If you spend most of your time with other queer people, do you ever need to come out? 

Millie Poutama has dated women since she was a teenager but doesn't think she should have to come out. Millie believes queer people come out for the benefit of straight people, so by surrounding herself with an open and supportive queer community, she doesn't feel the need to label herself. 

But Millie also acknowledges that not needing to come out is a privilege that not everyone in the LGBQTIA+ community can get away with. 

In this episode Millie shares with Sean about her 'straight passing privilege' which means she has to come out less than others, how she found women to date without coming out, her IVF and pregnancy journey with her wife Jessie and the different ways she is forced to come out in everyday life. 

If this episode brought up any feelings for you or you want more information, these resources may help you:

QLife: Call 1800 184 527 for a free phone service every day from 3pm – midnight. Visit their website au.mimecast.com/s/yVydCr81gOcnM45lSQ0VBB?domain=qlife.org.au">www.qlife.org.au for a free webchat

Minus18: Australia’s LGBTQIA+ charity. Follow them on social @minus18youth or visit their website on au.mimecast.com/s/KnRgCvl1mVuL1rDziwuAeD?domain=minus18.org.au">www.minus18.org.au for resources, events and training for your school or workplace

Lifeline: Call 13 11 14 for 24-hour crisis support

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