Dr. Money is back for the final QueerWOC episode of 2021! Money talks things that happened this year that she appreciates, how to share with a friend without overwhelming them, and queer femme fashion. Khadija Mbowe is QueerPOC of the week. Intro by @truthizmagic Transition and outro by @abundanc3beats https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/lotus-tape-vol-1 https://songwhip.com/abundanc3beats/drift-wood Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: QueerWOCpod@gmail.com QueerWOC of the Week 00:08:50 Khadija Mbowe YouTube video essayist and cultural critic link here: https://youtu.be/Rf3zj1qVbco Mental Moment with Money 00:16:00 That's not what trauma bonding means! A trauma bond - also known as a bond of trauma, abusive bonding,, traumatic love, traumatic bonding, or Stockholm syndrome is a dynamic that occurs in the context of abusive relationships. It happens when the person inflicting exploitation, violence, or another type of trauma becomes an essential part of the persons life who is experiencing this trauma. So what are people trying to get at by misusing the term? How to share without "dumping" on someone: ACTION Ask consent - I would like to share something hard with you, do you have the capacity to hear it? Check in as you share - I know this is hard to hear, are you okay? Tell them what you need or how you are healing- Inquire about them - so I just shared a lot but I would love to hear about you Open up about other things- I also love pottery Notice how you feel sharing - were you ready to share? https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/trauma/what-abusers-hope-we-never-learn-about-traumatic-bonding/ Topic 00:35:44 Things I’m thankful happened this year Curved Chronicles 00:47:38 Queer femmes jus different! Community Contributors Now Credits This episode of QueerWOC the podcast was made possible thanks to the monetary contributions of Maya W who became a new patron, REVIEWS BY CAMERAQT, YVACREE, and zeeezeee This episode was also made possible by the listeners in Luton, UK; Moscow, Russia; and Douglasville, GA