The Passion Interview is a tool used for couples to spark passion, improve understanding, and deepen intimacy. It’s designed to shift the conversation away from the mundane to the exploratory. Jess uses this exercise with couples in-session and in the 50 video online Master Class. In this week’s episode Jess and Brandon work through the questions together and discuss a range of topics: childhood memories, racial justice, privilege, the Obamas, retirement, routine, travel, regrets, physical affection and expressions of love. You can download the passion interview here. This podcast is brought to you by Desire Resorts.       If you’ve got questions or topic suggestions for the podcast, submit them here. As well, you can now record your messages for us! Please record your message/question in a quiet room and use your phone’s headphones with a built-in mic if possible. And be sure to subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health or other professional advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. How the Passion Interview Can Improve Your Relationship 00:00:05 - 00:05:02 You're listening to the sacs with Dr Jess podcast sacks and relationship advice you can use tonight. Welcome to the sex with Dr. Just podcast. I'm your co host Brandon. Wear here with my lovely other. Half Dr Jess Hey. Hey folks. Today we are going to be sharing a tool with you and Brennan thinks the word tool is very funny and this is a tool that I use news with couples to guide a conversation. That's intended to enhance understanding and deepen intimacy and boost passion and this is called the passion interview. Now you've probably heard me talk about the fact that the death of passion in relationships occurs when your conversations become reduced to the mundane so specifically I talk about the three passion perils when it comes to communication your kids your work and your schedules now of course yes you have to talk about your kids and your family and you do have to talk about your work and your schedules. And there are people who derive a great deal of fulfillment and excitement from these three areas of our lives. But if all we talk about is kids and family work and what you're GonNa do tomorrow it can lead to too much predictability too much practicality Too Little Room for exploring and dreaming together either so I really want to underline that. I'm not saying you shouldn't talk about these three things. They will be a big part of your conversation. But you don't want your conversation to be reduced exclusively to these topics alone and when you think about when you first meet. Part of the initial attraction is related to who all of the sharing and learning. You're doing together when you learn something new or surprising about someone. They become more alluring. And so it follows that you wanNA keep these revelations coming you want to create opportunities to to surprise your partner with something they don't know whipple you even if you've been together five ten fifteen twenty plus years because there is always something new to learn and this this passion interview is meant to shift the conversation away from them in Dane but also to get you talking about things that are just more exciting and so this is an exercise. I use in session at some of my couple's retreats I I'll talk about the science of passion and what the research research says and how interesting conversations are actually essential to attraction and desire and then I have the couples go off on their own for thirty to forty five minutes and they complete this activity and this is also part of our fifty video core so this masterclass for...