Yoni massage, which has its origins in Tantra, has recently been getting a lot of attention in the sexual wellness space. 

What is the meaning of Yoni anyway? It’s Sanskrit term that means “sacred portal” and it represents all the female genital parts - the vulva, vagina, womb and feminine essence.

On this episode, Sara is joined by her sex-positive friend Will and Viv Kan (https://www.mindfulintimacy.co), a mindful intimacy coach. They discuss the benefits of yoni massage, what the experience is like and how to incorporate this practice in our intimate lives. 

For some, a yoni massage can be used to release emotions or trauma stuck in the pelvic area. And for others, it can be the start of a sexual awakening. 

Both Sara and Viv share their memorable experiences around Yoni massages, and how orgasm is not the end goal but an exploration of one’s body and sexual empowerment. 

Viv also breaks down how to give yourself or someone else a Yoni massage — from setting the stage to exploring the different parts of female genitals. There are a bunch of practical tips in this episode. 

Be inspired to embrace your sensuality and awaken pleasure with this liberating practice by tuning into this episode.

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Many of you are busy people with multiple responsibilities and who lead stressful lives. So how do you navigate a good work life, sex life balance?

On this episode, Sara talks with Lisa Fei and celebrity matchmaker Carmelia Ray about how to juggle a busy work life and maintain a fulfilling sex life. Respectively, Lisa and Carmelia are the Founder and Head Coach of the relationship wellness app, Clarity (http://clarityapp.io) which offers tools for navigating every stage of your relationship journey. 

Carmelia starts off by defining what an ideal work life, sex life balance could look like and how this is always shifting over time, and with different situations e.g. kids, stress, hormones etc.

We then discuss practical things to do where we’re so busy with work that sex feels like a chore or falls to the bottom of our to-do list.

One of the key takeaways from this episode is that it’s always possible to make time for sex in our busy schedules, it’s just a matter of priorities. Research shows that a good sex life can be beneficial to your career, by reducing stress, boosting productivity and job engagement.

So if you’re someone who’s frequently too busy at work, this episode will show you how to bring balance into your sex life with healthy conversations, good planning and a shift in mindset.

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On this bonus episode, I’m sharing an excerpt of a new podcast I’m enjoying and think you will, too. On Come As You Are, educator and bestselling author Dr. Emily Nagoski answers questions about sex with the latest science.

You’ll get a modern guide to sexual wellbeing, backed by groundbreaking research about desire, anatomy, orgasm and much more. In conversation with her producer, Emily debunks cultural myths and flips the script on everything you thought you knew about sex and sexuality.

In this preview, Emily answers a listener’s question about losing the motivation to have sex and introduces us to a concept known as the "dual control model,” which offers a simple but radical shift in the way we think about horniness.

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Curious about attending a sex party, also known as a play party?

Think about entering a party with a giant bed, and everyone’s exploring their kinks and fetishes. It’s a smorgasbord of pleasure…

On this episode, Sara speaks with a sex-positive couple, James and Kat, who enjoy organizing sex parties. They share their experiences on the ins and outs of planning such a party.

James and Kat share the motivations of people in joining a sex party and the kinds of people one might meet at such an event. James and Kat also confess the best and worst play parties they have ever attended.

We give practical tips about the sex party experience— from how to find one, prepare for, and behave at the party. We discuss basic party etiquette such as safety, consent, and so much more.

If you’ve ever fantasised about sex parties, this episode will give you the low-down on what you can expect from attending, or even planning one of your own. 

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How can you enjoy porn ethically - with more of the pleasure and less of the guilt? 

Porn is commonly used to accompany masturbation. On this episode, Sara chats with erotic filmmaker Paulita Pappel (www.paulitapappel.com) on what constitutes “ethical porn” and how to consume it in a healthy and responsible way. 

As someone who has been both in front and behind the camera, Paulita shares her journey into erotic filmmaking and how she defines her role as a feminist in the industry.

She shares her personal motivations around starting Lustery, a shame-free space for people to share home-made videos of their love and lust with the world.

We also discuss the changing conversation around porn, which is becoming more nuanced and take some time to challenge some commonly held stereotypes.

We wrap up the conversation with some practical tips on being an ethical porn consumer and setting aside the performative mindset around sex.

Instead of porn being a topic fueled by stigma, this conversation with Paulita relooks at porn as a genre of entertainment and a way to understand our sexuality, when used responsibly.

So if you want to develop better porn habits or explore new fantasies, this episode will give you the tools to make the most informed choices in terms of what you consume. 

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It’s been called the “Holy Grail” of the woman’s pleasure anatomy. But does the G-spot even exist? It's been a highly debated question.

And one that Sara discusses with co-host Kat Leung and guest Vera Lui on this episode. Vera is the founder of Sally Coco (http://sallystoy.com), the first female-friendly sex toy shop in Hong Kong, and a certified sex educator who is happy to share the latest research on the G-spot (or more accurately, G-area), and debunk its biggest myths.

Finding and stimulating one's G-spot takes time and practice. We explore the many methods to go about it— whether solo with fingers, with toys, or with the assistance of an encouraging partner.

We talk about a big fantasy for some — squirting. We answer all your questions: Why does squirting tend to occur with G-spot stimulation? What makes up the liquid? How does porn influence our ideas on squirting? And so much more.

We also share practical tips and personal stories that make finding your G-spot achievable. Ultimately, we reach the conclusion: everybody is different. But it’s always worth exploring what feels good, especially when it could lead to an intensely satisfying orgasm.

So if you’re someone who wants to explore the G-spot, whether on your own or with someone else, this episode will give you the confidence to unlock its possibilities. 

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How do I get my libido back?

From antidepressants, to trying to conceive and having kids, Sara invites clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Kristin Zeising (http://drzeising.com) on this Sex FAQs episode to tackle the different real-life situations that could cause one’s libido to do a disappearing act.

We answer the following questions:

• “Sex is often over in seconds with my husband. But we ignored these issues because we were great friends. Now I just feel nothing towards him sexually. What should I do?”

• “I enjoy masturbating regularly using porn. But when I masturbate too often, it makes me feel less sexually interested in my partner. Does masturbation help or hinder my sexual desire?”

• “My girlfriend is on antidepressants and rarely in the mood for sex. It’s beginning to take a toll on my confidence and libido. What can I do?”

• “I had a baby 5 years ago, and had post-natal depression. Since then, my libido has never returned. I want to have more desire, but when it comes time for sex, I’ll make any excuse to get out of it. Please help.”

• “My wife and I have been trying unsuccessfully to conceive for over 2 years. Over time, my interest in sex has declined and now occasionally, I struggle to perform. What can we do?”

Kristin and Sara provide practical tips around how to prioritise pleasure and eliminate the pressure around sex, in order to revive the libido. We also give people ideas around opening this difficult conversation with a partner in a compassionate, non-judgemental way.

Tune into this episode if you’re looking to break out of a dry spell or want practical tips for these everyday situations. It will help you get your mojo back!

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Have you heard of the “male G-spot”? It’s another name for the prostate and it’s a major erogenous zone. But it’s an area that has been largely unexplored by most people.

On this episode, Sara and Prescott Gaylord (http://prescottgaylord.com), an improv actor and intimacy co-ordinator, go on a journey to explore everything in prostate play.

First, we discuss what is a prostate, where you can find it, and the benefits of stimulating it for pleasure. Prescott shares his personal experiences of prostate orgasms, which feel longer lasting and more full-bodied than traditional ejaculatory orgasms.

We alleviate the most common fears and concerns around prostate play, discussing general hygiene and safety practices, and warm-up techniques. And we discuss one of the most commonly heard myths - whether prostate play makes you gay.

Prescott and Sara exchange practical tips around toys, lube, and what to have around your space before exploring prostate play.

We also role-play how to find the prostate, with the consent and communication cues necessary for anyone who is interested in trying this kind of play for the first time.

Tune into this episode to learn more about using the prostate to heighten sexual pleasure and explore the possibilities of the male orgasm. It may change your bedroom dynamics forever.

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How can you be more mindful with masturbation?

Mindfulness has taken off as a wellness practice in recent years, yet most people don’t generally think of using it in the context of masturbation. Mindful masturbation is all about reconnecting with yourself and focusing on what makes you feel good. The practice encourages everyone to slow down, become conscious of pleasure and explore the body more holistically, instead of just focusing on the genitals.

On this episode, Sara and co-host Prescott invite Singaporean sexuality and intimacy coach Gabriel / “Pothos” (https://www.sensualmassageart.com/) to talk about the benefits of mindful masturbation, and how to get started with the practice. 

While having a quick orgasm solo can be efficient and convenient, we share how mindful masturbation can bring benefits such as enhanced pleasure, increased sexual confidence, and a release of performance anxiety.

We also discuss how sex journals, fantasising and even porn watching can all be used as tools to discover more about our sexuality, if we use them mindfully.

Finally, Gabriel takes Sara and Prescott through a short, 10 minute guided meditation (for masturbation) demonstration on air, which listeners can follow along to too.

If you’re hoping to gain a deeper understanding of your sexuality the practice of mindful masturbation, this episode will offer you all the tips, insights and guidance you need.

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What helps you build sexual confidence? Sex is a vulnerable act, and fear and self-doubt can often arise in situations where things don’t go according to our expectations.   On this thoughtful FAQ episode, Sara and relationship coach, Valentina Tudose from Happy Ever After (https://happyeverafter.asia/) answer your most pressing questions around building sexual confidence. Topics on this episode include:  

1. How do I feel sexy in my body after a double mastectomy for breast cancer?
2. How can I stop being anxious about my small penis size?
3. I’ve noticed a pattern in my relationships that sex with my partner usually stops after 1-2 months of dating. How can I overcome feeling undesirable?
4. I suffer from vaginismus and have low sexual confidence. How can I stop worrying that my partner isn’t getting the intimacy he craves?
5. How can I be more confident around initiating sex?

Throughout the episode, we offer countless tips on how to make the shift from performative sex to pleasurable sex. Anyone can be sexually confident, but it does take practice, care and patience.

At its core, sexual confidence is about feeling comfortable in your body, knowing you deserve pleasure and being able to articulate what you enjoy.

Learning to accept and be grateful for our bodies as “good bodies” can make a huge impact on our perception of any sexual situation, and help to boost our sexual confidence.

Identifying our desires (and fears) and then discussing them openly with our partners can also help to prevent our negative self-talk from taking over in the moment.

Sex is as much of a mental activity, as a physical activity. So start building your sexual confidence by tuning into this episode!

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