We will learn: What we got wrong about toughness that actually was toxic. How to create inner confidence. Four pillars of toughness that we need to step up and do hard things. Struggle is a powerful catalyst for transformation. Some of the strongest, most fascinating and complex people in the world are people who have survived big life-changing things. But does that mean that those of us on top of the privilege pyramid - which is really anyone with a roof over their head and food on the table - are just doomed for dullness or apathy? I don’t think so. I think the key is to create our own struggle. But first, we have to remember how to be up for a challenge. We have to know how to sit in discomfort and willingly weather the storm. So that’s what we’re talking about today. Our guest is Steve Magness. He is a world-renowned expert on performance, well-being, and sustainable success. His most recent work is Do Hard Things: Why We Get Resilience Wrong and the Surprising Science of Real Toughness. He is also co-author of the best-selling Peak Performance and The Passion Paradox. Links from the episode: Show Notes: https://mindlove.com/239 Sign up for The Morning Mind Love for short daily notes from your highest self.  Get Mind Love Premium for exclusive ad-free episodes and monthly meditations.  Support Mind Love Sponsors See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices