Why do our needs, much less wants and dreams, seem to be secondary to the needs, wants, and dreams of those around us? Today, I talk to Dr. Gertrude Lyons, a professional life coach, host of the mot(HER) podcast, and founder of the Rewriting The Mother Code initiative. Dr. Lyons asserts that all women have a “mother code” instilled in them—the current model for mothering in our culture is broken, but it doesn’t have to be this way. We can use motherhood as a transformational journey, to grow ourselves, as we grow our children. *New!* Watch video clips from this episode on the Mindful Mama Youtube channel! If you enjoyed this episode, and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram stories, and tag me @mindfulmamamentor. Have you left a review yet? All you have to do is go to Apple Podcasts or  Stitcher (or wherever you listen), and thanks for your support of the show! 3 Takeaways: There is no one right way to parent. The chaos of motherhood creates a prime opportunity for our own transformation. It is not your child’s job to fulfill your need for happiness. Dr. Gertrude Lyons is a Master Life Coach and Relationship Expert with over 20 years of experience. Through her Rewriting The Mother Code initiative, which challenges the traditional notions of motherhood and womanhood, Dr. Lyons has challenged the myths surrounding womanhood, mothering, and challenges the very notion of what it means to be a mother. She is also a Lead Faculty member, Senior Life Coach, and Director of Family Programs for The Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential. Get Hunter's book, Raising Good Humans now! Click here to order and get book bonuses! ABOUT HUNTER CLARKE-FIELDS: Hunter Clarke-Fields is a mindful mama mentor. She coaches smart, thoughtful parents on how to create calm and cooperation in their daily lives. Hunter has over 20 years of experience in mindfulness practices. She has taught thousands worldwide. Be a part of the tribe—we’re over 25 thousand strong! Join the Mindful Parenting membership. Take your learning further! Get my Top 2 Best Tools to Stop Yelling AND the Mindful Parenting Roadmap for FREE at: mindfulmamamentor.com/stopyelling/ Find more podcasts, blog posts, free resources, and how to work with Hunter at MindfulMamaMentor.com. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices