This week Jay and Abiola discuss a letter from a woman wondering if her husband is either gay or cheating on her due to a lack of affection. They have been married for 21 years and this is a serious concern. The ultimate question of who should make the first move comes into play here. The Letter this Week: Next month we will be married for 21 years but in the last couple of yrs i noticed, i make the first move w/anything intimate. So i slowed down to see if he would start making moves and he doesn’t. We are affectionate and sex has slowed down. If he loves me and wants me, why won’t he make the first move? He says he’s trying? How would i know if he is gay or cheating? Love, Sex, Relationships, Engagements, Marriage, trust, fear, advice, cheating