For anyone deciding whether or not to become a parent, Jordan Davidson asks you to be sure to consider these questions: What have you been taught about having children? What have you been taught about what it means to be a successful adult and what makes a good life? In this podcast, Tami Simon speaks with the author of the new book So When Are You Having Kids: The Definitive Guide for Those Who Aren’t Sure If, When, or How They Want to Become Parents about societal pressures, fertility challenges, realistic expectations for new parents, and much more.  Give a listen as Tami and Jordan discuss: the privilege of deciding to become a parent; the concept of pronatalism; being "child free" versus "childless"; the fear of regret; making the decision that's best for you; the loss of one's self and the choice to "become secondary"; adoption not as finding children for adults, but adults for children; climate change, global instability, and other factors that today's would-be parents grapple with; the problem with pros and cons lists; the practice of envisioning parenthood; and more.