Ayeee yall 2019 is nearing its end and we couldn't leave yall without another episode of QueerWOC! Money finished her dissertation and honors Dr. Margaret Lawrence for paving the way. Emotional abuse is the mental moment this episode, followed by Nikeeta breaking down conflict. We respond to a letter from a community contributor about labels and being clocked. Nikeeta has a salacious story to end the year. Thank yall for sticking with us and always encouraging us to continue QueerWOC the Podcast!!! See yall in 2020!!! Where to find us: IG & Twitter - @queerwocpod FB - https://www.facebook.com/QueerWOCpod/ Tumblr - www.QueerWOC.com Listen to us on Soundcloud, Stitcher, Castbox, PocketCasts Contribute to QueerWOC via CashApp: $QueerWOCPod Become a Patron: https://www.patreon.com/queerwocpod Love us out loud by doing The R’s: Rate, Review, Request, Repost, Retweet, and Reply! Use the hashtag #QueerWOC to talk all things the podcast Send us an email or submit your Curved Chronicles: QueerWOCpod@gmail.com QueerWOC of the Week: 00:13:28 Lesbian Luchadora Fabiola Ortiz-Valdez from Chiuwawa, Mexico, Anthro Doc Candidate Coauthor of Milked report Workers Center vs. NY State NY Immigration Coalition Most recently, Green Light Win!!! And, she has the cutest kid! Community Contributors: 00:22:00 Shoutout to the New Patrons Leigh, and Addis, and Kandace on Cashapp Smalltown Shout outs: Wylie, TX; Hollywood, FL; and Harrison, NJ Mental Moment with Money 00:29:06 (RIP Dr. Margaret Lawrence (Morgan)) Emotional Abuse What makes it abuse? Abuse is a pattern of abusive and coercive behaviors used to maintain power and control over someone or a relationship (Economic abuse, physical abuse, sexual abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, technological abuse) Pattern usually follows the abuse cycle: Calm honeymoon phase, tension buiding, abuse incident, reconciliation. http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/power-and-control-tactics-used-in-lgbtqi-relationships/ http://stoprelationshipabuse.org/educated/types-of-abuse/emotional-abuse/ Withholding affection, alienation from other significant people in your life, Giving - followed closely by a fight Word 00:49:08 Conflict Deoccupation statement Fumbling towards repair Kelly hayes How to survive the end of the world ep Topic: 01:19:06 We talk through a letter from “Toni Childs” about being clocked and labeled by others. Curved Chronicle: 01:49:09 Nikeeta can’t tell when someone is flirting with her and Money gives up dating.