Two things that grief brings you: Kleenex and hotdish. Two other things? Anger and people telling you what you should or shouldn't do.

Grandma Ruth (rest in peace) once gave our producer Hans a piece of wisdom that has since become a core belief of Team TTFA: "Don’t you let anyone should on you. And don’t you should on anyone else."

In this episode: grandmotherly wisdom, stories about anger, and a whole lot of shoulding on ourselves.

—

Sign up today for TTFA Premium! For $7.99 a month, you get access to exclusive bonus content, ad-free episodes *and* the knowledge that you’re keeping our show afloat! Visit TTFA.org/Premium to get started.

Want (sporadic) emails from Nora and Team TTFA? Sign up here. 

When you shop our Bookshop.org store, you support the author, independent bookstores AND our show! Shop here. You can purchase Nora’s books here.

Shop for your favorite TTFA gear at TTFAmerch.com.

You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis.

Check out our sponsors this week:

• Talkspace -- talkspace.com/ttfa

• Calm-- calm.com

• Blue Apron -- blueapron.com/thanks

• The Great Courses Plus -- thegreatcoursesplus.com/thanks