When a caller joins Iyanla to express his fear about ending his marriage, it becomes apparent that he’s got no exit strategy in place. The caller is unable to take ownership of his desire to end the relationship, which means he might not actually be ready to move on. And, as Iyanla digs deeper, she uncovers that he may be getting emotionally blackmailed. So, to get to the core of his fear of the future, Iyanla guides him toward saying, “I’m Done.” Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant 

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Iyanla shares a very personal story about her relationship with her daughter, which helps spark a conversation on releasing control of a situation in order to heal it. Iyanla’s first caller is a divorced father who desperately wants his daughter to rekindle a relationship with her mother, but he’s plagued by guilt over mishandling the situation. Then, a second caller is a fixer, always wanting to step in and solve everyone else’s problems, even if it means overstepping or putting herself second. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant 

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Iyanla’s heard the same relationship issue again and again – when people self-diagnose the problem, which ultimately leads to misdiagnosis. In this episode, Iyanla’s first caller is a successful businesswoman who keeps finding herself attracting partners who battle drug addictions. A second caller has convinced herself that her marriage is falling apart due to her anxious vs. avoidant attachment style issue with her partner. Both women learn to focus on the core of the dysfunction, as well as the importance of self-growth and letting go.

Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani Associate Producer: Akiya McKnight

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Iyanla’s latest caller has a lot going on – she’s currently pregnant and asked her husband for a divorce, but on top of that, she’s also lost her dream job and has been struggling financially. But the problem really comes to the forefront when Iyanla askes her… “What do you want?” This week on The R Spot, Iyanla deep dives into admitting when you’ve made a mess of things, and her secret solution toward getting back onto the right path. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant

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One caller is left wondering whether or not he should leave his marriage in order to gain a clear peace of mind. He feels selfish for wanting to separate from his partner that he currently has four children with. Another caller wants her partner to value and appreciate her. But should she keep her family together, or leave the rocky and abusive relationship, knowing that he has cheated on her? Iyanla offers insight to them both: be willing to forgive oneself, and be careful not to be lured back in by urges, desires, and the good ol’ “Hoo-Haa”!  Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant

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Iyanla welcomes two new callers this week, and listens in as they each look for the answer on how to have healthy relationships given their toxic situations. The first woman is trying to figure out how she can continue having a relationship with a partner who is attracted to substance abuse. The second caller is a woman who is trying to attract better relationships and stop ending up with guys who have mother abandonment issues. Iyanla dives deep into both of the underlying issues, guiding the callers toward how their circumstances all turns back to themselves. She asks them both to pay attention to their bonding patterns in order to find answers. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant

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Iyanla dives deep into sibling and parental relationships in an episode with a single caller who is having a breakdown with her “Guardian.” The caller, a 29-year-old woman was raised by her older sister after their mother died at a young age. Now, the caller resents her sister for the way she was raised – with physical and emotional abuse that led to a combative adult relationship. Iyanla’s caller isn’t sure if she has a mother/daughter relationship, a sister relationship, or no relationship at all. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant 

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Two callers seek Iyanla’s guidance this week, each looking for the answer on whether to stay or go in their relationships. The first woman has recently been betrayed by her husband for the second time, and she’s not sure if she can go through the heartbreak again. The second caller, a woman who continuously breaks up and gets back together with her partner feels as though she’s only sticking around for one thing: the sex. So Iyanla flips the question back to the callers, asking, “How do YOU know when it’s over?” Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant 

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When a young woman calls in search of help finding her place in the world, Iyanla shares a personal story that sparks an idea – Maybe what’s missing today is a type of Auntie guidance where the past generations share their knowledge and experiences with young women. So, Iyanla shares her wisdom with the first caller, a woman who feels unhappy in her current life path. Then, Iyanla dives deep into what it means to mother with a second caller who feels like she cannot live a happy life without her mother’s guidance.

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This week, Iyanla explores the idea of the broken parts of ourselves that everyone holds inside them, yearning for what they never got as children. Iyanla’s first caller is a woman who feels like she can’t heal the broken parts inside of her, even though she can recognize that there’s a problem. And the second caller desperately wants to be able to love and take care of her mom, who is ill, but can’t seem to show the love she’s always wanted to receive. Iyanla shares the story of how she named and tamed her inner children. Do you want to be on the podcast? Follow Iyanla on social media for the latest call-in information! instagram & twitter: @IyanlaVanzant facebook: @DrIyanlaVanzant

Executive Producers: Sandie Bailey, Alex Alcheh, Lauren Hohman, Tyler Klang & Gabrielle Collins

Producer & Editor: Vince Dajani

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