Carla has a published book, Contagious Love which is all about codependency. Not only is it super helpful for codependents, but Carla's story is also inspirational and therapeutic. My friend and editor have talked about the blanket of sadness on grueling runs. I see Carla's book as a blanket of therapeutic love. 

Her father was abusive and it set the tone for childhood. As a 3-year-old hiding from her dad under the bed so he would not hurt her. It paved the way for her to be in codependent relationships where she was never fully living for herself. She used outside validation for worth, and believed if she was liked and needed, she was worthy. She felt broken and that she needed to be fixed so she tried to fix others. Ultimately, this cost her her happiness, peace of mind and serenity.  The reality check came blaring at 24 years old. Sort of the way your dog looks at you when it wants to eat breakfast. She was in an abusive relationship and was tired of living a life of self-doubt, unworthiness and not being enough. She saw two paths shining brightly: continue living a lonely life of unworthiness or live fearlessly with self-love and purpose.  She embarked upon a solo trip 5,000 miles away to gain clarity, with thoughts that were like a game of tug of war. Her mind wanted her to take the familiar road even if it was dangerous, but her gut roared against it.  Sitting in the Wicklow Mountains a small voice told her that she would be ok and to leave this relationship. In that moment she said out loud, “Carla you are too valuable and you can no longer do this to yourself”. Through trusting in the universe that she was not alone in this journey, she chose the path of self-love and purpose. Today she lives the life of the confident warrior: unstoppable, unapologetic, and in full control of her own happiness. 

Website: https://iamcarlaromo.com/ FB & Instagram: @iamcarlaromo

IN HER WORDS:

I’m a certified dating & relationship coach, author, and speaker. I help women who feel stuck and stagnant build purpose and confidence in their break-ups, dating life & relationships. Basically, I’m your love-life cheerleader, here to watch you win at love at any stage in your relationship.

I’ve watched my clients get married, get over their ex/heartbreak, fall in love, get back in the dating world, and save their marriage. Nothing is off-limits – from debunking the fear of “never finding love again” to effective communication saving your relationship. Anything that has to do with your heart (AKA love-life)…I’m your girl!

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