Today's episode is about the number one thing that prevents us from being the person we want to be; the number one way we hurt ourselves and the people we love. I'm talking about Shame.

As Brene Brown states: "Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change."

I tried to get Brene Brown on the show and wasn't able to this season, but I wasn't going to let that stop me from having what I believe is the most important conversation we need to have. So I invited my therapist, Candy Smith, to discuss Brene Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection. This episode is like sitting in on my personal therapy session discussing shame. Including a moment of vulnerability, where I suggest a parenting technique I've been trying with my son, and Candy kindly tells me how I might unintentionally be causing shame.

Candy has been a licensed therapist for several decades. She specializes in working with adults, and children with trauma. That's how I met her. And in every session, I've left with lessons and sayings that I could come back to again and again. And I'm confident that's just how you are going to feel after you meet Candy.

Candy and I are going to talk about:

• How shame sabotages our relationships,
• How to treat someone confessing something they feel shame about, and
• How to stop shaming others, which, it turns out, we all do pretty frequently.

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