Heather von Rohr had moved to Los Angeles with aspirations: to make it as a screenwriter and to fall in love, marry and have a child. In need of a day job, she took an entry-level position at the research library of a prestigious film academy.

At the library, she met Nick — who was 13 years younger than she was and in no position to support a family.

Today, we also meet rivera-edgar-alonzo-wedding.html">Edgar and Beatriz, a couple featured in our Vows column, who tell their own story of letting go of expectations and finding each other in the process.

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