What are the most common fantasies people have? Where do they come from? Why do we have them? And how do I talk to my partner about my fantasies? How can we bring fantasy into real life?  Dr. Justin J. Lehmiller received his Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Purdue University. He is a Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life. Dr. Lehmiller is an award-winning educator, having been honored three times with the Certificate of Teaching Excellence from Harvard University, where he taught for several years. He is also a prolific researcher and scholar who has published more than 40 pieces of academic writing to date, including a textbook entitled The Psychology of Human Sexuality that is used in college classrooms around the world. Dr. Lehmiller has run the popular blog Sex and Psychology since 2011 and he has published articles in numerous media outlets, including Playboy, USA Today, VICE, Politico, and New York Magazine. To learn more visit sexandpsychology.com We also answer a sex question: I’m a straight man engaged to a beautiful woman, but I never crave sex. For some of our favorite sexy products: Get 10% off + free shipping with code SHAMELESSSEX on Uberlube AKA our favorite lubricant at uberlube.com Get $5 off while mastering the art of pleasure at OMGyes.com/shameless Get 15% off all of your sex toys with code SHAMELESSSEX at purepleasureshop.com Drink a glass of delicious natural wine while listening to us by visiting marginswine.com   We are a proud member of Pleasure Podcasts network