Last week a 21-year-old man went on a shooting spree targeting three massage spas in the United States. Eight people were murdered, including six Asian women. The gunman later blamed a "sex addiction" for the shooting and it's sparked a long overdue conversation about the danger of racial fetishes. Plus, what happens when you make a $20 million mistake at work? Mamamia's Head of People & Culture, Nicolle Stuart, gives advice on recovering from a work f*ck-up. And, ever been ghosted? Ghosting is an inevitable part of dating in 2021. So what should you do if you think you're being ghosted. And...is ghosting ever OK? The End Bits  What’s the difference between having a 'type' and fetishisation? 21 Texts To Send When You Think You're About To Get Ghosted - Bustle Ghosting Always Sucks, but It Is So! Much! Worse! In a Global Pandemic - Cosmopolitan 'Last week, a guy told me honestly why he was dumping me. I wish he'd just ghosted.' - Mamamia Have a confession? We want to hear it: forms.gle/CMPWyPdQY3KNbepm9 If you like the show, subscribe and leave us a review.  Also, if you feel like winning a $100 voucher, tell us your thoughts here: https://survey.alchemer.com/s3/5987033/The-Undone-2020-Survey  Slide into our DMs @theundonepodcast @emilyvernem & @lucymneville  If you want to share your dating story email us at podcast@mamamia.com.au CONTACT US Via our PodPhone on 02 8999 9386 Send us a voice memo to podcast@mamamia.com.au  This episode was produced by Mel Sauer & Elissa Ratliff Mamamia acknowledges the Traditional Owners of the Land we have recorded this podcast on, the Gadigal people of the Eora Nation. We pay our respects to their Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander cultures. Support the show: https://www.mamamia.com.au/mplus/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.