I have never told anyone this ― not my best friend, not my boyfriend, not my mother, not my brothers:nine months ago I invited a stranger over to have sex and it went further than I wanted it to and it did not stop when I tried to stop it. He was an acrobat on tour in New York City who I met on Grindr and as cliche as it sounds, I was excited by the thought of him twisting and untwisting in my bed.