagement with porn and to explore difficult conversations with me to uncover what my triggers are.   

IN HIS WORDS: I work as an author and speaker/presenter sharing my story and educating about addiction. My books about addiction can be found on the home page. I believe if we can begin to talk more about porn addiction and mental health, others may be able to address their addictions before they devolve to the unhealthy and criminal places where mine hit rock bottom.  FIND HIM HERE:  https://recoveringpornaddict.com/ Original interview link:   

WELCOME TO THE COACHING SERIES:   When I wrote my book I did “Bear it all” - emotionally I was raw, vulnerable and the story was difficult to share but it was important for me to do it. I realized that I am only one story and that everyone has an equally amazing story to share. The podcast was born and for me, it was a way for my guests to “write a book in an hour” - to share their story in a condensed amount of time while being extremely raw, vulnerable, and genuine. It was an opportunity for the audience to feel less alone and build tools to cope with their own struggles.  The coaching calls were a result of a suggestion from one of my guests. 

Not only am I physically The Naked Podcaster, but it’s my turn again to be emotionally naked so the listeners could know what it would be like to work with my guests.  This process wouldn’t work unless I was a good fit for the coaching call and I was really willing to open up. These interviews are scary as listeners get real insight into my life.   It’s worth it because I’ve gotten to know my podcast guests and how outstanding they are. 100% of entrepreneurs birth their business from their struggle, and it’s a gift to show how they have turned their trials around to help others.   I’m looking forward to sharing their skills with you and connecting who they are in a different way.  

Enjoy the journey and remember to be kind to yourselves.  

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