We are only going to grow to the extent that we’re willing to heal and a part of redefining self love is learning how to acknowledge and heal from hidden abuse.

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Shannon Thomas, LCSW, the international bestselling author of Healing from Hidden Abuse: A Journey Through the Stages of Recovery from Psychological Abuse and Exposing Financial Abuse: When Money is a Weapon.

Shannon is the Owner/lead therapist of an award-winning counseling practice in Southlake, TX. Thomas, Founder of the Keep Dreaming Big Project, a IRS approved 501 (c)(3), a certified trauma therapist and a fellow survivor of psychological abuse who is helping people around the world find healing.

Key discussion points from this episode include:

04:20 - An Unspoken Seventh Pillar

14:30 - How To Recognize Hidden Abuse

21:10 - Hidden Abuse In Religious Settings

30:00 - Identifying Signs Of Abuse While Dating

37:50 - Healing From Hidden Abuse

What Healing Looks Like Takeaways

• “I equate hidden abuse to poison in water, ‘You don’t really see it, until you start to feel it’.” - Shannon Thomas  
• “Psychological abuse is always there before a physical abuse episode.” - Shannon Thomas 
• “Stone walling is truly the message of, ‘I don’t see you, you don’t exist and you don’t matter’.” - Shannon Thomas  
• “It is a privilege to be in my presence.” - Patrice Washington 
• “Psychological abusers are attracted to success.” - Shannon Thomas   
• “Collect impressive No’s.” - Patrice Washington  
• “If I know where I’m not supposed to be, then I’m going to be really excited to know where I’m supposed to be.” - Shannon Thomas  

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Shannon’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“I define success by being at peace.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"My own freedom.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

The Psychology of Money by Morgan Housel

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Shannon Thomas and to me, the truth about wealth is you can define it for yourself.”

Connect With Shannon:

Instagram: @shannonthomas | https://www.instagram.com/shannonthomas/ 

Website: https://shannonthomas.com/

Counseling Practice: https://southlakecounseling.org/

LINKS:

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In order to redefine and amplify self-love, we have to address and accept the un-romanticized reality that we are living in. We have to be radically honest with ourselves and become what we say we desire, and we have to put in the time to do both the hard work and the heart work.

In this week’s episode, I’m breaking down how to stop romanticizing reality and how to prepare when you know that it’s time to walk away.

Key discussion points from this episode include:

05:00 - Stop Romanticizing Reality

14:00 - Create A Process For Processing

25:00 - Love Yourself Enough To Honor You

32:00 - Prepare For Your Exit 

39:50 - Choose How You Want To Participate

When to Walk Away Takeaways

• “As you increase self-love your tolerance for what doesn’t serve you decreases.” - Patrice Washington
• “The hard work is always the heart-work.” - Patrice Washington  
• “I believe that when we rationalize, we're rationing out lies.” - Patrice Washington 
• “If we believe that God is our source, anything else is just a resource.” - Patrice Washington  
• “Not being radically honest is costing us something every time we refuse to give voice to truth.” - Patrice Washington   
• “Being able to love someone else begins with being able to love myself enough to tell them the truth about what I see.” - Patrice Washington  
• “Decisions become easier when I prioritize and value peace over appearances.” - Patrice Washington 
• “An apology without change, in my eyes, is manipulation.” - Patrice Washington  
• “Stop romanticizing reality and tell yourself the truth.” - Patrice Washington 

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Redefining Love involves navigating the world of dating and relationships, which can be both terrifying and terrific all at once. While marriage is usually glorified in our society, I’m learning to embrace my single season and enjoy the connections that I’m able to make along the way. 

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by my friend, a national bestselling Author, Educator, Speaker, and Host of one of the top financial podcasts, Anthony O'Neal. 

Anthony went from being 19, and $35,000 in debt, to debt-free and living his life’s purpose, and as the Host of The Table with AO, he now strives to have REAL, RELATABLE & RELEVANT conversations that guide ambitious and purpose-minded people on a journey towards mental, spiritual and financial freedom.

Key discussion points from this episode include:

03:50 - Enjoy Your Single Season

07:50 - What’s On Your Dating List

19:00 - Relationships Require Vulnerability 

38:50 - Invest In You To Prepare For The One

45:00 - Help A Bear Build

48:10 - The Single’s Blueprint

Embracing Your Single Season Takeaways

• “I’m enjoying my single season.” - Anthony O'Neal
• “Men are going to cover up their vulnerable side until a woman allows us to open up.” - Anthony O'Neal 
• “If you have a man that is not vulnerable or emotional, it’s not his fault.” - Anthony O'Neal   
• “I’m really investing in me being a healthier version of a man.” - Anthony O'Neal
• “Become what you’re trying to attract.” - Anthony O'Neal  
• “The difference between someone who is successful and non-successful is they allow their moods to impact their moments.” - Anthony O'Neal
• “Sometimes people are not emotionally mature to process the truth.” - Anthony O'Neal
• “Help a bear build.” - Anthony O'Neal 
• “If she can not submit to God, she cannot submit to man.” - Anthony O'Neal 
• “Don’t allow your comfort zone to become your kill zone.” - Anthony O'Neal  
• “Your network is greater than your net worth.” - Anthony O'Neal

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Anthony’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Success is how many people have I helped to get out of debt and build wealth.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"Joy, Peace, Love.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

Think and Grow Rich: A Black Choice by Dennis Kimbro

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is AO, short for Anthony O'Neal and the truth about wealth is ‘God is good’.”

Connect With Anthony:

Instagram: @anthonyoneal | https://www.instagram.com/anthonyoneal/ 

Website: https://www.anthonyoneal.com/

Podcast: The Table With AO | https://www.youtube.com/@anthonyoneal

The Single’s Playbook Quiz: https://take.singlesplaybookquiz.com/

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Redefining Love requires prioritizing our health and well-being by protecting the only vessel we’re going to get. Our fitness journey is forever and learning to love our body is a key element in our journey to well-being. 

In this week’s episode, I’m joined by Entrepreneur, Mom, Certified Fitness Instructor, Gym Owner, and BeachBody/BODi Super Trainer, Lacee Green. With more than a decade of experience helping people live their best lives, Lacee is committed to showing that fitness comes in every shape, size, and color, and that every body is beautiful.

Key discussion points from this episode include:

04:45 - Redefining Health & Fitness

13:45 - Purpose Requires You To Protect Your Vessel

20:10 - Define How You See Yourself 

25:00 - Build Up Your Confidence In Yourself

30:25 - Work On Your Health Esteem 

36:30 - For Beginner’s Only

Fitness is a Feeling Takeaways

• “I feel like I am 1000% walking in my purpose.” - Lacee Green 
• “Fitness is a feeling.” - Lacee Green  
• “I love myself enough to be the happiest and healthiest version of me.” - Lacee Green
• “Our health is our greatest wealth.” - Lacee Green  
• “We have a duty and a responsibility to protect the only vessel we’re going to get.” - Patrice Washington 
• “We are so much more than just a number on a scale or a pants size.” - Lacee Green 
• “Find the joy and drop the judgment.” - Lacee Green
• “Health esteem is loving who you are and the person that you are becoming.” - Lacee Green 
• “We’re not here for a long time, we’re here for a great time.” - Lacee Green  
• “Our fitness journey is forever.” - Lacee Green

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Lacee’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“At the end of the day, loving myself.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"Love, purpose, soulfulness.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

The Perfection Detox by Petra Kolber

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Lacee Green and the truth about wealth is defining what is most valuable to you in your life as you follow this journey, one day at a time, in alignment in your soul.” 

Connect With Lacee:

Instagram: @thecurvygirltrainer | https://www.instagram.com/thecurvygirltrainer/?hl=en 

For Beginner’s Only: https://www.beachbodyondemand.com/blocks/for-beginners-only/start-here

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Redefining Love involves reanalyzing, removing and restoring relationships with people in every area of my life. It’s about understanding who’s in my corner, and who I need to establish boundaries with. 

In this week’s episode, I invite you into a conversation with one of my best friends, a relationship that means the world to me, Karli Harvey Raymond.

Karli is an Entrepreneur, International Host, Wife and Mother. She’s the CEO of New Heights Unlimited and the owner of a multi-million dollar top producing insurance agency. Karli is also a lifestyle maven and a business powerhouse who can light up any room and any stage. 

Key discussion points from this episode include:

07:00 - The Power Of A Praying Friendship

14:25 - Hold Space For Transparency & Non-Judgement

24:25 - The Connection Between Pleasure & Purpose

32:00 - Create The Life You Desire

Who’s In Your Corner Takeaways

• “Oftentimes we don’t get to hear the hearts of our friends.” - Karli Harvey Raymond
• “God is in all things.” - Karli Harvey Raymond
• “God hears the cries of the desperate.” - Karli Harvey Raymond
• “Sometimes people aren’t looking for advice, they just need a listening ear.” - Karli Harvey Raymond
• “I’m not going to see you suffering and then pray that you stay suffering.” - Karli Harvey Raymond
• “I’m asking that God give you the tools that you need on the journey for wherever you are on the journey.” - Karli Harvey Raymond 
• “We can’t find the pleasure in our lives if we are constantly bogged down by the suffering.” - Karli Harvey Raymond 
• “The longest relationship you’ll have with anyone is the relationship you have with yourself.” - Karli Harvey Raymond 

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Karli’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Time.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"Love, freedom, pleasure.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

Boundaries in Dating: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Relationships by Henry Cloud & John Townsend

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Karli Harvey Raymond and the truth about wealth is you will have to define it for yourself. It is an inside job, baby.”

Connect With Karli:

Instagram: @iamkarliraymond | https://www.instagram.com/iamkarliraymond/?hl=en 

LINKS:

Take The Redefining Wealth QUIZ: https://patricewashington.com/starthere/

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Are you struggling to find meaning in your life? "Have you ever felt like a walking contradiction? 

Despite growing up in the projects, Bestselling Author, Well-being Educator, and Self-healing Guide, Nakeia Homer never lost sight of who she wanted to become. She not only turned her wounds into wisdom, but she is on a mission to help others find value in their own life experiences and guide them towards creating a life of meaning and purpose. 

In this episode, Nakeia shares Her story, and dives into her latest book, All The Right Pieces. 

Key discussion points from this episode include:

04:50 - Having The Will To Survive

16:30 - Become The Best Version Of Yourself

22:00 - Embracing All The Pieces Of You

31:50 - How To Respect Your Younger Self

45:45 - What To Stop In Order To Heal

It’s All Coming Together Now Takeaways

• “I've been fighting since I've been in the womb.” - Nakeia Homer 
• “I finally am okay with all of me.” - Nakeia Homer
• “Show some respect to the version of yourself that didn't give up when you should have.” - Nakeia Homer 
• “She finally realized what she was carrying and decided to protect it at all costs.” - Nakeia Homer
• “We give so much of ourselves to other people and very little to ourselves. - Nakeia Homer
• “We’re invoicing people for things they didn’t even agree to.” - Nakeia Homer 
• “I don't need an apology to heal.” - Nakeia Homer 
• “Healing is responding better and better each time.” - Nakeia Homer  

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Nakeia’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Being okay.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"I got options.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

You’re A Badass At Making Money by Jen Sincero

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Nakeia and for me the truth about wealth is that I have a right to it.” 

Connect With Nakeia:

Instagram: @nakeiahomer | https://www.instagram.com/nakeiahomer/ 

All The Right Pieces Book: https://a.co/d/4xAJYL2

Website: https://nakeiahomer.com/

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As I Redefine Love and embrace what it looks like in this new season of my life, one of the books that has been instrumental to my healing is Homecoming, by Dr. Thema Bryant. 

Dr. Thema is an Author, Psychologist, Minister, and Sacred Artist, as well as Host of the Homecoming Podcast, a mental health podcast that helps others Overcome Fear And Trauma To Reclaim Their Whole, Authentic Self.

In this episode, Dr. Thema discusses why we all can benefit from a personal and professional Homecoming and why it’s okay to not heal overnight. 

Key discussion points from this episode include:

08:30 - How To Come Home To Self Personally

21:40 - Identifying Distractions That Disconnect Us

30:53 - How To Bring Your Heart Back

38:30 - Why We Should Dare To Dream Again

45:15 - How To Come Home To Self Professionally

Come Home to Yourself Takeaways

• “Leaving can be success.” - Dr. Thema Bryant 
• “Truth telling necessitates action.” - Dr. Thema Bryant 
• “It’s costly to be dishonest with ourselves.” - Patrice Washington
• “Joy is a decision.” - Dr. Thema Bryant  
• “We are worthy of having an intimate space where we’re not constantly being wounded.” - Dr. Thema Bryant 
• “As you connect with your body more, you will animate your heart.” - Dr. Thema Bryant 
• “I want to give myself permission for the full range of human emotion.” - Dr. Thema Bryant
• “I refuse to participate in the silencing of myself.” - Dr. Thema Bryant 
• “With healing, you will show up differently.” - Dr. Thema Bryant   

Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions

And with that, let’s dig into Dr. Thema’s responses to our Redefining Wealth Rapid Wisdom Questions.

Define Success:

“Utilizing all of my gifts to the point of fulfillment.” 

Define Wealth in 3 Words or Less:

"Abundance and overflow.” 

One Book that Has Helped You Redefined Wealth For Yourself:

Daughter Drink This Water by Jaiya John

Fill-in the Blanks … “My name is ___ and the truth about wealth is ___”:

“My name is Thema Simone and for me the truth about wealth is the goal is collective liberation, not an individual story.”

Connect With Dr. Thema

Instagram: @dr.thema | https://www.instagram.com/dr.thema/ 

Homecoming Book: https://a.co/d/1Uqv45x

Homecoming Podcast | https://drthema.com/podcast/

Website: https://drthema.com/

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Welcome Back to Season 9 of The Redefining Wealth Podcast! This season, we’re choosing to intentionally focus on self, and address the underlying issues that prevent us from embracing self love. Redefining Love is a part of wealth and to kick off the new season, this episode reveals why learning how to truly love myself has given me permission to live my life’s purpose.

Key discussion points from this episode include:

07:45 - Why I’m Redefining Self Love

11:00 - FIT Pillar: How To Become Your Best Self

15:00 - PEOPLE Pillar: Why it’s important to create relationships that matter 

23:00 - SPACE Pillar: How to set up your life to support you

26:20 - FAITH Pillar: Do you believe in something greater? 

30:20 - WORK Pillar: How to exercise self love in the work you do. 

33:20 - MONEY Pillar - How to attract the abundance you desire. 

Redefining Love Is Apart of Wealth Takeaways

• “Mindset is 80% of the journey.” - Patrice Washington 
• “I am exactly who I’ve always been.” - Patrice Washington 
• “Clutter is the physical manifestation of chaos in your mind.” - Patrice Washington
• “I had to give myself time to literally clear through digital clutter.” - Patrice Washington  
• “Self love looks like really allowing my definition and idea of God to be expanded.” - Patrice Washington 
• “Pay for peace.” - Patrice Washington
• “Release the idea of funding frustration.” - Patrice Washington 
• “I love myself too much to leave here without my affairs in order.” - Patrice Washington 
• “Purpose leads to fulfillment.” - Patrice Washington   

LINKS:

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I know the podcast is currently out of season, but I felt led to share a recent download that I believe will help you make 2023 the most intentional year of your life! 

Your business and your finances will only grow to the extent that you’re willing to heal and to help align yourself on the path toward what you truly desire; I've created a 6-week micromind, called Pillar Mastery. Tune in to learn more!

LINKS:

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I believe that I was called to this generation to help us Redefine Wealth for ourselves and create a solid foundation, so that when life happens or when God calls us to do something different, we are prepared. 

What I was not prepared for was to hear about a tragedy of one of my very own clients and fellow Purpose Chasers, Sophia Giraldo. Because of Sophia, I’m going all in on Redefining Wealth this year, and this week on Redefining Wealth, we’re closing out Season 8 of the podcast with a focus on living Unfiltered & Free!

Key discussion points from this episode include:

• Let Life Unfold - 0:35 
• Hold Space For Gratitude & Grief - 6:25
• Unfiltered & Free - 14:05 
• All Things Work Together For The Good - 20:25 
• Greatness Requires Resistance - 23:30 

Unfiltered & Free Takeaways

• “We can show gratitude and grieve all at the same time.” - Patrice Washington 
• “I want to be unfiltered and free.” - Patrice Washington 
• “God sees me and God loves me and truly knows my heart.” - Patrice Washington
• “God is showing me and exposing me and allowing me to experience some things so that I could go deeper in service.” - Patrice Washington
• “What the enemy means for harm, God will use it for something good.” - Patrice Washington
• “Greatness requires you to expect resistance.” - Patrice Washington 
• “I feel God really calling me to go all in on these pillars and really be more intentional about giving you guys what I believe you need.” - Patrice Washington
• “We need a strong foundation.” - Patrice Washington
• “I'm going all in on Redefining Wealth.” - Patrice Washington

LINKS:

FB Prayer Group for Sophia Giraldo: https://www.facebook.com/groups/prayersforsophiagiraldo/?ref=share&mibextid=S66gvF

Support Sophia Giraldo’s GoFundMe: https://gofund.me/978c7bee

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