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Submit ReviewWhat’s holding you back from having good sex? Is it self-confidence? A problem with your partner? Are you under so much stress that it’s impossible to feel erotic and turned on? In today’s Best Of episode, I’m talking about the 6 most common roadblocks to sex and how to move past them. I’ll talk you through how to navigate each of them and also take your questions on personal sexual roadblocks. For example, if you’re coupled, is it cheating to get on OnlyFans? What do you do if you’re not always wet for sex? And finally, what's the best way to work with a partner who’s prone to jealousy? All this and more on our roadblocks show.
Show Notes:
- How to Use a Vibe With a Partner
- High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
- LELO LILY 3 (code EMILY for 25% off sitewide)
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It’s a new day in the world of cannabis and sex. So many of you have asked me for this show! While wide scale research is still thin, there are many encouraging signs that cannabis can help you unlock more sexual pleasure, whether it's erotic arousal, help with erections, less anxiety, or less pain. But I get it: cannabis isn’t legal everywhere! And it’s also not right for everyone. So on today’s mini show, I’ll be discussing the latest research on cannabis and sex, how to know if it's a good choice for you, delivery methods like edibles and drinkables, and vetted product recommendations for sexy times, both partnered and solo.
Show Notes:
- High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
- Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
- VIIA Hemp Co’s High Love – THC Libido Gummies (code EMILY for 20% OFF sitewide)
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What’s a common stereotype you’ve heard about sex? Maybe it’s that “guys just want one thing” or that “once you have kids, say goodbye to your sex life.” But not only are these stereotypes tiresome on a societal level, they actually hurt your sex life. Why? Because if you buy them, they limit your pleasure potential. So on today’s show, I reveal the top 3 sexual stereotypes penis owners and vulva owners told me they were tired of, and the new truths that are going to empower you in bed. I also give you quick communication hacks to help you get curious with any partner, whether they’re long-term or brand new, so that you can have the sex you actually want.
Show Notes:
- How to Use a Vibe With a Partner
- High Pleasure: A Guide to Cannabis & Sex
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
- Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
- Penuma.com/Podcast
- Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
- Article: 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners
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There’s a lot to be said for sex toys. For one, they stimulate nerve endings much deeper than hands alone can reach – and that’s true no matter what genitals you’ve got. But how do you incorporate toys into partnered sex? And which ones are right for your body to give you mind-blowing orgasms? On today’s episode, we’re talking all things sex toys so you can play in new and different ways. First, is it alright to always bring a vibe to partnered sex? One penis owner says “absolutely.” Speaking of penis owners, which toys are best for this crowd? I also talk about squirting with toys, how to change up your solo sex routine, and if there’s anything wrong if you can ONLY orgasm with a toy. Spoiler alert: nope!
Show Notes:
- The Basics of Safe Sex
- Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions
- Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide!
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
- CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide)
- Bellesa
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
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Have you ever used a “Yes, No, Maybe” List for sex? It’s a menu of sex acts that prioritizes consent and communication among sexual partners. It’s one of my hands-down favorite tools to explore new ideas and spice up sex lives. But how do you actually use the list and turn your choices into realities? On today’s show, I reveal my NEW and IMPROVED "Yes, No, Maybe" List, and show you how to use it individually or with a partner. I share new ideas we added to the list, like orgasm denial, bondage, and electrostimulation, as well as success stories from folks who have filled it out. Plus, we’ll talk about what to do if your answers differ from your partner's, and how a real couple worked through that sticky situation together.
Show Notes:
- The Basics of Safe Sex
- Want Better Sex? Ask Your Partner These Questions
- Sign up for Sexts With Emily SMS & get my brand new Ultimate SEXTING Guide!
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SMART SEX PRIZE PACK (submit your pre-order proof of purchase at the bottom of the page, be entered to win the prize pack and everyone that enters receives a copy of my new and improved Yes! No! Maybe? Guide)
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- Pleasure Planner, Tips for Communication & Other Guides
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When you think about anal sex, what comes to mind? Does it make you feel turned on? Nervous? Like something you want to try or do more of, but you’re not sure about the best way to approach it? On today’s show, I help you get more comfortable with anal play by answering your top questions. How can you use foreplay and communication to relax into the experience? If you’ve tried anal play before but didn’t love it, what are some toys and techniques you can use to feel more pleasure? What’s the safest way to train with an anal toy, and can you hurt yourself by having too much anal? Bottoms up, because your anal education starts now.
Show Notes:
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
- Get to Know The Clitoris and How to Pleasure It
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- LELO LOKI Wave 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
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How do you give incredible, life-affirming oral sex to a vulva owner? While every body is different, I’m here to tell you that these are the techniques you absolutely need. First, we’ll talk the art of the tease. I explain how to use your tongue to intensify sensations and encourage arousal. I also get into everyone’s favorite: the Kivin Method. Next, I show you how to help facilitate a G-spot orgasm by answering your top questions. For example, when you’re 100% down to give oral but your partner doesn’t like receiving, what do you do? When you’re the vulva owner and want to squirt, how do you get there? Finally, I talk overcoming insecurities when you’re the receiver, and how to make giving oral more physically comfortable.
Show Notes:
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
- Get to Know the Clitoris (& How to Pleasure It)
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva?
- Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
- Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
- Podcast: Squirting Secrets w/ Deborah Sundahl
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I *Actually* Start Squirting?
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What does it mean to be sexually confident? In my opinion, it comes from a sense of security in who you are, what you bring to the table, and knowing that it’s OK to ask questions. It’s not having all the answers, because let’s be honest: sex would be boring if we knew everything already. But when your self-image takes a hit, how do you recover your sexual confidence and combat performance anxiety? I’m talking to callers with precisely that question. What do you do when your partner keeps talking about how hot strangers are, even when you told them it makes you uncomfortable? What happens when you’re not maintaining your erections, and it’s causing anxiety? How about when your partner is more sexual than ever – but not towards you? All this and more in today’s sexual confidence episode.
Show Notes:
- 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
- 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Penuma.com/Podcast
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
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In my opinion, masturbation is one of the healthiest self-care practices out there. But so many of you tell me how ashamed you feel about masturbating! Especially since the only pop culture examples you saw growing up were cringey. That changes today, as I take your calls on masturbation, taking time to explore your body, and unlocking different kinds of orgasms during solo sex. I also discuss masturbation frequency, and if there’s such a thing as too much. Speaking of frequency: is it possible for vulva owners to have multiple orgasms during solo sex? Let’s find out. I’ll answer your questions on group masturbation parties, jealousy toward your partner’s vibrator, and what to do when your partner can only orgasm through masturbation.
Show Notes:
- 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Vulva Owners
- 3 Sexual Stereotypes to Stop Believing About Penis Owners
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Emily x Christina Aguilera: HelloPlayground.com/Xtina
- CERĒ Spellbound Stimulator & Reverie (code EMILY15 for 15% off sitewide)
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50)
- LELO TOR 3 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
- I Gave My Friend a Magic Wand Mini. Here’s Why.
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Sex is inherently vulnerable, which is partly why it’s so hot. But how do you take the extremely vulnerable – even awkward – step of telling a partner something sensitive? Maybe their breath is bad. Maybe you’re bored with the sex itself. Or maybe you're afraid to tell a partner you’ve fallen in love with them. On today’s episode, I’m helping listeners find the right words for these sensitive moments. What happens when you don’t feel anything during penetration? Or your partner’s afraid to tell you they have a small penis? How about when you’re into something kinky, tried it out virtually, and got caught? And finally, when you disagree on what makes good sex, is that a deal breaker? All this and more on today’s sexual feedback show.
Show Notes:
- The 7 Secrets of Making Out
- How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SmartMouth
- Penuma.com/Podcast
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Have you ever been to a sex party? Are you curious about what goes down in one, and if it’s something you’d like to explore? Are they held in dungeons? Upscale clubs? Someone’s house? There’s a lot more interest in sex parties lately, so on today’s episode, I’m talking sex parties 101. I’ll go over the various types of parties out there, how to find them and specific sex events you might be interested in, sex party etiquette, what you can expect when you walk in the door, how to interact with fellow attendees, and of course…what to wear.
Show Notes:
- The 7 Secrets of Making Out
- How to Have the Sexiest Spring Ever
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- FetLife
- Feeld
- #Open
- Kinky Rabbit Club
- Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
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The vagina is a beautiful place. But from orgasms to vaginismus, do you know your way around a vagina and how to properly care for it? Whether you want to maximize a vulva owner’s pleasure or improve your own vaginal health, this episode is for you. We’ll start with the internal clitoral network: I’ll talk about how recent our scientific knowledge of the clitoris is. Later I'll discuss clitoral orgasms versus G-spot orgasms -- which one’s stronger, and what do they feel like? My listeners also bring me questions about vaginas and sex: is a clitoral piercing painful? Will it affect your sexual sensations? And when sex is painful, how can you reclaim your sexuality? All this and more on today’s vagina episode.
Show Notes:
- Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Singles’ Survival Kit
- 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Article: Where is the Clitoris?
- Je Joue’s New Bullet Vibrators & Endometriosis Collection (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF everything)
- Morgasm CBD Arousal Lubricant (code EMILY for 15% OFF sitewide)
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily (use this link to save $50)
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Want to give 10/10 pleasure to a penis? Whether you’re giving or receiving oral sex to a penis, this episode is for you. From where to start as an absolute beginner, to upgrading your oral sex game, this is a comprehensive episode on the art of the blowjob. First, we’ll map the penis anatomy so you know what pleasure points you’re dealing with. Next, I’ll teach you techniques to build anticipation, tease, and make your oral sex that much more memorable: eye contact, how to use your hands, and the best lube for the job. We’ll also get into sensation play, testicle and perineum stimulation, and if swallowing or deep-throating is in the cards for you. (It’s totally OK if not.) Plus, I’ve got tips for dealing with anxiety when you’re the receiver. Don’t blow this episode off: your oral sex mastery starts now.
Show Notes:
- 6 Ways to Improve Sleep for Better Sex
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
- Podcast: Everybody Loves Oral
- Article: 6 Oral Sex Tips for Going Down on a Vulva
- Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
- Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
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Have you ever been into something so strongly, you couldn’t stop fantasizing about it? Maybe it’s getting spanked or tied up, to name a couple common turn-ons. Whatever your turn-on is, does it arouse you so much that you just have to make it a reality? Or are you apprehensive to take your fantasy IRL? On today’s episode, I’m taking your calls on kinks, fetishes, and everything in between. I’ll teach you how to introduce your fantasy to a partner, especially if you’re turned on by something very specific. From spandex to group sex, squirting to infantilization, I’ll help you understand the difference between a kink and a fetish, how to safely explore your options, and how to communicate your desires to a partner. All this and more on today’s turn-on show!
Show Notes:
- Cuffing Szn Is Officially Over, Here’s Your Sexy Survival Kit
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Okay, What’s Really the Difference Between Kinks and Fetishes?
- Yes No Maybe List, Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
- FirmTech Rings (code EMILY20 for 20% off sitewide)
- FetLife
- Kasidie
- LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
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Let’s talk about porn, people. In my opinion, porn isn’t inherently good or bad – it’s your relationship to it that matters. Sexy media can be used for inspiration, education, even healthy arousal, but you can also become dependent on it for sexual stimulation and have a negative impact on you or your relationship in the process. So on today’s show, I’m taking your porn calls to help you find a healthy balance. She’s worried her boyfriend depends on porn for arousal and isn’t attracted to her anymore: what now? He’s married and wants to watch porn with his wife, how should he broach the subject? Finally, her father was a porn addict and she’s worried her boyfriend might be too – I give her communication tips to ease the anxiety. All this and more on today’s porn show!
Show Notes:
- How Do I Prep For Sex?
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
- Article: So, Where’s the Porn for Women?
- Scarleteen
- XConfessions.com
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I’m getting more questions than ever about non-monogamous relationships, but is it right for you? Today I’m taking your calls about what it takes to navigate different kinds of relationships, and how our listeners' failures and success stories can help those considering opening up. When you’re long-distance, is an open arrangement actually ideal? Or is the relationship itself a distraction from the people right in front of you? When you’re married monogamously, but one of you starts flirting with someone else, is an open marriage the right move, or not so much? And when you’re in a heterosexual relationship, but want to explore your bisexuality, is bringing in a same-sex third a healthy fix? All this and more on today’s episode.
Show Notes:
- How Do I Prep For Sex?
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship?
- What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
- Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
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While I believe orgasms are not the end goal of sex, who can blame themselves for wanting one? Whether you’re having partnered or solo sex, orgasms have incredible health benefits: boosted levels of estrogen and collagen, a huge dose of endorphins and oxytocin, better sleep and immunity. But namely? You want an orgasm because it feels good. That’s why on today’s show, I’m helping you reach climax. How can you still have numerous, deep orgasms? When you love anal play, but haven’t had an anal orgasm quite yet, how can you make it happen? And can all vulva-owners really have multiple orgasms? Find out all this and more on today’s orgasm show.
Show Notes:
- Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. Karpman
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
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What’s holding you back from your best sex? Are you worried you’ll be judged? Is emotional trauma rearing its ugly head? Or maybe you just want to have anal without hurting yourself! The truth is, we’ve all got a pleasure block or two, so on today’s show I’m taking your calls to move past them. When you’re recovering from an epic ghosting, how do you move on with your confidence intact? I offer tips for releasing the pain, and setting intentions for a future partner. When you’re nervous about neighbors hearing you have sex, how can you relax into your body? And finally, when your partner’s looks haven’t changed, but you’re suddenly wondering whether you’re attracted to them, is it really about their appearance? I’ll be unpacking these and many more roadblocks to the pleasure you deserve.
Show Notes:
- Penis Issues & Innovations with Dr. Karpman
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- SmartMouth
- Penuma.com/Podcast
- Episode: Does Size Matter? w/ Dr. Karpman
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Exploration is sexy. You don’t have to know everything about sex to be hot in bed, but if you’re curious? That’ll blow their mind. So let’s look at some less talked-about pleasure acts and how you can incorporate them into your sex life. From nipples to the labia, what unexplored erogenous zones and tools can enhance your orgasms? When your partner’s got a large penis, how do you explore anal without hurting yourself? Plus, how do you find friends and community when you’ve just entered the BDSM lifestyle? And how do you maximize your partner’s pleasure? All this and more on today’s pleasure points show.
Show Notes:
- How to Have Great Sex During Perimenopause, Menopause and Beyond
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- #open
- FetLife
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
- When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
- Je Joue (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off)
- Playground Lube (code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
- Kivin Method: 5 Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day
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Insecurities around our bodies can make sex and pleasure more difficult to enjoy, especially when it comes to our more intimate parts. And one body part I always get asked about is the penis, from people with penises and those sleeping with them. That’s why I’m bringing in board-certified urologist, Sex With Emily regular, and my friend, Dr. Edward Karpman to answer all your questions about the penis. We’ll answer questions from delayed ejaculation and erectile dysfunction, to yes, penis size. All this and more in today’s episode.
Show Notes:
- Sex Toys for Penis Owners: A Guide
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- Penuma.com/Podcast
- More Dr. Karpman: male.com">Healthy-Male.com
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Here’s the truth about getting turned on. It’s a thousand times easier to feel sexual with others, if you’re already in the habit of getting sexual with yourself. But what does that look like? On today’s show, I’m talking sexy self-care practices that I recommend to everyone of every age, every gender, every relationship status. We’ll go over sensory engagement, breath work and solo sex techniques and toys, so you can keep your pilot light lit and feel erotic all the time. Plus, I take your questions: the difference between internal and external orgasms, arousal ideas for vulva-owners, how to approach sex with a new partner when you’ve been out of the game for a while, and much more.
Show Notes:
- Sexy Positions to Try This Valentine’s Day
- 5 Last-Minute, Ultra-Sexy Valentine’s Ideas
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- HigherDOSE Sauna Blanket
- Breathing App: Apple | Google Play
- Je Joue: Vita | Amour | Duet (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% OFF)
- When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- Bellesa
- TryQuinn
- XConfessions.com
- &Jane
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It’s almost Valentine’s Day, but listen. Whether you’re a romantic or a cynic, there’s one thing we can all benefit from on this holiday. No, not more candy message hearts. I’m talking actual knowledge, on how to build sexual tension on Valentine’s Day and truly, any day. So on today’s episode, I’m talking sexts, scents, and sex toys to create an erotic vibe with your partner all day long. Next, I’ll be answering all your questions to create amazing Valentine’s Sex, including body-positive sex positions, how to have sex when one or both of you is tired, and how to lean into your sub side when you’ve been domming for decades.
Show Notes:
- 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent & Sexual Attractiveness
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- HiNote App
- Eye Of Love (code EMILY for 15% off sitewide)
- SmartMouth
- LELO SORAYA Wave (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?
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Do you dress for the occasion? And by “occasion,” I mean sex. Because wearing things that make you feel hot can make a huge difference. That’s what we’re talking about today: listening to your feelings, and dressing or undressing your way toward your sexual desires. In this Best Of episode, I’m talking leather, lingerie, and how to wear your sexual fantasies on your sleeve. Or your thigh highs. Next, we talk DDLG, or Daddy Dom Little Girl, a kink that might be exactly what you’re looking for…but only with the right boundaries. Finally, I get into green flags and red flags with your partner, and how to spot toxic traits before you’re in too deep.
Show Notes:
- 3 Things You Need To Know About Your Scent and Sexual Attractiveness
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- PRE-ORDER MY NEW BOOK! Smart Sex: How to Boost Your Sex IQ and Own Your Pleasure
- When it’s Time to Unplug, Plug in a Magic Wand
- Article: How to Start a DDLG Dynamic
- Article: The Truth About DDLG As Told by a Little
- Fleur Du Mal x Sex With Emily Bundle (code FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order)
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A stale sex life can cost us much more than our orgasms. When we stop physically connecting with our partners, we grow resentful, distrustful and uninvested in our relationship’s future. And while it’s common for sex with the same person to become monotonous over time, relationships need intimacy to survive. That’s why today’s show is all about spicing up your sex life. From a partner who doesn’t want to open up about their sexual preferences, to growing tired of the same old routine - I offer ideas from gamifying your sexual communication to taking penetration off the table. We’ll also hear plenty of real-life success stories of couples reviving their intimacy, which I know will inspire you to do the same. If it’s better sex that you and your partner want, there’s hope on the horizon.
Show Notes:
- Sex Drive Boosting Workouts
- Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
- Yes No Maybe List, Mutual Masturbation Guide, & More
- LELO SONA 2 Cruise (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
- Lube Shooter 4-Piece Set
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Why are there so many hang ups around oral sex? For starters, many of us don’t know how to give it, or receive it. So how do we bring amazing, orgasm-inducing oral into our sex lives? Today’s episode is a great place to start. I answer your questions on oral upgrades, so you can blow more than just their mind – and get the pleasure you deserve. When you’re new to sex, how do you coach a partner to give you great oral? Or how about when you go down on your partner, but they refuse to kiss you afterwards – should you say something? And what if your penis-owning partner can’t finish…no matter how good your oral game is? I’ll also discuss how porn can distort what we think is good oral sex, so you can take what you need from the screen and leave the rest to your IRL abilities.
Show Notes:
- Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
- LELO TOR 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
- Podcast: Sex Toys for Penis Owners
- Article: Where is the Clitoris?
- Article: Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
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Ever stumbled across a surprise fantasy? Something you didn’t realize turned you on…but here you are. It’s super hot, and now, you can’t stop thinking about it. Our sexual fantasies are here to help us understand ourselves better, so on today’s show I take your calls on sexual fantasies, what they mean, and how to turn them into a reality. First, she masturbates in the bathroom when she knows her neighbors are home, within earshot. He loves nipple play on his body and watching his wife do it to herself. They’re dabbling in prostate play, so I provide step-by-step instructions for finger stimulation. She’s afraid of rejection, but also fantasizes about it: how can she indulge this fantasy in a healthy way? All this and more on this revealing episode.
Show Notes:
- Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
- VUSH Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play)
- Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
- EMDRIA
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We all have personal demons. Whether it’s anxiety in your relationship, dissatisfaction in your sex life, or something hurtful from the past that’s infecting your present. But how do we heal so that our sex drive can thrive? That’s what today’s episode is all about. I talk to callers about their sexual mental blocks, and how to move past them for a more empowered future. When outside circumstances create stress for your family, how can you still prioritize intimacy? When one partner is inhibited in bed, how can they learn to relax, and find their authentic sexual voice? And when you’ve been through the death of a loved one, how can you make room for a new relationship while honoring their memory? All this and more on today’s show.
Show Notes:
- Gifts For Every Turn On: Valentine’s Day Guide 2023
- OdelaHealth.com/SexWithEmily to save $50
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?
- Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
- Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game-Changer
- EMDRIA
- More Dr. Amen: Instagram | TikTok | Twitter | Website
- Your Brain Is Always Listening by Dr. Amen
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Real talk: penis problems are more common than you think. But don’t let shame stop you from healing - both inside and out. Today, we’re normalizing the experience of penis challenges, and providing tools to help mend your member. She wants to end a relationship because he can’t keep it up - are there other issues at play beyond sexual incompatibility? Can erection issues from a sex-related injury be reversed? I offer some science-backed treatments to check out. Another penis-owner can only orgasm through solo sex, are trust issues to blame? We talk through some exercises to help get to orgasming with a partner. I’ll cover all this and more in this episode.
Show Notes:
- When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
- LELO Tor 2 (code SEXWITHEMILY for 25% off all products)
- Promescent.com/Emily (use this link to automatically save 15% at checkout)
- options.html">Boston Scientific treatment options for ED
- PRP Injections (John Hopkins Medical)
- Podcast: Best Of: Power to the Penis w/ Dr. Edward Karpman
- SKYN Condoms
- One Condoms “Find My Fit”
- Pjur Woman Aqua Lubricant
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Consuming your own ejaculate: a kink on the rise. Whether it comes from porn or curiosity, a ton of you have asked me about it in the last few years. But that’s not the only trending sex topic: from porn to mental health, these are some of the most frequently asked questions we get at Sex With Emily. First, is porn healthy or harmful? It’s all about your relationship to it. Next, anxiety and low self-worth can make it more difficult to get turned on with a partner. I offer strategies to one listener for restoring their self-love practice. Finally, eating your own semen: yay or nay? I explain why this is not only a totally normal question – but a totally acceptable practice.
Show Notes:
- When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
- Je Joue Ami 3 Step Kegel Training Set (code SEXWITHEMILY for 20% off)
- Article: The Ins And Outs of Ethical Porn
- Podcast: Find Your Sexual Voice w/ Lake Bell
- XConfessions.com
- TryQuinn
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Just how many pathways are there to your best orgasm? It’s more than you realize. Today’s episode is all about creative ways to climax, so you can unlock even more pleasure the next time you have sex. First: are breastgasms a thing? I explain to one caller how they work, and give her ideas for stimulating them and her other erogenous zones. Next, a couple calls in with a common problem: he finishes during penetrative sex, she doesn’t. I give them some orgasm gap hacks to solve it. Finally, why is it often easier to have a G-Spot orgasm with a toy, but not during sex? I give you tips for getting there with a partner and more tips to maximize your pleasure.
Show Notes:
- When It’s Time to Unplug, Plug In a Magic Wand
- Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations
- Woo More Play Coconut Oil
- Pjur’s Back Door Lube
- Article: Where is the Clitoris?
- Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex
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Ever feel like your relationship is on cruise control? Do you continue to have the same conflicts, stale sex routine, or toxic dynamics and want to break the cycle and be with someone who’s actually a great fit? I’ll help you break out of all that. Today’s episode is designed to help you build better sex, dating and relationship habits. From incorporating kink and exploration into a relationship with someone who’s more reserved, to tips to work through jealousy in a relationship - we can all learn so much from this episode. I’ll also go over some exercises to build intimacy and share your top “green flags” when it comes to dating. All this and more on today’s show.
Show Notes:
- Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023
- VUSH Empress 2 (code SWE50 for 50% off)
- Tips for Better Communication & Other Guides
- Article: How to Have More Sensual Sex
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Tell a New Partner About My Fantasies?
- Article: What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things
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Your sexual needs are key to your sexual satisfaction and overall wellness. And when you’ve got a need that just can’t be met, I’m here for you. On today’s show, I give one caller who's never had an orgasm surefire masturbation tips to help her get there. Next, she’s 23 and loves her boyfriend, but he wants to move in together and she’s… not so sure. Psychologist and dear friend Dr. Jen Freed and I coach her on next steps. Another caller asked her partner to be more dominant in bed, and now he thinks they’re sexually incompatible. Finally, she needs more sexual experience – should she snag a friends with benefits? All this and more as we unpack your sexual needs and give you specific, sexy steps to achieve them.
Show Notes:
- Sexual Wellness Trends to Try in 2023
- Odela Health (use this link for $50 off your 1st prescription)
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & Other Guides
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When it comes to your sexual style, have you ever thought about your voice? Do you moan? Slow things down? Pitch up or down an octave? Actor, writer and director Lake Bell is obsessed with the human voice. On today’s show, we’ll discuss her new audiobook Inside Voice, which explores this obsession, including the “sexy baby voice” phenomenon - which happens to be her least favorite choice for bedroom talk. We also discuss your takes on dating in your 40s, and why things often get better with age when it comes to the pursuit of romance. All this and more with my amazing guest, Lake Bell.
Show Notes:
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Get Better at Dirty Talk?
- Lake Bell’s New Audiobook, Inside Voice: My Obsession with How We Sound: Audible | Pushkin
- More Lake Bell: Instagram | Twitter
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As the year comes to an end, what are the biggest revelations you’ve had when it comes to pleasure? What is something new you’ve learned that has redefined your sex life - now and in the new year? To answer this, I turned to you - the Sex With Emily community - for a roundup of the best of the best. From oral secrets to solo sex, your sex language and your sex fantasies, these are some of my favorite moments from the episodes you listened to the most this year. Consider this your end of year send off, from Emily with love.
Show Notes:
- Article: How to Write Your New Year’s Sex Resolutions
- Magic Wand
- Breathe App
- Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed
- Podcast: Your Sex Language w/ Dr. Jen Freed
- Podcast: How to Relationship Better w/ John Kim a & Vanessa Bennett
- Podcast: Best Blow Job Ever
- Podcast: Orgasms with a Capital O
- Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T
- Podcast: Therapy: The Relationship Game Changer
- Podcast: Sex + Creativity w/ Liz Goldwyn
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Are you considering opening up your relationship? When and how did you decide to do so? And did moving away from monogamy change your perspective on sex and pleasure? Today, I’m taking your calls all about being in open relationships. First up: a group sex success story after a married couple learned to communicate their fantasies – always love hearing those. Next, they have a great sex life, but after a threesome gone wrong, she’s worried he’ll leave. How can she alleviate her anxiety and share her fears? Finally, we define compersion and discuss what to do when your partner wants a threesome… but you don’t. We get into all this and more on today’s hotline show.
Show Notes:
- Article: The Podcast Eps + Articles You Loved in 2022
- Promescent
- Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
- SWE Pleasure Planner, Yes No Maybe List & More Guides
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Variety is the spice of life – as well as vital to your sex life. But how many times have you turned to your partner on Friday night and said: “how about dinner? Usual spot?” Planning a creative date requires thinking outside of the box. That’s why I’ve done the legwork for you of helping you create playful dates that are as unique as they are arousing. From role playing sexy strangers to planning out a sensual dinner at the farmer’s market, these date ideas will give you a break from the norm - while also building sexual tension and enhancing intimacy.
Show Notes:
- Article: How to Train Your Penis
- VUSH (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Next Gen Vibes)
- Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
- Podcast: What’s Your Arousal Type?
- 37-big-wedding-or-small.html">The 36 Questions That Lead to Love
- OhMiBod blueMotion Panty Vibe
- Podcast: Sex & Loving Your Body w/ Shaun T
- Fleur Du Mal x SWE Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off 1st order)
- Je Joue Luxury Massage Candle (Emily30 for 30% off all products)
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Alex Cooper, host and creator of “Call Her Daddy” knows a thing or two about the pursuit of a more fulfilling sex life. From transcendental oral to disastrous anal, she walks us through the good, the bad, and the funny when it comes to trying new sexual experiences. Alex also shares her mindful masturbation routine and what her partner does to make oral incredible (hint: vulva worship). All this and more in today’s fan favorite best of episode.
Show Notes:
- Emily on Call Her Daddy: How to Have an Orgasm | 104- The Roadmap to his A**hole | 96- The Orgasm Gap & Forced Sex Fantasies
- Article: 9 Ways to Elevate Your Solo Sex
- Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners
- More Alex Cooper: Instagram | Twitter
- Call Her Daddy: Website | Instagram | Twitter | TikTok
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Mismatched sex drives: it’s one of the most common issues longterm relationships face. Frequently one partner has an insatiable appetite for sex, while the other treats sex more like a chore. But just because your libidos aren’t synced up now doesn’t mean they’ll be that way forever. On today’s Hotline show, I answer questions all about you and your partner’s differing sex drives and how to communicate your way to better alignment. From a caller who misses the drama and excitement their sex life once had, to another whose partner’s medication has caused his desire to be depleted - I’ll break down step by step how to broach this sensitive subject. Because if left unaddressed, issues around sex can be fatal to a relationship - and working through it will only make you and your partner stronger.
Show Notes:
- Article: Best Sexy Stocking Stuffers 2022
- FirmTech Tech Ring (Emily20 for 20% off)
- Article: These Are the 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
- Podcast: Your Top Sex Fantasies, Revealed
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We’ve all heard of “body positivity” - the idea that we should celebrate the skin we’re in, rather than emphasize how we think others see us. But in practice, how really is your relationship with your body? Today’s show is all about giving our bodies the respect they deserve. I’m first joined by Bethany C Meyers, whose fitness company the be.come project aims to change our motivation behind working out. Bethany also shares why sex takes on a new, rich depth when we learn to connect with our movement on a daily basis. Afterwards, I’ll answer questions from listeners struggling to accept their own bodies. Because if we can’t learn to love our own bodies, how can we share them intimately with someone else?
Show Notes:
- Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty, They Double As Art
- Article: Ask Emily: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom?
- Promescent
- More Bethany C. Meyers: Instagram | Twitter
- The Become Project: Website | Instagram
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As we wind down the year, what are your pleasure goals? Do you want to explore your body? Incorporate a new pleasure ritual? Try out a new toy? Today on the show, I pull back the curtain on Sex With Emily and invite my team to share their pleasure goals and the toys to get there. From vibrators to arousal gels, they give their honest reviews on what to stuff your stockings with this holiday season. I’ll also break down the science behind them that makes them so effective. If you’re looking to create your own pleasure goals for the new year, these products are a great place to start.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Article: 4 Sex Toys So Pretty they Double as Art
- Book: Court of Thorns
- Guide: The Pleasure Planner
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Good Vibrations
- Je Joue (Emily30 for 30% off all products)
- OhMiBod bluMotion NEX1 Wearable Panty Vibrator
- Lelo Sona 2 Cruise
- anal-beads.html">B-Vibe Triplet
- Lelo Hugo Prostate Massager
- Playground Lube (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
- Promescent Female Arousal Gel
- Fleur Du Mal Sex With Emily Bundle (FLEURWITHEMILY for 10% off all orders)
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It’s the question married men often ask themselves: why is my marriage just OK? How do I get the spark back? And when did our sex life become so mediocre? Life coach and fellow podcaster Larry Hagner has not only worked through these issues himself, but has devoted his life to helping other men become better husbands and fathers. His project the Dad Edge was inspired by both his struggles in parenting and a lack of having a father during his own childhood. On today’s best-of show, Larry breaks down his four pillars of a good marriage (which absolutely includes sex), as well as how to talk to sons about sex, porn and masturbation.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Vush Destination: Play (SEXWITHEMILY for 40% off Destination: Play)
- More Larry Hagner: The Dad Edge | Instagram
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Dating - for most of us, it's a necessary evil. We fear rejection, don’t know where to look for our people, or simply feel it's a hopeless waste of time. But as my guests on today’s show can attest, the research behind dating may tell a different story. Today, I’m joined by Anthropologist Dr. Helen Fisher and evolutionary biologist Dr. Justin Garcia of the Kinsey Institute. They pulled data from 5,000 American singles ages 18-89 as part of Match’s annual Singles in America survey, and the results are fascinating. People dating more consciously - hookup culture is dead, and singles are prioritizing things like political awareness rather than looks. We’ll unpack their findings and why today’s singles should be more optimistic than ever about finding their match.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Article: Cold Weather Date Ideas
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Singles in America Study
- More Dr. Helen Fisher: Website
- More Dr. Justin Garcia: Kinsey Institute Bio | Instagram | Twitter
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What do you wish you knew about pleasure when you were in college? Maybe it's how to please yourself? Or the signs of sexual incompatibility? Or maybe you just need permission to break up? I answer your questions all about sex in college. From making casual hookups more stimulating, to embracing queerness in heteronormative spaces, to simply finding your people - I give the advice we all wish we could tell our younger selves. I also asked for your hottest college sex stories, and you absolutely understood the assignment. All this and more on today’s best of show.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Article: A Submissive’s Guide to Being Dominant
- Promescent Delay Spray & Arousal Gel
- Article: Is Casual Sex Right For You?
- Article: 7 Books to Teach Your Kids About Queer Sex & Identity
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How’s your orgasm lately? Do you wish it was more intense? More frequent? More predictable with a partner? Orgasms don’t have to be a thing of mystery. And that’s why today's call in show is devoted to all things O. First up: she fears a loss of control while climaxing, which derails her arousal altogether. Can she relax and stay present? Next, he’s fit and athletic, with a girlfriend who loves sex. The problem? It takes him a long time to finish – maybe too long. Finally - when you’re with a partner who loves giving you oral, but it’s not exactly getting you off…what gives? I answer these questions and more from our brave live callers.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Promescent Delay Spray & More
- Article: I’ve Never Had An Orgasm
- Article: Where is the Clitoris?
- Article: 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation
- Article: How To Respond When Your Partner Can’t Stay Hard
- The Yes No Maybe List & Other SWE Guides
- Episode: More Sex, Less Pain with Heather Jeffcoat
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Getting the sex we want: it’s easier said than done. Sharing your needs with a partner can be difficult and awkward. But what if we feel undeserving of the gift of pleasure all together?
On today’s best-of episode, I’ll answer your questions all about giving and receiving. From trouble with orgasms to insecurities around body parts - how we receive the gift of oral is often where mental blocks around sex begin - and end. Plus, we hear some giving success stories. Because improving our pleasure potential is all about communicating our needs - ask, and you shall receive.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- LELO HUGO (code ‘EMILY’ for 25% off all products)
- Article: The Kivin Method
- Article: How Do I Go Down on a Vulva?
- Article: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
- Article: How Can I Be More Confident in the Bedroom?
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Mental health and sexual desire - do you really have to choose between one or the other? While antidepressants like Lexapro can be lifesaving — all too often, they can deflate our sex drive. But conversely - it’s hard to get aroused if your depression goes untreated. Is there any way out of this predicament? On today’s show, I’ll discuss how to overcome this struggle that is more common than you think - as you’ll hear from some of our listeners. From alternative treatments to hacks around timing and dosage, I’ll help you keep pleasure in your life without compromising your mental health.
Show Notes:
- Sexiest Gift Guide Ever: Emily’s Picks for 2022 Holidays
- Article: These Are The 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
- Episode: What’s Your Arousal Type?
- The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness (36 Questions)
- Article: How Do I Have Good Sex During Menopause?
- Hormone Intelligence by Aviva Romm, MD
- Article: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex?
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Make Scheduling Sex Sexy?
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Infidelity - it’s one of the most painful emotional experiences out there. But once the pain heals, it can also create enormous opportunities for growth and self-reflection.
In this episode, I’ll unpack infidelity and all the ways it can play out. It doesn’t always mean the end of a relationship. Sometimes, monogamy just isn’t the right fit. Other times, it means a couple needs to work on deepening intimacy and trust with one other. Whether you’ve been cheated on or you’re the cheater, I’ve got advice to help you work through it to create the love life you want.
Show Notes:
- Article: Ask Emily: My Wife Cheated
- VUSH (code ‘EMILYBFCM’ for 60% off Empress 2 OR Big O Bundle)
- More Tom Goss: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website
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Today, I’m bringing you a preview of a new audiobook I’m super excited about! Inside Voice by Lake Bell is a humorous, insightful, and personal deep dive into the
cultural constructs, social science, and psychology around our voices. Featuring contributors like Drew Barrymore, Pam Grier, and Jeff Goldblum – and yours truly! – Lake explores everything from how our vocal cords work to the cultural phenomenon around what she calls "sexy baby voice.” In this preview, Lake and I unpack her complicated feelings about the sexy baby voice and how voice plays a role in the bedroom.
You can buy Inside Voice, exclusively on audio, now at https://bit.ly/insidevoiceemily or wherever you get your audiobooks.
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We all strive to be lifelong learners - as the world and people around us change, we need to adapt and evolve to keep up. And nowhere else is this more true than our sex lives. Our sexual intelligence can only reach its full potential if we’re open to nurturing its growth. That’s the mission of today’s call-in show. I answer your questions all about picking up new sex skills. From a fun-loving couple who wants to incorporate others into their play but can’t find the right candidates, to a twenty-something who wants to learn how to squirt on her own - these brave callers’ questions offer something for everyone to learn from.
Show Notes:
- Article: The Different Kinds of Unconventional Couples
- Article: The Guide to a Successful Friends with Benefits Relationship
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome?
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Playground
- Je Joue (use code ‘Emily30’ for 30% off)
- #Open
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Got hangups around oral sex? You’re not alone. While oral sex can provide abundant intimacy and pleasure, lots of us struggle with giving – and sometimes, receiving – it.
Today, we’re getting out of our heads and communicating with our partners: two essential steps for mind-blowing oral sex. Love giving oral, but it’s not being reciprocated? Concerned about hygiene issues – either your own, or your partner’s? What if your partner takes a while to orgasm during oral, but your jaw gets tired along the way? From hangups to hygiene - I answer your questions so you can amp up your oral and enhance your pleasure.
Show Notes:
- VUSH Destination: Play (code ‘SEXWITHEMILY’ for 40% off)
- Article: Ask Emily: Oral Sex for Beginners
- Article: How to Give a Better Blowjob
- Article: Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
- Article: Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex
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Life is short, so why not add sex toys to your pleasure routine? Vulva owners seem to understand this, but today I’m talking toys for penises. Whether you have one or you want to please one, sex toys offer tons of benefits. Plus, toys are not just for solo play - they can enhance connection (and pleasure) with your partner.
But it can be difficult to know what to look for, how to use them, and why you may need them at all. And that’s why on today’s episode, I’m myth-busting misconceptions and sharing my top products and tips for penile pleasure. From lasting harder and longer, to discovering those pleasure points a hand alone simply can’t reach - if there’s a penis in your life, I’ve got the toy for it.
Show Notes:
- Je Joue Mio Vibrating Cock Ring (Emily30 for 30% off)
- Magic Wand
- Playground (SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off 1st order)
- Aneros Helix Trident
- Promescent Delay Spray
- Article: How Do I Buy My Boyfriend a Sex Toy?
- Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo / Duo
- Fleshlight
- Tenga
- LELO HUGO (EMILY for 25% off all products)
- Fun Factory NOS
- We-Vibe Verge
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First comes love, then comes anal. Isn’t that how the song goes? On today’s best of show, we’re talking your sexual firsts: your first dating app, oral sex experience, anal play, and so much more. I help you face your fears so you can radically expand your pleasure potential.
Up first: she’s 32 weeks pregnant and wants to keep her partner satisfied – but she’s never given him oral. Where to begin? He wants his wife to experience sex with another woman, so they can have their first threesome. But is she truly into the idea or just going along with it to please him? And last but not least - she’s got a play partner who wants to try anal, but has her reservations regarding pain and hygeine. How do you avoid a messy situation? We will unravel all this and more.
Show Notes:
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Ask Emily: How Do I Deal with Anxiety During Sex?
- 6 Tips for Mastering the Game-Changing Technique of Mindful Masturbation
- How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile
- Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship?
- How to Give a Better Blowjob
- Ask Emily: I Hate Giving My Partner Oral Sex
- Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome?
- Ask Emily: How Do We Find Someone for a Threesome?
- Yes, No, Maybe List: Find New Ways to Play
- Sex With Emily Guides
- How to Explore Anal Sex
- 8 Tips for the Best Anal Ever
- Easing Into Anal (Everything But Insertion)
- The 7 Best Positions For Butt Sex
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Sexual fantasies are not only normal, they’re a key component of your sexual health. But why are we attracted to certain fantasies? And is it normal to have certain fantasies, or no fantasies at all?
On this episode, I reveal your top sex fantasies and why you have them. I also divulge your fantasy success stories and questions, from CNC to cuckolding. I give you tips for expanding your erotic imagination.
Show Notes:
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Ask Emily: How Do We Prepare for a Threesome?
- Your Guide to Consensual Non-Consent
- Ask Emily: How to Become More Dominant In Bed
- Pegging 101: How to Try Strap-On Sex
- The Beginner’s Guide to Role-Play
- The 5 Best Ways to Have Sex Outside
- How Do I Explore Bisexuality While in a Relationship?
- What to Do When Your Partner Says ‘No’ to Trying New Things
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So what’s the hardest part about dating? Meeting people? Making conversation? Figuring out if there’s enough chemistry? How do you have dates that leave you happy, aligned and energized, rather than defeated and hopeless?
On today’s best-of show, I’m here for your dating dilemmas. He’s new to dating, and nervous to talk to women – I give some talking points. She wants to have sex, but also wants it to be more than casual – I help refine her approach. He’s super honest about being polyamorous, but they think he needs to grow up – I coach him on how to find the right partners, while still being open. Because when it comes to dating, your people are out there – you just have to learn how to look.
Show Notes:
- Higher Dose Infrared Sauna Blanket (use code EMILY 15% off sitewide**)
- Got A Sex or Relationship Question? Call me.
- Ask Emily: How Do I Attract a Healthy Relationship?
- How to Make an Awesome Dating App Profile
- Is Casual Sex Right For You?
- What Exactly is an “Open” Relationship?
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We’re all looking for better ways to have sex. But what if I told you the thing holding you back is your own beliefs around sex and sexuality? My guest today knows a thing or two about how to realize our own sexual well-being.
Author, filmmaker, and founder of The Sex Ed, Liz is a sexual wellness connoisseur. In her new book Sex, Health & Consciousness, Liz explains how to build a sexual consciousness for a radically happier, healthier life. She’ll help me answer your questions on masturbation, shame, BDSM, and how to rewire the way we think about pleasure.
Show Notes:
- 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Pre-Order Liz’s Book: Sex, Health, and Consciousness
- More Liz Goldwyn: Website | Instagram | Twitter
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Got relationship drama? Don’t we all. On today’s Best of show, I’m helping you navigate choppy relationship waters, to get to the other side safely.
First up: he just divorced, and jumped right into an ultra-serious relationship. Too soon? Next: when you’ve got a massive crush on your coworker, should you divorce your spouse and pursue your colleague instead? And if you’re not so into your partner’s bedroom style, can you teach them to be more dominant? All this and more on a particularly juicy Best Of show.
Show Notes:
- Article: You and Your Partner Have Mismatched Sex Drives
- Article: What Your Attachment Style Says About Your Love Life
- Podcast: The Clit Notes
- XConfessions.com
- Article: 7 New Ways to Use a Magic Wand
- Foria: Awaken Arousal Oil with CBD
- Hot Octopuss Pulse III Solo
- Hot Octopuss Pulse III Duo
- Aneros Helix Trident
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If you know me, you know that my dream is to have a bottle of lube on every nightstand. But why? Enhanced pleasure is one reason. And on this episode, I’ll give you several more.
Think of this as your consumer reports on lube: I’m answering all of your lube inquiries, giving you the low-down on key ingredients, and helping you reach for the right lube at the right time. I’m also breaking down the science behind lube’s benefits, and walking you through the best options for every type of sexual occasion.
Show Notes:
- Article: How To Find The Best Lube For You
- Playground (use code SEXWITHEMILY for 15% off first order)
- Uberlube “Good to Go” Travel Sets from Good Vibrations
- Woo More Play Coconut Oil
- Pjur’s Back Door Lube
- Sliquid Silk
- System Jo
- Coconu
- OhLavinia
- Foria CBD Intimacy Oil
- GoLove CBD Intimate Lube
- First Response Pre-Seed
- Good Clean Love Biogenesis
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When it comes to penis parts, do you know which ones are rich with nerve endings? Which areas need a gentle touch? And which can handle more force? On today’s Best of show, I’ll give you tips for penile pleasure from head to shaft, perineum to prostate.
We also take your listener questions: when you’re in a long term relationship, who should initiate sex? If you’re not turned on by your partner of nearly a decade, what’s next? And when you’ve been masturbating for years, but discovered your entire family could hear you…how do you deal? We’ll cover all this and more.
Show Notes:
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It’s the question everyone has asked themselves at least once. Should I break up with my partner? Relationship success depends on so many factors - communication, emotional intimacy, and of course - sexual connection. Figuring out which problems are worth solving and which ones are directing you to the exit sign can be confusing, exhausting and painful.
So on today’s show, I take your questions - live - to figure out if you should make up or break up. Is bad sex worth leaving someone over? What about an age gap that puts both of you in much different life stages? Or how do you know if an affair has the potential to turn into something real? We learn so much from other people’s relationships. No matter where you are in your own, this will teach us all how to make better choices going forward.
And if you want your questions answered on the next Hotline Call show, please reach out! You can leave messages online at sexwithemily.com/ask-emily or by calling 559-TALK-SEX (825-5739). Just leave your name, age, where you live and how you listen to the show! (You can always change your name or choose to remain anonymous.)
Show Notes:
- Article: How to Have Sex When You're In a Full House
- Use code EMILY for 15% off Higher Dose at-home wellness products
- Episode: Manifest Your Partner (It Worked for Me)
- Yes No Maybe List
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So you want to try a new kink? Well, you’ve come to the right podcast. On today’s Best Of show, I answer your questions and help open your mind (and body) to all things kink and BDSM - from squirting to nipple-gasms. Pushing ourselves outside our comfort zone can lead to enhanced intimacy and heightened pleasure. All you need are the right tools, compassionate communication, patience and plenty of lube.
Show Notes:
- 6 Kink Styles (& How To Explore Them)
- Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed
- Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)
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Quiet quitting: the act of leaving without leaving. At a job, it’s refusing to stay late, not seeking out extra projects, and only doing exactly what your role requires. Critics call it lack of inspiration or hustle – but proponents say it’s simply setting boundaries.
But can quiet quitting apply to our relationships? I’ll explain the signs to look out for and how to initiate the hard conversations you may need to have with your partner. If we can put aside our inner people pleaser, we can avoid long term resentment and articulate our needs.
Show Notes:
- Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)
- Gottmans on Compatibility, Conflict & Conversation
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Let’s train our orgasm muscle: the pelvic floor. We all have one. And like our other muscles, strengthening it can yield physical benefits. In this case, a more explosive orgasm.
On today’s show I put the spotlight on edging – a sex technique for more intense orgasms – and give you a slew of additional tips for maximizing your pleasure. Penis owners, do you use toys yet? Because I’ve got killer recommendations for you. People in relationships, ever been cheated on? I help one caller move through the process. Stuck in the friendzone? Through direct communication, we can all escape platonic purgatory.
Show Notes:
- Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed
- Playground (get 15% off first order with code SEXWITHEMILY)
- How to Climax Harder and Faster
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How do you know if you’re bisexual? In honor of Bisexuality Visibility Day, author Jen Winston helps me answer just that. In her book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much, Jen reveals how she came to terms with her bisexuality, in a world that loves to slap stereotypes on it: greedy, slutty, and constantly confused.
Whether you’re a vulva owner in a heterosexual partnership who wants to explore same sex fantasies, or a penis owner who has recently come out as gay but still has thoughts about the opposite sex, Jen helps us all understand why sexuality is about so much more than who you’re sleeping with. Because after all, your sexuality is less about the destination and more about the journey to get there.
Show Notes:
- Tickets to Book Release Event with Jen Freed
- bisexual.com/">Jen Winston’s book Greedy: Notes From a Bisexual Who Wants Too Much
- Open by Rachel Krantz
- Jen Winston on Twitter
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Let’s manifest our dream partners and our best sex. Because listen: if our romantic lives aren’t aligned with the people we actually are, we have an opportunity to change that.
Today, I’ll tell you how I manifested my own partner, the specific steps used to get there, and why the science behind this practice works. I’ll also answer your questions about finding the one and how manifestation can apply to your everyday dating and sex dilemmas.
Show Notes:
- 15 Types of Sexuality and Attraction To Help You Understand Your Desire Style
- Joe Dispenza - Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself
- Introducing Playground's chief sexologist
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Do you fake orgasms? Be honest. Whether we feel pressured to end the sexual experience, or simply don’t know how to orgasm with a partner, faking it is common for every gender and orientation.
So on today’s episode, we discuss how to hold out for the real thing while also restoring your sex life. What do you do when it’s not just your orgasm that’s gone missing, but your entire sex life? Or how about when it's physical pain holding you back from having more pleasure? I’ll help callers with these questions and others as we embark on a mission to get you back to orgasming and back to a more pleasurable sex life.
Show Notes:
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What’s your sex language? We all have one. And once we’re fluent in the four types, we can expand our repertoire to more effectively please our partner – and advocate for what we want.
In today’s episode, we will explore just that with psychologist and astrologer Jen Freed. Her forthcoming book “A Map to Your Soul: Using the Astrology of Fire, Earth, Air, and Water to Live Deeply and Fully” explains how these elements relate to the type of sex we want and how to create an erotic field with our partner. Dr. Freed offers a formula for alchemizing amazing sex by combining the principles of psychology and astrology, along with curious communication.
Show Notes:
- Is Casual Sex Right For You?
- Pre-order A Map to Your Soul
- More Jen Freed: Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website
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Dating as an adult is exhausting. While experience comes with age, actually applying that experience is easier said than done…even for professionals.
With me today are two therapy professionals who also happen to be partners: John Kim and Vanessa Bennett. Their book “It’s Not Me, It’s You” offers an anecdotal road map of how to “relationship better,” from overcoming commitment issues, to fanning the sex flames, to breaking the blame cycle. John and Vanessa expertly dissect their own relationship to inspire us to create healthy bonds with the people we love. Listen to learn why “the one” is a myth, how to wean ourselves off codependency and how to replace obligatory sex with erotic collaboration.
Show Notes:
- More John Kim: Instagram | Twitter | Website
- More Vanessa Bennett: Instagram | Website | Podcast
- Pegging 101: How to try strap-on Sex
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To peg, or not to peg? That’s the question we’re going to push into today… and yes, pun intended. Pegging, which typically involves a penis owner being penetrated through the use of a strap-on dildo by a vulva owner, seems to be more popular than ever.
But arguably more than other forms of pleasure, strap on sex challenges the way we think about masculinity, femininity and heteronormative pleasure. Role reversal and anal play require a great deal of trust, empathy and vulnerability. But if partners can work through these challenges, the payoff can be immense. And that’s why on today’s episode, I want to explore not just the steps partners should take to responsibly explore strap on intercourse, but also how the benefits can go way beyond the bedroom.
Show Notes:
- Do’s and Dont’s of Anal Sex
- How to Find The Best Lube For You
- Savage Love by Dan Savage
- Best Sex Toys for Couples
- Harnesses and Anal-Safe Dildos from Good Vibrations
- Ask Emily: My Partner Is Friendly With Other Guys
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How can you be bold in the bedroom? I’ve got the boldness queen herself, Jen Cohen of the “Habits & Hustle” podcast, to tell us how to design the life you actually want — including, of course, your sex life.
Jen explains the 10% Target Mindset, the difference between what you want and what you need when it comes to sexual partners, how to build better intimacy habits, and how to normalize failure so that you take more risks. That’s where boldness comes in: to identify what you want, and be brave enough to work for it.
Show Notes:
- Jen Cohen TED Talk
- Falling Forward by Jen Cohen
- Website
- “Habits & Hustle” podcast
- Embodied is the New Sexy: 5 Benefits of Living A Radically Embodied Life
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Have you ever wondered what it would be like to have a sexually fluid relationship? As in, you and your partner discuss bisexuality openly…either yours, theirs, or both? What about having multiple partners? Or trying a threesome together? Are these possibilities you’d consider, or are you like: NO THANK U, NEXT!
Well on today’s best-of show, I’ve got two individuals who can tell you exactly what it’s like to be in a successful, alternative relationship. First you’ll hear from actor/model Nico Tortorella on navigating bisexuality, how sex changed once they got sober, and what it’s like for them to fall for someone outside of their primary partnership.
Next, you’ll hear from MMA fighter, fellow podcaster and Aussie fan fave Jason Ellis on how he and his fiance (now wife) conduct a radically open relationship, why he’s thrilled for another man to give her sexual pleasure, and his best recommendations for your first threesome. Come for the open minds, stay for the sex tips.
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Casual sex gets a bad rap. We associate it with hookup culture, with disposability, with mindless Tinder swipes. But it doesn’t have to be that way: when approached with an intentional, conscious mindset, casual sex can be exactly what you need to feel erotic and energized again. The key? Knowing yourself – and knowing precisely what you want to get out of your casual sex experience.
On today’s show, I parse out all the different types of casual sex out there, and offer some research that may surprise you. Next, I discuss how you know if casual sex is right for you, and when it’s best to say, “no thank you.” Finally, I coach you on how to make your casual sex encounters fulfilling, with maturity, self-awareness, and of course – an orgasm or two. Or ten.
Show Notes:
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What’s holding you back in bed? We’ve all got our pain points: body image, not being able to tell your partner what you want, feeling embarrassed to make noise or express yourself. But I asked you how you overcame sexual insecurities, and you came back with SOLID advice. So on today’s show, along with my advice, we’re spreading the sexual confidence gospel using tips from the Sex With Emily community.
First, we get into body image: how to hack your brain to feel more comfortable in your skin. Next, I talk about my favorite subject: communicating with your partner, to create a culture of sex positivity. Finally, I’ve got a particularly juicy tip to help you let go in bed and express yourself without inhibition — to hear it, just take a listen to this episode.
Show Notes:
- Ask Emily: My Partner Watches Porn a LIttle Too Enthusiastically
- Feeld
- Fet Life
- First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome
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If you build a sex room, they will come. That’s the idea behind the new Netflix show “How to Build a Sex Room,” and on today’s episode I’ve got designer Melanie Rose here with me to discuss her real-life erotic renovations.
From a rock n’ roll dungeon to a high-end sex spa, Melanie has all kinds of decor ideas you can steal: spanking benches, wall-mounted handcuffs, soundproofing wall art. All of these are client-approved sex innovations, but the show has a touching side too. You get to see all kinds of clients, from suburbanites to polycules, parents to long-distance couples, discuss their fantasies and sexual desires – some of them for the very first time. And you know I’m all about that.
Show Notes:
- For More Melanie Rose: Netflix show | Instagram | Website | Pinterest
- Where is The Clitoris?
- throw.html">Liberator Throw Blanket
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Let’s get sexually adventurous, people. On today’s hotline calls show, you’re bringing the novelty, and I am one hundred percent here for it.
Jumping right in: can you use the same sex toy with multiple partners? Let’s find out. If you’re in your 20s and hooking up with a much older woman, is that ok? Or what if you’re all about female empowerment, except you ARE a female, and you DO want to be choked and spanked in bed? Finally: there’s a first time for everything, so should you tell a partner that you’ve never had penetration before? Or what if you’re married, and ready to experience your first open relationship – except your spouse isn’t on-board? All this and more on a particularly juicy hotline calls show.
Show Notes:
- Shop Page
- Vesper Vibrator Necklace
- Bellesa
- Sex, Porn & (Erika) Lust
- No Shame, Just Sex w/ Erin Tillman
- Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
- The Ethical Slut
- Open Deeply
- It’s Open (Relationship) Season w/ Dr. Wednesday Martin
- Orgasms & Oral (No Penetration Required)
- First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome
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Gotta love relationship advice delivered in a thick New York accent. I’ve got Adam Ferrara on the show today, and we’re healing your emotional triggers so you can have thriving interpersonal connections. Capiche?
Adam and I talk meditation and breathwork for anxiety, the difference between responding and reacting to your partner, how to cultivate a felt sense of your emotions, and the difference between worry and responsibility. As a self-described co-dependent, Catholic Italian, Adam is as real as it gets about getting vulnerable and doing self-work, so you can experience better love, sex, and communication. We also help a caller in her 20s get more selfish in the bedroom – because when it comes to sex, selfishness can be a real virtue.
Show Notes:
More Adam Ferrara: Youtube Comedy Special | Website | Instagram | Twitter | Podcast
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Let’s talk about non-monogamy! In the nearly two decades since I’ve been doing the show, I’ve never gotten so much interest in this topic as I am right now. Which is why I’m joined today by cultural anthropologist Dr. Wednesday Martin, who in addition to researching non-monogamy for her books and articles, has first-hand experience opening up her own marriage.
On today’s episode, Wednesday reveals what modern sex research shows about female sexuality and long-term, monogamous relationships: a woman’s desire typically wanes between year 1 to 4. In addition, Wednesday and I discuss the difference between non-monogamy, swinging and polyamory, how to go about finding a partner outside of your primary relationship, how to set rules, and the surprising ways opening up improved her own partnership.
Show Notes:
- More Wednesday Martin: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Youtube
- Untrue by Wednesday Martin
- 7 Myths of Non-Monogamy
- Feeld
- Opening Up by Tristan Taormino
- Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement by Tammy Nelson
- The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
- Open Deeply: A Guide to Building Conscious, Compassionate Open Relationships
- Crazy on the Inside: A Memoir of Nobody Special
- Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non Monogamy
- The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy: Your Guide to Open Relationships, Polyamory and Letting Go
- More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
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Have you ever tried anal play? Anal sex? Because if not, here’s my question to you…what’s holding you back?
For most folks, the answer is fear. We’re scared it will hurt, scared that we don’t know what we’re doing, scared we’ll feel ashamed if we just so happen to love it. That’s why I’ve got two of the anal pleasure experts on the show today, to help demystify and destigmatize anal play, and help you open up yet another pathway to pleasure. Dr. Evan Goldstein and Alicia Sinclair talk to me about anal orgasms (not a myth), the importance of anal training, how to prepare hygienically, and how to strengthen the mind-booty connection for a successful, erotic anal experience.
Show Notes:
- Anal Play: A Beginner's Guide OR Prostate Play 101
- More Evan Goldstein: Website | Instagram | Bespoke Surgical | Future Method
- More B-vibe: Website | Instagram
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If you’ve never talked about your sex life with your partner before, there’s a good chance they’ll push back. Why? Because most of us go into fight or flight mode when talking about sex: it’s not normalized in our culture, we get defensive, we feel like we’re being criticized. But never fear – you can create a culture of sex communication in your relationship, one talk at a time. Be the change, is what I’m saying.
On today’s hotline show, I take your calls about having a sex talk. Like: telling your wife you want her to massage your prostate. Or telling a partner you want your vanilla sex to be a little spicier. How to relax into oral and give your partner tips to make you scream, and how to tell your partner: “you know what? I need to be seduced a little before we jump into penetration.” If we can talk about sex like we talk about dinner, everyone wins! So take a listen to this episode, and see if your next sex talk isn’t a little bit easier.
Show Notes:
- Embodied is The New Sexy: 5 Benefits of Living a Radically Embodied Life
- A+ Oral Sex for Vulvas
- Everybody Loves Oral
- Ask Emily: How Do I Better Enjoy Oral Sex?
- Mind-Blowing Oral Sex in Under 5 Minutes: The Kivin Method
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Do you always have sex on the the first date? Do you always swipe right on people who aren’t good for you? What are your bad dating habits – and how can you break them?
I asked you to tell me what negative dating patterns you’re trying to change, and you all delivered! On today’s show, I’m addressing your top dating problems so we can solve them together. Having sex too soon, trying to “fix” less-than-ideal partners, fear of asserting yourself, having misaligned expectations, the tendency to audition people for the role of life partner – we’re covering it all, so you can feel empowered with new partners and have an amazing time with existing partners.
Show Notes:
- Ask Emily: Tips for French Kissing
- Am I Dating a Narcissist? w/ Dr Ramani
- How to Not Die Alone w/ Logan Ury
- Orgasms and Oral (No Penetration Required)
- More About EMDR Therapy
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When it comes to sex, why was the world set up so that vulva owners are the ones in charge of preventing a pregnancy? That’s the central question of a Twitter thread that went viral in 2018, and on today’s show I’ve got Gabrielle Stanley Blair, the author of that thread – and a forthcoming book, Ejaculate Responsibly – here to talk about it. I’m also joined by anthropologist, author, and my dear friend Dr. Wednesday Martin, to unpack this fascinating topic.
In a post-Roe world, Gabrielle is calling for a wholesale shift in the way we think about pregnancy prevention: namely, by inviting penis owners and their bodies into the conversation. On today’s show, we talk condoms and sexual pleasure, how society pressures vulva owners to become mothers, how to talk to young men about ejaculating responsibly, why MORE sex ed leads to LESS unwanted pregnancies, and why Gabrielle – mother of six and a Mormon – is passionate about arguing that women’s lives matter, and so does their pleasure.
One more thing: Can pre-ejaculate, or pre-cum, cause unwanted pregnancy? Pre-ejaculate actually does NOT contain sperm. However, any sperm remaining in the urethra from a previous ejaculation may be carried out with pre-cum which would have a chance of causing a pregnancy.
The solution? Urinate before having sex to flush out any leftover sperm, and, as always, wear a condom!
For more information, visit Teen Health Source.
Show Notes:
- More Gabrielle Blair: Instagram | Twitter | Website
- Gabrielle’s Viral Twitter Thread
- More information about her forthcoming book: Ejaculate Responsibly
- More Dr Wednesday Martin: Instagram | Twitter | Website
- The Secret to Better Sex? Talking About It
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Anxiety, depression and low self-worth all block our sexual pleasure. But on a more fundamental level, they block us from showing up in the world the way we’d like: as confident, happy, sexy people. That’s why I invited my own therapist, Dr. Anadel Barbour, to talk to us through healing those intrusive thoughts. If you’re ready, your internal work starts today.
On this best-of episode, Dr. Barbour and I discuss EMDR therapy, the four foundations of mindfulness, how to physically move through trauma, healing shame, and how to know if you’re in constant fight or flight. We also touch on sex and pain, and mindfulness in and out of the bedroom. If you’ve ever considered therapy but are on the fence about it, I hope this episode gives you some encouragement – because healing emotional wounds can truly transform your sex life.
Show Notes:
- More Dr Anadel Barbour: Website | Instagram | Twitter
- Sex In Sobriety by Dr Anadel Barbour
- More About EMDR Therapy
- Overcoming 4 Common Sex Fears
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Ah, weddings. So ceremonial. So floral. After two years of postponements and cancellations, IRL weddings are back – but are all those newlyweds talking about their sex life? They probably should be!
Married sex is full of tired, toxic cliches that I’m personally ready to bust. We don’t have to settle for absent or boring sex as we grow old together. So on today’s episode, I’m making the case for writing your sex vows before you walk down the aisle, helping you recreate honeymoon sex if you’ve been married for ages, and giving you a lay of the land culturally-speaking on how we’re thinking about sex and relationships now. Plus, I take your questions: how to navigate bisexuality in a straight marriage, what it means if you find yourself jealous at your friend’s weddings and how to bring back the spark…when the spark was a little dim in the first place.
Show Notes:
- Ask Emily: Tips for French Kissing
- The Yes No Maybe List
- The Pleasure Planner
- Hinge
- Bumble
- Feeld
- #Open
- FetLife
- Skirt Club
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What cultural or religious programming do you have around sex? Even if you didn’t grow up in a church, sexual shame is – in so many ways – the air we breathe. But here’s the reality: you didn’t put those thoughts there. Someone else did. And on today’s show with guest Erin Tillman, we’re calling out those judgmental messages, and choosing the sex messaging that actually serves us. The result? A radically more authentic, more liberated sex life.
As an inclusive dating coach, Erin is no stranger to shame – and she’s heard it all from her clients. Whether it was that one rude thing a partner said that haunted you for years, or a parent that told you masturbation was dirty, shame love to hide in the shadows…and hold you back in the bedroom. So on today’s show, Erin and I talk about how we healed our own sexual shame, dropped performative sex, and got comfortable with the word “no.” You’ll also learn the difference between “no” and “not yet” when it comes to dating, how to make good choices on dating apps, and how to flip your internal shame script.
Show Notes:
- More Erin Tillman Website | Twitter | Instagram
- Yes No Maybe List
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It’s a good time to expand our definition of sex. At the end of the day, sex is play for adults: it’s where we collaborate with another person, creating a momentary world of pleasure and eroticism with them. But so often, we assume that sex equals penetration, and here’s the problem with that: not everyone orgasms during penetration. Not everyone feels erotic during penetration! So let’s make sex more interesting and exploratory, shall we?
On today’s show, I’m talking up all the different types of non-penetrative sex – like mutual masturbation, sensual massage, toys, hand stuff – to help you break out of a conventional sex script, and have sex that’s more tailored to your personality and desires. Because you never have to take penetration off the table entirely…but what would happen if you took it off the table for a little while? (Hint: probably more orgasms.)
Show Notes:
- Prostate Play 101
- Want to Try a Sex Cleanse?
- Penis Problems, Solved
- Shop with Emily
- 4 Ways to Close The Orgasm Gap
- First Date, First Orgasm, First Threesome
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How much do you know about your partner’s sexual language? Or your own sexual language? In this best of episode, sex educator, author and licensed therapist Jamye Waxman is here to talk about core erotic blueprints, sexual accelerators and brakes, and the sixth love language: space and freedom.
Jamye and I talk through the communication skills you need to help your sexual connection thrive, because if resentment is the relationship killer…curiosity is the relationship healer. So in this show, you’ll learn how to turn your communication style from critical to curious, as you and your partner learn who you both are as erotic beings.
Show Notes:
- For More Jamye Waxman: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook
- The Secrets to Better Sex? Talk About It
- More About Your Erotic Blueprint
- Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life
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Jenny Mollen is the author of City of Likes, a fictional comedy about mommy influencer culture and the intensity of female friendships – especially when one of them is a narcissist. Are they obsessed with each other? Do they want to have sex with each other? And what do you do when someone’s perfectly-curated facade finally cracks?
Jenny and I met years ago, and I know you’ll love her just as much as I do. Besides being a bestselling author, she’s also an actor, host of the hilarious “Third Wheel with Jenny Mollen” podcast, a mom, and wife to actor Jason Biggs. On this episode, she talks about the personal experiences with social media that inspired her book, why she wants to see a sex therapist, and helps me answer your sex and relationship questions. For example, if you’re in a relationship, is it ok to comment on someone else’s Instagram telling them how attractive they are? Jenny and I give it to you straight.
Show Notes:
- For More Jenny Mollen: Podcast | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook | Website
- Her New Book: City of Likes
- Overcoming 4 Common Sex Fears
- Am I Dating a Narcissist? W/ Dr Ramani
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It’s my strong belief that pleasure is the antidote to fear, now and always. But when it comes to sex, we really can be our own worst enemies: what if my new partner sees me naked, and decides to jet? What if I try out some dirty talk, and my partner laughs at me? What if I approach someone cute…and they say ‘no thank you’?
Fear can be crippling to our sex drive – but it can also be digested and processed. To do that, we can check the facts, we can remember that most things aren’t personal, and we can talk about our fears out loud. (Meditation helps too!) So on today’s best of episode, I’m talking to you all about YOUR sex fears: period sex, sharing a fetish with a new partner, old traumas, fear that you’ll never get over an ex, and much more to help you live YOUR most free, sexually healthy life.
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Shaun T is host of the podcast “Trust and Believe,” a world renowned fitness trainer, and a professional dancer. Not to mention a wonderfully sex positive man, but it was a journey – I repeat, a JOURNEY – to get there.
On today’s show, Shaun T gives me his genius sex and arousal hacks, how he and his partner keep things interesting after 12 years and two kids, plus…his favorite kink. He also opens up about surviving childhood sexual assault, how he came to understand and accept his sexuality, and the trauma work he did to get to where he is today. Trust me: if you need an instant pick-me-up around your sex, sexuality, or your body, this is *the* conversation for you.
Show Notes:
- More Shaun T: Podcast | Instagram | Website | Twitter | Youtube
- What’s Your Arousal Type?
- These Are the Five Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
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Despite their reputation as magical, mysterious events, orgasms are way more accessible than most of us realize, once we understand the science behind them. (And OK yeah, I admit – they’re pretty magical.)
As everyone’s favorite muscle spasm, the orgasm is a series of contractions from your pelvic floor muscles, which all of us have, and all of us can strengthen. But what else sets you up for orgasmic success? What if you can experience one alone, but not with a partner? What if you can orgasm in your sleep, but not in waking life? And what if you want to experience different kinds of orgasm (like anal) or, want multiples? I say: be greedy with your orgasm and listen to this best of episode, where we answer all these O questions and more.
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What do you need to get in the mood for sex? Have a lively conversation? Be touched in a suggestive way? Put on something sexy…or, have your partner get dressed up for you?
Today’s episode is all about arousal styles, and today, I’ll be looking at five. The science of sexual arousal is ever-evolving, but on this show I’m looking at some of the most common ways people get turned on (through conversation, visuals, touch, play or physical adventure), helping you ID what your style is, and what behaviors you can do in the moment to get it going. Kind of like love languages, but for sex. I’m also talking about the difference between arousal and desire, and, taking your questions! How to have sex when you’re stressed, anti-depressants numbing out your vulva, and if it’s OK to be more excited for masturbation than partnered sex.
Show Notes:
- There Are 5 Arousal Styles. Which One Are You?
- Sex Up Your Love Language
- Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex w/ Ian Kerner
- The Yes No Maybe List
- You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 1
- You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 2
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It’s one of the most common questions I get: how do I initiate sex the right way?
Listen: there’s no one “right” way to initiate sex. But I’ll be honest, it might take a little warm up period to get everyone ready and on the same page. That’s because sex is just as much a head game as a body one, so in this episode, we’re helping you calm your nerves before initiation, recover from failed initiations, and walk into each sexual encounter with more confidence. At the end of the day, we all crave intimacy, and we all want to please our partners – and by the end of this episode, I think you’ll feel much more clear on how to arouse your partner.
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What does it mean exactly, when someone says they’re a voyeur? A sub? A cuckhold or an exhibitionist? It’s part 2 of our “You’re Kinkier Than You Think” series…and folks, we are getting a kinky education.
On today’s episode, I’m walking you through your sexual fantasies to see where you land on the kink spectrum. I’m talking submission and domination, exhibitionism and voyeurism, even a little humiliation, if that’s your preferred kink flavor. But because kink is play, I’m also giving you some specific ideas for how to explore these fantasies IRL – and, bonus, I’m taking all of your kinky questions.
Show Notes:
- Ask Emily: Kink and BDSM Ideas
- 6 Kink Styles (& How to Explore Them)
- You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 1
- Coming Together w/ Celeste & Danielle
- Emily’s Shop Page
- How to Dom with Your Text Messages
- Kink & Casual Sex Justin Lehmiller
- The Communication Guide
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What would the world be like if we didn’t have shame about sex? Can you imagine how different your life would be, if you were told that sexual pleasure was healthy? If you were given the memo early on that masturbation was legit self-care, and that sex itself was joyful and good for you, rather than a one-way ticket to STI’s and unwanted pregnancy?
Today’s best-of show is all about being the change we want to see in the world: becoming people who are conversant and comfortable discussing sex, because this is how we evolve people. Plus, I take your calls! Why using toys during sex is the literal best, what the hell a “lube shooter” is, and how to lovingly - persuasively - ask your partner for more oral.
Show Notes:
- 6 Hottest Masturbation Moves
- Relax, It’s Just Anal w/ Dr. Hernando Chaves
- Seducing The Booty w/ Alicia Sinclair
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When you hear the words “BDSM” and “kink,” what comes to mind? Leather? Whips? The truth is, all of us are a little kinky – you may just not have realized it yet. That’s why today’s episode is part 1 of a two-part BDSM and kink education series, where I help demystify this world and give you fun, safe options for exploring. Dungeons optional.
First, we’re defining our terms and getting a grasp on kink and BDSM – including, what the hell “BDSM” actually means. Next, we’re taking a look at core desires to help you identify yours, and talking about the psychology of power and play. Finally, I’m giving you some entry-level ways to bring kink to the bedroom, whether you’re coupled or single…and, answering all of your kinky questions.
Show Notes:
- 6 Kink Styles (& How to Explore Them)
- Ask Emily: Kink and BDSM Ideas
- Coming Together w/ Celeste and Danielle
- The Yes No Maybe List
- 5 Easy Steps to Start Exploring
- The Communication Guide
- Kink & Casual w/ Justin Lehmiller
- 5 BDSM Games to Spice Up Your Sex Life Tonight
- BDSM: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink
- You’re Kinkier Than You Think, Part 2
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Whether it’s erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation or a slight penis curve, it’s common to have penis questions – especially when they’re affecting your sex life. But where do you go for answers? You come right here, to this informative convo between me and urologist Dr. Edward Karpman, as well as Jeff Abraham of Promescent.
On this best-of show, we’re talking to you all about penis shockwave therapy, what to do when you can get erect (but aren’t climaxing), what to do when you take ED meds (but aren’t getting hard), and much more. Plus, I take your intimacy questions! How to get out of your head during sex, how to reduce anxiety in the run-up to intercourse, and how to effectively work with your penis as you get older.
Show Notes:
Missionary Sex Position - New and Improved
For more Dr. Karpman: male.com/">Website | Instagram
For more information about Promescent: Website | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook
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If you’re a parent or caregiver, should you talk to your child about masturbation? Yes. You absolutely should, even if it’s awkward, even if your own parents didn’t talk about it with you. (And let’s be real: they probably didn’t.) But I get it – finding the words can be hard, especially for such a touchy subject. That’s why today’s episode is devoted entirely to giving you tools, scripts and resources to help you.
First, I give you the big why: Why should you talk to your children, and teens specifically, about masturbation? I’ll give you several science-backed reasons why it’s wise to do so. Next, we’ll do some masturbation myth-busting, to help alleviate any concerns, on their part or yours, that it’s harmful or unhealthy. Great news: it’s not! And finally, I’ll walk you through how to have this conversation, with specific verbiage you can use to help put yourself and your child at ease. Don’t worry caregivers: I got you, and in this episode I’ll also answer your questions about teens and sex. Should you talk to your teen about ethical porn? What should you do if a teen daughter starts asking about sex toys? All this and more on today’s show.
Show Notes:
- Sex Positive Families: Website | Instagram
- Dr Lanae St John: Book | On Sex with Emily
- Shafia Zaloom: Book | On Sex with Emily
- Cory Silverberg: Website
- What should I teach my high school-aged teen about sex and sexuality?
- Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 1)
- Masturbation Pro Tips (Part 2)
- The Communication Guide
- Big Mouth
- Sex Education
- Good Vibrations
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On any given day, how do you talk about sex? Do you bone? Screw? Make love? According to my guest Amanda Montell, author of Wordslut, Cultish, and host of the podcast “Sounds Like a Cult,” the words we use to discuss sex reveals our attitudes about sex as a whole – even shaping the way we show up in the bedroom.
In this fascinating best of episode, Amanda and I talk about sex slang and body part euphemisms, like the fact that we frequently cute-ify female genitals to make them less threatening. But before you go, “oh this is thinky academic stuff,” know this: practically-speaking, your sex life WILL improve as your communication improves. Listen in, as Amanda and I play with language to get the sex we want.
For More Amanda Montell:
- Wordslut: A Feminist Guide to Taking Back the English Language
- Sounds Like a Cult Podcast | Cultish: The Language of Fanaticism
- Website | Instagram | Twitter
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How exactly does masturbation help a sexual partnership? Let me count the ways…
It’s Part 2 of our Masturbation Pro Tips series, and in today’s episode, we’re talking solo sex in the context of a relationship. I’m addressing some of the most common questions I get on the subject, such as: “if I already have a partner, why masturbate?” and: “if I masturbate in private, is it cheating?” We also discuss whether or not you should tell your partner if you masturbate, and touch briefly on porn addiction: starting with, is it real? Plus, I take your questions! How to set up your own “masturbation zone” when you live with a partner, whether it’s possible to have fantasy-free masturbation sessions, what to do if you can orgasm on your own but not with a partner, and much more.
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Missionary gets a bad rap. I’ve seen it called the “comfy sweater” of sex – and can we talk about the name? Not sexy. Almost…anti-sexy. But despite its label, I don’t think that’s why missionary is considered vanilla or boring. It’s simply the default position, the one a lot of us fall into automatically – making it easier for us to tune out, phone it in, and miss out on any potential eroticism.
So on today’s episode, we’re going to make missionary more exploratory, as I address some of your common complaints. Such as: how do we make it more exciting? I’ll tell you all the reasons I love missionary, and give you technique tips to make it more surprising and fun. Next, vulva owners: are you having a hard time reaching orgasm in missionary? Of course you are: it’s not the prime position for clitoral stimulation, so I’ll offer position hacks that make it more pleasurable. Finally, is it possible to be kinky during missionary? Oh yeah: from bondage to dirty talk, we can leverage all that eye contact to turn it into the hot experience you crave.
Show Notes:
Missionary Sex Position - New and Improved
The “Bottom” Line On Anal w/ Dr Evan Goldstein
Position Breakdown: Doggy Style Vs Cat Position
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Housewife turned billion-dollar co-founder Lisa Bilyeu is the picture of confidence: she’s got a thriving business, a partner she adores, and basically, is a literal boss. But she also overcame illness, insecurity, and massive relationship challenges to get where she is today.
In her new book Radical Confidence, Lisa shares the lessons that changed her life, and helped her become the hero of her own story. On today’s show, I ask her about keeping the sexual spark alive in a longterm relationship, the “purgatory of the mundane,” and how to have a growth mindset with your partner.
Show Notes:
- More: Radical Confidence
- More Lisa: Instagram
- How to Find The Best Lube for You
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