In this episode, Hannah is joined by Dr Karen Gurney, who is a clinical psychologist, psychosexologist, and author of the book “Mind the Gap: The Truth about Desire and how to Futureproof Your Sex Life”. Karen discusses desire and also the myths around the average frequency of sex. She and Hannah talk about how we have no actual measurement for desire, and what good sex actually is. Finally, Hannah and Karen discuss how to find out what good sex is for you, the idea of sexual currency, and whether or not scheduling sex is a good idea.✨MORE ABOUT DR KAREN GURNEY✨Dr Karen Gurney (@thesexdoctor), is an NHS clinical psychologist/psychosexologist on a mission to improve the sex lives of the nation by translating research and clinical experience to normalise and improve people’s relationship with sex. She believes that sex is always political and brings this intersectional perspective plus her vast experience in this field (and with marginalised groups such as the LGBTQ+ community) to challenge people’s thinking. She is also Director of The Havelock Clinic, an independent sexual problems service offering innovative, accessible and low cost online workshops for better sex as well as free downloadable tools and worksheets. As part of her mission to educate, inform and challenge widely held ideas that harm people’s sex lives she did her first TEDx talk and wrote her first book, ‘Mind The Gap: the truth about desire and how to futureproof your sex life’ in 2020. - Mind the Gap: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52243236-mind-the-gap - Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thesexdoctor/ - Twitter: https://twitter.com/karengurney5 - Website: https://thehavelockclinic.com/ 📝CHECK OUT THE SHOW NOTES 📝 https://doingitpodcast.co.uk ✨CONNECT WITH US ✨https://www.instagram.com/doingitpodcast https://twitter.com/doingitpodcast 👀WANT EARLY & AD-FREE ACCESS TO EPISODES?👀https://www.patreon.com/hannahwitton✏️SIGN UP TO OUR NEWSLETTER✏️http://bit.ly/HannahWittonsNewsletter