Raising a child and parenting aren’t necessarily one and the same. The expectations we might have going into the process of parenting aren’t always what the actual experience bears out. Former tennis pro, Brian Vahaly has a long list of the things he wished LZ - his chosen older brother - had coached him on before he and his husband became fathers to twin boys. Brian shares the big lessons he is learning through fatherhood and just how far off his expectations really were. Then, LZ turns to his sister-of-choice, Roxanne, to talk about what they’ve discovered during their 20+ years as a family raising their sons.    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices