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This week we are talking about resilience and what to avoid doing if you want to be even more resilient. That’s right, even more resilient. Human beings by in large are given much resilience but, some of the things we may be choosing to do can erode this naturally occurring strength to “bounce back” in ways that we may not recognize.

First of all, watch out for complaining, blaming and criticizing others and also yourself! This is numero uno for you for sure. While it may feel slights enlivening due to the hits of adrenaline that we get when we are feeling righteous about what others should or shouldn’t be doing, be aware that this ultimately doesn’t leave us feeling empowered. Mostly this doesn’t work to build our resilience because this habit isn’t actionable. We are complaining but, we aren’t owning our own agency and power to change anything.

Secondly, feeling into a future based on horrible outcomes also doesn’t build our resilience. Again, we return to being able to take action on that which we can do right now is best. Those things that are within our locus of control are incredibly helpful for us to use our strengths and best virtues as well as, most likely, to help others. When times feel uncertain and we feel out of control and unable to impact our environment, finding those places where we can take mindful action is incredibly resilient building.

Thirdly, not giving attention to your naturally occurring strengths and the best virtues you are bringing to every day, also isn’t helpful. If we can see our strengths and how we are using them day-to-day this can be very helpful. What parts of your better nature has really shown up during this time? And during any time in which you’ve been challenged?

We’re including some great links for you too in this week’s show:

If you want to assess your own mental toughness, check out this article and the questions here. And if you’d like a good laugh, you can watch my friend Jessica and her quarantine roommate with their 5 Second Phone Calls.

Join us on the Super Fantastic Leadership Show app too. We would love to see you there. You can get it right on itunes/google play if you don’t have it already. There you will find all sorts of great bonus content. This week we are simply including a picture of McWilmes sheltered at home.

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• http://www.wakingupaleader.com
• scott.com">daphne@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">marta@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">http://daphne-scott.com
• https://www.facebook.com/dsleadershiplife/
• https://www.youtube.com/user/DSLeadershipLife
• @daphnescott

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This week we discuss the many ways in which our lives may change due to the pandemic and also, the caution we might want to consider as we begin to get convinced that we should go back to business as usual. Today’s show was inspired by an article that Daphne read on Medium written by Julio Vincent Gambuto. In this article he warns us to be intentional about what we bring back into our lives. However, the article also points too many fingers at the world outside of ourselves for creating our lives the way they are. Daphne wrote a response article that addresses this point and we talk about it on the show today. The truth is, we are always responsible for our lives and what we bring into them or not. For sure, this pandemic may provide us with some much needed levers but, as the title of this show suggests, it is no magic bullet for “fixing” the things we had issues with all along.

Marta and Daphne also talk about the levers they are pulling to learn new things. For Marta, she is learning to draw comics. For Daphne, she is focusing a lot on cooking really delicious food. You can find the recipe to the world’s best grilled cheese sandwich that she made right here. And here are her ingredients for a great green smoothie that she loves to start her day with.

Let us know what new things you’re bringing into your world and how you are using this time to get leverage in your life. That’s what it is all about!

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• http://www.wakingupaleader.com
• scott.com">daphne@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">marta@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">http://daphne-scott.com
• https://www.facebook.com/dsleadershiplife/
• https://www.youtube.com/user/DSLeadershipLife
• @daphnescott

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With the arising of the pandemic and the need to isolate ourselves to protect human lives, the impact on business and unemployment has reached epic proportions. While there have been many who have had the privilege of being able to work from home, there are many who may not possess that ability and thus, are finding themselves not working at all.

In today’s show we want to talk about what to do if you’re unemployed right now. We talk about not only the many ways you may need to work with your emotions and manage your experience of stress but also, the specific actions that you can take until the next wave of your employment makes an appearance. This has certainly been a challenge for millions of Americans. The great news is that not all hope is lost and there are some industries that are looking for employees right now.

We are including some links right here for you too!

Look for a job right now

10 Awesome Places to Work Right Now

Join us this week as we discuss the possibilities!

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• http://www.wakingupaleader.com
• scott.com">daphne@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">marta@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">http://daphne-scott.com
• https://www.facebook.com/dsleadershiplife/
• https://www.youtube.com/user/DSLeadershipLife
• @daphnescott

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Today we are going to be offering a lot of tips with how to work with the experiences of anxiety, depression, overwhelm and isolation.

First, we want to recognize the experience we are experiencing. So often we do attempt to rush to solutions to “get rid” of our experience or to force it to change in some way. We don’t trust the process as it is happening. We’ve also been told a lot of stories about our experiences too. The stories we’ve all been told begin with some form of “should” or “shouldn’t”. We shouldn’t be sad, we should be happy and grateful, for example.

In times of uncertainty we can lose our very real need for agency. Agency is the experience we have when we feel as though we can influence or change a situation in a particular way. This gives us a sense of control, safety and security. When we feel uncertain it can be difficult for us to find the ways we are still in our power and control. This is often what begins to bring up experiences of feeling fearful, overwhelmed, and all of the variations of emotional experiences.

Here are some tips that we give for these different experiences.

Anxiety: feels like reaching into the future: the 3 tips-meditation practice, do one thing at a time,  do some 4 x 4 breathing.

Depression: feels like being in cement shoes and dull: 3 tips-gratitude practices, finding laughter (one of my favorite SNL sketches), physical activity

Overwhelm: feels like not knowing where to begin: the 3 tips-follow the steps in this 10′ to presence video, watch out for all or nothing thinking, take an action.

Isolated: feels like being lonely and disconnected (from ourselves): the 3 tips-ask what do I need? what might others need too, ask for what you need, take action.

Here is a link to the RAIN meditation that we spoke about in the show too.

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Today we are talking about the simplest of things that we can do as leaders, and beyond, that don’t take too much effort at all to demonstrate acts of kindness. In a recent Harvard Business Review article, the author proposed that great leaders know that small gestures matter. What landed for me though is that any acts of kindness really aren’t small at all. Although, we often may think we need to make some grand gesture, it is the little things that matter. And it is the series of these actions that matter over time.

We share some of the acts of kindness we’ve both experienced throughout this time of sheltering in place and needing to take care of our friends and family in a different way. We’ve each had old friends reach out to us and share their spaces with us. At a time when it can feel like so many things may not be going our way, it is worthy of putting our attention on what can do and how we might be kind to others.

One of the most important things that shows up as a common thread in these acts however is our ability to give our full attention to other people. It is one the greatest acts of kindness that we can take. Simply giving those moments to each other is sometimes all that it takes. I share a very sweet story on the show of an exact moment I experienced.

Oh, and by the way, this includes being kind to ourselves too.

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Today’s show was inspired by a blog post from Mr. Money Mustache. Actually, it was inspired by a response to a post on the blog of Mr. Money Mustache by the main Mustachian himself, Pete Adeney. Now, I’ve read his blog for several years and I wish I could remember how I came upon him. I’m sure it was when I was really trying to make sense of how money mattered in my life, or rather “how much”. Take that in two ways, how much did I make it matter and how much really mattered.

Mr. Money Mustache writes about that very thing. How did we want to live our lives and how did we want money and work to show up in our lives. How much of our own life energy did we want to give to the pursuit of getting more and having more?

Well, leave it to him to write one of the best blog posts I’ve read so far about our current situation with CV-19, the economy and how what we’ve been doing with sheltering in place actually stands as one of the most compassionate and surprising things a seemingly capitalist society could be doing. He pointedly points out “who would have imagined.” The blog post was inspiring.

What was most attention grabbing to me though was the many, many, many responses on the blog post. Of course there were the many statistical types who wanted to point to their own level of “economic savvy”. But one post in particular and Mr. Money Mustache’s response was the best part. His response to a person who did feel very much scared and uncertain was one of the best responses anyone could ask for.

We hope you safe at home and that you and your loved ones are more inspired than ever!

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On today’s show we are going to talk about leading remotely. Before we dive in, let’s take a beat here and recognize that this isn’t necessarily new. There are just a LOT more people doing it, of course many who may have never had to lead in this way at the moment.  While many of the same rules of leadership apply, this new context will require even more skills of being present, emotionally intelligent and likely, patience. For those leaders out there who have never had to do it, here is some great news; you get to learn some new skills and even enhance some old ones.

We covered this topic back in 2017. You can listen to the show scott.com/2017/02/140-manage-remote-employees/">here. There are a few things that hold true no matter “where” you are leading from. Those include setting expectations, establishing clear goals, making and keeping clear agreements and also, the other skills that make leading worthwhile like being a decent human being.

This past weekend on CBS Sunday Morning, they also talked about what we all need from leaders, especially in a crisis. You can check out the clip right here. It is excellent!

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On today’s show we are very fortunate to have with us parenting coach and psychotherapist, Michelle Gambs. She is not only a genius in working with families and parents. She is also wickedly wise and infuses fun and play into the most difficult moments in life.

Today we discuss the five needs that all children have. Guess what, they aren’t personal. Michelle also gives us some strategies to front load the many ways children to get those needs met. Importantly, she also enlightens us as to what every parent needs to avoid and why quality, not quantity is what really matters. We need to avoid the “D”. Her acronym GEM explains it all. We hope that everything we talk about helps parents and families during this tricky time of working from home while everyone is also schooling from home.

You can find out more about Michelle, her online course, her blog and how to connect with her directly at Michelle Gambs. I also highly recommend watching her videos on Youtube. You can also find her on Facebook and Instagram.

We hope today’s show really gives you some amazing resources to navigate these times ahead with presence, love and patience.

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This show is our first show since the pandemic came into our awareness and into our lives. Never before have any of experienced a moment in time like this and I’ve been saying to everyone that “this is my first pandemic”. And so it is for all of us. We are going to be doing many shows over the course of the next several weeks and until we feel that we don’t need to do so. We also hope that we provide a lot of additional support to you during this time too.

With today’s show, we are going to cover few tips to help you get grounded and to establish a few practices for you that will allow you to stay present even in the midst of times that can feel challenging for you right now.

We also bring in some great poems in this show because we find that the humanities right now are more needed than ever to help remind us of our better natures and also, to inspire us to who we can become throughout this process.

Here is the poem by John O’Donohue that we share on the show and also the poem by David Whyte.

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This week’s show we ask a question that is intended to lead us into greater awareness as it pertains to how we relate to the people in our lives and especially in leadership. We are going to explore the idea of unconscious bias, essentially. How do our bias’ lead us to miss the details of what is happening in our leadership? How can we bring greater awareness to these bias’ and what can we do to work with them? The good news in work is that we have several different ways that we can address these when it comes to hiring and interviewing, managing performance and doing our best to avoid making things “personal”. Which means, not being blinded by personality. So join us this week as we explore the question!

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• http://www.wakingupaleader.com
• scott.com">daphne@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">marta@daphne-scott.com
• scott.com">http://daphne-scott.com
• https://www.facebook.com/dsleadershiplife/
• https://www.youtube.com/user/DSLeadershipLife
• @daphnescott

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