The division of labor inside a family system is never equal, is it. What happens when grief hits the main caregiver, and they just can’t keep giving? This week on the show, we discuss gender roles, invisible labor, and the redistribution of the workload inside families, with special guests Eve Rodsky and Dr. Aditi Nerurkar of the Timeout: A Fair Play podcast. 

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In this episode we cover:

• The long history of invisible labor, and what that means for women right now
• How systems, boundaries, and communication can help redistribute the workload inside families
• Why women’s time is spent like sand, and men’s time is valued like diamonds
• How grief intensifies the workload on the identified “I keep this family rolling” person

Guest Bios:

Eve Rodsky is a New York Times bestselling author and the creator of Fair Play: a step-by-step approach that helps partners rebalance their domestic workload. Find her at everodsky.com. Special note for therapists and other healthcare workers: Eve’s Fair Play system can be adapted to working with your clients. Follow the Fair Play link above for details. 

Dr. Aditi Nerurkar is an internal medicine physician, public health expert, and medical correspondent with an expertise in stress, resilience, and mental health. Find her at draditi.com

Together, Eve and Aditi host the new show, Timeout: A Fair Play Podcast, which maps the ways caregivers can reclaim their time inside families and other systems that often invalidate women's contribution. Find Timeout wherever you get your podcasts. 

Questions to Carry with you:

• Mapping your own workload (so you can clearly see where you need help!) 

Resources: 

Need a place to tell the whole truth about what you’re going through? Check out the Writing Your Grief course and community, from Megan Devine. Registration for the next session is open now. 

Looking for more training as you navigate grief on the job and in your life? Check out megandevine.co for upcoming workshops 

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