This week on Love School for Nerds, Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a man who is trying to spice things up in the bedroom with his wife of 17 years. He is frustrated with initiating and be romantic with little to no reciprocity. Check out what Jay and Abiola have to say about this. Original Letter: I’ve been with my wife for over 17 years, in the beginning our sex life was room to room, position to position earth shattering. I’m a romantic who leaves notes, gifts and sexy messages. She’s not. I’m 43 and my wife is 51. For the past few years our sex life has dropped. Going from two times a week to three times a month is irritating. I’m the primary one who initiates sex and I constantly wait for response to have sex or when we are having sex waiting for response of pleasure. I ask my wife what is wrong and she says nothing is wrong and that she is just shy. Help!!! I’m losing focus and have urges.