Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about tablet tipping for counter service, a reflection on the shortest date ever, how to recover from assuming someone has a child when they don't, and new pool owners wanting to know how to pool host. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Lizzie Post's Great Get-Togethers on sharing meals.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about Mom’s love for diffusing essential oils when visiting, the deal with graduation invitations and announcements and gifts, a chivalrous act of ordering for your partner reexamined, and learning to navigate and hopefully avoid the drama at a new job. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on the ending of a dinner party.
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about attending a party for an honoree when you had a falling out with the hosts, gifts and registries for elopements, how to leave a living situation well and we’re resurrecting a classic on how to speak up when friends want to split the check, but you didn’t order as much as they did. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Vermont Maple Syrup etiquette inspired by a recent parody in the publication the Onion.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on radios in Ubers, how to handle talking with friends about your partner, dealing with gifts you can’t bring home, joining a family whose language of love is instruction and gifts for master's degree graduates. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on being quiet at the movies.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on wedding attire color codes, thanking hospice workers, tech rules at the table at home and out to eat, when to include sentiment in a wedding ceremony, and should shower hosts give gifts? Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Chivalry.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on how to eat strawberries, whether or not to help when you overhear a problem at work, when you almost have the name of someone famous, and a wonderfully modern question about receiving other people’s emails. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on baby shower thank you notes.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on being served raw food, having to ask to get called Dr., offering condolences when the recipient might not remember you, ordering politely and pet free friend visits. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a post script segment on preparations when your wedding is 1-3 months away.
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On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on dining in bowls, being unnamed on a wedding invitation, personal favours and professional requests, generous hosts serving generous guests, and family who make decisions for you. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on travel tipping.
On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on bridesmaids and bachelorette parties, children playing on your lawn, potlucks that don’t specify on the invitation, not noisy neighbors being blamed for noise and how to answer repeated questions about adoption. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment notching up your business skills.
On today’s show, Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on two finger food questions, is two thirty o'clock a thing?, zits at the dinner table, party guests not paying attention to invitations and gifts that you don’t really like from someone you really love. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on an Emily Post’s theory about the Bank of Life.
We take your etiquette questions on keeping communications simple, dealing with favors you don’t like, helping kids combat shyness, flying first class when senior business colleagues aren’t, and whether or not to invite your future stepson’s mother to your wedding. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on gift giving.
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on rejecting kind offers, how to handle first and middle names on a wedding invitation, a follow up question from episode 182 on belated 2nd receptions, how to handle in lieu of gifts for an 80th birthday, and a very jumbo shrimpy problem. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on Emma Seppala and happiness.
On today’s show, Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on pictures of engagement rings, community dinner displeasures, honoring honorifics, yoga class guests and elevator and door chivalry at work. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on breaking up.
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on knives as pushers, dealing with questions about homeschooling choices, which job am I interviewing for, no wedding reply card and ski weekend woes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on serving wine.
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions on babies and weddings all at once, a roommate who thinks your kitchen ware is hers, a manager who dumps a problem back on your plate, asking folks for addresses in the digital age and how to get your bridesmaids to choose modest dresses. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on 24/7 Etiquette.
On today’s show Puja jons Lizzie to take your etiquette questions on 2nd wedding receptions, soap being swiped from the ladies rest room, offering guests your master bedroom, attending only one of two baby showers and how much responsibility is on a host to manage ground transportation for guests. Plus, your most excellent feedback, two etiquette salutes and a postscript segment on HUGGING!
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on keto dietary restrictions, thanking folks when travel makes it hard, declining a boss’s casual lunch invite, a wedding guest who is frustrated by a bride’s response, and how not be an answering service for your spouse. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on etiquette for social dances of all kinds.
On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on not being the office therapist, when you have too many people to invite to your birthday, who pencils who in when scheduling and is it boasting or not. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Dancing and Balls...like fancy ones.
On today’s show, Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on getting the gifts you want at a shower, saying thanks for a thank you gift, what to do with too many bridal shower offers, and how to handle the age old question about age. Plus your most excellent feedback, some of which comes from Puja Senning, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Emily Post’s How To Behave Though A Debutante.
On today’s show, we take your etiquette questions about tiny tummies and hosts that notice them, condolences and contributions to funerals, a very special question from the hosts of the Home Hour Podcast and how to handle gifts when boundaries have been broken. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on replying to formal invitations.
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on wedding announcements, managing messaging apps at work, whether or not to write a thank-you note to your SO’s family, how to handle naming a 6th, wedding regrets and finally a very special question. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on meeting etiquette.
On today’s show Dan and Puja take your etiquette questions on managing multiple birthdays, hand delivering cards, hosting guests with allergies and apologizing for the first mistake. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on the meaning of Etiquette.
On today’s show Dan and guest host Cindy Post Senning take your etiquette questions on wrapping up a party, lending a hand without giving offense, sending condolences during the holidays and how clean to keep a home. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins continued.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on groomsmen expenses, reclining seat backs, bringing wine when you’re already bringing wine and electronic RSVP fails. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on napkins from Margaret Visser's The Rituals of Dinner.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about not getting together with sick friends, a doozy of social awkwardness, travel for bridesmaids and what to do with serious dietary restrictions and food related work events. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Kelly Williams Brown’s book Gracious.
Happy holidays from everyone at The Emily Post Institute. On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about medical TMI, haggling etiquette, where to send a thank you gift, how to handle New Years invites when friends aren’t all invited to the same party, gift return guilt and how to not manage your boss’s holiday party budget. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on keeping holidays personal.
Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about junior vs. Jr., standing up for greetings once you’re an adult, booing the refs, reluctant hosts, and how to address holiday cards to families with multiple names. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on gifting well.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions about long hallway hellos, how a caregiver can speak up, what to call a widow, sample language for a college student who wants to meditate and season ticket holders who want others to shhhhhh. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on holiday cards.
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions about gifts with the wrong monogram on them, gifts of gratitude, friends with champagne tastes who complain, and a question about apps...the kind you eat. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment where we catch up with you on Thanksgiving.
Happy Holidays! On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions about invitation trepidation, what’s a lemon-hater to do?, changing gift traditions and post wedding blues. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Thanksgiving week etiquette prep!
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on being an unexpected host via video chat, honoring wedding co-hosts, handling drama when you’re not dramatic, and quite literally "dude, where’s my car?" Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a concluding postscript segment on 'How to Bungle a Dinner' Party from the 1922 edition of Etiquette.
Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on breaking up with your hair stylist, setting boundaries during the grieving process, ending evenings out with friends, and bringing up your budget when RSVPing. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on 'How to Bungle a Dinner Party' from the 1922 edition of Emily Post's Etiquette.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions on guests inviting extra guests you don’t like, how to bring good scotch to a party but get to bring some home, baby gender-reveal parties, and a classic question about wedding gift obligations. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on HALLLLOOOWEEEEEEEN.
Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions about not eating when others do, invitation woes, extending a favor once in a while (not every week) and dressing up for Grandma. Plus we hear your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on Emily Post's birthday.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take your etiquette questions on neighbors crossing your property, babies in small apartments hoping for "no gifts please", how to be caring but not intrusive when friend are experiencing hard times, and a doozy of a monogram problem with a simple solution. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on preparing for Thanksgiving.
On today’s show we take on your etiquette questions on exiting a bridal shower that has gone over its end time, friends encroaching on your cruise vacation, religious inquiries at work and what to expect when lending out your vacation homes. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment from Margaret Visser's The Rituals of Dinner on toasting.
On today’s show we tackle your etiquette questions on social media hijacking, housewarming invitations and rsvps, confusingly broad wedding invitations and how to teach gregarious children about self introductions. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript on the 6 elements to a dinner party according to Emily Post.
On today’s show we take your etiquette questions on prompt party pick up, balancing grieving and celebration, 'ghosting' your host, and hurricane etiquette. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and the second half of our Postscript segment on royal etiquette.
Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions on compliments regarding appearance at work, stripping a bed, paying your way at a rehearsal dinner, not contributing to a shared ride, and how to handle a lot of parties in your honor in a short period of time. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and part one of a postscript segment on royal etiquette.
Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions on a very specific shoes-on shoes-off household, handling ex’s in the age of Facebook, the clean plate club (...or not), boutonnière judgment - yes, and being invited to pay for a party. All that plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on VPR’s open office environment and why it rocks!
Lizzie and Dan take on your etiquette questions on obligations. We’ve got questions on airplane aisle seat obligations, invitation obligations, online dating obligations, baby shower hosting obligations, and houseguest/host clean up obligations. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on splitting the bill.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions about names and titles for widows and divorcees, breast pumping rooms being used by non-moms, an inclusive bachelor party request, and responding to assumptions that you’re pregnant. Plus your feedback about the importance of names, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on hospital visits.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions on (thank you, thank you, thank you) what to include in a thank-you note, and sending really late thanks yous, daughter in law disputes, and how to introduce yourself to new neighbors. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on “white-tie events”.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on why it’s rude to comment on someone being single and pretty, what to do when your team isn’t including you on meetings, and how to handle a guest who won't leave. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute, and a Postscript segment from Emily Post’s Etiquette 1922 edition on Dinner Parties at Great Houses.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions about cutting in line, being asked to sing duets, declining seconds and revealing personal changes about alcohol to friends. Plus your most excellent feedback, an etiquette salute and (spoiler alert) a postscript segment on spoiler alerts.
Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions about sending engagement gifts after the wedding, how to handle people who talk too much about themselves, mothers-in-law not respecting names, and (it’s baaaaackk) another question about ordering pizza. Plus your most excellent feedback on divvying up the pastries at work, your etiquette salute and a Postscript segment from Dan on The Philosophy of Etiquette
Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about bridal showers when everyone is far away, when to un-friend a friend’s ex, all the trimmings for encore weddings, and email issues with organizing a meal plan for a new mom. Plus your enthusiastic feedback - we totally get the Zipper merge - a handwritten etiquette salute and a Postscript segment celebrating national cell phone courtesy month - Thank you Jackqueline Whitmore.
Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about sharing cakes, mic lists at rehearsal dinners, how to both host and participate in a pool party, and how to announce an elopement. Plus your thoughtful feedback, a friendship focused etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on wedding websites.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about merging traffic lanes, sharing office space, inviting bad guests back again, and sorry but we're talking about saying sorry. Plus your most excellent feedback on sales emails, an etiquette salute for the week about moving away from friends, and a Postscript segment on setting up your home bar.
Dan and his mother, Cindy Post Senning, co-host this week's show while Lizzie is away on vacation. They tackle your etiquette questions about dogs on vacation, backing out of a group weekend, sharing costs on the road and plus one wedding gifts. All that plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on the beauty of truth by Emily Post.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions on in lieu of flowers requests, communicating about Celiac disease to new friends, how to handle food stealing spouses and inviting your hair stylist to your wedding. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a postscript segment on listening skills.
Lizzie and Dan tackle your etiquette questions about family only vacations, the use of MBA in a title, divvying up the pastry box at work, and how to tell your sister her house smells. Plus your most excellent feedback, etiquette salute and a Postscript segment on exiting a party from 'The Rituals of Dinner' by Marg
Dan and Lizzie answer your etiquette questions on whose name comes first when signing your wedding thank-you notes, upping the ante on cat sitter thank yous, and what to do about dinner guest no-shows. Plus your feedback, etiquette salute for the week and a Postscript segment on family gatherings.
Dan is back! And he's jumped right back in helping Lizzie answer your questions on bike shares, skipping a wedding reception, no gifts (but college fund contributions please) for a first birthday, and doggie bag dilemmas. Plus feedback from Paris on restaurant reservation time slots, your etiquette salute for the week and a postscript segment on Children’s Visiting Cards, from the 1942 edition of Emily Post’s Etiquette.
Uncle Bill is back again, co-hosting with Lizzie while Dan is away. The two answer questions about reimbursement for season tickets, whether or not to respond to sales emails, how to balance time with the bride and friends during a wedding week trip, how to handle reactions from coworkers when you announce that you’re leaving your job, your feedback, etiquette salute and a post script segment on traveling with other people.
Peter Post joins his daughter Lizzie to co-host this week's episode while Dan's away. The two answer questions on how to reciprocate as a guest for a special occasion, what to do when your friends invite themselves over and bring their children to adult only parties, what to offer after dinner, regular or decaf coffee, a teen asks about offering sympathy, and what to do with pits. All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a post script segment on the power of surprises from Peter Post's book Essential Manners for Couples.
Bill Post returns to co-host with Lizzie while Dan is away and the two talk about behavior at little league games, rehearsal dinner invitations, wee ones wailing at weddings, being a good graduation weekend guest, and potluck problems, plus we’ve got your feedback, etiquette salute for the week and a postscript segment on planning a wedding reception seating chart!
Bill Post co-hosts with Lizzie while Dan is away. Bill and Lizzie cover questions on Community Dinner Contributions, Group Houseguest Gifts, Email Introductions and Retirement Party Gifts. Plus your feedback, two etiquette salutes and a postscript segment on Being a Good Guest straight from Emily Post's 1922 edition. Spoiler Alert: Mosquitos are invovled.
Dan and Lizzie take your questions on contractors and quotes, putting registry info on an evite to a second reception, sending gifts late, and a primer on roommates plus your feedback on wedding showers, your etiquette salute for the week and a postscript segment where we meet Puja Senning and talk with Puj and Dan about managing expectations and what works around the birth of a baby!
Fore! Dan and Lizzie get ready to hit the links in this week's postscript, but first they take on your etiquette questions regarding doodling at work, the annual "wearing white" to weddings question, how to greet clients in groups, and how do you know when a dinner party is done? All that plus your feedback including a follow up from Jimmy on the coughing storm at work, etiquette salute and a golf etiquette postscript inspired by the book: The Unwritten Rules of Golf.
Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions on Caller ID call-outs, re-allocating the kindness of strangers, when your cat is cheating on you, and how to sop up all the amazingly tasty sauce at a formal dinner. All that plus your feedback on iced-tea spoons and shoes off policies, your etiquette salute for the week and a postscript segment on stationery that goes all-out!
Dan and Lizzie take on your etiquette questions on the device excuse for missing a party, cc email etiquette, just who is included in an invitation to the whole family, and how long is too long for sending condolences. All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a surprise postscript pop-quiz for Dan.
Lizzie and Dan take your etiquette questions on awkward gift give-backs, how to RSVP when a written reply is requested, whether or not you can charge for your dinner party, and a couple who might be putting practicality above consideration when it comes to shower gifts. All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment from Laura Claridge’s biography on Emily Post.
Lizzie and Dan take on your etiquette questions on whether or not to post guest lists publicaly, how to ascertain if you’re being asked on a date or to go out as friends, asking for silence at the salon and a great question about greeting guests in your home. All that plus your feedback, etiquette salute and a post script segment on international courtesies.
Dan and Lizzie get a question that's a blast from the past about what side of a lady a gentleman should walk on - take note swords are involved!
- The infamous Iced Tea Spoon - where do you put it when driniking your iced tea?
- Bowing out of the meal portion of a weekly group while still attending the event
- What to do when a guest takes and posts too many pictures of your home online.
- Stellar feedback from our friend Werner in Germany on German wedding customs that actually connect to some helpful feedback from another listener.
- A postscript segemnt on the art of the handshake and a salute on behalf of all those snowed in last week!
Dan and Lizzie tackle your questions on coughing fits (appropriately so, as Lizzie has been down and out with a cold) and how to handle them in the office...when everyone is coughing...a lot...and it's gross, but you feel badly, but it's still gross...Cough drop, anyone?
- whether or not to go in on a group family gift
- changing accountants when friendships are involved
- how to thank seasonal staff you work with
- plus your feedback, etiquette slaute and a post script segment on tipping pools.
On today’s show Lizzie and Dan address how to properly thank a stranger who has gone out of their way to help you out.
- Your etiquette questions on sending cards to your S.O’s family.
- Thoughts on a social media thank-you for donations and support at the time of someone's passing.
- Maintaining the rhythm of entertaining when lives are changing.
- Navigating the sometimes tricky territory of families relationships with ex's.
- Plus your feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on the basics for planning a wedding.
On today’s show Dan and Lizzie dive into save the date cards and what location to list when the ceremony, reception, and lodging are all in different towns.
- multiple thank you notes - somehow we find more to talk about on this subject.
- Following up on past due invoices.
- How to appropriately use a Honeymoon Fund website.
- Plus your feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment on the history of classic manners like saying "Bless you" and toasting.
In this episode of Awesome Etiquette, we take a look at various situations when toasting is in order, who gets to make the toast, and how many times can you toast on the same round.
- Whether or not it’s polite to be the social media grammar police
- How to test the waters with friendships that start as business relationships
- How to be considerate when letting a friend know sales parties aren't your thing.
- Plus your feedback, etiquette salute, and a postscript segment for job seekers.
Dan Post Senning returns to Awesome Etiquette with quite the glow to his voice - is that possible? - and we hear all about baby Anisha and life as a new dad. In an effort to clean house and tackle some serious etiquette Lizzie and Dan tackle a number of your quick etiquette questions from when to begin eating to how to use commas with suffixes these are the answers that leave little room for debate - though Dan and Lizzie still manage to find exceptions.
- Your feedback on Margaret Visser, managing family during labor and delivery, and the trend of not texting as much
- Cindy Post Senning returns to discuss the final three Developmental Stages of Childhood and what etiquette can be taught to kids during them
- Plus a great salute to a couple of first daughters
Dan's mother Cindy Post Senning joins Lizzie to co-host the podcast while Dan is away on paternity leave, and she's has all the details to share about Dan and Puja's little baby girl. Cindy helps Lizzie answer your questions including one about monogramming when you have four names.
- A teen is invited to two sweet sixteen parties on the same night and isn't sure which she should go to.
- A couple is having wedding gift trouble when a buddah frog lawn ornament shows up with no tag and a check goes missing.
- An aunt is worried she's missing the mark on gifts for her neice.
- Plus a postscript segement with Cindy Post Senning on the first three developmental stages of childhood and what you can expect in terms of teaching etiquette for each.
- Your feedback and a lovely salute in honor of a wonderful husband.
Lizzie's and Dan's uncle, Bill Post, guest hosts with Lizzie while Dan and Puja are literally in labor. Lizzie and Bill tackle a question from a woman whose neighbor's first baby came a month early, and now the neighbor's dog is adding more poo to everyone's lives by relieving himself on our listener's lawn. Find out how to handle this sensitive situation and more on this week's episode!
- Coordinating parents and wedding budgets
- What to talk about during a roommate interview when living abroad
- Thank-you notes for keeping your job
- Your feedback
- A postscript segment that asks: Which reigns supreme? The in-person thank you or the handwritten thank-you note. (And you thought we were finished with the thank-you note debates!)
- A sweet salute showing that no matter the circumstances family can always connect.
Dan and Lizzie take on a host who was disappointed by wishy washy guests backing out of dinner plans.
- Splitting the check
- TSA Precheck
- A sticky business question about working on teams
- Plus your feed back, salute and a post script segment on Your Life’s Purpose!
Dan and Lizzie take on greetings when they help a listener determine how far into the new year do you say "Happy New Year!"
- Should ladies cross their legs at the knee or the ankle?
- What is the etiquette in estate divisions?
- Is a host obligated to fix every drink at a dinner party?
Plus your feedback, salute, and a postscript segment out of Emily Post's book Children Are People on babies and respecting their point of view.
On this show, Dan and Lizzie delve into spoons and their role in the place setting, how to handle boundaries around birth, a question of email familiarity and in person formality.
A really good friend has emotionally confided that she is in financial difficulty. You decide to lend her some money, expecting she'll use it to pay some bills. She happily lets you know she's bought holiday gifts instead. What should your reaction be?
Welcome to the new home of the 'Awesome Etiquette' podcast. We are so glad you are here.
Join hosts Lizzie Post and Dan Post Senning, great-great-grandchildren of manners maven Emily Post, as they begin the next phase of the Awesome Etiquette podcast, an audience driven QA show about modren etiquette applied with consideration, respect, and honesty.
At a recent pre-holiday weekend gathering with friends, you had too much to drink and spoke and behaved in a manner you regret. How do you own up to your mistake? Should you make a blanket apology or apologize individually? And how should you word your apology?
You and your partner have decided to tie the knot. How do you handle wedding invitations when some of your relatives have openly disapproved of your relationship? Are there points of etiquette that will allow you to be magnanimous and discerning when making the guest list?
You love to entertain family and friends and you are generous to a fault. But there's one family member in particular who always succeeds in eating and drinking you out of house and home and is offended by hints to curb his appetite. When is it time to throw politeness out the window and put a stop to this outrageous behavior?
This Christmas, you're flying halfway across the country to meet your boyfriend's family for the first time. What gift(s) can you bring to take on the plane or send beforehand that will say "thank you for having me" and make a good first impression? And should you also buy them Christmas gifts?
Lizzie and Dan review the rules for re-gifting. One is to proceed with caution, and be aware of the possible repercussions
The holidays are the biggest party season of the year. You and your fiance love to throw them, but lately, there's been a problem; guests who overstay their welcome. What are some subtle and not-so-subtle hints to let your guests know the party is over?
Your vocal vegan auntie’s anti-meat attitudes are disrupting your family’s Thanksgiving gathering. How do you ease tensions, respect dietary choices, and still embrace the bird?
One of the most bitter, divisive elections in modern history is over. Whether your candidate won or lost, can good etiquette heal a wounded nation?
Your brother-in-law is hosting a family party. His plan is for everyone to watch a movie you’ve seen, and you’re disappointed you can’t spend the time talking with relatives. You leave to do some chores, but you return. Is anyone in the wrong?
Germophobes may be anxious about shaking hands, especially during the cold and flu season. Is there ever a polite way to deny a handshake?
You’ve been open about your quest to find the perfect baby name. A friend hears your tentative choice and sends you another list of names to consider. Is she being helpful, or is something else at play?
A mother and son with opposing political views can work it out by agreeing not to discuss them. But what happens when the mother violates that agreement by posting her strident opinions on her son’s Facebook wall?
Let’s say you’re repeatedly hit on at a club or bar. You’re not interested, but you’re also not one to humiliate the prospective suitor. Your friends want you to be more aggressive. What’s the best way to say no?
We need listener input on this one. A woman generously loans one of her parking spots to a neighbor, who then complains about the woman’s cat sitting on a car the neighbor is trying to sell. What to do?
An exhausted, multi-tasking mom greets her nice, new neighbors at the door…underdressed, let’s say. Should she apologize, or just let it go?
Your brother and his wife have a wonderful gift-giving tradition to celebrate your twin daughters’ birthday. But this year they forgot and didn’t even send a card. Should you respond in kind when their kids’ birthdays roll around?
Handling divorce drama at your annual campout, resolution on the “too much perfume at the office” issue, and more.
You’re used to dining out with friends, but then they invite you over for a home-cooked meal. You learn pretty early into the appetizers that they aren’t the most skilled in the kitchen. In fact, it’s pretty bad. Do you say anything to them?
Ever been floored by someone’s perfume/cologne/scent? What about at work, where you can’t get away? Dan and Lizzie go deep with a demonstration of their 5-step etiquette process when they help out a young woman in the above situation.
Want to know how Lizzie and Dan come up with the answers to the variety of questions on the show? On this episode, they break down their process of applying consideration, respect, and honesty to situations in the world so you can do it yourself.
On the centennial episode, Lizzie and Dan give the definitive answers to some classic etiquette topics – thank you notes, wedding gifts, dining settings and utensils, and dealing with other people’s bad etiquette.
Friendship! Lizzie and Dan talk all about it with questions like this: Friends are telling lies about another friend…so what’s an appropriate response?
Someone has asked you to do them a big, last-minute favor to get them out of a major bind. You do your best, but instead of an enthusiastic thanks, you get criticism of the work you did. What do you say back?
You’ve got a friend who loves to be a part of the crowd. But you’ve noticed that whenever it’s their turn to buy the next round, they’ve suddenly had enough for the night, or have to go somewhere. Should you call them on it, or butt out?
You’re at a restaurant, and you’re the first person to finish your meal. Everyone else is still enjoying theirs and chatting. Should the server come and get your plate immediately, or wait for the rest of your party to finish?
You’re out with an acquaintance you don’t see very often. You suddenly hear yourself say “That was fun … we should do it again soon.” But you know you don’t mean it. Are you just following accepted social custom, or are you being rude and disingenuous?
The paint is still fresh on the walls, and some unpacked boxes are still sitting in the corner, but you are already getting the dreaded question: ‘Nice place … how much are you paying?
Eating with dietary restrictions can be tricky when you aren’t cooking for yourself. On the show this week, Lizzie and Dan tackle a range of questions about food choices.
Everyone has an opinion about your wedding. And you’ve tried being nice. So how do you get people to keep their ideas to themselves and let you enjoy your engagement?
A listener feels like they are being respectful when talking politics with a friend who supports the other side. But they feel that that respect isn’t being reciprocated. Can they keep having conversations, or will they blow up before November?
A listener’s brother is recently divorced due to his wife’s infidelity with a local restaurateur. She wants to boycott the man’s establishments when going out with friends, but also keep her brother’s secret. How can she stay true to family but not betray them to her friends?
A listener has recently moved to a bigger city, and is wondering how to deal with the people they see on the street who look like they might be experiencing homelessness.
A shy girl just prom-posed to a boy she likes. And he said yes! But then he finds out the prom is on the same night as his mother’s 50th birthday. What’s a boy to do?
A listener is an attorney whose job requires meeting people during very difficult times in their lives. Dan and Lizzie help with language on how to greet new clients in a way that doesn’t imply: You’re getting divorced. Will you be using cash or credit?
A listener feels like she comes across as being judgmental and reprimanding to her friends when discussing the manners with which she was brought up. Lizzie and Dan talk through strategies on how to talk about your upbringing.
A listener suspects that a groomsman invitation is less about friendship and more about compensating for a less-than-responsible best man. Communication has been spotty. Plus, the costs are starting to pile up. Is it too late to back out?
We check in with listeners who’ve had their questions answered to see what happened after the advice was given.
A listener loves a liqueur. And loves to spread the love. But do they have to donate an expensive bottle to the party every time they BYOB? Or can they take it back at the end of the evening?
A listener was greeted in the office kitchen by a note dictating what co-workers could and could not heat up in the microwave for lunch. So, who has the authority to say so, and who has the authority to eat what they want?
A listener and her fiancé were gifted some basketball tickets, but the game was on a day she couldn’t attend. After the fiancé invited a mutual friend, he realized that he had the day wrong, and she could go. So, who gets the ticket?
Lizzie and Dan hear from several listeners who might need to bring in someone with more authority. They tackle roommate issues, talking about people behind their backs, and when you’ve done as much as you can and have to consult someone else.
The audience weighs in when a dinner party host asks how to deal with guests who want to add songs to the evening’s playlist. We also hear from Rico and Brendan from the Dinner Party Download on the subject.
When a blizzard consumed Baltimore, a listener became frustrated when neighbors began claiming street parking spots after digging them out. So who has the etiquette right when reserving the parking spot you worked so hard to dig out?
A southerner and a New Englander ask for suggestions on raising their kids to say “sir” and “ma’am,” understanding that those terms have very different meanings and expectations in each of their home regions.
A listener has been invited to the destination wedding of a co-worker, and is concerned about the cost. Lizzie and Dan discuss whether it’s rude to force your wedding guests to spend a lot to get to your event.
Lizzie and Dan need your help with what to do! A listener bought an item secondhand, and in it has come across some items personal to someone else’s life. What should the listener do with the postcards in the book?
A listener thinks that some gifts from guests would be nice at her party celebrating a milestone event in her life. But she’s worried that “no gifts, please” has become de rigueur on modern party invitations for adults.
It’s a question as old as cinema itself – how long does a movie have to have been out to be OK to talk about openly?
A listener is torn over her invitation to the wedding of her son’s childhood friend. The boys had a fight, so her son isn’t invited, but the invitation came from the friend’s mother, whom the listener has been friends with for years.
A listener isn’t sure about the etiquette of hosting online friends for a meat space get-together, and whether or not it’s okay to use in-game names instead of real names.
Lizzie and Dan debate the complicated issue of a listener who was reprimanded for choosing the “wrong” slice of pizza after clearly saying he didn’t care which toppings were chosen.
A listener’s young son was confided in by a friend on some family business. Should the listener now reach out to the family during their hard time, or stay out of it?
After learning of an accidental pregnancy, a listener is worried about the judgment from people who had previously said she’d change her mind about not wanting to have children.
Lizzie and Dan feature some of the extensive feedback they received on the great shoes on or off in the house debate. This one touched a nerve, and people offer some heartfelt perspectives from around the globe.
The holiday season can be a minefield when it comes to good behavior. Lizzie and Dan will talk with friends and special guests about etiquette throughout the season, including John Besh, Judith Hill, and Andrew Walsh.
A listener writes in with one of the most blatant regifting stories ever told, spurring conversations about how to handle receiving a clearly regifted present, and how to avoid being tactless if you choose to do some regifting of your own.
A listener has been unfriended by a family member on social media. Lizzie and Dan talk about what that might mean, and what should be done (or not done) in response.
Happy Thanksgiving! On the show this week, an introverted and socially awkward listener has been invited to, but doesn’t want to attend, several office holiday parties. Is she obligated to go? Lizzie and Dan talk about the social obligations of work events.
Lizzie and Dan field a question from a listener who is new to the professional world and is seeking advice for how to curtail the amount of hugs she gets at work. Especially from older male colleagues.
A listener has been diagnosed with aggressive cancer with a very poor prognosis. He wants to share the news with friends and family, but wants to know the best way to balance delivering potentially devastating personal news with compassion for those who will be receiving the message.
Without her knowledge or consent, a listener is been drafted by her family to host a big holiday get-together! What’s the best way to host it this year, and how should she make sure it doesn’t happen again next year? Lizzie and Dan weigh in on the case of the reluctant host.
A listener in a small shared office wonders who is being rude when her co-worker talks with friends in their workspace. Is it better to ignore, jump in, or ask them to leave? Dan an Lizzie weigh in on social conversations in the workplace.
Lizzie and Dan advise a listener who feels strongly about germs and keeps a very clean kitchen, but is unsure how to politely get her guests to clean up before jumping in to help.
Lizzie and Dan are shocked to learn of a new trend popping up: parents withholding until Christmas their children’s birthday gifts from friends.
Your friends have had a bad breakup, but you’re still friends with both. And now one is getting married. Do you share the wonderful day on social media and celebrate one friend? Or protect the other friend and keep your timeline quiet? Lizzie and Dan talk through strategies on how to share the moments that could be tough for some in your social circle.
The Oxford English Dictionary has recently entered a new honorific (think of it as an alternative to Mr, Ms, or Mrs) into the English lexicon, and it has a lot of practical value. Lizzie and Dan unpack all the details behind this newly accepted way to address someone in a gender-neutral manner.
It’s a crash course on mixing work and pleasure in the digital age when a listener stumbles across a co-worker on a popular dating app. Lizzie and Dan talk them through all of the many ramifications of swiping right, swiping left, or not swiping at all.
It’s a question-answering bonanza! Lizzie and Dan take on a whole bunch of your short questions and do their best to give short answers. They talk thank you notes, table manners, grooming at the table, AND SO MUCH MORE! Plus, the etiquette implications of wearable tech trends, and a salute to a polo player who’s kind on and off the field.
Lizzie and Dan help out a frustrated listener who treated a colleague to lunch, then watched that colleague order with abandon and save items to take home for later. Tacky? Or within the bounds of the offer?
Lizzie and Dan get a question from a bride-to-be who has received an unprecedented RSVP to her upcoming wedding. Kudos are given to the bride for her flexibility.
It’s our 50th episode! AND our 1-year anniversary of being a podcast! So, Lizzie and Dan take a moment to reflect on some favorite moments from the past year, take a look ahead at hopes and dreams for the upcoming year, and dive deep into the traditional gift themes for anniversaries.
There’s a new season coming, and six-time Fantasy Sports Writing Association award winner Chris Harris joins Lizzie and Dan to talk all things fantasy football. From not talking too much about your team, to who gets Chris’ salute for good behavior, it’s the ins and outs and etiquette of fantasy football.
Lizzie and Dan tackle the sensitive subject of breastfeeding in public after a listener describes a rift in her friend group surrounding an incident at a birthday party.
A kid was shouted at by the owner of a diner after making a scene in a restaurant. Subsequently, the upset parents took their anger online. Lizzie and Dan do a full etiquette breakdown of this viral news item from Maine.
On today’s show: plus ones, disingenuous dates, TA tattling, guests who hate kids, party anxiety, and an etiquette salute to being a good houseguest.
This week, Lizzie and Dan have advice for a 28-year-old woman who looks healthy, but suffers from chronic back pain and gets dirty looks and rude comments from fellow subway passengers who think she should give her seat up.
Lizzie and Dan break down the difference between manners and principles. Because sometimes we can all get too focused on how a particular rule is being broken and miss that the core values of etiquette are still being shown.
Dan was late to the recording session because of extenuating circumstances. He talks with Lizzie about how to respectfully handle the inevitability of being late from time to time.
After putting on some weight, a listener is going to return to her home town for a reunion, fully expecting upfront comments about her body. How can she handle fat shamers?
A college professor asks how to give his students dignity and space in a public place when he runs into them at the drugstore buying very personal items.
Breakfast for dinner is an epic level move. Putting together a fun wedding is, too. Does it work to combine the two? What will the family think?
Dan got married! And we get to hear all about it. From the clothes to the food, the music to the ceremony, and the sangeet to the chuppah.
When the people around you share their unasked-for opinions about politics and religion, or give detailed accounts of medical procedures they’ve undergone, you may ask the same question.
You’re walking down that long hallway at work. You see an acquaintance at the other end walking towards you, but it’s far too early to make contact. What to do, where to look, and how to handle the etiquette of the long hallway greeting.
Some say it’s still proper for a wife to be called by her husband’s name. Others call it painfully outdated. Who is right? The answer is complicated.
You’re invited to a dual grad party, but you only really know one of the graduates. What is the gift-giving protocol?
You think you’re just going out for a drink. He clearly doesn’t. What is the best way to handle this without being rude?
Your family has waited 90 minutes in the face painting line. A 4 year-old is trying to cut the line, and his guardian is nowhere to be seen. What do you do?
Apologies are fine and good. Apologies that are immediately undercut by a but are not.
A maddening co-worker, vegans who no-show, and habitually late friends are just some of the etiquette dilemmas Lizzie and Dan tackle.
Lizzie’s getting a new roommate! But she knows that the best living situations are ones where norms are established and boundaries are set. Dan and Lizzie talk about how to respect the people you live with.
You’ve been waiting for that parking spot for a long time, and someone swoops in to take it. How do you handle it? Lizzie and Dan have the answer.
Lizzie and Dan get emotional about free agency and talk about how burning jerseys is not cool.
Dan returns from a friend’s Indian wedding in California – the trial run for his own Indian wedding just two and a half months away – and gushes about his bride-to-be and Indian formalwear.
Lizzie and Dan talk about the houseguest/host dance done right, and Lizzie commends a flight attendant for taking care of her on the tarmac.
Is it okay for the Twittersphere to call someone out on social media, or does that create a mob mentality that does more harm than good?
In light of news anchor Brian Williams’s suspension from NBC, Dan talks about his own liberating decision to stop lying.
Dan and Lizzie tell you whether it’s ever okay to snoop.
Sharon Andrea of Modern Dating Mastery joins Lizzie and Dan to help listeners navigate the often confusing world of dating.
How do you tell a loved one that they need to spruce up their personal hygiene without hurting their feelings?
What do you do when your friends tip two or three times as much as you, and expect you to do the same? Also mentioned: Returning texts, an ode to Omaha, oyster forks, and an etiquette salute to Tom Brady.
When people at work assume you’re straight, how do you let them know you’re not? Etiquette expert and Washington Post columnist Steven Petrow helps Lizzie and Dan tackle this question.
Former mime and current etiquette expert Dan advises you on dealing with people who discover your profession and ask questions that aren’t always applicable or appropriate.
When someone invites himself to your party, is it okay to insist that he bring bourbon and ice?
On this year-end episode: A fundraiser asks how to approach an angry donor, some advice on how to eat bread, and telling your friends their card game is racist.
The story of a pool cleaner who is metaphorically trapped by her over-sharing clientele is at the heart of this episode of Awesome Etiquette.
Can saying “please” ever be bad? Roughly 99% of the time, no. But that one percent is on Lizzie and Dan’s mind in this episode.
How do you plan an office party for a co-worker when the guest would prefer that some other co-workers aren’t there? Lizzie and Dan have the answer.
It’s an all-Thanksgiving episode of Awesome Etiquette, as Lizzie and Dan tackle a slew of anonymous questions about relatives, the meal, and the new girlfriend.
A listener wants to know if she should follow Kate Middleton’s example regarding what to do with her hands while standing still. Lizzie and Dan have the answer.
Why do we toast, and why is it called “toasting?” Lizzie and Dan have the answer, and yes, it does involve actual toast.
Lizzie and Dan help you handle nosy bosses, dietary requests, and bringing your dog with you.
Dan and Lizzie chat with Paul the dog walker, and discuss both tipping and thank-you note etiquette for dog walkers and those who employ them.
Megan has purple hair. Really, really purple hair. So purple that complete strangers want to touch it to see if it’s real or a wig. The Posts give her advice on how to deal with the personal space issues therein.
Lizzie and Daniel talk about spoiling the outcome of football games for those who haven’t watched them. They also take questions from their listeners, including author and fellow Infinite Guest-er Jess Walter.
Lizzie is wooed by a tipsy hockey player, Dan cops to an etiquette faux pas, and a salute to Lauren Conrad.
Dan has an announcement (a good one, don’t worry). Also: black-tie weddings, whispering, when to start eating, passing dishes, and RAPID FIRE ETIQUETTE.
What’s wrong with the kids these days? Their roommates, usually. PLUS: cousins, thank-yous, knives, forks, hands, and the rise to prominence of one Emily Post.
Lizzie and Daniel talk about their relationship, hazardous road trips, and a very important upcoming event in Dan’s life. Later on, they discuss the origins of the word “etiquette” in the court of Louis XIV, forks, lay offs, flowers, and Jonah Hill.
Is it okay to yawn at work? Are you just obeying your body’s orders, or are you disrespecting your superiors and co-workers? Until the modern workplace correctly embraces George Costanza’s under-the-desk nap zone, this question will bedevil us all.
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