Beloved repeat guest Dr. Alison Ash returns to discuss why so many people get stuck in their heads during sex. Insecurities, unresolved resentments, lack of confidence in sexual skills and more - Aly teaches us how to get out of our heads in bed while becoming our own best lover.  We also answer a sex question about penis owners who have a fetish for wearing lingerie.  Want to skip to the interview? Fast forward to minute 16.  About our guest: Dr. Alison Ash is a sex and intimacy coach and educator, lecturer at Stanford University, author, and founder of TurnON.love. A champion for others overcoming shame and deepening pleasure, Aly helps her clients experience the kinds of sexual interactions and romantic relationships they long for.     As a sociologist with a PhD from Stanford, Aly has a comprehensive understanding of the complex societal challenges that often lead to unsatisfying and disempowering sexual experiences. She also draws on her extensive training in the Hakomi method of psychotherapy as well as Somatica model of sex and intimacy coaching to support her clients to radically explore and courageously express themselves.  Aly designs workshops, courses, and retreats and offers individuals and couples coaching to give others the tools to discover their desires and confidently pursue them. She invites you to TurnON pleasure, intimacy and love at TurnON.love Other links: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 20% off plant and oil-based lubes + site wide with code SHAMELESSSEX20 at intamopleasureboutique.com Get turned on with 30 days free of super hot audio erotica at dipseastories.com/shameless Discover Amy's favorite vibrators at satisfyer.com Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Want to try one of our favorite boutique wines? Get 10% off of 3 bottles or more with code SHAMELESSSEX10 or 15% off of 6 bottles or more with come SHAMELESSSEX15 at marginswine.com Buy some Shameless Sex swag while supporting a good cause when you visit teepublic.com/stores/shameless-sex-podcast