The DreamTribe’s Romance + Sex pillar coach Bela Gandhi is back to help to coach Nancy on the next steps on her dating journey. She shares the red flags to lookout for, ways to rejection-proof our mindset, and why we may want to date a person who likes us a little more than we like them. Nancy adds an exciting new strategy to the mix, and then Sheri and Nancy announce some upcoming Pillar News, including a live podcast in Palm Springs!

Takeaways:

“Love yourself first, and love yourself best.” That quote from Gary Vee really resonates.

More than 75% of Bela’s clients at the Smart Dating Academy are in their 50s. Bask in these numbers single mid-lifers... out of 107 million single adults in this country, 35 million are over 50. Those are some good potential love stats.

Nancy goes into dating more self-assured and confident now than she did in her 20s. She is enjoying the slower process of getting to know a fella and observing the way he makes her feel.

People need to earn your life story and they certainly don’t need it all up front. If you wouldn’t say it at a cocktail party or job interview, you don’t need to say it on a first date.

Two red flags to keep an eye out for: Someone who wants to lock you down too quickly and protests moving slow, and a man communicating with you in an angry or hostile way.

One Bela Gandhi-ism that Nancy is following diligently: Be sex-clusive. (That means no sex until you’re exclusive with each other.) It’s a new day!

Another one: Be psychotically optimistic. Believe in your heart and soul that love exists for you because it does. There are many lids to your pot.

A man who wants to be with you will not be too busy, shy, or unavailable for you in any way. He will move mountains for you and do whatever he can to connect with you.

Dating should be joyous and fit in between the other times you are taking time to enjoy friends, work, your Pillar Life, etc. Bela recommends one to two dates a week tops, to keep it fresh and avoid first date burnout.

Nancy is getting ready to employ a new strategy of adding super connections in the mix. She will be mixing it up and nominating members in all facets of her life to join “Team Nancy,” where they set her up with a person whose awesomeness they can personally vouch for.

We are coming upon the season where online dating activity will be on the rise. Many people join or reboot their profiles for the holidays or as a New Year’s resolution to find love. The Sunday after New Year’s Day (at 8:53 pm to be exact) is the busiest online dating day of the year.

Pillar Events! Sheri and Nancy will be in Palm Springs at the Wanderlust Wellness Festival Wellspring on October 26- 28, doing two live podcast episodes.

Want to drink some delicious sugar-free wine and cozy up your toes in inspirational socks? The Pillar Life Shop has you covered.

The Pillar Life School is up and running, featuring a tiny class on listening to your body with Christine Lang and a Magic with Oracle Cards class with Colette Baron-Reid. Stay tuned because there is much more to come.

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Bela Gandhi