What do children need most? Unconditional love. Most of us can agree on that, yet we often don’t even realize the ways in which we are conditional with our parenting, which is not only bad for kids, it’s deeply counterproductive! Author and peaceful parenting leader, Alfie Kohn gives insights into our own assumptions and intentions for our kids. If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! Takeaways: We are trained by society to be conditional in our parenting. Punishments & rewards lead to more manipulative, self-interested kids. Time out is the ultimate in conditional parenting. Kohn is the author of 14 books on education, parenting, and human behavior, including Unconditional Parenting and Punished by Rewards. He lives in the Boston area and can be found at alfiekohn.org. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong!  Download the audio training, Mindfulness For Moms (The Superpower You Need) for free! It's at mindfulmomguide.com. Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Be sure to check out these deals from this week’s sponsors: Zicam Nasal AllClear is available on Amazon. Search for Zicam Nasal AllClear. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices