In high school and college, Ryan was … kind of a jerk. He didn’t treat his girlfriends well and had warped ideas of what it meant to “be a man.” As he gets older, his definition of masculinity greatly expands. He and his wife, Tiffany, take each other’s last names and hyphenate them. He learns to embrace his love of art and poetry. He commits to fighting the patriarchy! But when Ryan and Tiffany learn that the reason they haven’t been able to get pregnant is because of Ryan, he finds himself once again questioning his manhood.

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